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Re: MilkMaid 0.7.3

smartduck — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 05:40:31 -0000

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They are displaying your app with a link, stating that it works with their service !

Re: Swine Flu Related Appointments up 6250% [Web Data]

smartduck — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 05:31:32 -0000

It is important to note that this is not an increase in swine flu cases. It shows instead the size of the hysteria we live in. There is massive propaganda to force people to take a very dangerous vaccine.
Do NOT take the deadly vaccine in any case!
http://bit.ly/3NIFDh

Re: Can Hooking Up Empower You?

smartduck — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 03:17:05 -0000

Screwtape
you beat me to the keyboard.
Most sex "empowerment" talk is just social engineering marxism. The least part who is empowered is the individual.

Re: Why Are American Men Sexually Insecure?

smartduck — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 09:29:52 -0000

Same rights for everyone is great. Sao Paulo has the largest gay parade in the world. But I cherish my right to find the homosexual act repulsive. I will not throw this on anyone's face, though. Same thing about the freedom to call any ridiculous efeminate action "gay". I see this as freedom and more advanced than P.C. Only mature people can deal with it without being offended. I have a gay friend , an intelectual, and I say he is getting so gay he will melt into a pink puddle. He says I will turn gay if I try. We both laugh. But then, this isnt Berkeley (I thought you were in Boston)

Just saw the movie. Julien is indeed charming. His charm is that he has no agenda, he just likes her and is sincere about it. Nora otoh has an agenda and see men as tools. Most women are this way and they wonder why men cant commit. The problem is that what was supposed to be a journey of enchantment and discovery turned out to be a war, with both sides manipulating each other.

Re: Why Are American Men Sexually Insecure?

smartduck — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 18:29:10 -0000

Susana,
I see some cultural misunderstandings here. When I dropped "church" or "gay" I see that you got really upset. Do I sense political correctness?
Americans really write twice as much in order to say the same thing other people say much quicker. When I say the game is "gay", it is because in most places running with a net after a little ball like you are catching butterflies is weird. Of course I am not implying that the guys who play it are gay, or that it was invented by gays. Anywhere else but in the US, people would laugh it off and just shrug their shoulders, even if they played the God damn thing.

When I said that the girl could go to church, it was also casually. I could have said go to a guru. It was not meant to be taken literally. I was not trying to proselytize anyone. Here one could say the same thing and the other friend could say "I am not going to that weird church of yours" and both would just laugh.

I guess that Americans have been so much fragmented, forced to choose sides in every aspect of life, that almost ANY issue is a question of life and death. Many times foreigners would see this from the outside and laugh, because for us the two sides were almost identical.

I apologize, because as someone who lived for some time in the US, I should know better how to write in an American blog.

But, going back to the discussion, you would be outraged by any European in 15 minutes, because most are not P.C. A German would tell you in your face that he doesn't like your clothes, for example. A French would be more subtle, but could very well spend two hours trying to convince you that his government is better than Washington.

I don't see Brazilians as super machistas. Most women here work, and feminism is much more about necessity than ideology. Women know how to separate the need for achievement from the need to remain feminine. But since we are less concerned about being P.C., we probably sound machista. Of course Brazilians outside the more developed centers are less educated than the average American, and it also may look like machismo.

My judgement about American hubbies walking on eggshells comes from befriending at least 50 American couples in the last decades. With the exception of very conservative religious couples, the wife taking the lead seems to me to be the rule. I still maintain that if I were a women, I would choose an American male to marry among any men in any country.

Re: Why Are American Men Sexually Insecure?

smartduck — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 11:13:07 -0000

The problem with dorms is that they encourage an extension of teenage years. In other countries, it is very usual that people work or have a multi-year internship at the same time they are studying. They are able to deal with people of different ages and stages in life. They learn to behave. Most live with parents, but the ones who need to move to go to college usually live by themselves or with a roommate outside the campus.
The campi are also usually in an urban environment. See Sorbonne. It is a bunch of disconnected buildings among businesses, shops, etc. American campi are simply the most beautiful in the world, but they are cities in themselves.

