http://disqus.com/people/d8279e974829f22aea67aa82b0bafb36/enMon, 30 Mar 2009 22:07:57 -0000http://simplemarriage.disqus.com/the_value_of_values/#comment-13961767So while I agree with so much of what you say about values, I do have a slightly different perspective. I think there are values that belong to the relationship- that show up in the relationship system. The kind of thing you might find when you ask yourselves the question, "Who are we?" and "Who are we not?" I have been trained by the Center for Right Relationship and there are some novel ways of thinking about couples that are worth looking at <a href="http://www.centerforrightrelationship.com" rel="nofollow">www.centerforrightrelationship.com</a>Pearl MattensonMon, 30 Mar 2009 22:07:57 -0000http://carriedanielle.disqus.com/thanks_to_sigg_no_more_disposable_coffee_cups/#comment-2595721I thought the thermos might be overkill for me so I found "I am not a paper cup" made by DCI Gifts. (<a href="http://www.dcigift.com" rel="nofollow">www.dcigift.com</a>) It is a thermal porcelain cup that looks exactly like the cardboard ones you get at the coffee shop. The plastic packaging gave me pause but I love carrying it around! Thanks for the idea...Pearl MattensonWed, 03 Sep 2008 10:26:31 -0000http://carriedanielle.disqus.com/what_did_you_learn_from_your_favorite_mistake/#comment-2268483Since we are talking about favorite mistakes and not most painful, I would have to say it was the speeding ticket I got while trying to make my 5:30 a.m. strength training class. The lesson for me (for the millionth time) was to slow down. For the last few months I have been driving at the speed limit everywhere. It is driving everyone else on the road crazy, but I am amzaed at what I can take in and notice when I am driving slower. It is much more calming.Pearl MattensonFri, 05 Sep 2008 07:03:44 -0000http://carriedanielle.disqus.com/what_is_your_favorite_fiction_book/#comment-2268550Any of Wallace Stegner's books but my two favorites were Angle of Repose and Crossing to Safety. For the last few years I have been reading novels by first time authors- they are often outstanding...Pearl MattensonTue, 09 Sep 2008 06:30:20 -0000http://carriedanielle.disqus.com/what_do_you_find_beautiful_about_your_body/#comment-2596546My neck let's me carry myself with grace and dignity.Pearl MattensonWed, 17 Sep 2008 06:58:17 -0000http://carriedanielle.disqus.com/how_have_you_changed/#comment-2596840I used to be ruled by the desire to be accepted by others. More and more I am inspired to align with my own deepest beliefs.Pearl MattensonFri, 19 Sep 2008 05:10:32 -0000http://carriedanielle.disqus.com/what_is_the_best_relationship_book_you8217ve_read_62/#comment-2596911Danielle-thank you for reminding us of a A Tale of O. I LOVED that book. I first came across it when doing diversity training for teachers back in the 80's. Shel Silverstein has actually become my son's favorite poet and I just realized he doesn't have this book yet!Pearl MattensonMon, 22 Sep 2008 09:05:40 -0000http://carriedanielle.disqus.com/could_you_be_happy_either_way_letting_go_of_getting_what_you_want/#comment-2626727At first I was feeling so virtuous thinking, I am not really that into wanting "stuff" so of course I can connect to that happiness. But then I realized how many "ethereal" things I want- I want peace and calm, I want space, I want to see my chidlren grow up...And could I let go of those things and still be happy? Wow, feels like there are some hard places to look. Thanks for the question!Pearl MattensonThu, 25 Sep 2008 11:50:59 -0000http://carriedanielle.disqus.com/are_you_and_money_on_the_rocks_tips_for_making_up_with_money/#comment-2644251Thanks for pointing that article out. I never got to my NYT yesterday. Very timely.Pearl MattensonFri, 26 Sep 2008 13:41:05 -0000http://marriagerelationships.disqus.com/marriagetweets_is_it_possible_to_recession_proof_your_relationship/#comment-7226135I Like these ideas. I would add though that it is also important to keep building up and appreciating what is positive in the relationship.Pearl MattensonSat, 14 Mar 2009 21:08:04 -0000http://simplemarriagetest.disqus.com/the_value_of_values/#comment-11013515So while I agree with so much of what you say about values, I do have a slightly different perspective. I think there are values that belong to the relationship- that show up in the relationship system. The kind of thing you might find when you ask yourselves the question, "Who are we?" and "Who are we not?" I have been trained by the Center for Right Relationship and there are some novel ways of thinking about couples that are worth looking at <a href="http://www.centerforrightrelationship.com" rel="nofollow">www.centerforrightrelationship.com</a>Pearl MattensonMon, 30 Mar 2009 22:07:57 -0000http://simplemarriagetest.disqus.com/the_value_of_values_03/#comment-15089391So while I agree with so much of what you say about values, I do have a slightly different perspective. I think there are values that belong to the relationship- that show up in the relationship system. The kind of thing you might find when you ask yourselves the question, "Who are we?" and "Who are we not?" I have been trained by the Center for Right Relationship and there are some novel ways of thinking about couples that are worth looking at <a href="http://www.centerforrightrelationship.com" rel="nofollow">www.centerforrightrelationship.com</a>Pearl MattensonMon, 30 Mar 2009 22:07:57 -0000http://johnhaydon.disqus.com/hildy_gottlieb_on_adding_rocket_fuel_to_your_non_profit/#comment-12515614John- Thank you for adding to Hildy's already seismic perspective shift with the great metaphor of "adding rocket fuel". Hildy's ideas put me in mind of the cell phone commericals - when you focus on community and friends 'you've got people'. pearlPearl MattensonWed, 25 Mar 2009 05:04:22 -0000