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Re: When are you your best self?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 27 May 2008 10:52:23 -0000

I'm my best self on the 7th of every month because I expect something good to happen! I set aside one day a month as "Ngonzi's Day" to do whatever I want (read a book, gaze out the window, think in silence, walk in the park)- since I tend to feel guilty saying NO when others ask me to do something or go somewhere- I use the 7th of the month as my planned excuse for some much needed "ME TIME".

Re: What is the wish behind your biggest complaint?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 28 May 2008 10:59:00 -0000

The wish behind my biggest complaint is TO ENJOY LIFE! I always complain about not exploring the city, falling into the rut of going to the same old places and doing the same routine things everyday....so my goal is to expose myself to new and different venues,foods,events and cultural activities in Chicago and around the world. I even plan to visit Carrie and Danielle in British Columbia for a consultation. So when I die, I can say-I TRULY LIVED!

Re: What’s your favourite form of exercise?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 29 May 2008 11:04:30 -0000

Hip Hop dance class at Lou Conte dance studio on Wednesday nights is great! We laugh at ourselves, jump around. feel the music and have good ole fashioned fun! I'm usually sweating after the initial warm-up stretches....who knew dancing was so invigorating! It renews my whole persona and helps me clear my mind. I joined the class 15 weeks ago yesterday w a friend. CONGRATS to us for making it this far!!! (Before this, I didn't excercise at all) Now I excercise twice a week. HIP HOP DANCE CLASS is 75minutes and I excercise at least 30 minutes every Monday at the YMCA gym w my coworker/sister. (what makes this so fun, is that we vent about the issues of the day). Collectively excercise is most fun for me.

Re: What helps or hinders you from having a great sex life?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 30 May 2008 14:54:31 -0000

LOVE within a Committed Relationship....openness and honesty!!! Genuine concern outside of the bedroom is a turn on.

Re: What helps or hinders you from having a great sex life?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 30 May 2008 15:01:15 -0000

I am a Miranda Sex in the city kinda gal....so it is what's on the inside-the emotionally soft side of the guy that speaks to my soul! He has to be emotionally available to listen and really hear my needs before I speak them...or attentive to my body language...and also able to understand the deeper meaning of why I'm feeling the way I feel and when I tell him how I'm feeling he responds accordingly. I LOVE A MAN THAT IS IN TOUCH WITH HIS EMOTIONS AND ALSO SENSITIVE TO MY NEEDS!

Re: What are the things you love that you don’t do enough of?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 11:17:17 -0000

traveling. walking. chatting online. praying. playing w children. singing. dancing. loving. seeing the good in others. complementing others. forgiving. thinking. writing. journaling. cooking. cleaning.

Re: What do you cherish about your home?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 17:15:06 -0000

My space. Being who I truly am! Quiet time. my office where my personal schedule & travel plans are made. My soft bed. the African and African American art displayed in the living room. My family tree which tells me from which I've come. My kitchen where creations are made: some good, some not so good...but it's still mine to make! I have freedom in my home! To dance naked. Scream. Cry. Laugh. Celebrate. Dream.

Re: How do you define waste?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 17:29:24 -0000

$40,000 Debt (and have nothing to show for it). Draining relationships. buying too much and using too little. being greedy. Being spoiled. Americans are wasteful and spoiled. I had the chance to go to Africa and the children their have less material wealth but more spiritual wellbeing and are much happier.
WASTE is having misplaced priorities!

Re: What’s the best money advice you’ve received?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 17:40:04 -0000

Invest/Save your money while you are able to work, so when you are no longer able to work your money will take care of you. Every penny counts. What is the mission of your money? Are you spending your money on things that are in line with your goals & dreams? Save $50 every paycheck. Always tithe 10% to God/church.

Re: What has been your most significant beginning?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 10:48:43 -0000

1. Today I registered for my PsyD in clinical psychology classes.

2. Running my campaign for Miss Fisk University (I didn't win...but was runner up....and I slacked in a few classes...but it taught me to be a well-rounded person). There should NEVER be all work and no play!

3. He just called out of the blue...to say he would fly in for my party...and entered my life nonintrusively w calmness & humility. I just felt safe & loved & wanted! "Go with the FLOW" is his motto....and mine is "Plan ahead". But I feel w us there is a true balance "Plan & Flow" HA HA

Re: What has been your most significant beginning?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 10:53:33 -0000

AFRICA! Lagos, Nigeria and Accra, Ghana...not the places but the faces. The love. the smiles. the hope. the JOY! the wealth in the midst of poverty. I had never lived before my trip to Africa. EVERYONE should go- it will transform your life completely. My pact was to never complain again after this trip- evertime I eat- I remember the African village of children. And I vowed to do everything in my power to spread the word....and send aid....which I have done annually since 2005.

Re: What’s not working in your wardrobe?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 12:06:56 -0000

What I want to wear, is out of my price range! My ideal stores are Banana Republic, Ann Taylor, H&M, Carson Pirie Scott...my style is simple, chic, and relaxed. I love cottons, tans, ivory, black and blue. (I can't wear heels-my feet hurt) AND I wear size 11 so it's hard to find cute, stylish flat shoes. When I wake up, I want to throw something on that will make my day flow....and that is simple but stylish....I love throw on shirts (non-button ups). I don't like to iron....I'm a wash, dry and fold kinda girl. My life is complex enough...clothes shouldn't be ANOTHER ISSUE. LOL.
My style statement name is: HOLISTIC PHENOMENON

Re: What’s not working in your wardrobe?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 12:09:11 -0000

Organization in my closet is not working....and the fact I have too many clothes that I don't wear...I've given clothes away several times this year...but I still don't wear half the things I own.

Re: What’s the lesson that keeps repeating in your life?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 11:00:48 -0000

Enjoy the moment! I'm the queen of multitasking and can maneuver 4 or more events in one day. But even though I can, should I? Am I really enjoying the moment? I feel I have to be there to support friends' bdays and family graduations.....so I really can't savor the moment as much as I'd like. But I am making memories that will last forever and sometimes enjoying the moment gets replaced with cultivating longlasting relationships!