European guys are far from the stereotype of the French romantic. There is a lot of competition too, and they can be very boring because they talk, talk, talk. It is all about wines, history and politics. French guys always want to be right and show they know more than you. After the novelty, an American girl would have a hard time keeping a French guy.

Italians are mama's boys and no American women will accept the role he has for her . Germans are super educated and can talk about anything, but are too serious and introspective. Surprisingly, Portuguese guys may be the closest to the stereotype, since they are warm, cultivated and nice.

Anyways, any American girl would have to reinvent herself in order to get a guy for a long term commitment in Europe. She'd have to leave the "I can do anything, I have to always win" brainwashing behind and learn to impress not only with sex, but with talk. 90% are too brainwashed to change.

Obs 1) I think Jon is ten times more handsome. He is a kind of guy who you will not find anywhere else but in the States, like Tom Brady or that marine Pat Tillman, (http://images.usatoday.com/... ) killed because he was anti-war. Melvil looks like the cab driver who has a stop in front of my condo (I say this from the pic, never having seen his charm, or whatever).

Obs2) I never understood how a gay sport like lacrosse can be masculine.

Ob3) I think that most Americans are masculine and that it is a good thing. Maybe we are confusing masculinity with lack of sophistication. The latter is a problem with the US as a society, not with men.
American women don't eat quiche either. They drink beer from the bottle, for Christ's sake ! Like a drunk homeless guy.
The problem with American men is that once they marry they start to have that nervous look, and they always walk on eggshells with the wife. I am a witness that marriage really castrates American guys.

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smartduck — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 06:40:30 -0000

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Re: You Know You Want Him, So Have Him

smartduck — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 17:21:08 -0000

The whole disagreement lies on whether she will learn from experience (Susana's point) so let her go ahead, or if she will develop a pattern and sink into a bad habit (mine).
Of course, in this particular case, nobody knows for sure, but it seems to me that most people who developed a series of harmful relationships started at a point when they thought they could handle it.
Susana, thanks for your patience with me...and BTW, my last comment disappeared.

Re: You Know You Want Him, So Have Him

smartduck — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 22:01:15 -0000

Susana
Sorry if I was rude, but you are indeed telling her to go down the path of a disposable loser. She doesnt like the guy, the guy doesnt like her. Why should they get together? Meaninless sex. I'm not a prude, but at least have sex with someone you like.
There must be a time when a person should think about temporary abstinence for lack of abetter option. Read a book, think about life, develop friendships, and yes, even think about spirituality, or philosophy, why not ?? Even 19 yolds are not only animals in heat. There is more to life than sex.
If this girl keeps fixated on sex, she willnever grow as a person.
I think you are underestimating her.
My humble 2 cents.

Re: You Know You Want Him, So Have Him

smartduck — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 17:40:01 -0000

I agree with Rick.
Chelsea = booty call loser
At 19, many intelligent girls are working days and studying nights. Growing and maturing.
Chelsea needs to close her legs. Get discipline for later in life. Focus. Maybe go to church.

Re: How Women Wind Up Alone With a House Full of Cats

smartduck — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 17:33:31 -0000

Absolutely, Susana, there must be some fun in every relationship. What I mean here is the Cosmo mag fantasy of being raptured by a fascinating and thrilling movie star-like guy. There is always the expectation that this guy is around the corner, and staying with the beta will close the door for him. The media, the friends, they all say Mr Big will come.
Alpha players prey upon this fantasy, since they emulate well the first stages of this ideal relationship (minus the dumping part). Many women simply want more to have fun than to find reality. See the examples above: all girls said the guys were boring, not violent, or rude, or uneducated. Boring. This is too much for a regular guy to handle. And the exchange is far from fair, since she isn't expected to be charming, all she is expected to do is to give up sex.
Only when girls give up this fantasy, will they be right about complaining about the dangers and evil of alphas.

