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Re: When are you your best self?

Connie — Tue, 27 May 2008 19:54:07 -0000

I'm my best self when I'm with someone I care about a great deal and we are sharing ideas, a beautiful place, something funny. In love,surrounded by beauty inside and out and having fun--best for me, best of me!!

Re: What is the wish behind your biggest complaint?

Connie — Wed, 28 May 2008 21:07:59 -0000

I'm discouraged that all the jobs I want weren't held by people half my age. I wish I could work at what I love as I used to when I was younger and that I was appreciated for my experience and knowledge instead of disdained for my aging.

Re: What has been your most significant beginning?

Connie — Sat, 07 Jun 2008 16:18:22 -0000

My most spiritual and humbling and joyous beginning when I gave birth to my first daughter, the first of my three children, 30 years ago. Each succedent child's birth, another daughter and then a son, were also miraculous beginnings, since each child is so decidedly different from the get-go. I never looked forward to a big wedding but I always wanted a family and I got more than I could handle sometimes. Kids are a gift that keeps on giving to be trite; trite but true.

Re: What’s the lesson that keeps repeating in your life?

Connie — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 14:59:26 -0000

Care even more, give even more, love even more.

Re: What culture do you want to learn about?

Connie — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 20:11:56 -0000

I probably belong back in 19th century Paris around the Impressionist artists and around Colette and her coterie of friends. Viva la France.

Re: What’s your cheap beauty solution?

Connie — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 14:46:00 -0000

I mix my face lotion with my foundation and it's sheer and fine.

Re: What’s your form of genius?

Connie — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 16:38:22 -0000

I'm good at listening and learning.

Re: What does it mean to be civilized?

Connie — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 16:23:19 -0000

Civilized may mean to be non-martial, to be peaceful and kind and compassionate. Sounds right to me.

Re: What’s the best movie you’ve seen lately?

Connie — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 15:41:19 -0000

"The Fountain" with Hugh Jackman; part sci-fi and part romance; exquisite.

Re: What’s the best movie you’ve seen lately?

Connie — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 15:44:14 -0000

My two faves of last year are polar opposites: THE DEPARTED and DEVIL WEARS PRADA.

Re: Special Friday Edition - What’s your word of the week?

Connie — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 14:31:19 -0000

Two words: Emotional Intelligence. Best way for me to deal with my life and those I share it with in all kinds of ways.

Re: To whom will you show your appreciation today?

Connie — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 19:16:36 -0000

To God for the safe return of my son Matthew from Iraq after serving 15 months.

Re: If you had an audience of a billion people, what would you say?

Connie — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 15:05:13 -0000

Peace now.

Re: What’s the best business book you’ve read?

Connie — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 14:40:50 -0000

NOW DISCOVER YOUR STRENGTHS by Buckingham and Clifton; it's a test that you take with purchase of book, online, and it feeds back all kinds of interesting info about you in the business world and elsewhere; it's a real help for finding a job or a new career or updating a resume. Highly recommend for managers, too.

Re: What’s the best business book you’ve read?

Connie — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 14:43:05 -0000

Also was perusing LESSONS FROM A LIPSTICK QUEEN by Poppy King, haven't read it but it looks like fun with some good advice thrown in the mix.

Re: What do you know more about today than you did two weeks ago?

Connie — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 16:51:12 -0000

I know more about most of the people I love or care about; I know more about my feelings for them and vice versa. I also know more about trust and belief in my own intuitions.

Re: Friday Edition: Who would you be if you were freed from your past?

Connie — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 18:05:33 -0000

I love this question. I've been thinking about it for over a day now. I might be a UN translator, what I hoped to be in college. OR, I might be a fashion illustrator OR I might be a poet OR I might be a publisher or an agent. I've dabbled in all these fields but have been a mom of three and married 2 1/2 times. Thanks for helping my mind soar!!

Re: What will you say no to this week?

Connie — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 18:19:58 -0000

I'm saying no to "soldiering on" when I am once again feeling deep sadness and grief over the loss of my best friend, Philip, who died 7 years ago on july 2. I do not need to put on a happy face and pretend all is well when I miss him so much and always will. I say no to denial and phoniness on my part and I say yes to remembering all the love we shared.

Re: When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?

Connie — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 14:58:53 -0000

Nurse like Florence Nightingale; nun or aid worker like Father Damian and the lepers; UN translator when I won the French prize and got a scholarship to college; always a MOM.

Re: In terms of celebrities, whose fashion sense do you admire?

Connie — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 13:31:06 -0000

Meryl Streep as Anna Wintour in "Devil Wears Prada."