Re: In terms of Creativity, what are you attracted to?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 11:49:55 -0000

Inner beauty, innocence, pure passion and genuine concern for others attract me. My heart is drawn to any good people and good causes (world hunger, world peace, etc). My cousin Natalie and I call each other "sappy" when we cry for "the little boy" from the movie "Antwone Fisher" starring Denzel Washington. My life long goal will always be to CRY, EMPATHIZE & DO EVERYTHING IN MY POWER TO HELP "THE LITTLE BOY" whomever that maybe that crosses my lifespace. AND this in turn is what makes me BEAUTIFUL & CREATIVE! My ability to see the potential BEAUTY and CREATIVITY in even the most dismal circumstances.

Re: Father’s Day: What Did Your Father Give You?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 11:12:45 -0000

My father gave me motivation to help the less fortunate. Although, my father grew up fatherless...he reaches out to other fatherless youth....because he remembers a man in the neighborhood that spent time w him as a boy playing sports. Now my father, does the same for youth in Englewood (a neighborhood where they say "No good can come from there" "Englewood only has dropouts, gangsters and drug users").
He has remained there despite the fact that many have left for better paying jobs and retirement funds. He has remained there through drive by shootings, gang wars, and hopeless outlooks from the media. My father is a cornerstone for the West Englewood Community Church and School and Basketball/Baseball program that has been in existence for 27 years plus.....and this same spirit has been passed on to me. My father has given me the spirit of HOPE! He has encouraged me and many others to pass it on to the next generation......HELP OTHERS! GIVE BACK TO THE LESS FORTUNATE! REBUILD & TAKE BACK OUR COMMUNITIES!!! Many young boys and young girls return as adults to say thank you and to share their success stories of how my father has touched their lives and what they have become because one man made a choice to PASS IT ON!

Re: What culture do you want to learn about?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 11:27:42 -0000

Native Americans.....I'm going to visit a reservation in North Dakota w my mom for her birthday. I love the stories of struggle and the parables they pass on to their children. Spanish speaking cultures....I've been to Mexico....would like to visit Brazil...and Spain....I'm taking Spanish classes now but would like to learn more about the culture and traditions...it has always fascinated me how strong the family traditions are.....Also, I'd like to learn more about Chinese culture....and the stories....and traditions...Their discipline and meditation...and excercise (ability to stay fit and spiritually centered) intrigue me. I love their traditional sayings/wisdom too. How do they live to be so old and in great health.....these are the answers I wish to know.

Re: Special Friday Edition: What’s the desire beneath your envy?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 10:27:49 -0000

I envy the rich & famous. I desire to be in the spotlight and to live the "Good Life". I want to be invited to all the A-list celebrity parties and events. I want to be in the news. I want famous designers to send me free perks...that I can more than afford to pay for w my own money. Answer me this....why do the rich get things free....while the poor have to spend their hardest earned dollar on the everyday necessities?

Why do we work our way to the top of the ladder....to do less "grunt/real" work.....but at the bottom is where we grind! Shouldn't it be vice versa.....

I wish I could be rich and famous so I could use my influence to change the world...similar to Oprah w the school for girls in Africa.

Re: What’s your cheap beauty solution?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 10:32:55 -0000

Dove facial cleanser w beads in it.... works wonders on my face and neck. Scrub it on in a circular motion and wash it off with water and a towel. Simply excellent! AND of course DRINKING WATER, EXCERCISING and EATING FRUITS does wonders for the skin.

Re: What’s your form of genius?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 11:25:30 -0000

I am a dynamic motivational speaker! Sometimes I surprise myself w how much I encourage myself. The power of life and death is in the tongue. With that said "I will be Dr. Ngonzi Truth Crushshon in 5 years....so I am Dr. Ngonzi Truth Crushshon"

Also, I'm an excellent EVENT/PARTY PLANNER.....which stems from my great time management skills. Ask my friends, I can attend 18 events in one night. LOL. I'm very organized and carry my daily planner (which is in my cell phone) w me wherever I go. MOST OF THE TIME, I AM ALWAYS PREPARED (umbrellas, snacks, chairs,etc.)!!! I plan/think ahead in my personal, professional and social life.

Re: What does it mean to be civilized?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 10:22:06 -0000

Speaking (saying hello or waving -and not just staring when someone speaks to you), Respecting others opinions/beliefs (even if you don't agree) & being cordial (doing something nice, thinking about others and not being so self-absorbed and selfish).

Re: What’s the best movie you’ve seen lately?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 11:14:17 -0000

SEX IN THE CITY...of course!!! It was fabulous..and even though I don't watch the tv show religiously...I could still follow each of the characters...I loved the plot, the strong relationship/bond among girlfriends....and the ups/downs of love (careers too)

Re: What’s the best movie you’ve seen lately?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 11:15:37 -0000

I haven't seen the Great Debaters yet...but I hear it is a GREAT FILM

Re: Special Friday Edition - What’s your word of the week?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 12:40:21 -0000

Holistic. Trying to make my life function in a holistic manner: spiritually, physically, mentally and professionally.Having all the parts of my life moving toward one goal: Living My Best Life! AND helping others to see how working together toward one goal can ultimately lead to the community living it's best life!

Re: To whom will you show your appreciation today?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 11:34:45 -0000

My mommy-she's always giving! I wrote thank you notes to everyone that has contributed to my life lately...and sent them out today...what a coincidence that whom will you show your appreciation is the question today. The message at church Sunday was COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS...and I started writing down what I was grateful for...the car that was given me by the church for FREE....the career I have saving lives in my community (ideal job).....the new school and moving toward my academic goals....my family (parents and grandparents are still alive and well)....my mental health (working at a mental health clinic...you can never take being in your right mind for granted). Food in the fridge....(millions or more are hungry)....A place to live, that I own (millions or more are homeless)....So today, I won't complain...I'll Thank God for all my blessings and thank others, too.