Re: How Women Wind Up Alone With a House Full of Cats

smartduck — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 21:13:48 -0000

Why men must entertain women ? Are men Bozo the Clown ? Otherwise they are "boring".
This is not a relationship between equals, it is manipulation and plain use of a human being. The same way some men use women as sex objects, some women use men as fun, excitement and narcissism objects.
This is key to understand why those women above are never satisfied. They are not looking for a partner, they are looking for a fantasy.

Re: How Women Wind Up Alone With a House Full of Cats

smartduck — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 11:51:48 -0000

I think the articles from Roger Devlin are relevant for this discussion. Try http://dontmarry.wordpress.... or Google his name. Also, I like www.henrymakow.com and his analysis of the feminist movement.

Re: How Women Wind Up Alone With a House Full of Cats

smartduck — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 04:39:45 -0000

Roissy is funny. I don't take him seriously at all and I think he deals with a particular subset of women. Many women dont go to clubs and would not fall for his tricks.
And let me rephrase: American women are smart, educationwise and streetwise. They just don't know themselves. As a foreigner who spent years in the States, it is easy to see the brainwashing the culture has put them through.
I also know many Christian American women, who are great wives.

Re: How Women Wind Up Alone With a House Full of Cats

smartduck — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 19:37:31 -0000

Roissy (thanks for introducing me to this nihilistic, cynical SOB), wrote a good post about the trajectory of entitled, slutty American women here:
http://roissy.wordpress.com...
I only disagree with the 1350 SAT score. This is not the average. Most women are not that intelligent, or at least not as they think they are.

(after listening to a 40-ish woman complaining about her life to her gay friend)

Here we have, her brave front temporarily lowered, the typical tragic wail of the childless aging modern urban woman. And her tragedy enabler, the gay boyfriend who will never inject her with the dose of reality she desperately needs. She will continue aging, refusing to settle for a grateful beta who will be happy to have her sagging carcass as his tepid seed receptacle, never letting go of the pickiness she could afford when she was 20 years younger, and missing out on her chance at motherhood as she sips mimosas every Sunday afternoon at an overpriced trendy Dupont Circle eatery. At the bottom of the glass she will see her reflection crying back at her, and later that night she will pull the bedsheets close, the other side of the bed cold, and feel the suffocating weight of reality encircling her like shards of streetlamp lights slowly marching across her sickly gray bedroom walls. All those used condoms and triple penetrations and girls nights out will have done nothing to alleviate the crushing loneliness which has stolen her sense of invulnerability like a thief in the night.

Her fate is sealed:

fuck around with alpha cads –> delay marriage –> get too much education –> throw self into career –> earn lotsa money to spend on handbags –> feel empowered –> serially date and fuck as career and educational success distort her time horizon –> start to get serious about finding husband at age 29 –> slowly discover she is not worth as much on the open market despite business school degree and 1350 SATs –> get bitter –> sabotage her dating prospects with bitter resentment –> show up to dates with cat scratches and abrasive attitude –> die childless or burdened with a downs child and a lickspittle beta life partner.

Re: How Women Wind Up Alone With a House Full of Cats

smartduck — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 19:30:06 -0000

This is a typical American situation. In other countries, women would do whatever they could to keep these men.

Entitlement mixed with a huge lack of reality, result of heavy brainwashing during teenage years.
These women are afraid to open themselves with the guys simply because most have nothing to say. These were women who never had a good conversation with a boyfriend. For them, it is easy to prove that they are empowered by going to bed at will.
However, a real relationship needs some kind of openness and sincerity. What they do here is not game, at all. It is simply a way to downgrade the partner before he sees how shallow and stupid she is. And she knows, consciously or not, that she is not that good. This is plain egotistic insecurity.
American women know in their guts that a relationship will destroy their dream of being feminist superwomen. It is easy to keep the illusion while you are going to bars and have dozens of men hitting on you. But a relationship, open conversations with a man and, God forbid , motherhood, will expose all her weaknesses for the world (and herself) to see. They just dread real relationships.

What happens is that even without relationships, reality will prevail, and when they are in their 40s, they will be a living wreck, full of remorse and resentfulness.

