DISQUS

That's it. We're making this together at some point soon.

I really like the way Mr. Handsome Furs said "booze sweat." They are indeed one of the sexiest couples ever.

Yay baby! Maybe you could name the baby Jefferson after the founding father. Or Black Cat, after the little firecrackers that go pop ;) Roman Candle might be a bit much though...

Well then...what's "real" homosexuality? What's "real" sexuality, for that matter?

Women's love of Liberace is not inexplicable. Look at those socks--they are AWESOME. I can't withstand the power of the socks.

See, Clay Aiken can't hold a candle to Liberace. I think people liked him because he was so flamboyant and hilarious, whereas all Aiken does is sing karaoke to vapid pop songs and talk about how asexual he is. Boring!

This movie was really pretty to look at, but the rest of it sort of sucked.

It just wouldn't be Dallas without the big hair.

I guess whoever my ancient ancestor was had gray hair.

OMG his blog is so cute! Yay Hollis!

Lookin' good in the wasteland!

Yes, McKee got A Feast for Crows. He told me yesterday, "I'm not going to be here this weekend. I'm not here. I'm in Westrose."

The whole thing sounds like that old Beck song off of Mellow Gold, "Truck Drivin' Neighbors." The song contained a sample Beck recorded of his actual neighbors at the time who were fighting and trying to kill each other.

I'll have to check out Blind Assassin now--I've contemplated doing it for a while.

I love the Dallas World Aquarium--the penguins are so precious!

The guys will be ni--ice!

What the hell is with the Xbox in the background?!

I have seen God, and he has Pizazz!!

A belated congratulations! Hope your biz becomes ever more lucrative!

At least you're not like my Grandpa was. He'd pick up clothes off the side of the road, wash them, and wear them.

I love fishing for crappie! They're so much fun!

One word: meditation.

http://www.mro.org/zmm/meditation/

I like the idea of an adult playground. I wish someone would make the adult version of a big wheel...that would be so boss.

I'll have to disgree with you on the historical differents btw arousal patterns. And I don't argue that sexual differences don't exist--they do--but I think human society as a whole puts way more emphasis on these differences than animals do. Beyond the vagaries of attracting a mate and reproduction, are the lives of male versus female animals that different? Not really. Yet humans posit all sorts of non-reproductive differences between men and women that are attributable to their sex/gender. Just take the title of that stupid book, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus--some believe that men and women figuratively come from different conceptual planets, that each have entirely different inner lives and ways of being (due to their gender) that have little or nothing to do with mating and making babies. Sure, you could argue that men enjoying physical sports more than women may have had something to do with men needing to get strong to defend the tribe from saber-toothed tigers, but we're sort of beyond that now.

And that's where society comes in. Sexuality in our culture has gone far beyond "fundamental impulses and feelings." Many are moving beyond the "natural need/desire" to pair-bond or make babies, which blows up the notion that any of that gendered type stuff wasn't really "natural" at all, if people are able to abandon it.

And when I say that society has caused a lot of gender differences, that doesn't imply that they are any easier to "control" than biological differences. That's just like saying to a depressed person, "It's all in your mind, just get happy already!" The thing is, though...I think that there is some choice. You can choose to ignore what society dictates, or what one's body/biology says you should do. It may not make much of a difference in your life right now, you may not even be successful at it, but I think our society has undergone vast changes over the centuries due to choices we have made as a culture concerning how we act as humans.

For instance, in the 1700 and 1800s, it was believed by many scholars that (middle class) women were "naturally" more childish and infantile than men, and that men were inherently more capable, intelligent and resourceful at dealing with events in the marketplace, and that women, due to their infantility, needed to stay home and be protected from what went on outside. Now we've had a near role-reversal. In popular culture, women are often seen as being more practical and adult than men are, and that it's now men who are the big babies who just want someone who can take care of them (this isn't the rule, obviously, but I'm sure you've seen sitcom jokes that deal with this subject).

I'm not even sure where I'm going with this now, and I've obviously strayed off topic. I apologize for the length of my rant. I'm interested in what you have to say in return, but I do think that neither of us is going to convince the other to change our minds. It's fun to debate, though.

Well, I do buy it, to an extent. Putting it all on biology is trying to make things too simple, as is trying to put it all on society. But you hit the nail on the head--it IS arbitrary. So much of what we do to enact gender is arbitrary and historically contextual. I really doubt the results of this test would be the same if you tested people from the 1700s, or from the 1930s, or even people from a different culture in our current time.

I didn't say that guys weren't seen as sexy at all--they're just not as sexualized as women are. That doesn't mean they're not sexualized.

Yoga pretty much cured my bad feelings, for the most part. Hardly anything bad can be said of exercise...it's just too bad that people can't commit themselves to doing it.