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Re: It's Not Women Who Should Lean In; It's Men Who Should Step Back

Leigh Shulman — Thu, 09 May 2013 14:21:41 -0000

I'm only about half way through Lean In, but I have been consistently intrigued by the constant criticism of the book. That criticism is one of the reasons I picked it up. Watching Sheryl Sandberg's TED talk was the main reason, though.

I understand why someone might see this as a plea for women to copy men. I have not seen it as such, because ultimately she's telling women to be more confident, try things even if they don't necessarily feel qualified and ask for what you want. Yes, those are in many ways more male characteristics, but I don't think it would be so bad if more women copied them.

The underlying message I hear from Lean In is that people make different choices, and she calls for more women to forge ahead in business as much as she suggests men stay home with the kids. Both choices should be open and acceptable for both genders.

I think it's also important to realize that she is an expert in corporate culture. Many of her ideas are aimed at people who want to be part of that corporate culture.

Like I said, I'm only half way through the book, so perhaps somewhere in the last half I'll finally understand why people have so many issues with the book. But for now, I find it incredibly inspiring. I'm building a business. I'll be speaking in front of large groups of people to audiences who are often all male. Damn straight I'll be faking confidence. That's far better than having that little voice questioning "Am I good enough?"

Re: Update to the Unfollow Experiment

Leigh Shulman — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 12:02:12 -0000

I was one of the people you unfollowed. I noticed because I get an unfollow notice that seems to appear rather randomly, so it's not something I normally check. I just happened to see this one, probably because your name is very familiar to me.

All said, I am not upset, emotional or offended in any way. I am also at the stage where I prefer to really see what people are saying and have conversations about things. This holds for both Twitter and FB. I'm still in the early stages of Google+, but this time have opted to only add people to my stream if it makes sense.

Now, what makes sense and why? That is another story. As is the task of going through thousands of Twitter and FB accounts to decide whether they should stay or not. And like you, I will surely remove people I want in my streams. Just as I'm sure I'll overlook and leave others that I'd prefer not to include.

It's not an exact science. But that's ok. Most face to face human interaction isn't either.

Re: 10 things new parents should never post on Facebook

Leigh Shulman — Fri, 26 Aug 2011 14:02:08 -0000

Hey Kristy,

I'm the Matador team member who brought B in to write this article. I'm also a Burner and a parent. Yes, B is sarcastic and says what is deemed by many to be very anti-parent posting.

She's also pretty spot on in a lot of ways and very funny. I mean, even as a parent, someone who does post things my daughter does and loves seeing what my parent friends post, I get tired of the types of things she describes.

I'll also say, that I do see a very anti-parent rhetoric growing, especially in the US. Articles such as the one seen recently on CNN I find to be far more disturbing than this.

This article is meant to be silly and light. It doesn't support or criticize anything beyond a certain type of posting on FB. And let's be honest, do you really want to see naked photos of your friends children online? Or discussions of feces?

It's certainly not saying all parents do it tho.

Re: Forever In Mom Genes: Fact or Hairsay?

Leigh Shulman — Fri, 29 Jul 2011 06:13:38 -0000

Ok, so, I almost never wash my hair with shampoo. It's really thick and when I use soap my hair and scalp get really dry. I've tried a bunch of different things. For a while I made baking soda paste, let sit, rinse out with apple cider vinegar (to neutralize). You can also follow up with a beer rinse for conditioner.

You can imagine the problems inherent with this.

Now I just rinse my hair followed by a solid scalp massage with conditioner. When I want to really clean it, I use a little Dr Bonner's soap. You can also find one of those shampoos that don't have any sodium laureth or laurel suflates. That's what does my hair in.

It took a little while to get used to it. I guess about two weeks. But now, unless my hair is really dirty, like a week in the desert without showering dirty, it's all good.

Re: Social media in 2010: Relationships matter more than ever before

Leigh Shulman — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 21:56:33 -0000

Fantastic!. You put in one coherent article the thoughts that have been swimming around my head.

I love that social media will now require people to be more direct and honest in their pursuit of more lasting relationships. It's like we're returning to the Mom & Pop store of yesteryear by enlarging the world of business. If one person relates to you in a way you don't like, you simply move on and find someone you do.