Re: What are you afraid of?

Connie — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 17:40:08 -0000

I'm afraid of highways; losing my eyesight; something awful happening to one of my children or grandchild; poverty and dying alone. I think that's enough fear for me.

Re: What are you afraid of?

Connie — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 17:45:13 -0000

Amanda, if you have a good therapist, you'll control what you want to bring up each session and you will probably do it very slowly. I'm with you. Be well. You sound like you're very self-aware now.:)

Re: What about yourself makes you enthusiastic?

Connie — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 15:28:21 -0000

I'm enthusiastic about learning new things always and delighting in my cats, the beauty of nature that surrounds me, and in my children's lives.

Re: What are the tools of your trade?

Connie — Mon, 07 Jul 2008 17:08:35 -0000

Laughing. Listening. Believing in the good and seeing the beautiful.
Compassion and endurance.

Re: What do you do to promote your own happiness?

Connie — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 14:18:52 -0000

I get online. I take care of my cats who I love tremendously. I make my little apt. cozy. I read something good. I enjoy many cups of tea, faves are Constant Comment w/ chai and Lady Grey. I also watch news and some interesting TV at night. Some days I walk with a friend or go to my favorite bookstore.

Re: What do you want to be thanked for?

Connie — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 13:50:43 -0000

I'm trying to instill good manners in my 6-year old grandson; he's doing really well with his pleases and thank yous to Granny.

Re: What are your favourite blogs or websites?

Connie — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 15:06:42 -0000

I'm a soldier's mom and so some of my fave sites are military or peace
sites, e.g. VetVoice.com and Voices in Wartime.org. Also Amazon.com
since I love to read; NYT for news; DBSA.org; WowOWow.com; FreeWillAstrology.com; Addictomtic.com which is a great place to search all search engines; and Yahoo and of course Google if that's a "site.

Re: What are your favourite blogs or websites?

Connie — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 15:13:14 -0000

Also for a progressive slant on news: CommonDreams.org

Re: What are you anticipating?

Connie — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 19:48:32 -0000

I'm anticipating doing new volunteer work at a place called Voices in
Wartime. I'm looking forward to the new people and the new learning and work to be found there.

Re: What’s the best workshop or course you ever took?

Connie — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 04:23:43 -0000

There were two in NYC years ago. One was at Parsons School of Design,
pre-Project Runway for sure; it was quick fashion sketching with live
models taught by a wonderful illustrator Pat Porter. The other was a one day seminar with the astrologer Caroline Casey when her book arrived (MAKING THE GODS WORK FOR YOU) and it was taught in SoHo at the
open Center; each of them was thrilling.

Re: What would be your last meal and with whom would you share it?

Connie — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 13:48:31 -0000

Hots dogs, beans and potato salad outside with my grandson, Izak. He loves hot dogs and his "granny" Connie. We'd probably laugh a lot.

Re: How do you fall in love with the world?

Connie — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 14:15:28 -0000

When I am with those I love or even talking with them. Being with my gorgeous cats all four of them. Remembering good times with those I loved who have died. Seeing the beauty that surrounds me here in Seattle. Art, good writing, good video, anything and anyone who makes me really laugh.

Re: How do you fall in love with the world?

Connie — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 19:15:47 -0000

I left out MUSIC of all kinds. And my hummingbirds who remind me how amzing they and the Universe are and that I have every good reason to protect and nurture them.

Re: What’s your favourite inspirational quote?

Connie — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 14:32:22 -0000

It used to be the Serenity Prayer but I'm getting absent-minded and a little looser and I like the late George Carlin's "It's all bullshit,
and it's bad for ya." They both work for me.

Re: What do you regret?

Connie — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 15:12:14 -0000

Whatever I regret would not be written on any website.

Re: What is your biggest indulgence?

Connie — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 05:00:15 -0000

Books, TV (Cable), the computer and good hand milled soaps.

Re: What is your big, audacious dream for yourself?

Connie — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 18:44:20 -0000

To either write a 24 signs astrology book OR create a tarot deck based
in fashion designers

Re: What is your big, audacious dream for yourself?

Connie — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 01:46:55 -0000

I've been to Longwood Gardens in PA with my family and I recall how exquisite it wall was to us; I think there was a light show, too. Make it happen!!!!

Re: What is your big, audacious dream for yourself?

Connie — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 01:48:28 -0000

Jamie, thank you for the encouragement.

Re: What’s your favourite magazine?

