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Re: Singular Insanity: Being loved...

wilma_ham — Mon, 16 Aug 2010 00:36:00 -0000

Keep feeling that wonderful love, keep remembering, if you can, that will sow a seed . . . xox Wilma

Re: Yes, I know....

wilma_ham — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 22:26:51 -0000

I totally agree with you, being alone is crap and exactly as you say, not much fun. We are NOT supposed to do it on our own. And I think you are doing a fab job in doing what you are doing and I give you a huge hug and much love. xox Wilma

Re: Singular Insanity: Things I learnt from Facebook .....

wilma_ham — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 21:54:39 -0000

Dear Dorothy, this is awesome; "I am trying to get more comfortable in my skin and not apologise for who I am. I would rather be liked by a few people who know who I am, than by lots who only see a mask."
You are YOU indeed and it is good to start accepting the good things that you do and have. You will find you have plenty, xox Wilma
PS Peggy is great value and sure had her own moments, like we all had and have.

Re: Singular Insanity: Things I learnt from Facebook .....

wilma_ham — Sun, 27 Jun 2010 18:30:44 -0000

Hi Dorothy, no there is no uniform life template and good on you for realizing that. It would be so easy to think that there is one and then blame everything on the fact that the template is not working.
As you say you have to sit this out and see it for what it is. Your honesty is so good, yes you are not in a great position right now, yes no wonder you are not feeling too good. However you are not hiding for your children what is so, they at least can be honest too in their misery and that is great. It is a phase though, it will pass. Just hang in there and be as gentle on yourself as you can muster. However for me it helps when people are honestly sharing how things are for them, it helps to get another perspective when you are right in the middle of your situation while you keep swimming. Much love, Wilma

Re: Single mum or superhero?

wilma_ham — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 22:03:54 -0000

That is a wonderful way to look at what is going on. Comparison is of no use, however acknowledging your own accomplishment is class.

Re: Thank You

wilma_ham — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 18:00:39 -0000

Fantastic to observe this; "he does not let her get to him at all. It truly amazes me, now hopefully I can gain better control on how I react and can realize he cannot control her either."
You can only control your own reaction and that makes you a powerful creator of your world, NOT a victim.
I too second Peggy and say "awesome".
As a result you will have great conversations and great solutions.
Have a divine weekend away.

Re: Self-Deception....Am I the problem?

wilma_ham — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 17:54:48 -0000

Thanks Peggy and yes there are different constructive ways and I just needed to become aware of them.

Re: Self-Deception....Am I the problem?

wilma_ham — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 16:49:14 -0000

Oh, that little voice in our head that has all sorts of conversations that are usually not serving us.
It is amazing when you look at your post you will see that it is all a conversation you are having and some bits are really productive and other bits are really destructive.
What if we only make a commitment to pull the good bits out, the bits that we know will make us progress for the better.
What if we only commit to support conversations that go for a solution rather than blame and upsets?
What if there was a conversation about when she keeps forgetting we find solutions so she doesn't?
These conversation in you head are a waste of time and destructive, find different conversations and your situation will change.
Good luck and at least you are observing. the next step is to do something with what you are observing.
It works, it worked for me.

Re: How To Stay Warm & Raw This Winter

wilma_ham — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 21:00:51 -0000

I must admit that I too always thought I want warm food for winter.
I have no favorite raw winter food yet, but as it is summer here and I will have lots of tomatoes, your tomatoe recipe is bliss.
Thanks.

Re: A Feast For The Eyes: Smoothie à la Courge Musquée

wilma_ham — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 22:05:38 -0000

Oh mon dieu, c'est magnifique ne ce pas?
I never tried squash, would pumpkin do aussie??

Re: Goodbye My Gentle Giant

wilma_ham — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 17:06:21 -0000

Hi Maya.
I loved your tribute to your gentle giant and I love how you let him harvest his love.
Remembering their unconditional love is the best gift I can give my pets.
Lots of love to you and thanks for sharing moments with Charlie and your completion with his passing, Wilma

Re: Puppy Love

wilma_ham — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 18:17:33 -0000

Hi Arianne. Pets are amazing and a great way to realize how love can be unconditional. Lovely video.

Re: Add Your Own 'Rule of Thumb'

wilma_ham — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 01:22:10 -0000

My rule of thumb is;

Always add value in whatever you do, coming from love.

If we really would only focus on adding value, the world would be a less noisier and busier place, it would be quite quiet I think and a lot more valuable place to live in.
To discern if you add value, you can check if you do it from love or for some other reason. If there is another reason why you do it, you did not 'choose' to do it, you might do it from fear, obligation or from greed and it will show in the quality of the end product.