Re: If you had an audience of a billion people, what would you say?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 17:58:04 -0000

Put God first. Love your neighbor as you love yourself.
SAVE & INVEST love, money & time and it will INCREASE!

Do what you LOVE!
Don't follow the crowd!

Express yourself!
Take risks!

Trace your family tree. Learn from which lineage you've come. Cherish your family. Spend time with relatives and listen to their wisdom and stories.

When you die, it doesn't matter what you owned....but who you helped!

Re: What’s the best business book you’ve read?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 11:43:17 -0000

"Girl, Make Your Money Grow" by Glinda Bridgforth and Gail Perry-Mason is an EXCELLENT book about getting your personal finances together so you can create generational wealth.

Re: What do you know more about today than you did two weeks ago?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 10:36:26 -0000

The only prevention tools against HIV/AIDS are latex/polyurethane condoms, ABSTINENCE, & using clean needles.

In Spanish, "NADA" has two different meanings "he/she swims" and "nothing"

My boo is back from serving in Iraq, safely. WOO HOO!!!

I know how to draft a Microsoft Access report.

That my dad watches the BET Awards...HA HA!!!

After missing a month of going to the gym and hip hop dance....that I truly enjoy excercising (sweating) and eating healthier!!! It's fun to be healthy!

Re: Friday Edition: Who would you be if you were freed from your past?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Sun, 29 Jun 2008 10:45:39 -0000

If I were freed from my past I'd be.....A travel agent, less stressed, more financially savvy-an investment broker, I'd own a business RIGHT NOW and not wait to later...I'd buy a piece of property and start a community center/afterschool center for youth in Englewood. I would elope and get married.

Re: What will you say no to this week?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 15:19:17 -0000

I will say no to going places when I am tired. I'm proud of myself...this weekend I said NO twice to going to parties w my friends on Friday and Saturday. I was simply tired. I know they are mad at me for not going and probably called me LAME....but I did what was best for me at the time. I don't regret saying NO! Actually I'm looking forward to it. I have to start making myself a priority, too!

Re: When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 10:52:32 -0000

President of the U.S. - I had big dreams! Now I'll settle w becoming President/CEO of my own company. I wanted to be famous....and still do! I think I'm living that out in my twenties....I'm traveling all over the world just like a diplomat....when JayZ and Beyonce went to Nigeria...I could say I did that, too...so I'm go the same places that the famous do...I meet famous people...I met Tiger Woods at a golf tournament....and maybe when I finish all my schooling...I will write books and publish work that will make me famous!

Re: What are you afraid of?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 10:27:08 -0000

DYING. BEING ALONE. NOT BEING IN CONTROL OF SITUATIONS-I'M A CONTROL FREAK or you could say A TAKE CHARGE PERSON.

Re: What are the tools of your trade?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 07 Jul 2008 12:03:14 -0000

Peacemaker. Bringing people together. Coordinating events. Scheduling details. My personal planner. Journaling helps me release. Inspiring others to be/do/expect MORE!

Re: What’s your best travel tip?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 11:25:59 -0000

TRAVEL OFTEN! PACK LIGHT! VISIT OTHER COUNTRIES! Everyday should be like a vacation-enjoy the sunrise/sunset, laugh, play and take life slow/stress-free!

Re: What do you do to promote your own happiness?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 11:37:01 -0000

I worship & praise God....which makes me very happy! Especially since Sunday is the beginning of the new week...I feel I can let go of all the stresses of the past week and move forward towards new goals and opportunities!

Friendships & laughter make me happy. When I can let down my guard and be myself...and we can relate to each others' happy/sad/trying times.....

Writing in my journal & looking back from how far I've come....how much I've accomplished and the people that I've helped...especially when I'm sad....I like to recount all the blessings I have!

When I complete a goal or a project that I set for myself....I'm ecstatic....because I feel I'm in control of my destiny (as long as it's inside of God's will, of course). So I feel I'm destined for greatness!! I can't wait...4 more years and I'll be Dr. Crushshon psychologist, which will be my greatest feat so far.

I'm happy, when GOOD outweighs bad. When the poor are treated fairly. I'm happy when the homeless are housed. I'm happy when the sick are cared for. I'm happy when someone that was struggling receives a helping hand. I'm happy when one works really hard and is appreciated. I'm happy when others are happy!!!

Re: What do you want to be thanked for?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 11:17:49 -0000

Yeah I want to be thanked for creating a fabulous meal, too! (since I sort of struggle in the kitchen-it feels good to hear someone say that was good, thanks!)
Today I came in to work and two different guys complimented me on my perfume and the other on my clothing.....that felt really good...and I accepted the compliment....and said THANKS I'm Flattered!!! (instead of doing like I usually do-this old outfit...or this old perfume)-I accepted the compliment and thanked them! So I'd love to be thanked for being THANKFUL to others. AND finding something to be thankful for each day.

Re: What is the sound of your voice?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 12:50:47 -0000

I have a strong, confident voice...sometimes forceful and my voice can come off rough/mean because it is kinda deep.

Re: What are your favourite blogs or websites?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 12:03:21 -0000

www.proverbs31.org spiritual encouragement for women w journaling activities/questions that require personal insight.

www.myspace.com and www.myspace.com because they are the way I communicate w all my friends and family from college, work, and all over the world. We share photos and funny stories. I love it!

www.chefclassrecipes.com because I'm really into cooking....they have free recipes.

Re: What are your favourite blogs or websites?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 12:04:29 -0000

I meant www.facebook.com ...I didn't mean to say myspace twice.

Re: What’s the best workshop or course you ever took?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 11:40:38 -0000

Coping w Grief the workshop that I took w my coworker & sister Kristen...it was about the clt who keeps telling that same old story...and excercises to get the clt to see what would happen if they stopped telling the story.