Connie — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 14:41:24 -0000

Fashion mags especially the Fall and Spring bonanza issues of Vogue and W. I like international fashion mags too. I think Vanity Fair is a good blend of info and style.

Re: Who in your life do you admire… and why?

Connie — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 04:18:25 -0000

I admire my three adult children: Lia for being a wonderful mother; Lauren for becoming a mental health counselor and working with families; and Matthew for serving our country in Iraq for 15 months and now testing for selection in Special Forces. I also admire my 6 yr.old grandson for his compassion, poise, and karate skills.

Re: What would you like to revolutionize?

Connie — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 03:17:22 -0000

The way we treat the homeless and the mentally ill in our country, which are frequently one and the same. Where's our compassion? No
more wars, but rather considerate and compassionate solutions to these two huge problems.

Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

Connie — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 03:34:30 -0000

I'd go to Parsons and become a fashion illustrator.

Re: How do you want to feel today?

Connie — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 03:38:50 -0000

I want to feel engaged in my newest project and engaged and also I want to feel relaxed.

Re: How do you want to feel today?

Connie — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 03:39:54 -0000

I want to feel engaged in my newest project and energized and also I want to feel relaxed.

Re: What would you like your home to say about you?

Connie — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 13:19:22 -0000

My home has been downsized since my husband's death to a small apt. across the country. I think it says I love books and cats and relax here and we'll talk and watch the news or a movie together. You are welcome, but please call first.

Re: What’s your beauty dilemma?

Connie — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 04:35:14 -0000

My weight caused by necessary meds. Ugh! Also, I'm aging and I don't like it!

Re: What’s your image of God?

Connie — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 03:53:15 -0000

I feel god in all things, all people, animals, events and w/n myself, as well. I like the old religions which we call pagan, like the Greeks, where the gods and goddesses were flawed and fantastic as are humans. If I were to choose a goddess for myself I would have been Hera/Aphrodite and now as a widow with grown kids and a grandson I'm more the goddess of the hearth, Hestia. I was brought up in the Judeo- Christian ethos and so I saw god as either one god in three persons or as one god only not to be imaged. Comparative religion is probably a subject we should all delve into at some point in our lives. Blessed be.

Re: The Goddess Experiment: 21 Days of Imagery

Connie — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 04:02:32 -0000

This is a wondrous exercise, Danielle. Brava! So if you were to choose from the pantheon of Greek goddesses, who would you be? Jean Shinoda Bolen's Goddess in Every woman and Gods in Every Man are wonderful books to truly get into this. Also lots of beautiful tarot decks honor the goddess as well as the god in us. One I particularly love and use is called Transformational Tarot by Arnell Ando--gorgeous and inspiring. I'll be paying attention to this blog in the weeks ahead. I love it. Oh yes, The Motherpeace Deck is another terrific source for goddess images.

Re: What are your 3 top priorities this week?

Connie — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 02:40:19 -0000

Eat better. Have more fun. Read Austen.

Re: Dreams Come True…Times Two: The AstroTwins Interview

Connie — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 13:32:07 -0000

I've been studying and practicing astrology since I was 19 which makes it 40 years now! I started with LINDA GOODMAN'S SUNSIGNS and still recommend it altho' I have many many more sophisticated current books.
I've taught astrology at night school; done hundreds of charts for friends and family and am now considering getting back into the world with it in my new West Coast city and combining it with Tarot. I feel it's as ingrained in me as any philosophy or belief could be. I find it a beautiful hologram of one's life but do not rely heavily on the predictive side of it. Jung, I believe, called astrology, the compilation of all psychology before psychology as we know it was born. There is the infinite point in the center of each chart, which I believe is the indefinable soul point of each person. Everything else can be charted, but this is ours alone to create ourselves our way. If you haven't tried it, I hope you do. It's fascinating! Oh yeah, two amazing books: MAKING THE GODS WORK FOR YOU by Caroline Casey and SECRETS FROM A STARGAZERS NOTEBOOK by Debbie Kempton-Smith. Brilliant and fun; I've met them both and they were so inspirational to me.

Re: How has astrology influenced your life or a decision?

