DISQUS

Facebook went after twitter a couple of weeks ago unsuccessfully, maybe they should go after friendfeed instead. If friendfeed incorporated facebook status natively, it might be able to not only do exactly what Fred mentions in this post, but would also have a twitter replacement. I feel like friendfeed as of now really relies on twitter for discussion topics. Also, this new facebook/friendfeed status could instantly overtake facebook in footprint.

I try to keep my total bill to $20. This is done mostly on date selection, but sometimes unforeseen things happen and unnecessary money gets spent at which point I make sure it's clear that it's not something I'm taking care of. No matter what the bill, I do expect the woman to offer to pay her half, which I will gracefully turn down, or maybe just ask her for a generous tip. I'm actually more likely to eat the bill if I don't plan on calling her again so that I don't feel quite as bad.

Probably because your posting has been LAME lately. Not to call you out CJ, I love your stuff and I think that you are one of the most innovative PUAs in the game, but you wrote yourself how you have 4 fuck buddies and 2 numbers in your phone. You're the guru's guru, but it seems to me that you've lost your killer instinct. That's why El Topo called you out for that February challenge. Get off of your ass and bury him! I can't wait to read about it.

Why are people so bitter about ads? Wouldn't you want geo-locaded advertising? If I'm in a new area and want to get lunch, it'd be nice if a discount coupon appeared on my screen.

I recently watched seasons 1 and 2 of Mad Men and something from that show rang very true to me in this post. Don Draper mentions that one of the reasons that he gets paid the big bucks and is so good at is job is that he is in the target market that all advertisers are trying to hit. It seems to me that one of the reasons you have been so successful as a VC is that you are in fact the target demographic for your tech startups, and thus your personal life, including your family, provides useful insight into what will be consumed. Upper class, tech savvy, early adopter, married, 3 preteen/teenage kids, homemaker wife.

lol I totally would do this if I had a burger king near by. In fact I might do it anyway. It's a good excuse to clean out some of the old friends.

I absolutely take issue with the word permission. She says that it wasn't because the trip was expensive and cool. I think that this whole premise of asking is ridiculous to begin with. He should TELL her that he's going on a ski trip and ASK her if she would like to come along.

@Alisa: That is so sad. I can't believe that your husband needs "permission" to go on a ski trip. Even worse that you consider giving him the permission a "gift."

You're definitely being way too hard on her. Tabloids shoot pictures of her in bikinis all the time and we have every indication that she looks great without airbrushing.

I totally agree that sex in the context of a relationship is much better. In fact I'm in a relationship right now with an incredible woman. But don't you for a second presume that just because a woman is of high quality means that she won't jump into bed with you. If you know what you're doing and how to make it happen, I promise you, she will.

"I do not have a problem offering myself to a man I have an interest in and IF it feels right in that moment."

I'm an expert at making it "feel right in that moment."

And yea there are chemicals that are released to make sex a bonding experience in women more than men. But by making that generalization you're implying that women can't have NSA sex (argue that one with @Singlegirl). Sex can be a bonding experience, but it can also just be Superfuntime (ala South Park).

But yea, as I said, I am not going to let myself get too attached to a woman before knowing about what it's like to have sex with her. All those things I listed above are deal breakers long term, so if I let myself get too emotionally attached breaking up for something as superficial as her inner labia are too big will hurt us both.

Who said anything about a false sense of intimacy? You are creating real intimacy.

Also, what do you have against sex? Why would anyone consider pursuing a relationship with someone before having sex with them? THAT is a waste of time. You should not be transitioning into a relationship with a woman before you have sex with her. It fosters a false sense of desire for them. The only real way to answer the question as to whether you'll want to continue talking to them after you've fucked them is by fucking them.

That's why women withhold sex in the first place, because they are afraid that once they give it up you will lose interest (that and they're afraid of feeling like/being called a slut). I find that the women who are most careful about giving it up are generally the ones with the least to offer intellectually. If I thought that sex was all that I had to offer to a man who I wanted to keep in my life I would probably string that out as long as possible as well to keep the attention train rolling.

Furthermore, I don't WANT to develop an emotional connection with someone until I know that they can deliver in the funk shop. Other things related to sex that I need to know about her before considering getting emotionally involved: peach lips or bacon strips? loud or quiet? multi-orgasmic? grooming? cleanliness? nipple size? likes being tied up? hair pulling? choked? anal? deep throat?

