http://disqus.com/by/sonja/enMon, 27 Oct 2008 21:15:50 -0000http://www.sojo.net/blog/godspolitics/?p=3222#comment-3334964<p>Amazing ... I think that Julie was commenting on the movie, not the institution of marriage in general when she mentioned that women were seen and not heard. I have occasional conversations with Julie and know enough about her ideas to understand that she sees marriage as a reciprocal relationship.</p><p>I'm pretty amazed at how few women have commented here.</p><p>Thanks for the great review, Julie. Sounds like the institutional church has dished up bland, tasteless useless food once again. Kinda like the local fast food drive through ... it can actually be dangerous if you consume too much of it. ;-)</p>sonjaMon, 27 Oct 2008 21:15:50 -0000http://weirdfishes.tumblr.com/post/45881084#comment-1227957<p>Hmmm ... I think this is one of the hardest stages of infancy, for parents. The children never remember it, so they are blithely unaware of all the angst. I've only ever heard of two things that worked reliably ... that doesn't mean there are not more out there. But these are the two I've heard of.</p><p>First (what I did) ... crying it out. And I'd recommend Adam's advice with changing the "go-to-bed" routine. I wish someone had told me that. I think it might've helped. But when they woke up, we'd lie them (I have two children) back down, and cover them up and then when it became obvious that no nursing was going to happen, the crying would begin. It would take about 3 or 4 nights and the first night is the most difficult and longest. No one sleeps. Dad has to be the one checking on baby. Mom is usually crying too. It's really hard. But once you get through it ... well ... you get uninterrupted sleep. And, well ... we all do better with that.</p><p>Second ... you wait til they age out. This can take years. This was the route my brother took with my nephew. He just turned four in Feb. and was just (a few months ago) weaned off the night time feedings. I think his case is extreme, but I've heard of children taking well into the twos to age out naturally.</p><p>In any case ... this is difficult terrain you're walking through. It's hard to know what's right and when. And in the middle of the night it's so easy to second guess yourself. But I do know that you are good parents and will make the best decision you know how to with a lot of love. </p>sonjaWed, 13 Aug 2008 23:08:24 -0000