Connie — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 13:34:41 -0000

I’ve been studying and practicing astrology since I was 19 which makes it 40 years now! I started with LINDA GOODMAN’S SUNSIGNS and still recommend it altho’ I have many many more sophisticated current books.
I’ve taught astrology at night school; done hundreds of charts for friends and family and am now considering getting back into the world with it in my new West Coast city and combining it with Tarot. I feel it’s as ingrained in me as any philosophy or belief could be. I find it a beautiful hologram of one’s life but do not rely heavily on the predictive side of it. Jung, I believe, called astrology, the compilation of all psychology before psychology as we know it was born. There is the infinite point in the center of each chart, which I believe is the indefinable soul point of each person. Everything else can be charted, but this is ours alone to create ourselves our way. If you haven’t tried it, I hope you do. It’s fascinating! Oh yeah, two amazing books: MAKING THE GODS WORK FOR YOU by Caroline Casey and SECRETS FROM A STARGAZERS NOTEBOOK by Debbie Kempton-Smith. Brilliant and fun; I’ve met them both and they were so inspirational to me.

Re: How would you spend your last $20?

Connie — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 16:39:30 -0000

I'd definitely buy a book that meant something to me; I'd rather feed my mind and soul than my body, at least for a short while.:)

Re: What would improve your work space?

Connie — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 12:55:29 -0000

Probably a new computer with more hard drive; oh yeah, and less clutter.

Re: What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever given or received?

Connie — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 14:38:03 -0000

My Aunt Celeste, no Ken Kesey but plenty smart, said there are three things you need to be with those you care about: Kind. Kind. and Kind.

Re: What kind of clutter is in your life?

Connie — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 14:43:57 -0000

Books, papers, and unopened and/or unanswered mail clutter. Yeek!

Re: What do you need to let go of?

Connie — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 04:02:29 -0000

I need to let go of my insecurities with those I love most; I need to let go of the fear that they really don't love me and never could. I need to let go of all the old ghosts who just can't come back to me. I need to let go of comparing people all the time. I need to let go of the young and fairly amazing me and accept the current, aging average and good enough me. Ashe

Re: What’s your favorite eco-friendly habit?

Connie — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 03:35:35 -0000

Taking the bus everywhere or walking. I also like using fabric bags for shopping or recyclable ones.

Re: What promise did you keep that changed your life?

Connie — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 13:36:03 -0000

I promised that I'd always show and tell the people I love how much I love them no matter what.

Re: What’s sacred to you?

Connie — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 13:09:06 -0000

My children and grandson; my eyesight; reading; my cats. Holy, holy, holy.

Re: A Simple Life: Quote of The Day

Connie — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 14:31:41 -0000

I used to be a serious shopaholic, but now my location and subsequently my income and circumstances have changed radically so like Socrates I go to a mall or big department store and take in everything with my eyes or my nose or fingers. I walk out without any baggage, literally. I have less now, but I feel and am more.

Re: If you had a totally open day, every day, what 4 or 5 things would you fill it with?

Connie — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 14:34:35 -0000

Daily chores for cats and self; reading; walking; talking with loved ones or seeing them occasionally; listening to good music; good TV at night; sometimes time in favorite bookstore.

Re: If you had a totally open day, every day, what 4 or 5 things would you fill it with?

Connie — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 14:57:33 -0000

Oh yeah, I'd be online for an hour or two morning and night, probably one of the best parts of each day for me.

Re: When do you hide?

Connie — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 13:46:12 -0000

I hide when I feel depressed. Also, like Danielle, I put angry e-mails in draft and eventually delete when I get over it all. I
also hide by keeping my phone ringer off or just not answering my
phone when I need mental space for my projects.

Re: What adventure are you craving (or planning for)?

Connie — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 14:39:03 -0000

I may be going to spend a couple of nights in a yurt in Oregon with an adventurous cyclist man who spins the best wheels and tales; hope we get to do it; should be a real adventure for a cerebral city woman like me.

Re: This Labor Day, how would you change our work culture?

Connie — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 19:37:09 -0000

I agree with C&D re: 4 day week and equal pay for equal work. I would add better parental leave for both moms & dads. Also, better vocational training. Bringing back jobs to our shores. Stop penalizing working immigrants, too. It would be a wonderful thing if in high school young people were given opportunities to explore vocations and maybe each 17 or 18 year old once graduated should serve our country in some beneficial way, be it armed serves or pastoral services or any kind of outreach to others who need them.

Re: What’s the best work you’ve ever done?

Connie — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 22:19:42 -0000

Raising my three children who've become wonderful, productive, responsible adults.

Re: If you suddenly inherited $10,000, what would you do with it?

Connie — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 23:50:56 -0000

I'd get the hell out of Seattle come holiday season and go visit my kids and friends on the east coast and spend a good deal of time eating and watching plays with all of them in NYC. I'd also buy some clothes for me, my daughters and grandson.

Re: What do you find sexy?

Connie — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 13:14:22 -0000

Any man I've loved or do love.

