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Re: How Women Wind Up Alone With a House Full of Cats

vincentd — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 14:52:52 -0000

This is so interesting. I'm from NY and the woman I'm attracted to is also attracted to me, but is scared of something. Me being in the health care profession realized after a few months that she has some deep rooted issues. She had two cats. One died and shortly thereafter the other. She has also mentioned her father several times, but has not gone deeper into it. Well detective Vincent was on the case and after putting the puzzle together I came up with: "she had two cats and one died, the other died because it was lonely it missed its soul mate so to speak." It told me right off the bat that she is emotionally distant and uncaring, but that she wants a relationship and that there are obstacles in her way. Now mind you as an experienced man, I let her make most of the moves and when I bit (asked her out 3 times over the course of several weeks) I was rejected. Initially I went through the rejection phase, but also realized that it has nothing to do with me. I'm mean she flirts, gets me to notice her, separates herself from her friends so that I can approach her, so when I move forward she pulls back. After 6 weeks of this nonsense, I decided to cut her off politely as in " you know what I understand" and walked away. So a house full of cats means that woman are distant and like to get close only when the cat pulls away. GUYS ACT LIKE A CAT and if she doesn't come chasing don't take it personal its not us. Any who after two weeks of me distancing myself, she started acting weird like wanting to get me to notice her and almost literaly running away mind you she 40 years old acting like this. At some point she must have realized that I'm not about the bu%%$h!- and left her alone. In this way she is allowed to relax and explore whatever feelings, if any she has towards me. One thing is certain, the way she avoiding me at the gym is a clear indication that her emotions are engaged. Additionally, here is the clincher. I believe I have the answer but I will open it up to the community. She has never mentioned a boyfriend, a husband and guy shes dating-no men whatsoever. If she didn't want anything to do with me she could have lied about having any of the above, or something like "I'm a lesbian." I would never know the truth and would move on to someone else. What would be the rational behind her not saying anything?

Re: Why Nice Guys Ignore the Girls They Like

vincentd — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 17:41:56 -0000

With all respect you can not gain the respect of anyone, much less a woman if you are acting like an AVERAGEFRUSTRATEDCHUMP. So for starters, and you really seem like a cool dude; change your name to a more positive one like "the man" that way you will begin after a few weeks or months to assume a new you. Trust me this works. Go to the gym bomb your back, walk straight shoulders relaxed, don't talk to anyone and watch and see how women and men will be drawn to you like a magnet described in Oscar Wilds steel filing fable. Trust me I have been through the worst any man can ever go through with a woman. Re-invent yourself. Vincent The less you say the better.

Re: Why Nice Guys Ignore the Girls They Like

vincentd — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 18:14:31 -0000

I suppose each and everyone of us has to work on ways to increase our value. Too much circulation makes the price go down, but admittedly when I fancy a woman greatly I try to get her to invest, because I can't come on the cheap: it's not like when we were 21 and everything was a novel experience. Now it's about quality so I don't mind tightening my game a bit, especially with a 40 year old muse.

Re: Why Nice Guys Ignore the Girls They Like

vincentd — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 16:29:25 -0000

When a woman tell me like what I was told at the gym today "I'm coming back"; I just chuckle to myself smile and walk away. So for all the men and women who have come across similar words just walk away. If he or she like you they'll catch up with you at another time. Don't be petty about bringing it up again when they approach you. Or you can wait there like a wall flower;)

Re: Why Nice Guys Ignore the Girls They Like

vincentd — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 12:37:26 -0000

I must confess. I struggle between being good and bad. I'm conflicted. I have no trouble being either one, but its scary. Sometimes I wonder if its a mental health issue. But the relationships I've have lead me to believe that you have to treat women unfortunately like they don't exist, because they are always using their beauty to try to manipulate men. Having falling victim to this several times-I refuse to repeat the same mistake, but in the twist in my character has become "I don't give a %*C&" I you like me it's fine I you don't like me its also fine. The thing is no I have trouble approaching woman and so I try to make them approach me by giving them space and ignoring them. Once I am able to bridge the gap I let some of the natural course take its place. But the truth is woman as well as men have helped to create this current mess.