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Re: I’m 28 Years Old and I Think I Want Botox

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Thu, 18 May 2017 08:20:06 -0000

Leandra, you look fine. And at 28, the human body is still well within its physical peak. You don't need botox.

Re: The problem with pre-eating

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Fri, 30 May 2014 16:10:08 -0000

But pre-eating is also a chapter in the big book Why We’re Getting Fat. Which is the companion title to The Story of How We Lost Our Real Appetite.

Are these real books, Sarah? They sound fascinating, but I can't find them anywhere when I search online.

Re: Why introverts just can’t handle you… sometimes

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Wed, 14 May 2014 11:05:50 -0000

As I fellow ENFP, I'm inclined to agree. As I explained above, I don't gain energy from being around people who are drained and disengaged by my presence. When I gain energy from another person's presence, it's a multiplication, not a subtraction: the collision of two people's energy and enthusiasm to create something bigger than themselves. I get that with my introverted friends, too. And then we both go back to our rooms to rest and regroup. Because as this video says, we ENFPs need our alone time, too: https://www.youtube.com/wat...

Re: Why introverts just can’t handle you… sometimes

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Wed, 14 May 2014 11:02:00 -0000

Agreed, Michelle. As a fellow somewhere-in-the-middle person (but definitely leaning towards the extroverted side), I find the introvert/extrovert dichotomy overstated and not entirely helpful.

When I did Buzzfeed's 'Are You Actually An Introvert?' quiz recently, I scored a 6 out of 100. Being around the right people puts me on a high. My favourite ever job I've had was a weekend of giving speeches, delivering workshops, and having one-on-one conversations about writing over coffee - in other words, being paid to socialise (and talk about ideas). All of which suggests a strong extrovert.

BUT. While I enjoy socialising, I prefer to do it in shorter bursts (ie, a couple of hours rather than all day). I loathe anything that requires "circulating." I prefer in-depth conversations and don't much like small-talk - I can do it, but I find it draining. At a friend's birthday party when I was 9 years old, I won the award for "quietest." After spending a few hours with people - especially people I don't overly connect with, or who don't energise me - I too want to be by myself. I could relate to many of the "introverted" behaviours on the Buzzfeed quiz; I just experience them on a smaller scale to a proper introvert.

I am sure that some of the strong introverts I know find being around people like me draining, that's fine. I get what you're saying in your post, Sarah. But I don't get any energy from being around people who are drained by my presence either. When I'm getting energy from an interaction, it's not a transfer of energy from one person to another. It's a multiplication: two people's energy and excitement colliding with one another and creating more energy in the process.

Michelle, you might find this video useful. It's about a particular brand of extrovert who still needs time by themselves to reflect and regroup. You might relate! https://www.youtube.com/wat...

Re: Six things I’ve learned about life from living in London

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Tue, 08 Apr 2014 13:17:14 -0000

Thanks James, glad you enjoyed it. I'd be interested in reading your own reflections on making the transition the other way.

Re: Six things I’ve learned about life from living in London

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Tue, 08 Apr 2014 13:16:39 -0000

I hope so!

Re: Six things I’ve learned about life from living in London

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Tue, 08 Apr 2014 13:16:32 -0000

Looking forward to heading over. :)

Re: "See, I've had this great chance in life of being born with good genes." | Musings of an Inappropriate Woman

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Thu, 27 Mar 2014 07:58:47 -0000

Agreed. Would you like to be the one to write it? Or perhaps we can write one each.

Re: “Tweet it and push it and hope someone pays attention to your brilliance and if they don’t, well, try again.”

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Thu, 27 Mar 2014 07:57:36 -0000

I don't know that Kim does disprove the theory. She may have hustled her way into the zeitgeist, but all that tells us is that her greatest talent is probably hustling! Not that talented people don't have to hustle.

Re: "The manuscript was delivered ahead of deadline and the editorial turnaround was quick." | Musings of an Inappropriate Woman

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Thu, 20 Feb 2014 17:02:35 -0000

Last time I spoke to my agent she told me that there often comes a point when writers need to have their manuscripts wrestled from them. She suspected I may be nearing that point.

