DISQUS

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The thing is if I you have a highly conservative family (which is sometimes the case in India), or if you feel you need to put up a "front" or need to strive for society's approval (when you say the society and R frowns down upon an untidy house), then you've lost the game.
In this world of changing equilibrium, we (women) shouldn't have to feel guilty when the house is untidy or there isn't milk in the refrigerator. If my mom (as in the interview with Indra Nooyi), had said Leave your crown at the door and go buy the family some milk, I wouldn't be surprised because that was how she and her generation of women were brought up. But its our responsibility, being the generation that has brought women's lib to the forefront, by not talking about but actually doing things better than men. I'm sure the same mother is equally surprised when her daughter succeeds in a thus-far male-driven organization.
We should be the ones telling our mothers, yes, I will bring the milk this time, but no that isn't my primary responsibility at home. Next time, my husband will bring the milk. And thats the changing world. It is us who feel guilty that there isnt milk in the refrigerator. And when a husband doesn't complain if there are no groceries, then we shouldn't complain that we have to get the groceries every time.