Women & Gender w Dr. Donna Rawls at Fisk University. Discussed issues of women in leadership, media portrayals and the roles of women around the world. Very enlightening! I took this class in 2001 and it still remains fresh in my mind-7 years later. Mostly because I enjoyed the class and the teacher. That's rare to enjoy both. HA HA

Re: What would be your last meal and with whom would you share it?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 10:48:18 -0000

My first instinct is to say my mommy cuz I'd know she'd make me laugh and feel like everything would be ok...even though it is my last meal...but then what about my friends and other family members...I'd want to say goodbye and leave encouraging words....give someone the family tree and my journals so they could pass the history on to future generations....and who cares what we eat...as long as everyone is there....knowing my family...they would probably argue...and I'd have to fight for the attention. LOL I just gotta love em-family and friends!

Re: How do you fall in love with the world?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 10:44:11 -0000

Traveling. Appreciating various multicultural experiences. Dancing. Singing. Forgiving. Thanking. Reflecting. Writing. Envisioning the endless possibilities. Living Life to the fullest. Venturing outside my normal routine. Thinking outside the box. Taking risks. Praising the Creator. Finding beauty in nature and in each person.

Re: What’s your favourite inspirational quote?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 12:43:59 -0000

Love What You Do.

Do What You Love.

Re: What are your favourite natural remedies?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 11:44:20 -0000

Cod liver oil for cleansing your body of waste
Hot tardy for a sore throat/the flu
Egg yolk as protein for healthy hair (yes, u put it in your hair)
Excercise cures insomnia....u will fall right to sleep
Forgiveness helps you live longer!!! Ok maybe it doesn't but it does help you live a more fulfilled life!

Re: What do you regret?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 10:36:57 -0000

I shoulda stayed in Nashville.....but I missed my family and friends in Chicago.

I should start the GENERATION HOPE mentoring youth program...fulltime and screw the 9-5pm job....but I have bills. Where will the money come from?

I should go to Africa more often....it makes me more appreciative of the things I DO HAVE and focused on what is REALLY important...not money, not clothes, not cars, not houses.....but God, family, friends, love and happiness!!!

Re: What is your biggest indulgence?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 12:32:53 -0000

SHOPPING!!!!!!!!!I love buying things....or getting new things!!! Whether it is new bedding (which I just bought last week to go along w my king size bed my friend gave me...FREE!!! Praise God.) or a new trip (within the U.S. or abroad) or doing/learning something new (dance and Spanish classes).

Re: What is your big, audacious dream for yourself?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 10:33:26 -0000

To start a youth & family center in an urban community that addresses: education, housing, employment and youth development.

To start a longitudinal study w low-income urban youth ages 3-5 and help them graduate college & become professionals.

To write a how-to-book on successfully working with African American youth and families, owning a home, going/graduating from college....and the programming format so when I die...the Vision can continue!

To own property and to provide housing for homeless & those evicted.

To empower African American men & women to dress for success, attain a job & own businesses. Empowerment Center

Re: What’s your favourite magazine?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 15:41:58 -0000

Essence, Black Enterprise, GradPsych,
Chicago Social - (also called CS)

Re: Who in your life do you admire… and why?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 11:52:47 -0000

I admire my mommy....for working for less than minimum wage for close to 30 years now.....to enhance my daddy's vision of a Christian school within the innercity that educates low-income families. For her versatility: scrubbing toilets, being a first lady (preacher's wife), cooking food for kids/church members, hosting parent meetings, wiping kids' noses, singing "This Little Light of Mine" and teaching praise dance to kids. AND her most important jobs: being a wonderful mommy and self-sacrificing wifey!!! I love you mommy!

Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 10:32:51 -0000

I believe I am ENOUGH but sometimes I don't express that through the way I dress....(this also has to do w $cost of quality clothing, too)

If I thought I were enough: I'd wait for the man God sent me, instead of settling for less.

If I thought I were enough: I would speak up and speak out more. Say what I mean and not worrying about the other person's feelings more than my own. I would put myself first sometimes. I would spend more time taking care of me.

Since I am ENOUGH....I lead! I sing! I dance!

Re: What would you like to revolutionize?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 12:19:21 -0000

MY LIFE! MY PEOPLE! MY COMMUNITY! MY JOB! WHEREVER I AM! THE WORLD!

Re: How do you want to feel today?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 10:41:10 -0000

Excited, OVERJOYED, "IN LOVE", SPONTANEOUS!!!

Re: What are the best Inspirational or “Personal Growth” books you’ve read?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 10:52:08 -0000

Sidney Poitier's book....I forgot the name of it...but it was the book that was on OPRAH. It was an excellent book of overcoming odds, family issues and relationships.

THINK BIG by Dr. Ben Carson....How can you think any other way? Again overcoming odds in his education and career....those that inspired him to succeed...and becoming a famous surgeon! I met him at my cousin Brenda's graduation (that was a chance of a lifetime-a dream come true). He shook my hand and autographed my book. I will never forget that moment! (He wasn't the best note taker in medical school, so he paid his classmate for his notes) WOW! Just an amazing story.

Re: What would you like your home to say about you?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 12:28:35 -0000

Organized yet busy/chaotic. Peaceful. Thoughtful. A safe place. Loving environment. Open to others. Place of rest. Time to be alone w God.

Re: What’s your beauty dilemma?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 15:35:19 -0000

I want to get my tummy tight!!! That's it...I'm satisfied w everything about me!!! even my flabby stomach...ha ha...I put it there...by eating all the snacks...so now I'm going to eat healthier and excercise until it is in shape!

Re: What’s your image of God?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 14:02:16 -0000

My image of God.....is seeing the beauty in people! Everything God created is an image of him....nature, people and anything and everything good is of GOD!!!

The good samaritan deeds that we do everyday is of GOD and express/show that God exists.

Heaven is not just a place that we go....heaven is and should be experienced here on earth.

