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2 months ago

in secondhand haiku: sentimental trade-off on non-breaking space
Thank you - I have had more than a few nuns yell at me over legibility so I guess I owe them one :)

6 months ago

in all the things I cannot concede on non-breaking space
"Seriously, where have all the old random ten people gone?"

Um, we're lame and keep meaning to get back into the swing of things, but work keeps exhausing us. No excuses, only acknowledgement of the lamiosity (I know- made up word. meta-lame)... Just like I keep meaning to update my flickr and start posting again.
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howard Ah, I see. To my credit, I have no work ethic to speak of, so I have
all the time in the world to post these lists. That said, it would be
fantastic to have a little company ;)

8 months ago

in Be Heard. Vote. on non-breaking space
in line at 7 and still #66, so I was thrilled. Never so thrilled to be in a long line:)

PS - I owe you (and the rest of the world) a real email, I know. Sorry...
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howard It's great to see high turnout, even better (from my poll experience) to hear people talking about the election in ways that made me fairly sure they had done their homework.

PS - about the email you owe us, I'll let you slide, since it took me over a week to even respond to your comment. Thanks for stopping by.

1 year ago

in funhouse mirrors on non-breaking space
I am the ultimate hypocrite as I do not for all the world want other women to do this (especially my most wonderful niece), but I have definitely internalized such concepts. Not to excuse it, but I had plenty of reinforcement from the exes - I only ever had one ex who thought I was pretty (the most recent one was a master of the backhanded physical put down - versions of "you look so much less fat and ugly than you usually do today"). I think with me, what I got slammed for was the twofer - the looks deficit plus the lack of feminine ambitions (likes: math, dislikes: dusting...) in general. It's a lot of why I left the dating game.

But as someone with a niece and as someone who taught young women for a long time, I flinch when I hear it in others and try (if appropriate) to amend it. With my niece, it is especially hard as she was a gorgeous little girl, but my sister wanted to discourage everyone from continuously defining her by looks and wanted us to compliment her for other facets of her personality, and at times I wonder if she would realize how beautiful she is if I found a way to tell her it more.

Where I am also a hypocrite is that I never understood the trait in men (incl. the exes) of looks-stamping someone as "famous crushes" include not just stereotypical lookers but "lesser" men like John Goodman, Richard Belzer and my all time biggest honey, Phillip Seymour Hoffman. I think that's why I railed so hard while in these relationships instead of bailing - I was unable to see why I was judged this way instead of realizing it wasn't a fight worth fighting.

1 year ago

in like they used to on non-breaking space
no - "that even minor poetry"... implies a larger effect from greater poetry. I was a little more focused on how poetry (even "MINOR") opens one up to the world more.

Besides - "trying to suggest" sounds like work, like I actually have some sort of mental filter that I have the slightest clue how to own and operate. Nuances are not my style/energy level.

1 year ago

in like they used to on non-breaking space
Thought about you/your haiku ways (quote from an old biddy murder mystery writer/one of my old faves):

"She went to bed thinking more about another person that about herself. This goes to prove that even minor poetry may have its practical uses."
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