I don't think American men have the upperhand today. Roissy and Tom Leykiss are not the average guy. 90% of American men are betas, and I think they are the best catch for a woman in the whole world (excluding white trash tattooed guys), because of the Protestant upbringing, work ethics, etc.

Re: Beauty and the Beast

smartduck — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 04:13:11 -0000

A good example of a smart girls' blog, with eventual pictures, but which says nothing bad of the girl is Reflectionof.me
Rule #1: never say you are beautiful, let others tell you. And yes, I am a bit in love with Clementine. :)

Re: Beauty and the Beast

smartduck — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 04:09:13 -0000

I stand corrected. Anyways, this brings to mind the issue of girls' narcissistic blogs (not like yours, which has a theme), with pictures and tales of how great they are. Even escort girls have them, not professional ones, but personal ones. They are just so fantastic that they must show the world.
What crazy guy would committ to such attention whores?

Re: Beauty and the Beast

smartduck — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 20:47:14 -0000

Susan,
most girls Roissy et al. bed are sluts. I mean, real sluts. If they represent the average, then we're in trouble. Mystery is so ridiculous looking that any so-so regular girl with one ounce of self esteem would laugh at him.
Maybe I'm getting old, but I found bblove a bit vulgar. If my GF would post a pic with socks and lingerie like that, it'd be Arrivederci Bella. (she is a 7) :)
Guys , I guess you have to look for a fiancee in a church in rural Oklahoma.

Re: Don’t Be Too Perfect, It Scares the Men

smartduck — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 20:29:44 -0000

I dont like the word, but girls are the gatekeepers. Boys are just following the changes. I must add that many shy, sensitive boy teens are getting trampled by these young vixens. Not all 15 yold boys are players.

Re: Don’t Be Too Perfect, It Scares the Men

smartduck — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 16:06:13 -0000

Just adding a little note. I am reading the book "Unhooked" and I am convinced that the cultural and sociological environment is the key to understand the mess America is today regarding sexuality. The teenage girls are being brainwashed by feminism, individualism and an egocentric culture. Where else in the world a 15 year old girl would say that she is "motivated to compete and win at all times", "that she gets a feeling of satisfaction about crushing the competitors", that "boys are just toys" ?

Of course a 15 year old girl should be excelling at school and preparing herself to be someone. But being a good student and a future good professional doesn't mean being a bitch in her personal life. Teenage girls in other countries are reading romantic novels, they are learning how to communicate with male and female friends, they are dreaming of living in a foreign land, they are writing poetry. First time sex is usually with someone they love: it is a big thing.

In the US, they see sex as a thing to be "mastered", as if it were a sport or a piece of software you learn to use. And if it helps you to be "popular" (the worst curse of America) , the better. So they learn the technique of giving a blow job with their friends, but can't communicate with a boy. They just don't know how to be romantic. They watch TV and play videogames with the boy, but can't talk.

No wonder when they grow up, they look at men as people look at a car or an investment they want to buy. It is just one more step to success, or popularity.
That's why there is this huge movement from American guys to flee from American women and get a foreign bride. Who's to blame ? The whole individualistic and feminist framework must be dismantled if things are to get better. The way girls are raised must change.

I can't see that happening soon. On the contrary, this way of life has been exported to the rest of the world.

Re: Don’t Be Too Perfect, It Scares the Men

smartduck — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 15:47:51 -0000

OK, let's try to be honest and explain.

Feminine beauty is a blessing and a curse for men, at the same time. A blessing when you can enjoy it, a curse the rest of the time. You girls just don't know what it is.

While it is not the only feature men look in a woman, it is a kind of threshold she must pass. The height of this threshold for a guy depends on many factors: the availability of beautiful women, the looks of the guy, his "game", his status, and his sex drive.

My personal list of women's "must-have" features would be, in order: a kind heart (morals, goodness, honesty, values, etc) , smarts and good humor. But all these characteristics could be very well present in an ugly friend. She needs to attract me first physically.

