I agree with you. This 19 year old deserves to share the responsiblity, and it sounds like she is taking it. Too bad Lori Drew isn't as forthcoming and honest.
Two of my three daughters have ADD. I cannot tell you what a godsend medication has been. We tried behavior modification, diet, etic for a year with each of them before we went to meds. My youngest says "When I don't take my pill, I can't quit talking in my head, even when other people are talking." It allows them to focus for school, art, music, all sorts of things. To the parents who deny their children medication, would they deny their children insulin? Because I think it's really the same thing. One makes you physically ill, while the other whittles away your self esteem and self confidence.