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Connie — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 13:26:05 -0000

To think long and hard before speaking words that could hurt others I love and hurt me too, of course. And then if the words have been spoken try to repair the emotional damage ASAP.

Re: What is your favorite fiction book?

Connie — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 03:37:19 -0000

I always prefer Southern fiction, so GONE WITH THE WIND, which I've read 6 times before I was 30. Then PRINCE OF TIDES & BEACH MUSIC by Pat Conroy and also PEACHTREE ROAD & OUTER BANKS by Anne Rivers Siddons. I also loved LEONIE by Elizabeth Adler and when I worked in indie bookstores I must have sold 200 copies by personal recommendation. I love reading fiction because I think it tells more truths than non-fiction.

Re: What is your favorite fiction book?

Connie — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 14:33:35 -0000

Aren't you a lucky one, Ellen. What did you talk about??? He's got another novel due out one of these months. I would love to meet him. His newest wife is an author too, I believe, but I haven't read her.

Re: What is something completely luxurious that you dream of owning?

Connie — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 03:50:17 -0000

I'd love a lifetime, limitless gift certificate at Barnes & Noble or Amazon.com. That to me would be the height of luxury. I also wouldn't mind a lovely laptop.

Re: What are you excited about right now?

Connie — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 04:17:58 -0000

I'm excited about the upcoming presidential election. I was very excited to see Senator Obama on Letterman tonight; he was earnest and funny. I am very excited about voting for him and having him become the 44th President of the United States.

Re: What do you know the most about?

Connie — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 14:50:03 -0000

I know a lot about astrology, people's emotions, and current events.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Connie — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 15:20:16 -0000

Unlike Carrie and Danielle, my making decisions is never as clear nor quiet nor finished. I make decisions that leave wiggle room because I know how quickly things can change and how I need to be flexible.

Re: What’s the best concert you ever attended?

Connie — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 14:19:13 -0000

Tony Bennett unplugged in small theatre in NJ. Frank Sinatra at the Garden State Arts Center in mid-80's and I swear he was singing directly to me. I've never been to a rock concert; isn't that unbelievable?

Re: How have you changed?

Connie — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 15:14:15 -0000

I heartily agree with Danielle here; the older I get and the more I live my little life the less I have to say and the more I listen and watch and thrill to all the tiny examples of life's great gift. I try to empathize a lot more basically.

Re: What is the best relationship book you’ve read?

Connie — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 03:36:59 -0000

Because I'm an astrologer: started with Linda Goodman's Sun Signs and then her Love Signs much later and every fine astrology book in between. Also more recently, IF THE BUDDHA DATED and ZEN AND THE ART OF FALLING IN LOVE by Brenda Shoshanna.

Re: What's on your must-have list for fall fashion? boots - Petit Bateau - Foley and Corrina - vintage - Luchesse cowboy boots - wide leg jeans | Carrie and Danielle

Connie — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 04:44:18 -0000

Yes, great wide-leg jeans and new boots, flat ones and a great new purse.I'd like to need the beautiful clothes that are coming out now, but I don't. What I always wish for every fall is a beautiful, chic,
Burberry raincoat.

Re: What do you love about men? (or, why is it so great being a man?)

Connie — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 12:09:55 -0000

I love their sense of humor; the good ones always have me laughing a lot. I also love their abilities to do things I cannot do, fix things and figure how things work or why they don't . Most of all I have loved a few specific incredible men because they loved me back.

Re: What is your favourite form of courtesy that you like to practice?

Connie — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 04:23:31 -0000

I tell people how glad I am to hear from them when they call. When I shop I compliment the sales associates if they've been helpful. And I tell their managers how good they are.
My children and now grandson have been brought up on positive comments about their goodness, kindness, humor, brains and beauty.

Re: What expert help or advice would you like?

Connie — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 14:14:32 -0000

I'd love a life/career coach.

Re: What do you collect?

Connie — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 04:43:52 -0000

I love books best; next purses, and perfumes and soaps.

Re: Patti Digh asks: What would you be doing today if you only had 37 days to live?

Connie — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 21:02:37 -0000

Not to sound flippant, but I wouldn't be answering this online; in fact, I wouldn't be online.

I'd be seeing those I love the most.

Re: Tsh Oxenreider asks: In what way are you delightfully conventional?

Connie — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 16:07:12 -0000

I'm a typical Jewish Mom who wants her three children to be happy and make good strong and happy marriages. And even though I'm 60 I'd like another go at a good relationship.
I've been married twice and deeply in love three times; twice widowed and one divorced I still hold out dreams for finding love again.