But see, most men marry plain girls. The threshold is not so high as many would expect. Once there is some basic attraction, personality will make the difference for the commitment. And some few guys are just more laid off and will find satisfaction in a very homely girl.

Personally, once two girls pass my beauty threshold, I would choose the smarter and kinder one, even if she is not the most beautiful.

Most men would sleep with a gorgeous girl with a mean, or stupid personality, but they would seldom commit themselves in the long term. The trick for your female readers is in giving time for the guys to know you inside, before you put sex into the equation. The environment today allows some men to just hookup one girl after the other, and simply there is no time for knowing someone this way.

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About physical perfection, of course that is unattainable. But women should realize that it is a harsh reality of this world that men seek beauty. Keep it while you can and don't be a sloppy McDonald's customer.

Of course men learn how to deal with the disturbance of physical attraction. The more he is involved with work, with productive things, the more he will have other concerns. Love also makes a huge difference. Kids too. With time, most men lose some sex drive. But some will remain, and even married old men will eventually be tempted by a sexy young thing.

Men are not idiots who will chase any skirt all the time, we learn to control ourselves when we need to. Most guys know they don't HAVE to go after the girl all the time, that some other things are more important.

My advice is more focused to the women: make this challenge that all men face be a little easier, at least try to be beautiful for YOUR man.

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Before the girls throw rocks at me, remember that women analyze, test and rank men ten times more often and in a more calculating way than men do. That's all you do when you are with friends. Men are much more spontaneous, we also rank women, but it is much more automatic and natural. That's why many times we make fools of ourselves.

Re: Don’t Be Too Perfect, It Scares the Men

smartduck — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 13:44:02 -0000

Susan, Some men may be intimidated, but I don´t think this is the main point. What men feel when they see a very beautiful girl is desire to a point that it becomes a pain in the neck. It is disturbing in the way that it makes us aware of our lack of power over it. Men know they can´t have all the beautiful girls in the world, and this causes frustration in a subconscious level. The level of work, money and game that a man knows he will have to spend if he is going to try to get that girl is also a bummer. That´s why men feel bad, not because they are intimidated. The second point I disagree is about the poll´s results. The questions are biased. When you ask a man if he likes curves, he thinks about Selma Hayek, not Queen latiffa. He contrasts a curvy girl with a stick girl like Kate Moss. But when he says he likes curves, all fat women in the world think the guy like fatties. Not true at all. I have never, ever known a guy in my life who likes fat girls. Not one. Same thing about skinny girls. Victoria Beckham looks like a witch and one might take her for the witch´s broom. In summary, men like curves on a thin girl. So, be perfect. Work out a lot. That´s what men want.

Re: Stop Putting Out for Alpha Asshats

smartduck — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 18:13:08 -0000

Absolutely. I guess the fact that I have two boys makes me freak out sometimes with the whole situation !

Re: Stop Putting Out for Alpha Asshats

smartduck — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 11:23:05 -0000

I wonder what's the role of narcissism and feminism in this role mess. Narcissism for obvious reasons, since society as a whole went that way. Feminism in the sense that women must (not only can) try and do everything. There is also the sense of entitlement, that no life and no man is good enough for them. The culture tells women that they are the most amazing creation of the universe, the movies say the same, and if they are beautiful, men will just reinforce this perception.
I also wonder if the college dorms aren't to blame. This all-American institution is rare in other countries, and is a sluttiness school in itself, because of the ease to sleep with others, the competition environment, etc.
Men are basically the same as they have always been. Softer, I'd say. The exception are the players, tattooed and with a soul patch. But 95% of the guys are nice, especially in the US. I have never seen, apart from very religious couples, an American couple where the male leads. Most women are Nancy Reagan-ish, while the guy is nice, tells jokes and tries to cool down things. I guess they are always trying to void their wives' outbursts of rage.
If we think about it, it makes sense. Women who are never satisfied, who have unrealistic expectations and think they are entitled the world, will try to "fix" and control the poor husband.
Ouch.