We experience heaven when we witness goodness, love, kindness on earth through people, places and things.

When someone dies, is born, lives life to the fullest, helps the poor, pulls over to help someone on the side of the road, gives $2 to the homeless, cooks for a neighbor, cares for the sick.....these are images of God!

God works through people and told us to do this until he returns!

The real question is: ARE YOU AN IMAGE OF GOD TODAY?

Re: What’s your image of God?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 17:18:26 -0000

Thanks Beth for your reply.

Re: What’s your image of God?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 17:19:51 -0000

Don't be afraid to go to seminary...if you are called....God can use you!!!

Re: What’s your image of God?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 17:20:26 -0000

Don’t be afraid to go to seminary…if you are called….God can use you!!!

Re: What are your 3 top priorities this week?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 11:29:20 -0000

Decide whether I'm going to buy black college football tickets for Generation HOPE mentoring program...I'm low on money but the trip would expose them to positive images of success/college graduates.

Plan my birthday party-yeah I know it's in November so what, I told yall I'm a planner...I really really really want to have my party at a skybox at one of Chicago's sports venues.....but who has that kinda $money$ (please send them my way...the people w that kinda $)LOL

Orientation for school- Argosy Univ is on Thursday....and I started preparing my bookbag for school...I'm so EXCITED & NERVOUS...like what should I take to a doctorate program? Do I get a 5-subject notebook or take my laptop or tape record the lecture? You should have seen me on the floor of my office last night....taking out pencils and putting them back inside my bookbag.....I don't know WHAT TO DO!!!! Is this a good sign of things to come? Nervousness can be good, right?

Re: How has astrology influenced your life or a decision?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 11:36:21 -0000

I am supposedly a scorpio but I choose to believe in God's will for my life and not the stars alignment.

Re: How would you spend your last $20?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 13:12:49 -0000

Well, since I had exactly $20.20 (that I could actually spend) to my name after paying bills/mortgage...I saved it! I try to find all the free events that I can....and they have this really nice live jazz event (that's free) at Red Kiva lounge....that has now moved to Room 21 restaurant on Wednesdays in Chicago. AND they have this free comedy show going on at Red Kiva lounge on Tuesdays in Chicago. The other night there was this free art event at Gallery Guichard...(free wine, food, and music). Now, I'm so OVERWHELMED w all the free events that I wonder why I hadn't done this sooner-Searched for free events!

Re: What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever given or received?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 11:54:04 -0000

I heard this on a radio show...an old man called in and the host asked what was the secret to his long marriage/relationship? To say "I'm Sorry! whether you I did it or not. AND to say "I LOVE YOU" everyday

The best advice I've ever given: DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY & THAT ATTRACTS YOUR SOULMATE.....u can't fake the "REAL YOU" it will eventually come out...and the person you are in a relationship with will see it. BE YOURSELF!!! LOVE GOD FIRST (and your mate should love God first too)! LOVE YOURSELF (if you don't love you, u will accept much less than you deserve....and make sure your mate loves themselves....you cannot make anybody else happy....they must have their own happiness and self-love!!!) LOVE OTHERS (have mutual love and respect for your partner-but don't let your love for your partner take you away from your VISION, GOALS for your life AND your friends and family) Don't put love for your mate before GOD or yourself!

Re: What would improve your work space?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 14:37:55 -0000

Artwork at my job....and the bright colors in my home office are great!!! Maybe I could use more organizational tools (files, bookshelving units, labels so I could find what I'm looking for, etc) for all my papers, books and other junk...

Re: What kind of clutter is in your life?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 15:57:19 -0000

Yes, I am cluttered! I try to take on too many projects and GOOD CAUSES...but I can't save the world if I'm buried underneath it all. LOL So in this season of my life...my priority is SCHOOL! Everything else must come after that.....I'm working full time, and attending a doctoral program full time....so there will be little time for extracurricula activities....I know I will miss that a lot....no more YMCA, no more bible study (unless I find one on Monday nights), no more hip hop dance class, no more mentoring girls Princess Within.....I already know I will have to keep reminding myself that in order to accomplish BIGGER AND BETTER things I must focus on school.

Re: The Parable of the Rope, by Peter Russell

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 11:19:01 -0000

I need to let go of getting stuck in routine!
I need to let go of the fear of failing.
I need to let go of past hurt.
I need to let go of procrastination.
I need to let go of friends that are not going anywhere.
I need to let go of STRESS & DRAMA!
I need to let go of other people's expectations of me.
I need to let go of the shoulda, coulda, woulda's.

I need to hold on to God!
I need to hold on to my dreams!
I need to hold on to my friends and family that support and encourage
I need to hold on to love & joy & happiness & peace!
I need to hold on to success.
I need to hold on to going w the flow & prioritizing.
I need to hold on to MULTICULTURAL EXPERIENCES!
I need to hold on to moving outside of my box.
I need to hold on to & Enjoy the RIGHT NOW MOMENTS!

Re: The Parable of the Rope, by Peter Russell

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 11:20:41 -0000

I need to let go and LET GOD! I cannot control everything, every person. I can't even control what happens to me. I can only control my response to it.

Re: What promise did you keep that changed your life?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 15:15:31 -0000

I kept my promise to myself to go back to school to get my doctorate so I can continue to give back to my community.

I kept my promise to take risks and to live life to the fullest....I ran for Miss Fisk University didn't think I had a chance of winning but became runner up.....I went skydiving last week even though I was scared as heck!!!
And everyday I continue to surprise myself at how bold and RISQUE' I really am! One day soon, I'm going to be even riskier and Open the GENERATION HOPE mentoring center for innercity youth!!!

TO PUT GOD FIRST!!!!
TO LOVE MYSELF, THEN OTHERS!!! *I have to keep reminding myself*

Re: What’s sacred to you?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 11:10:10 -0000

My character! because it encompasses who I am, what I believe and it will COLOR your future interactions with me, negatively or positively. (and the same goes for other people I encounter) Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior.