With all this in mind, I still question Twitter's new RT feature. I appreciate that it allows us to RT more easily, but it also requires an extra step or two to thank people for the RT which makes it less likely that the average Tweeter will acknowledge something positive another has done.

At the end of the day, though, I also look forward to seeing what 2010 will bring us and the social media sphere.

Re: Digital Signals: I've changed my Twitter follow policy and some thoughts on Twitter lists and the infamous retweet

Leigh Shulman — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 22:19:07 -0000

I've been a bit slow on the uptake regarding Twitter lists and the RT option mainly bc we haven't had internet at home since we moved into our new house in Salta.

But I'm slowly coming to similar conclusions. Now that I have a large enough following that it is really impossible to read everything, I want to make sure I read certain people's tweets. Lists are great.

RT aggravates me to no end. Is it me or does it make it so much harder to thank people for RTing? And if so, that removes one of my favorite parts of Twitter. The real human part that shows you know another person exists and has enjoyed your content.

Man, I love your Sin Bin. I may have to start one just to be able to say I have one.

As usual, great article. You always help me pull together my random thoughts and observations into some form of coherency.

Re: jackamo on the move

Leigh Shulman — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 08:18:55 -0000

I've spent a few weeks in BsAs and never knew about this day. I hope I'll be there some end of the month soon.

Re: How to Stop Chain E-mail Forwarding from Relatives & Coworkers

Leigh Shulman — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 14:51:59 -0000

Perfect timing. My e-mail -- the one I only use for personal correspondence too -- was recently added to an e-mail list by a friend of a friend. Someone I've met, but don't know. So not cool.

I hope you don't mind I'll be copying sections of your letter and sending it to her.

Re: Is Social Media Marketing a Rat Race?

Leigh Shulman — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 00:15:47 -0000

It too often does feel like a rat race. Like right now, I am hopelessly behind on my RSS reads and have barely Twittered in weeks. Mainly because I have real life stuff and more tangible projects I must focus on (some upcoming Burning Man collaborations included).

I try to remember that while social media is very "what have you done for me lately," it also means when you finally do come back to it, you can pick up the buzz again relatively quickly. Those who defriend, ignore and stop RTing you if I'm away for a while tend to fall off my radar. Those who maintain contact over time, breaks expected, are the ones with whom the more superficial social media connections develop into deeper working relationships.

Great article, btw. I was nodding my head in agreement the whole way.

Re: Digital Signals: Friendfeed adoption - So who are you again?

Leigh Shulman — Sat, 23 May 2009 13:38:52 -0000

I've been reading your recent posts abt Friendfeed with close attention.

I've been on FF for a while, and like you say, all of a sudden all these people have subscribed to my feed. I don't know them. I don't know what to do with them.

Personally, I'm still trying to parse the differences between all the different SM tools and figure out how to best use each. That, before deciding which of the 50 possible SM outlests out there are best to focus on first.

Thanks for your insights. They're always very useful. I'll be reading for more.

Re: How to Stay Near the Cutting Edge of Social Media

Leigh Shulman — Tue, 19 May 2009 17:27:55 -0000

I am most definitely going. I bought our tix months ago, and we're lucky enough to camp with a long time Burner who also happens to organize BM art grants. Very excited. Are you going this year? If so, I'd love to meet up.

Re: How to Stay Near the Cutting Edge of Social Media

Leigh Shulman — Tue, 19 May 2009 11:05:53 -0000

It's exciting to me that our technology is taking us in the direction of constant change, constant movement. I'm a firm believer in forward movement, that the ability to adapt is what keeps our minds supple and our bodies flexible, and we seem to be pointed in the right direction.

In a slightly different vein, your article sparked some thought for me. I followed up in a blog entry of my own:
What's the Connection Between Burning Man and Social Media? http://tinyurl.com/qzfkpx

Would love to hear your thoughts. And thanks for another great article.

Re: How to Build a Strong Reputation With Blog Comments

Leigh Shulman — Sat, 16 May 2009 16:00:55 -0000

I always appreciate articles that teach me something. Personally, I have a hard time knowing which social media outlets or in this case, comment platforms to focus on and which to filter out. Great advice on that end.

One thing I'd like to add: Of course commenting on other blogs is integral to being a blogger. I simply can't stand it, though, when it's clear someone is commenting on my site because they want to promote themselves. Yes, it will get my attention, but not the sort of attention I'd particularly want. Value added comments are much preferred.