As a personal anecdote, the information specialist at work who does the daily news clippings has known about this for awhile. She always double checked the dates :)
#3 is the toughest. Even with all the keyword analyzers out there, how accurate are they? And do you trust Google Adwords to give you the straight deal? Probably not as they want to keep the good ads for themselves.
What I find sad in this is that women still blame themselves. Society does plenty of that already. Why add to the self guilt? YOU did nothing wrong. To live with the guilt and justify the guy's actions... I just don't get it.