Re: What’s your favorite gadget or piece of technology?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 11:54:23 -0000

My pink razor cell phone! Although it is very addictive (just like my internet addiction) it helps me stay organized. I store my daily reminders in my phone, so I won't worry about what I'm forgetting to do today. It helps relieve stress for me in that way...but it also is very STRESSFUL....when it constantly rings and I FEEL NAKED WITHOUT MY CELLPHONE!!!

Re: If you had a totally open day, every day, what 4 or 5 things would you fill it with?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 10:04:20 -0000

1.SPIRITUALITY/PRAYING/BIBLESTUDY. 2.LAUGHING. 3. REFLECTING ON LIFE/MEMORIES & JOURNALING 4.HANGING OUT W FAMILY/FRIENDS 5. INTERNATIONAL TRAVEL (IF I ONLY HAD ONE DAY...I WOULD FIND A MUSEUM TO EXPLORE AN INTERNATIONAL CULTURE) & DOING NEW THINGS/ACTIVITIES/LEARNING A NEW LANGUAGE/IDEA/CULTURE

Re: When do you hide?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 12:18:07 -0000

I hide when I don't want to say what needs to be said. I hide when I'm scared to say things that may hurt other people's feelings. I hide when I want to be alone. I hide when I have my personal devotions. I hide when I'm confused/overwhelmed and need spiritual power & a touch/WORD from God!

Re: What’s your favorite easy thing to cook?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 11:41:58 -0000

It's as simple as 1.2.3. (and believe me I hate cooking). Buy the meat. Wash & season the meat. Put chicken in the crock pot...oxtails & blackeyed peas in the crock pot...and VOILA!!!! It's magic...and it tastes like you slaved over the kitchen stove. Turn the crockpot on low that evening and in the morning your whole house smells wonderful!!!

Re: What’s your favorite easy thing to cook?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 15:50:58 -0000

Yes, the spices that you use to flavor the oxtails and blackeyed peas OR the chicken (which makes it so tender it falls off the bone) are: meat tenderizer, seasoning salt, onion powder/salt whichever you prefer, and italian seasoning (these are all spices that come in the bottle).

Re: What adventure are you craving (or planning for)?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 11:48:58 -0000

I'm craving some Chicago Bears football tickets.

I'm planning to start school Tuesday.

I NEED to travel somewhere REALLY SOON...I haven't been anywhere since July...and you know I AM MS. ROAD TRIP-at least once a month I'm going somewhere!!! I really want to go to ATLANTA, GEORGIA & NEW YORK CITY.

I crave and am planning to go with my school overseas...last year they went to Greece. I can't wait!

AND of course, I am currently counting down the weeks until my favorite holiday / my bday (November 1st). How many weeks? 10. I'm still thinking of the most SPECTACULAR/fantastic birthday party yet...each year has to top the last!!! Last year was a comedy show and dinner....this year who knows. Any suggestions?

Oh, and it doesn't stop there with the CELEBRATING....yesterday in Spanish class, my teacher said that I will celebrate anything....which is a GOOD thing! We should not only focus on our day to day rountine or the negative things in life....CELEBRATE Everything! Celebrate w a 3 course-meal breakfast instead of cold cereal. Celebrate w a massage today because you didn't cuss out your boss. Celebrate 3 days of non-smoking. Celebrate because you woke up this morning! WOOO HOOO!!! If you don't celebrate, I certainly will celebrate FOR YOU!!! LOL

Re: This Labor Day, how would you change our work culture?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 12:28:43 -0000

Outcome-based work environment....when you finish your work you leave...whether that takes you 10 hours or 60 hours. That would greatly contribute to MORE RESULTS & MORE WORK BEING ACCOMPLISHED!!!
Why should I sit at work staring at the wall for 6 hours, if I'm done with all my work? I'm wasting the employers time as well as my time!!! AND we all know that TIME IS MONEY!!!!!!!!

Re: Sacred Time Management: Gettings Things Done With Structured Flow

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 07:24:17 -0000

THank you Danielle, I thought I was the only one...and I thought I was weird and a pack rat....because I don't file anything either...there is so much going on w me at all times...it becomes hard to organize papers...but my life is VERY MUCH ORGANIZED and like you I ALWAYS GET BACK TO PEOPLE & GET THINGS DONE! That's all that matters right? but I am trying to file things...so I can find them for future reference

Re: What’s the best work you’ve ever done?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 07:28:17 -0000

Generation HOPE mentoring program is the best work I've EVER done! Encouraging and motivating kids (even though they may not have the social collateral or resources to do so) to strive for excellence.

Re: If you suddenly inherited $10,000, what would you do with it?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 10:14:43 -0000

I would invest some in the stock market (retirement) and receive a dividend check each month off the interest, I would spend some (vacations, shopping) and I would save some (emergencies)!

Re: What do you find sexy?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 15:02:49 -0000

Spiritually, Mentally & Physically STRONG/CONFIDENT MEN!!!!!!!! OMG! Barack Obama, LL Cool J, Joe Lando (the guy that played Sully in the tv show "Dr. Quinn Medicine Woman") and everyday men that take care of their wives, children & responsibilities.....I LOVE THAT!!!

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 10:05:28 -0000

I'm learning not to "settle" for less than I deserve with MEN, with FRIENDS, and with MYSELF! Many times I do for others...moreso than I do for myself...but I am still learning I can't help anyone else until I take care of HOME/ME!!! Relationships work both ways....both parties must GIVE and TAKE. When it becomes one sided and one does ALL the giving then there is a problem there.

I'm learning to voice my concerns no matter how much I don't want to hurt other people's feelings....I have to find words that express what I mean without appearing mean/inconsiderate to others.

I'm learning how to say NO and realizing that I don't need a reason to say NO!!!! I have a choice to say YES or NO....that is why there was a question asked....but I feel like I am being mean when I say NO and don't have a reason. I CAN SAY NO without seemingly being mean.

