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Re: Tips for Reducing Anxiety, Stress and Depression in Your Life

sadbutt — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 05:56:44 -0000

Some situations like police are slightly more stressful, even though I had met the officer a couple of times before. It could be the uniform and the uncertainty of the outcome. The main problem as always, is having to sit face to face and talk.

A couple of days ago I had a long drive to an IT company for an assessment to get a place on a training course. The reception already had the aroma of stale armpit sweat and bad breath. The room gradually filled with around 16 applicants all men in business suites, some young, middle-aged and around my age. At this point I coped well and only started to stress after the course director lead all of us into the conference room, hot and filled with rows of computers. He pointed for me to sit on the front row. I hate the front row. I removed my jacket but most kept theirs on. I started to get hot and red. He noticed (could not help but notice) and without comment opened a window. I sometimes feel sorry for the 'other' person, and wonder if my red face and obvious stress makes them feel uneasy.

After an hour we were taken to see the training facilities and accommodation house for those, who like me, would need to be residential. This gave the opportunity to chat to other applicants and for me to cool down. I was surprised that I was able to chat to several fellow applicants without trouble. This was because most of the time we were walking and so face to face was largely avoided.

Then came the one to one personal interview with the course director. More stress and redness, but as already mentioned earlier in this post, I tough it out and some how get through. Its not easy, you have to be brave.
He referred to the heat in the conference room and apologised for the air-conditioner not working, so he had picked up on my problem but said no more.

Driving home I had time to reflect. Could I cope with a 6 week intensive residential course and could I survive the constant stress. I have reached an age where I am finding it difficult to recover from the affects of stress. It makes me ill and is wearing me down. I may reach the stage soon when I have no option but to seek medical help. The trouble is... I find talking to my doctor stressful. Its no win situation.

To my amazement, I was offered a place on the residential IT training course.
It would kill me.

Re: Tips for Reducing Anxiety, Stress and Depression in Your Life

sadbutt — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 19:30:17 -0000

I wonder if hypnotherapy would help?

Re: Tips for Reducing Anxiety, Stress and Depression in Your Life

sadbutt — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 18:54:51 -0000

I had to vist my local police station yesterday to report a hit and run. Only minor damage and no injury but I totaly stressed out while giving the details to the constable. He must have thought my head would explode if it got any redder. It took me 2 hours to clam down and my head still aches. I am convinced that one day every vein in my head will rupture.

Re: Tips for Reducing Anxiety, Stress and Depression in Your Life

sadbutt — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 19:06:29 -0000

I discovered this web site by accident and I now realise that I have SAD and have suffered with it all my life. I am 54 and although married for 20 years and have a seven year old son, this condition has ruined and wasted my life. My problem is fear of talking to people be they family or strangers, either one to one or groups, it makes no difference, I always get very stressed and 'blush'. In my younger years I kept telling myself it will get better with age, but that never happened. I have copped by trying to be tough and facing up to my fear, but the problem remains. The condition has made me a loner and my wife is the only friend I have ever had, or ever will.