Re: What’s your favourite thing to watch on TV?

Connie — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 16:02:50 -0000

Charlie Rose; Boston Legal; ER; Daily Show/Colbert Report; late nights if they have good guests; Project Runway and Top Chef and JEOPARDY, plus good movies on cable.

Re: What would you be doing if you weren’t watching TV?

Connie — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 03:42:11 -0000

I'd be reading like Groucho or I'd be researching online.

Re: In this very moment, what are you grateful for? (In no particular order of thanks…)

Connie — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 17:38:16 -0000

The Sunshine (it's Seattle). My companion cat Lucy who cuddles and my shoulder and loves the computer and dripping water. The expectation of going out for supper with my eldest daughter and then to see "The Duchess." The lack of pain in a sore left ankle. Feeling calm. Reading a lovely story "The Secret Life of Bees." A good cup of chocolate.

Re: What do you secretly desire?

Connie — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 15:47:15 -0000

Money enough to never think about it again. Physical health & resiliency. And I always wanted to know what it would've been like to be really beautiful.

Re: Mary Jaksch asks: What’s your best way of coping with stress?

Connie — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 04:53:44 -0000

I listen to beautiful and soulful music. I talk to my cats and sometimes my kids or friends. I pretty much suck it up, too. Sleep and good food help, also. And occasionally I cry.

Re: What is your favorite flower? (And, are you curious as to why we’re asking?)

Connie — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 13:28:47 -0000

I love white flowers, except roses. I especially love pink tinged peonies, lovely little orchids and most of all for their fragrances: freesia and lily of the valley.

Re: What’s something you can NOT do today that will simplify your life?

Connie — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 03:40:22 -0000

I can't walk well since I twisted my ankle; so I'm go to stay in bed with my foot up and read a book that I've been looking forward to reading (it's Nelson DeMille's THE GOLD COAST and next week the sequel is coming out.)

Re: What legacy do you want to leave?

Connie — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 13:43:53 -0000

Love for each other; for animals; for reading; for astrology. Kindness to self and others.

Re: Pearl Matteson asks: What have you stopped being curious about? And…what would be possible if you let yourself get curious again?

Connie — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 03:44:38 -0000

I've stopped being curious about why someone doesn't like me. I'm not as curious about
other people's lives. I'm not even that curious about what makes me tick. What I have not
stopped being curious about are my passions: astrology, fashion, literature, moviemaking, the great big wide world, what's happening with the soldiers fighting our wars and what happens to them as they return as veterans.

Re: What is your current, of-the-moment obsession?

Connie — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 13:56:52 -0000

John Mayer's CDs always, everyday; have a great wallpaper painting of him on my monitor.
Alice Adams collected short stories & getting help finally for a physical difficulty--hate doctors.

Re: What’s the best gift you’ve ever received?

Connie — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 15:03:52 -0000

So many, but memorable were: a fat tire teal bike right after the birth of my second daughter; a gorgeous necklace and brooch that was handcrafted by an elegant Upper East Side designer, which arrived on a snowy Christmas Eve , from my second husband, Joe; and a dishwasher when
we moved into our first owned home. Best of all : my three kids, but of course!!!! They still are.

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Connie — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 03:55:42 -0000

I'd either volunteer to work with returning vets with PTSD or work with a mental health issue as a group leader.

Re: How do you define good leadership?

Connie — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 03:36:21 -0000

I love what Danielle said and could never say it better. I would add: transparency and honesty at all times. Also, I'd like a leadership based in pacificism. Also, inspiration as Obama adequately shows.

Re: How do you define your self worth?

Connie — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 13:35:35 -0000

I don't know if I do define my self-worth. I know when I like myself and when I dont. I think being thoughtful and slow and re-checking feelings. I like to feel I'm loved by those I love or at least liked; that ups my feelings of self-worth. I like myself when I act from the heart and mind.

Re: This Weekend, How Are You Going to Play?

Connie — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 04:14:28 -0000

I think I'll start to sketch and do some fashion illustration; I've been missing doing that.

Re: What is your favorite cultural activity that doesn’t cost money?

Connie — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 13:25:24 -0000

Bookstores. Online museums and galleries and fashion shows. My library.

Re: Who has been of service in your life, and how do you remember them?

Connie — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 20:18:50 -0000

My grandpa served in WWI as an Italian immigrant and a very young man. He became a citizen and survived for another 50 years. His daughter, my aunt, served in the European theatre during WWII as an Army nurse; she survived and was a wonderful role model to me and her daughter. My brother and boyfriend served in Vietnam in the mid and late 60's; they each suffered greatly but survived. My son has served in Iraq during the surge and is back stateside and is currently a captain . I remember each of them especially today and am filled with gratitude and awe. I also pray there is now an end to anyone in my family ever having a war to fight. Ashe.