Re: What did you learn from your favorite mistake?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 10:15:40 -0000

From these 3 mistakes I learned that I'm the one that ends up hurt-which is ironic-cuz I'm trying not to hurt others' feelings!

Re: What do you need to move your vision forward?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 10:32:22 -0000

I am MOVING FORWARD...as I:

Complete my reading for school each week...so I can graduate!

write some books.

Mentor kids.

Learn Spanish.

Network w friends & professionals.

Join professional organizations
(Association of Black Psychologists, APA, 100 Black Women of Chicago)

Eventually, my vision will all come together and I will be a Spanish speaking, mentoring, psychologist w networking capabilities that will allow me to expand/collaborate around the world through motivational speaking & book signings.

Re: What is your favorite fiction book?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 15:47:27 -0000

Flyy Girl by Omar Tyree and others but I don't have time to read fiction anymore...now it's all about facts...and psychology books/articles. (I know lots about attachment theory between mother and infant)

Re: What is something completely luxurious that you dream of owning?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 14:19:12 -0000

A Rolls Royce car....that only the rich and famous drive and can afford!!!

An airplane! A Yacht/boat!

Own land/property!

Own STOCK in a FORTUNE 500 company!

Re: What are you excited about right now?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 14:28:59 -0000

I'm EXCITED about LIFE!
I'm EXCITED about finishing my 2nd week of school!
I'm EXCITED about this Grantwriting Training at UIC tomorrow!!
(I need to write grants for Generation HOPE)
I'm EXCITED about writing my curriculum vitae and organizing my professional portfolio so I can start my psych testing practicum next year!
I'm EXCITED about GIRLS' movie/dinner NIGHT on Friday!!!
Are you coming? Tyler Perry's new movie "The Family that Preys Together"

Re: What do you know the most about?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 11:20:17 -0000

Jesus. African Americans. Urban youth. Positive Psychology.

Re: What do you know the most about?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 11:21:24 -0000

Oh and EMPATHY!!! (Being in other people's shoes...understanding how others' feel)

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 13:58:10 -0000

When it aligns with and helps to benefit my personal, familial, cultural, communal, spiritual, global values...and does no harm to myself or others (directly or indirectly). It is sometimes hard for me to make the "Right" decision.....when there is one I "feel" is right now...but may not align w my Goals in my future!

I may want something....but do I need it....which decision do I make?

Re: What do you find beautiful about your body?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 10:54:59 -0000

My smile....which is evident in EVERY photo I take...ask my friends and my mom...they are ALWAYS telling me to close my mouth...lol...I smile showing ALL my teeth.

My skin...some say it glows....I don't always see it...but when I do...I'm happy!!

Re: What is the best relationship book you’ve read?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 12:15:25 -0000

Friends, Lovers and Soulmates by Derek S. Hopson and Darlene Powell Hobson

Re: How have you changed?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 12:17:52 -0000

I was a people-pleaser and now I'm focused on my priorities first!

Re: What's on your must-have list for fall fashion? boots - Petit Bateau - Foley and Corrina - vintage - Luchesse cowboy boots - wide leg jeans | Carrie and Danielle

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 15:36:15 -0000

Blazers/Jackets in red, orange and brown....Boots for the snow!!! Yes, this is Chicago weather...it may snow. lol

Re: What is your favourite form of courtesy that you like to practice?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 15:07:32 -0000

Putting handles on names....Mr. Mrs. Sir or Ma'am. You should give respect to everyone-children too. Smile and speak to everyone (yes, even the homeless person on the street). I believe everyone deserves a hello and acknowledgement that they exist. I like to say thank you by word and small note-many times we focus more on the bad than we do on the GOOD!!! In the best of us there is some bad, but in the worst of us, there is some GOOD. I try to focus on the GOOD in people.

Re: What do you collect?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 14:34:07 -0000

Positive things people say and do! Good memories! Photos and photo albums! Family geneaology! Inspirational Quotes for the day!

Re: What expert help or advice would you like?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 14:55:11 -0000

Time management! How to get everything done without overwhelming myself....or how to add more time to my day! HA!

Re: Patti Digh asks: What would you be doing today if you only had 37 days to live?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 14:58:12 -0000

I would eat Anything I wanted! I would go everywhere I wanted! I would do everything I've ever wanted to do! Bungee jump, travel to every country, and of course continue helping others. I would have a much clearer view of what is essential to me. I'd worship in church as usual....I'm doing all these things now....but I mean it would be rushed if I only had 37 days.

Re: What immediately comes to mind when you say the word, bliss?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 11:10:10 -0000

PEACE! SERENITY! LAUGHTER! FRIENDS! FAMILY!

BEING HAPPY & IN LOVE WITH GOD, MYSELF & OTHERS!

KNOWING THERE IS NOTHING THAT GOD CAN'T HANDLE!

FAITH THAT THERE IS A BRIGHTER DAY! HOPE THAT EVERYTHING WILL BE OK!

BLISS IS PLEASURE THAT COMES ONCE YOU HAVE PUT FORTH YOUR VERY BEST EFFORT TO LIVE, LAUGH & LOVE!

BLISS IS KNOWING YOU ARE RIGHT WITH THE WORLD...U HAVE NO ILL-WILL AGAINST OTHERS....AND YOU ARE AT PEACE WITH YOURSELF!

BLISS ALWAYS COMES AFTER TRIALS & AFTER YOU HAVE GONE THROUGH THE BAD TIMES.....YOU APPRECIATE THE RAINBOW AFTER THE STORM!

BLISS IS WHEN EVERYTHING IS RIGHT AND YOU FEEL IT IN YOUR SPIRIT!

Re: Tsh Oxenreider asks: In what way are you delightfully conventional?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 14:10:48 -0000

Church on Sundays. bible study on Wednesdays. Family gets together every holiday! Phone calls, emails, care packages and letter writing to friends/family that are far away- keeping in touch w people we love!

