DISQUS

At this point it is self published and only in an electronic version. Perhaps a later release will include a hard copy and then I can distribute it more widely.

Vered- I wounder how many things could be cleared up if we had the ability to simply be our spouse for a day or two. It may make things much easier or it may ensure that none of us stay married for long :)

Okay Nelia- some time I'll write something that you completely agree with :) Thanks for the comment. I'd love to hear your rebuttal.

This could be talking but the idea is more about engaging your partner on an emotional, mental, and spiritual level. It seems many times during sex you can be one of 3 places: focusing on performance/sensations, fantasizing, or connecting with your partner. The last one is the hardest to accomplish but worth the effort.

Most often this connection comes when you both can relax and be more fully present during the sexual encounter.

Thanks Jennifer.

Wow - I feel like I'm back in grade school again :) Thanks for the "correctioning" of my grammar. And thank you for your comment.

I guess it was both time and more growth in myself. Probably the best thing my wife did through all this was she owned up to her own contribution to the marriage routine and she didn't push for answers, she simply was more present. She did ask some questions but she didn't badger me for answers.

There is such benefit from knowing we're not in this life and our struggles alone. If the taboo of sharing some of your hurts was lifted, I think we'd get so much more out of life.

Thanks Dan. And thanks for all the help in getting my book together.

It's amazing how strong women can be. The idea of them being the "weaker" sex is pretty far off from the truth. Thanks for sharing your journey Lance.

I think a more accurate description of my wanting to run would be I wanted to hide in my shell ("turtle up") and wait until it all blew over. I didn't want out of the marriage, just didn't want to deal with the problems.

It's great to see you commenting here Terri. Thanks for adding to the discussion and for the influence both you and Dave were for me through high school and college. Blessings to you and your family.

Thanks Tyler.

Your story proves that there are many ways to work through the issues of marriage. Thanks for sharing your journey.

Thank you for your comment. As many other comments attest, this is an all too common story in marriage. I hope that more couples will stick it out - it's so worth it.

I completely agree that on a Spiritual level, great (even good) Christian marriages are opposed by the enemy. Blessings on your marriage and your ministry!

I'm raising my coffee in salute to your last statement. Thanks.

Love is the foundation that allows you to grow and make it through the rough spots. Obviously there is little you can do for him to stick it out, you can only work on you and express your desires. As for forwarding the article to him, go ahead, he can choose whether or not to read it, simply send it to him, don't bring it up beyond that, and see what happens. Best of luck.

Thanks Lucy- Learning to receive love can be one of the hardest things to do in life. There is tremendous growth involved to accomplish this.

I like the "demands the best we have to give" idea. The more we live from the best in us, the better everything is. The other benefit is, when you live from the best in you, it's met by the best in your spouse.

Your last couple of sentences are nicely stated. Thanks.

Thanks Sean-

On a lighter note - I can't believe that I wrote something where you only responded with 3 words. That's very little for a wordsmith like yourself. I take it as a compliment. :)

Thanks Robin.

Thanks Eric- The best thing to keep in mind when it comes to working on your marriage is you can only work on you.

Thanks Daphne- I will continue to hold onto the last line as well.