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Re: DungeonPlace Podcast Episode 22 Pt 2: Dick Bullets

sweetgeekgoddess — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 23:05:39 -0000

Thanks for reminding me of the old quote:

"Arguing over the Internet is like participating in the Special Olympics it doesn't matter who wins you are both retarded."

Glad you are listening! If you have anything in particularly you have interest in, we are always looking for good topics. Give us a shout if you have one you want us to research!

Re: DungeonPlace Podcast Episode 22 Pt 2: Dick Bullets

sweetgeekgoddess — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 22:41:16 -0000

@Belgian subbie I am glad you enjoy the podcast. We have a good time researching and discussing the topics and I hope that comes through to our listeners.

@The Real when I read your first post, my initial response was to sift through the verbosity and personal attacks upon Tutivillus in an effort to understand why you were so outraged by what was said. I listened again to the podcast listening for anything that would be like what you took so much offense to. For all my flippancy, I do take my role as a panel member very seriously. I again waded through the character attacks to better understand what it was that got you so riled up. I belive it was St. Francis Assisi who said "It is better to understand than be understood". Let me regurgitate what I understood you to have said, and then what your concerns are. If I get them wrong, please forgive and please then enlighten. My understanding is as follows:

You feel that Tutivillus and DE acted irresponsibly by engaging in a knife/cutting/blood play scene.
You feel the Tutivillus behaved irresponsibly because he did not inform DE, his submissive that he was going to cut her prior to the scene taking place.
You feel as a panel we have behaved irresponsibly by not pointing out these unsafe practices.

Let me also provide the following information to you, that perhaps was not clear on the podcast:

Tutivillus and DE are fluid bonded and are long-time partners thus any issues with blood born pathogens are negated
Tutivillus and DE have implied consent as part of their D/s relationship
Tutivillus and DE practice RACK versus SSC
Tutivillus has long enjoyed knife and blood play and has years of experience in its practice
Both Tutivillus and DE have backgrounds in the medical field
So, in light of what I know about Tutivillus as well as DE, I would be hard pressed to be dissuaded that they behaved irresponsibly by engaging in knife/blood play. I fail to see in light of the facts how Tutivillus acted irresponsibly by cutting his sub's thighs while she orgasmed. I do know several people who engage in blood play and I do not see where they are irresponsible for playing with knives either. If you can provide valid reasons why engaging in blood play is unsafe then as a panel member I would enjoy hearing your concerns. We did cover knife as well as blood play in one of our earlier podcasts.

Also, you mentioned that it was irresponsible of Tutivillus not to have shown DE the knife prior to the scene taking place. It reminded me of a scene I had with Gamer a few months back where he had me blind folded covered in wax. He took off the blindfold just as he took the his knife out to scrape the wax off my nipples. He had is arm over my throat. I almost came on the spot. If you are saying that is irresponsible behavior. Then I hope I am irresponsible at least once a month!!!

If all you wish to do is continue to spout verbal abuse then I am afraid you have negated all further discussion. If you do wish to continue in an adult fashion, expressing your arguments logically I would be interested to hear how as a panel speaker I behaved irresponsibly by finding Tutivillus reminiscence erotic as hell.

Goddess

Re: DungeonPlace Podcast Episode 22 Pt 2: Dick Bullets

sweetgeekgoddess — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 22:40:55 -0000

@Belgian subbie I am glad you enjoy the podcast. We have a good time researching and discussing the topics and I hope that comes through to our listeners.

Let me also provide the following information to you, that perhaps was not clear on the podcast:

Re: When D/s becomes Abuse

sweetgeekgoddess — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 20:34:13 -0000

There can be a fine line between abuse and consensual kink. The key word is consensual. Unless you have given your consent to be humiliated and verbally abused, calling someone a 'fat whore' is verbal abuse. Here is an excellent website that outlines verbal as well as emotional abuse.

http://helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_a...

Re: What Defines an Open Relationship in BDSM?

sweetgeekgoddess — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 18:36:37 -0000

Without openness and honesty there can be no trust. Without trust there is no relationship.

It matters little what form the relationship takes. Without honesty, openness and communication it will be doomed to failure. I would propose that this is true in ALL relationships no matter what level of intimacy or what nature. Once trust is breached it is all over but the crying. That can be said of employer/employee, mother/child, husband/wife, lover/partner.

What I really hate are those people who lack the ability to be honest with what they want or who they are. They change their opinion to match whatever the current group wants to hear. They change what they want depending on whatever wind blows up their ass at the time. I have a very difficult time trusting such wafflers. I mean will the real person stand up? How can you trust someone when they don't have the guts to tell you what they really think or they don't know what they really want? I have found such individuals to be petty, jealous with tendencies to envy. Since they don't have the guts to stand up for who they are, they typically have to attempt to put down those of us who do....often behind our backs.

Having the courage to be honest, first with yourself then with others is essential for making and keeping healthy relationships whether superficial or of a more intimate nature.

Re: A Rant – We’re here to Hurt you

sweetgeekgoddess — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 18:18:43 -0000

Haven't you ever heard the Primary song "Kindness Begins with Me"? I agree that at times the hand holding drama gets a bit much and one is inclined to tell a few people to "grow the fuck up" or better yet..... "Get off the cross it's someone else's turn for a beating."

Re: She Twists.

sweetgeekgoddess — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 00:23:08 -0000

Absolutely beautiful!

Re: TANSTAFL (There Ain’t No Such Thing As Free Lunch)

sweetgeekgoddess — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 00:19:50 -0000

Name:

Obviously you are ignorant of BDSM. Sub-drop gets better the more you play. Is BDSM an addiction? Is homosexuality an addiction? We are wired as we are wired. To deny who we are is to live a lie. BDSM requires a level of honesty with who we play with that is rarely found in the vanilla world. If you are calling what we do an addiction than I suggest you either educate yourself or find another forum to demonstrate your stupidity.

Re: Into the Void?

sweetgeekgoddess — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 21:50:04 -0000

Yes I am. :)

Re: TANSTAFL (There Ain’t No Such Thing As Free Lunch)

sweetgeekgoddess — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 13:48:55 -0000

I agree completely. I believe that is what is truly a beautiful thing about our play; that we have the opportunity to delve deep within ourselves. I find we have better communication, greater levels of trust and thus deeper emotions than being in the vanilla world. This to me is one of the more positive aspects as well as one of the allures.

I find sub-drop is a time to explore those deep inner recesses of my soul. I discover new and better things each time. In the beginning such raw emotion can be disconcerting. However, bravely walking into the dark is always good times.