Re: Who were you in High School?

Connie — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 21:12:07 -0000

I tied with 2 others for valedictorian. I was in the Service League. I was in Debate Club. I won the French Prize and earned a couple of college scholarships. I was a good friend who had good friends, some of whom I still befriend. I worked hard as a dental assistant part time. I fell in love a lot.

Re: What items from your childhood make your heart smile with fond memories?

Connie — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 14:57:16 -0000

The tiny adorable transistor radios that my mom gave to my brother and me. All my saved for and excitedly awaited Nancy Drew books and the little glassed in library bookcase in our attic apartment when I was 12. Two gorgeous fancy dressed ceramic dolls in my grandma's livingroom. All my dolls like Betsy Wetsy and my big soft doll who attached to my feet so we could dance around. I also loved my paper dolls and my two imaginary friends Jean and Betty. Jacks and jumpropes, too.

Re: If you were an animal, what would you be?

Connie — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 23:18:13 -0000

I'd be a beautiful (is there any other kind) cat; a house cat who would live with someone like me.

Re: What four words describe you?

Connie — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 14:16:31 -0000

Romantic, friendly, eclectic and maternal.

Re: What’s your favorite kitchen gadget?

Connie — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 14:14:52 -0000

My hard boiled egg smasher or potato smasher. I use it to make the best egg salad.

Re: On your birthday, how do you like to be cherished?

Connie — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 14:45:51 -0000

I love birthday cards and books and perfume and maybe cake!

Re: Who or what is your favorite Icon?

Connie — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 03:56:04 -0000

Virginia Woolf and Colette.

Re: What are you sensitive to?

Connie — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 15:38:24 -0000

Kindness, humor or lack of , sounds and scents I love, animals, especially cats and birds, the voices that matter most, the sky and trees; music and art.

Re: Who in your own life would you give the title of “Hostess With the Mostess”?

Connie — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 13:40:27 -0000

Both my grandma and my Aunt Celeste; lovely presentation, warmth and laughtr and the best food.

Re: What have you done recently to make yourself feel proud?

Connie — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 13:43:40 -0000

Restrained myself with my daughter in a difficult situation, letting it go and letting her make her life her way. On the other hand, taking a chance on a new relationship with a funny man I do like.

Re: What is your favorite part of Thanksgiving celebrations?

Connie — Thu, 27 Nov 2008 15:49:22 -0000

The side dishes and the laughter.

Re: What’s your movie recommendation for this weekend?

Connie — Fri, 28 Nov 2008 15:40:45 -0000

The Duchess with Kiera Knightley; she was brilliant and the movie was beautiful and emotionally evocative.

Re: How do you make yourself open to others?

Connie — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 14:56:37 -0000

I live in a very reserved city and I ride the bus. I tend to smile and say a few words to those I don't know except by sight. When it comes to those I'm closer too, I pick up the phone, and sometimes, I don't . Sometimes, I find, being open to others means keeping quiet for awhile.

Re: What are you going to do today, or this weekend, to create joy for someone else?

Connie — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 05:30:33 -0000

Help one friend type a job application letter. Go out with two other guy friends and make them laugh.

Re: What is the quirkiest thing in your home that you will never give away?

Connie — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 15:05:15 -0000

A strange and exotic handmade doll with filmy skirts , jewelry and mixed-color dreadlocks and a pair of my old dangling earring; I've named her Eloise and she's crossed the country with me and I feel she is like my good fairy or the "angel in the house."

Re: What word describes your desire for 2009?

Connie — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 19:21:46 -0000

Joy..Joy in self, in family, in social network, in world. Joy in my passions, astrology and art.

Re: What do you want to leave behind in order to start the New Year afresh?

Connie — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 20:52:10 -0000

Sorrow and regret.

Re: What will you create in 2009?

Connie — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 15:39:56 -0000

I will create my talents and inner peace and contentment.

Re: If you could write one book, what would it be about?

Connie — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 20:55:41 -0000

I'd write an astrology/fashion resource book. Or maybe 24 signs of the zodiac book. Or a tarot deck and book which revolves around fashion

Re: What is a Completely Outrageous Thing You Want to do This Year?

Connie — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 20:14:06 -0000

Fall madly in love again and have this man be the love of my life 'til death do us part!

Re: How Would You Like to be Cared For?