Re: GIRLS, and the trouble with “soulmates”

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Mon, 17 Feb 2014 11:41:12 -0000

You're a sucker for emotional punishment? It's definitely my favourite episode in a long time.

Re: Worst Fictional Boyfriends - Bad TV Characters

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Tue, 11 Feb 2014 10:19:24 -0000

He was great with Blair, though. But awful with Serena, yes.

Re: Worst Fictional Boyfriends - Bad TV Characters

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Tue, 11 Feb 2014 10:18:35 -0000

I maintain that Mr Big gets a bad rap. If you pay attention to what he actually does on the show, rather than how Carrie and her friends respond to it, he consistently behaves like someone who is really into Carrie. He makes some missteps, sure (not being more forthcoming with his feelings, for one), but Carrie's doubting nature plays as much a role in their tumultuous relationship as anything he does.

Re: Subtract the word “publisher” (since most of these... | Musings of an Inappropriate Woman

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Mon, 10 Feb 2014 04:41:01 -0000

Thanks, Scarlett! Glad to hear it :)

Re: Alexa Chung Had a Very Lucrative Year

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Mon, 20 Jan 2014 07:37:04 -0000

Chung's company The Last Battalion reportedly brought in around $3 million last year. What, exactly, The Last Battalion is and does, however, is unclear.

I'm guessing she made her cash through a combination of television presenting, book sales, brand partnerships, event appearances and endorsements. Adds up.

Re: 2014 mantra: Quality, not commodity. (OR: On speaking because you have something to say, rather than because you need to be heard.)

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Tue, 07 Jan 2014 06:56:21 -0000

I'm not sure, as I don't write for them. But I suspect it is a sliding scale, and not very much cash, as it is an independent literary publication.

Re: 2014 mantra: Quality, not commodity. (OR: On speaking because you have something to say, rather than because you need to be heard.)

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Tue, 07 Jan 2014 06:55:31 -0000

I look forward to hearing/reading what you come up with. x

Re: Celebrity Airport Style - Traveling Outfits

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Sat, 14 Dec 2013 13:55:38 -0000

A prefer to wear a comfy dress on a plane, so team Nicole Richie.

Re: Feminism is the new black

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Mon, 18 Nov 2013 09:15:47 -0000

Hi Leah. I'm sorry to hear you had such an awful experience - I can see why that would have put you off feminism, even if you were already predisposed to it. I'm interested to know more of what you think "the modern definition of feminism" consists of?

Re: Feminism is the new black

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Mon, 18 Nov 2013 09:13:38 -0000

Thanks Anastasia. I think you're right: especially regarding your (implied) comment that the feminism exemplified by Miley et al, doesn't really reflect the feminism that you see a lot of their contemporaries engaging in.

Re: 48 Hours in New York

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Wed, 13 Nov 2013 18:19:55 -0000

One of the many reasons we are friends, no doubt!

Re: 48 Hours in New York

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Tue, 29 Oct 2013 17:38:22 -0000

Put them on your list of things to do for next time?

Re: “One rich man can finance the art of at least ten girls.” – Gabby Bess.

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Thu, 24 Oct 2013 17:11:29 -0000

If you saw what they're doing as a form of sex work (and at least a couple of your examples are, by working as dominatrixes) - how does your perspective differ?

It's funny that you say that, because I actually had this very conversation with one of the friends I talk about in this story. I feel I would be more comfortable talking about the informal "sugar baby" relationships as a form of sex work, because in sex work the parameters of exchange are clear (X time/acts/intimacy for Y cash) rather than framed as a form of benevolence.

As for the young artists seeking dominatrix style jobs, fair point. I did think it was interesting that part of the appeal for them was an amusement at being to exploit the same figurative "man" who exploited them - but I suppose the same could be said of many people working in non-sex work jobs.

Re: Floss « Gary Pepper

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Mon, 14 Oct 2013 04:46:25 -0000

Great shoes!

Re: On 29 and ‘feeling old’.

Rachel @ Musings of an Inappro — Sun, 13 Oct 2013 11:45:33 -0000

In those instances, I try Redbull. ;)