Well that was definitely geared towards the female how about things that a male introvert can really escape to as well;

1. Take the motorcycle out for a weekend away.
Riding the bike is cathartic. Getting back to nature, throwing up a 1-2 man tent, camp fire... nothing better.

2. Go to the Gym.
Nothing like pumping iron and letting the testosterone free pushing yourself.... and those feelings of satisfaction of pushing to the edge, and the exhausted but awesome tingly feeling of the workout.

3. Hit the bags, Boxing/Thai Boxing
Like above, nothing like the feel of doing the controlled manly thing of physical exertion and having the peace of mind that your role as a man of 'protector' is that bit more realised. Nothing like sweating hard after a good work out, and the feel of the hot shower after.

4. Build Something.
Connect to a project; Treehouse for the kids, pottery, building a chicken coup, fixing up the gutters, making something more optimal...

5. Conquer Something.
Maybe its indoor rock climbing, that preps you for real mountains... or the hike that leads to massive expeditions. Get back to the manly aspect of conquering not only the environment, but yourself.

6. Rebuild an Engine.
Maybe take on the project car... the smell of gasoline, oil and grease. The feeling of accomplishment of taking something that was all but dead into new life.

7. Be a Prepper
Indulge the fantasies of the zombie apocalypse. But also be prepared should the SHTF situation happen. Collect the gear, learn the survival skills, go camping, test the gear, learn to be self-sufficient.

8. Go Hunting
Whether with a firearm or with a bow. Hunt the game, learn how to be optimal at taking down the game, properly butchering it, storing it and even making jerky etc

I just felt the article didn't extend to the male introvert, that can actually connect with what makes the male tick 🙂

Being an extreme introvert and suffering 2 severe TBIs makes life so lonely. None of that would work for me...

Seems though that your circumstances make you the exception, and not the rule. I also am an extremely introverted INFJ with many traumas and on disability for depression. Whilst I may not be able, or want to partake in some of the activities I listed, as a man, I relate a lot more to the list I posted than the list of 'baking', 'journaling', and 'taking up knitting and crocheting'.

Curious, how long and hard was your fight for disability? I've been denied twice now even with legal rep the second time. And it is interesting being INFJ isn't it? Sigh, tough times here indeed. Just broke collarbone on bicycle last Thursday. I do not drive or even ride in a car/bus etc. Anything faster than ~20mph causes me too much internal stress and I freak out :/

I had 20+ years of documented history..... before I realised I was an INFJ and all it entailed, I just persevered, I got on with it, I was a single-dad raising a son and it just had to be done. So as per INFJ, I concentrated all my time and focus on him. When he was old enough to venture as a good man into the world and I was no longer needed, I was forced to manage my condition as I no longer had a central focus. I never fit in, I was the alien, I have never comprehended family as I never had it beyond my son, same with groups of friends, parties, and in general mixing with groups. But learning about what an INFJ is allows me acceptance to no longer chase approval or 'trying to fit in'.. and since I am older, confident, erudite and literate, I embrace my INFJ's standards and unwillingness to compromise to boldly say what needs to be said. I am just learning to do things for me.... which is damn foreign.

A few years ago I had a serious motorcycle accident that left 8 ribs on my right side broken multiple times, broken shoulder, collar bone, collapsed lung and half my left ear torn off... I was air lifted via chopper and I had to be resuscitated so I know about injuries and rehabilitation... I had no memory of the accident, but certain things profoundly affected me and it took a while to be confident to get back on the bike.

Now I am having a sea-change and though I have trepidations, I have sold most of my gear and put the rest in storage, and packed my motorcycle and trailer, and heading interstate to try and find peace and a new life.... as I posted in the list - about conquering yourself and fears and for me doing something profound for me, that is me, and suits me.

Damn, thanks for sharing that. Fear was always an issue for me, exponential now due to events and injury so I do get that very much. I am not sure wth to do with the time I have been given left now though. For now, I will persevere continuing to work and get a very much needed routine back. Then hopefully save up some money to change scenery. I'd very much like to return to Brazil and move back, I lived there for ~5 yrs in the past, incredible land and people indeed. Altho, if I do that, I give up any hope in reconciliation with my kids. So, I do not know wth I am going to do. Hey, I made it through another day and that's enough for me to be thankful :) I am very lonely though.