Re: What’s your favourite thing to watch on TV?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 10:36:44 -0000

GREY'S ANATOMY, PRIVATE PRACTICE, ONE TREE HILL, GIRLFRIENDS (before it went off the air), BERNIE MAC SHOW, 24 w Jack Bauer......I love them all!!!

Re: In this very moment, what are you grateful for? (In no particular order of thanks…)

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 10:39:43 -0000

Life! Another year on earth! During this time of economic crisis many are unemployed and losing their homes. I'm grateful that I have a job I love and a home. I'm grateful to live in a country that gives student loans-some countries don't have that.

Re: What would you be doing if you weren’t watching TV?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 10:54:57 -0000

As a child, my dad would only let us watch 2 tv shows a day...Everytime we watched a tv show or movie we had to discuss it. I thank him for that. Now I'm a much more social person.....and I think challenge the status quo. U should never let someone or the tv tell you what/how to think. Think for yourself!

Socializing. talking. hanging w friends/family. churching. spanish class. working out. emailing. myspacing. facebooking. therapizing people. HA HA!

Re: What do you secretly desire?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 10:17:08 -0000

Longer hair. To become a financial advisor or LIFE COACH!

Re: Jonathan Mead asks: What’s right with your life?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 10:30:05 -0000

My financial situation. My family. My cooking skills (LOL). My interpersonal relationships. My personal growth-I'm learning more and more each day to own, accept and express my feelings.

Re: What kind of friend are you?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 15:10:24 -0000

I'm the friend you can count on to keep her word/promises. If I say I'm going to be there or do something I'll be there or I will call to cancel in emergency situations......

Re: Mary Jaksch asks: What’s your best way of coping with stress?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 12:44:53 -0000

I clean! I cook! I talk about it! I laugh about it! I write it down! I break it down (take action) in smaller steps so I can see my accomplishments! I celebrate the small things! I become grateful for what I do have! I speak it into existence - "I will not be stressed"!

Re: Mary Jaksch asks: What’s your best way of coping with stress?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 12:46:38 -0000

And of course, I pray about it!

Re: What’s something you can NOT do today that will simplify your life?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 14:19:59 -0000

I cannot WORRY about this Child & Adolescent midterm today.....so I will be at PEACE!
I don't have group therapy class today....so I can rest/relax/watch tv/nap
I can't do anything about my 6 month review today.....Yes, I've been in my new Research position for 6 months today.....woo hoo....let's CELEBRATE!!!

Re: Gina Trapani asks: What’s the best thing that’s going to happen to you tomorrow?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 11:25:01 -0000

I'm going to wake up! I'm going to learn Spanish! I'm going to Abnormal Psych class to learn how to help clients with mental disorders! I may go to a movie premiere for Rock & Rolla!

Re: What is your current, of-the-moment obsession?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 13:18:28 -0000

UrbanScoop.com this fabulous website/resource for women to network and improve themselves (fashion,skills, employment, etc.)

Chicago Bears tickets....I'm obsessed with it....but I just have to go now that I've met Devin Hester. OMG!!! I'm so excited!!! Even though the tickets are outrageously overpriced.

Re: How are you feeling about the U.S. economic situation?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 14:14:03 -0000

Happy the worst is hopefully over...people can start borrowing money again....and gas prices are dropping. Hopefully, we can get back job stability, too.

Re: This Weekend, How Are You Going to Play?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 15:19:10 -0000

2 Girls' Nights & 1 Slick Rick Bday party!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Re: How do you define your self worth?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 15:27:10 -0000

What I do /give to others

Re: What’s a Jewel of Wisdom You’ve Received From a Child?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 15:33:34 -0000

" U PRETTY" and touching my face.....LOL Kids are so cute!

Re: What have you done recently to make yourself feel proud?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 08:05:32 -0000

I stood up for myself. I set some boundaries w friends. I know I deserve more RESPECT! I wrote my 24 New Year's Goals! I'm learning a new language-Spanish. I'm making more "ME" TIME! And I'm learning to say NO repeatedly. LOL

Re: What holiday gifts are you excited about giving this year?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 13:51:03 -0000

I'm overally excited about giving love, joy & smiles!
Christmas cards, phone calls and holiday visits.

Re: What holiday gifts are you excited about giving this year?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 13:54:42 -0000

overly

Re: What is the vision for your dream home?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 15:05:53 -0000

To have more than enough space to host fundraisers, parties, celebrations, community, church and non-profit black tie events for politicians, family and friends. 2-4 car garage! WALK IN CLOSETS!!! More spacious than the one on Sex & the City. To be able to welcome overnight guests into my home. And of course Peace, Love & Joy make up my DREAM HOME!

Re: What gives you hope in the world?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 16:02:57 -0000

"The Day the Earth Stood Still" movie starring Jaden Smith (Will Smith's son) stated it perfectly We change for the better when faced with crisis situations!

In my opinion, We are such a resilient people! Most people are inherently good. That gives me hope!

Re: Love: Complicated, or Simple?

Ngonzi Truth Crushshon — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 11:08:09 -0000

Well, I'd like to think that LOVE is simple....like Eryka Badu sings "It could all be simple, but you'd rather make it hard". Why do we make things that should be simple, so hard? From a psychological standpoint, behavior is learned, what you think affects how you feel and what you do.....or how you formed early attachments to caregivers (parents, etc.) affect how you currently relate to others.....Is your view of the world that it's a fun loving place and most people are inherently good....or is it people are out of what they can get....or is it a mixture.....

And from a simpler standpoint...people bring past relational baggage into new relationships...and this makes it complicated.

However, there are ways to uncomplicate things. If both parties are willing to:

COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY (listen, understand and respond appropriately)
WORK ON FINANCES ($ money or the lack of can greatly affect the intimacy)
DEVELOP INTIMACY (What is intimacy? is it sex or love or cuddling?)

These also happen to be the 3 things that make/break a relationship