Connie — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 00:27:31 -0000

I'd like to laugh and go places with a man who is fun, smart and kind. I'd feel cared for if someone
picked up a phone once a day/night to see how I was and share our day.

Re: What Does Your Little Voice Say?

Connie — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 17:06:24 -0000

GO FOR IT!

Re: How Will You Stretch Your Mind This Year?

Connie — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 04:55:13 -0000

I am going to write an astrology book and illustrate it too; I'm going to do this along with my eldest
daughter. I've been saying I'm going to do this for over a decade; this year's the year. Yes, we can!

Re: What’s One New Word You Want to Bring Into Your Vocabulary This Year?

Connie — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 14:58:07 -0000

Personal Success.

Re: If You Could Only Take One Book With You, Wherever You Went, What Would it Be?

Connie — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 19:54:28 -0000

This is so difficult; but it came to me intuitively, so I'd say:MAKING THE GODS WORK FOR YOU,
by Carollne Casey. It's a fantastic astrology/cosmology book and it's brilliant and fun.

Re: What’s The Most Beautiful Part Of Winter For You?

Connie — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 14:28:20 -0000

Long, long, nights alone with cats, books and television.

Re: What Song Would Best Describe Who You Are Right Now?

Connie — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 18:37:25 -0000

I'm horrible with song titles; but maybe a line'would be from James Brown I FEEL GOOD!

Re: What Activity Sets You Free?

Connie — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 15:26:41 -0000

Working my astrology either alone or with an interested person. Also drawing.

Re: How Will You Love Yourself Today?

Connie — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 14:08:08 -0000

I'm taking myself to the doctor to see if my broken ankle is well-healed. Also I'll spend time
glad to see the new president take his place in history.

Re: The Best Meal You Ever Ate Was…?

Connie — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 13:26:46 -0000

A piece of toast with butter and a cup of tea after 23 hours of labor birthing my first daughter.

Re: Karma Points: How Will You Gain Them Today?

Connie — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 04:49:50 -0000

It's my birthday, so maybe I gain a point or two for stayin' alive through thick and thin of all these years. I'll be cheerful and fun and be grateful for any blessings.

Re: What’s The Secret That Doesn’t Need To Be A Secret Anymore?

Connie — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 22:57:22 -0000

For me personally it is that one does NOT have to love someone to make love with him.

Re: What Will Be Your Indulgence Today?

Connie — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 13:51:05 -0000

Sunshine outdoors.

Re: Taking Risks When It Comes To Love; Is It Always Worth It?

Connie — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 15:30:34 -0000

I agree with Carrie 100%.

Re: Your Dream Home; Where Is It and Why?

Connie — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 14:48:28 -0000

I like what Maya Angelou wrote. I think it is in my heart and imagination, a place of beauty, love and joy and fun.

Re: How Will You Make Your Weekend Sensual?

Connie — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 15:51:36 -0000

By savoring every moment with my new lover.

Re: Positivity; How Do You Keep It Alive?

Connie — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 15:03:17 -0000

I do things that make me and others laugh and I keep connected with those I love.

Re: Enlightenment: Through Restriction or Enjoyment?

Connie — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 18:43:13 -0000

Enlightenment through joy and love, of course.

Re: Does It All Happen For A Reason?

Connie — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 14:01:43 -0000

I love a poem by Robert Frost called "Trial by Existence." It gives an exquisite picture of life before
life and our ability to choose ours and then forget we did as we live it out here on Earth.

Re: What Will You Forgive Yourself For Today?

Connie — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 13:36:18 -0000

I'll forgive myself for being too emotional and too impulsive.

Re: Love: Complicated, or Simple?

Connie — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 14:47:41 -0000

I feel love is as easy as breathing and as important. Of course, sometimes it is hard to breathe as it is hard to love; not complicated but sometimes not simple either. And if simple, not easy.

Re: Is A Life Partner Essential To Your Happiness?

Connie — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 17:58:24 -0000

I love that you used the Will Durant quote; it's terrific. He and his wife Ariel were all about history; I think that's what's so difficult if you divorce or become a widow or lose a lover later in life (I've been,and done all) you lose shared history; life stories are half there. Yes, for me a life partner is essential and I'm hoping to partner a new one for the last decades of my life now.

Re: What’s The Secret That Doesn’t Need To Be A Secret Anymore?

Connie — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 17:20:22 -0000

I can admit that I want my lover to be my lover; not my future husband, or friend with benefits, etc., etc. We all need love, physically, and that's fine to acknowledge to ourselves and others.