Qualification is maybe one of the most important stages of seduction. It implies that you have higher value than her, and thus she has to prove herself to you in order to not lose your attention. It also shows that you're interested in characteristics about her other than her looks, which is something that women of exceptional beauty rarely see.

I typically use different qualification questions, but they are definitely related. For example, I will ask a girl within 5 minutes of meeting her what wanted to be when she grew up when she was a little girl and what her dream job is, i.e. if she could have anyone's job, whose would she take? This is a whole routine that I've done so many times that it is now pretty much word for word and can easily turn into the basis of a 45 minute deep conversation that develops a true emotional connection with her and makes her more than willing to make out with you and depending on logistics, possibly go home with you.

For this reason though, if a woman asks questions like this of you (on a first date), you should blow them off (with maybe the exception of the what would you do with your time if money was no object question because you can DHV like crazy in that one, talking about what you've done in your life that makes you want to spend the rest of your life doing what you select) because getting too detailed is going to come off as you qualifying yourself to her from a place of lower value.

One tip for this: I often like to ask questions like these in the context of "the question game." Basically the only rule is that you cannot throw a question back at the other person, essentially making you safe from answering any question you ask. This also has the added advantage of accelerating escalation and getting her to go sexual first and early. If you go 5 rounds of the question game without her asking you about the craziest place where you have had sex, she probably doesn't see you that way.

I'm glad things are going well for the two of you, but I still don't understand how you could get someone's number without realizing that they're blind. Did you really have that little an interaction with her? What qualified her for a date with you if you hadn't even talked to her long enough to know whether she had vision? Then again, I'd ask her the same question. I guess neither of you are especially time constrained.

You guys don't get it. Self confidence and abundance mentality are attractive. The pickup artist is the male equivalent of the hot girl. He has a huge amount of value to all women.

If Brad Pitt invites a girl to hang out with him, do you think she's going to say no? I have as much value to the women I pickup as Brad Pitt.

@Jane Wonder: lol you're such a girl saying that you wouldn't hang out with me if I invited you along on something. Women do crazy things for guys that they're attracted to.
You're going on a date with me for my company because I'm an attractive, interesting, charismatic and funny guy. The activity is so secondary as to not even matter. If the activity is that important to you, good riddance. A good girl is hard to find, a hot girl is not.

@Seth: I date looking for someone special, but I have super high standards as you've seen if you've read my "What I look for in a Long Term Mate" post. But my standards are much lower for sex. If I'm out on a date with you, I expect it to end in sex. In fact, I don't think that you can really truly get to know someone until the sex part is out of the way.

Yea bro I don't really get what you were going after either. Why would you go on a 2.5 hour drive for a first date? Just being willing to do that conveys neediness and makes it seem like you are totally sold on her.

Over the phone a first date needs to be framed like you're asking her to tag along with you on something that you're planning on doing anyway, and it should be clear that you're not quite sure about her but interested to learn more.

That said, you better have kcufed her. While the situation isn't ideal, the time warp element of this date will make it seem like she's known you forever. If you play your shit right you could have her thinking about how much she wants to have sex with you for like 10 hours straight in 20 different locations. Then it's just a question of logistics.

This should be a daily occurrence for anyone on the prowl. On the train, in the street, in line at the grocery store, etc. Not just during the holiday season, but always.

The one thing that I would add to this is that in the daytime you want to be direct. Maybe you start off with a statement and lead into a question, but within the first couple minutes of the interaction you should make a statement of intent. I like to pretend to lose myself in her eyes, then cut her off mid sentence with a "you are SOOO, fucking CUTE. I'm going to get to know you. I'm Hammer."

I think you're partially right about the stimulus packages stabilizing the ship for a while, but positive growth for '09 is very ambitious. Sometime in mid '09 we're going to see second wave of the mortgage crisis in the "Alt A" category, and I don't think the market is pricing it in yet.

Lol all good speakers use NLP naturally in their speech patterns. That's why we perceive them as good speakers.

By "become the jfk of our era," do you mean get assassinated?

I love chrome. It flies. But with that said, I still have space in my life for firefox primarily because of the plugins and the mentioned issues, although in moderation. That scrolling support is so key. If they fix touchpad scrolling support and add in rss support I will use Chrome so much more.