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Re: Introducing the Best Dating App for Connection: Plum

susanawalsh — Wed, 19 Sep 2018 17:59:41 -0000

Congratulations, Jenna, this is so exciting! Plum sounds wonderful - I can't wait to hear all the details on how character is rewarded. I do hope you'll keep us posted on the rollout and growth of your new app.

Re: Exciting News at Hooking Up Smart!!!

susanawalsh — Thu, 21 Jun 2018 09:22:53 -0000

Oh yes, Jenna is extremely research-oriented. You're going to feel right at home. :)

Re: Exciting News at Hooking Up Smart!!!

susanawalsh — Wed, 20 Jun 2018 18:01:11 -0000

Wonderful!

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Mon, 05 Feb 2018 18:00:01 -0000

Thank you domnica! I'm so glad the blog has been a comfort and made you feel more hopeful.

Re: 7 Reasons Women Reject Eager Men

susanawalsh — Mon, 05 Feb 2018 17:59:14 -0000

This approach may work in the early stages of dating, but no woman really wants to feel unsure of her husband or long-term partner. Pairing anxiety with love does not compute.

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Mon, 05 Feb 2018 17:58:13 -0000

Yeah, OK, whatevs. I'm done with debates like this!

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Mon, 05 Feb 2018 17:57:06 -0000

Thank you Danny!

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Mon, 05 Feb 2018 17:56:43 -0000

What a wonderful tribute, thank you! I will give serious thought to the book idea.

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Mon, 05 Feb 2018 17:55:33 -0000

Thank you! I find it's a lot like falling in love. I wonder what he is doing throughout the day. And I hope I'll get to see him on the weekend. :)

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Mon, 05 Feb 2018 17:54:50 -0000

Thank you so much!

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Tue, 02 Jan 2018 17:07:40 -0000

Thank you so much for the wonderful update! I'm so happy to hear about your daughter, as well as your personal growth. Of course you are not interested in the nuances of dating! Why would you be haha?

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Tue, 02 Jan 2018 17:06:20 -0000

Thank you!

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Fri, 22 Dec 2017 10:38:22 -0000

Thank you Dante!

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Thu, 21 Dec 2017 09:35:26 -0000

Haha, I'm glad the concept came in handy! The idea just came to me when I sat down to write this post.

By the way, I discovered something interesting online. I'm going to write a post and link to it. (You see how ambivalent I am.) :)

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Wed, 20 Dec 2017 14:07:54 -0000

I've seen myself as a source of support for people who want relationships rather than an advocate of relationships. For my purposes, it doesn't really make a difference whether that's 90% or 50% of the population. (However, I do maintain that most people want intimate, monogamous, committed relationships.)

As MattHW has pointed out, marriage rates are a whole different subject. I agree with his analysis that incentives for marriage have declined. It should also be noted that the data broken out by race and socioeconomic status tells a vivid story - some groups are not marrying at all, while others marry at high rates. The average means little in this case.

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Wed, 20 Dec 2017 14:01:46 -0000

Thanks, Ana! You've been a treasured reader and valued member of this community for so long! Much of the blog's character and success is thanks to you. I totally get how your life is changed, and am happy to see you pop in once in a while. Kiss in the cheek!

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Wed, 20 Dec 2017 14:00:29 -0000

Thanks, Mike, I appreciate the support.

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Wed, 20 Dec 2017 13:59:19 -0000

Thanks, Kay. You've offered a lot of great feedback, support and guidance here over the years. I like your ideas and suggestions!

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Wed, 20 Dec 2017 13:58:22 -0000

Thanks, Vasilia, you've been a great recent addition to the HUS community! I like the idea of doing something one day a week - perhaps I could manage that if I budget my time wisely. :)

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Wed, 20 Dec 2017 13:57:11 -0000

Thanks, Belinda, I appreciate how long you've been reading here. Perhaps there are ways to keep the blog useful with less effort on my part.

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Wed, 20 Dec 2017 13:55:36 -0000

P.S. Are you Lithuanian by any chance? Me too! (Well, half). :)

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Wed, 20 Dec 2017 13:54:29 -0000

That's a great idea - readers, let me know if you have any candidates!

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Wed, 20 Dec 2017 13:54:06 -0000

Indre, welcome! I really appreciate your leaving a comment and letting me know that HUS has been useful to you. That's really been the great reward for me.

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Wed, 20 Dec 2017 13:52:31 -0000

That's a good idea. I have avoided the manosphere like the plague, but I get a lot of emails from guys thanking me for shining a light on their warped views.

Re: Act Three

susanawalsh — Sat, 16 Dec 2017 11:20:06 -0000

Aww, thanks J. I too treasure our friendship - it's been such a bonus.

You're so right about waning interest. My interest in the HUS community remains keen, but dating issues seem less relevant, for the reasons you state.

I'm also tired of going to dinner parties and fielding two hours worth of questions about sex in America. I've spend way too many hours considering Al Franken - even one would have been too much!

Even my women's MBA group asked me to hold a special session on hookup culture. I did it, but it felt like such a drag to prepare a presentation.

Most importantly, in my view the key message is that a lot of hookup culture is "fake news." Stats show clearly that people are dating and having relationships, even in college. But attempting to find a boyfriend at a frat party or varsity soccer bash are probably not the best strategies. That's where I would focus if I put together a book. A roadmap of how to do it, rather than bemoaning the culture.