I truly appreciate your transparency and passion for SFBT to help clients create meaningful change. My takeaway is focusing on the honing the skill to build confidence. In school we were often taught to have multiple theoretical orientations but rarely mastering any. This is encouraging to know that SFBT is helpful for clients with a variety of needs. One question: Does this mean there is no formal diagnosis/assessment for clients who need a diagnosis for billing purposes?

I loved the first video! I love how genuine you are! My takeaways “have confidence in my client and have confidence in myself!”

Thank you so much for those kind words. I am so glad you enjoyed this first video in the series.

I'm looking forward to learning more about using the Diamond as an outline for each session! :D

You're going to love it!

I love to your session one think, and that's is a huge difference: you always came with a lot of examples. Great to be part of your world.♥️

I love having you a part of my world!

Wonderful training! Take away- No matter what trauma someone has experienced... through skill and confidence you can meet the client where they are at, instill hope, and create change towards the desired outcome.

That's exactly what I was hoping people would take away from this training!

For clarity from tape 1. Had the client with drug issues not verbalized the need to get off drugs to get his kids and license back the session would have continued with the dialogue geared towards his best hope. Even though the propensity for further drug related consequences is real the realization that abstinence would better ensure his desired outcome must come from him. Influencing that latter course of action is outside the scope of SFBT. Is this correct?

You are correct. The only way to know if the client has a desire to get clean from drugs is if they tell you that's what they want. We are dependent upon the desired outcome of the client.

When I first read about SBT in school, it seemed like "magical thinking". But I have seen it work. I am encouraged by the video that there is a process to learn to do it right. It's hard to remember in the moment. I see you have YouTube videos and I 'll check those out, too. I have been looking for another way to address trauma, because I'm not the type for EMDR and PE just isn't appropriate for some traumas.

I think a lot of people though of this as magical thinking when they first heard about it.

Hi Ann, SFBT is a great way to address trauma! Glad you think this might be useful. You'll have to let us know what you think after the training!

This was great! So much to take away!

"Mastering the art of asking the kind of questions that empower my clients, provide hope for my clients, and lead towards change."

Yay! Glad you thought so!

I really love when you use examples of the questions and follow up questions you use. I am also curious your thoughts on "working harder than you clients". I have heard a few times "don't work harder than your clients are willing to work for themselves" and while I understand that, I also ask myself "what if what I see as working harder and what the client sees as working harder are different?". If I am showing up with confidence and belief in my clients, is that enough? and I just need to trust they will do what they need to do if their outcomes mean enough to them? What is a way where that can be acknowledged in a solution focused way, while still showing your belief and confidence in them? I know in a previous webinar I watched you used the example of a mother who was involved with child protective services. I found your example really moving as I worked in that field in the past. In situations where the goals clients have for their future self are not being worked towards or it seems motivation stops... would you then go back to the beginning questions and ask about what difference it would make for specific changes to happen, or ask how the client will know they were "getting over X"? Do we hope that trying to dive back into that part of your work together will show the client what they need to do? Or have them realize if what they originally stated was a difference that would be made, is different now than it was? We cannot decide what is most meaningful for clients, but where would you go? Just a thought :)

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I think in this process we are working WITH our clients to co-construct a description about what they want. I believe I should work as hard as I can to do my part, and they should work as hard as they can to do their part. We have different roles, and both deserve to be worked at!

I am glad you liked the video in times when the client seems stuck, I could go back to the beginning but most likely I would keep at it and know a breakthrough would happen if I stay the course.

I loved this, especially the story about.the mom dying of cancer, who used her precious time to write letters, to parent beyond her death. I always use the words, "What do you think?" When a client is given the opportunity to really think about something, it's amazing where the discussions lead. Normally clients tell me that they do not have time to think deeply, when they are in survival mode.I always answer that there is always time...a few moments to answer, " What do I think about this?"
This is your best training yet. It's succinct. Previous trainings have been a little long- winded in the introduction. Here, you get to the point. 30 minutes is the best way to go. I don't have much time for trainings, so this 3 part series is perfect, in half hour segments. Thanks! 💜

You're right on here, sometimes clients just need that little extra minute to really think about their answer. Great point!

I am so glad you think this is the best training yet! Wow!

Take away: This approach is about finding a way to "deploy hope" into every question

Correct! Hope-filled and forward thinking

thanks :)

Such a cool take away!

Thanks for your reply and all your good work

I am glad this stuck with you.

I am too! Thanks for that . . . and all the rest :)

My takeaway would be having confidence in my client. If they come to my office, if they take out the headspace to think about their concerns in a way that made them step out of their home, they can be helped.
Thank you for this insightful and powerful first video, Dr. Connie. Looking forward to more. :)

Please carry that lesson with you always.

Confidence in the client

Perfect!

My key takeaway is that - in hoping - the practitioner also conveys hope to the survivor of trauma, and, in healing or recovery, that hope functions in much the same way as any other survival needs, such as nutrition and warmth.

That's very true!

The video was very fruitful to me as from now on I will believe in my clients and in to myself no matter how situation is.

Even if the outcome sounds like impossible, the client has his own way to make it happen.

Isn't it remarkable that the outcome is automatically full of hope!

yes

Exactly!

Thank you. I always love seeing your videos and the one thing that I will take is confidence. More specifically, at times, I might need to have more confidence than my client and the only thing I need to do is spark that confidence in them. Can’t wait to see tomorrow’s video.

Joshua in the house!! Bring all that confidence!

You're so welcome my friend!

Thank you Elliott for such a powerful video. I love it when you give examples of what you are teaching.

I will take away from this video is to never give up on my client or myself.

You are right on! Not giving up makes all the difference!

I love watching you work with clients. Giving HOPE is my take away!

Thanks for being so kind!

Thank you! I am taking away, among a few things, you first conversation with a client, how you responded to clients who do not have hope in making changes. happen.

Remember, they always have hope! They may not be articulating it, but it is there!

Having hope immediately is key.