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Re: Special Friday Edition - What’s your word of the week?

Joannie — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 13:55:27 -0000

I've thought about this for a while and the word is 'wild'. I've been too afraid of the wild woman in me. I'd like to truly get to know her. I remember the one line from 'Women Who Run With the Wolves' - DON'T FORGET TO HOWL!

I want to howl!

Re: To whom will you show your appreciation today?

Joannie — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 06:55:48 -0000

I will show my appreciation to my cousin, Terry. I'm leaving shortly to fly to my birthplace, Saint John, NB where I lived for the first ten months of my life. I will be staying with Terry in the house which once belonged to our grandparents. I will meet cousins, from my father's side of the family, whom I've never met. I will visit a cemetery where every monument bares my maiden name! I will walk to the ocean, just three blocks away, every day it doesn't rain.

I will not return to Saint John in this lifetime. This week is a special, sacred space for me to connect with the place where I was birthed.

Re: If you had an audience of a billion people, what would you say?

Joannie — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 07:07:03 -0000

Love is all that matters. Love is stronger even than death.

Re: What do you know more about today than you did two weeks ago?

Joannie — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 07:49:37 -0000

Family.

For the past few days, I've been with my cousins, some of whom I've never met. Yesterday there were 12 of us. It was a beautiful day, warm, sunny, with everything set up for a picnic outdoors. NOBODY moved out of the living room. It was as if we couldn't bear to be apart after having found one another. I came to see the powerful bond created by blood. I hadn't ever seen this before in quite this way. It is a sacred thing.

I am a writer. The time yesterday was so overwhelmingly beautiful, I need time to take it in before I can write about it and make any sense of it at all.

Re: Friday Edition: Who would you be if you were freed from your past?

Joannie — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 08:13:24 -0000

Hallelujah, Chloe! I love your response and agree with it wholeheartedly. Without the pain of my past, the addictions from which I suffered, I would not have found the spiritual path I'm on or found the delicious, juicy, delightful woman I am.

Re: What will you say no to this week?

Joannie — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 07:54:16 -0000

I'm saying no to anyone who even implies I'm not a writer. I am a writer. I have a right to write (Julia Cameron). I will close the door to my work room and write - any time.

Re: When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?

Joannie — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 11:03:07 -0000

I wanted to be a teacher.

I believe I've been one, hardly realizing it. Certainly not intentionally.

I went to university at age 41, graduating with a Bachelor of Social Work degree. I worked in private practice as a psychotherapist with adult survivors of sexual abuse for 15 years. I believe my work was more spiritual than psychological. I know my life and work touched many lives including the lives of the brave people who came to see me.

I believe one life does make a difference.

I love the sayings 'When the student is ready the teacher appears.' and 'We teach best what we most need to learn.'

Re: In terms of celebrities, whose fashion sense do you admire?

Joannie — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 08:43:14 -0000

I love the way Angelina Jolie dresses. In fact I love everything about Angelina Jolie especially her forthrightness. I saw her interviewed by James Lipton on 'Inside the Actors' Studio' and she was delightful. So beautiful, so natural. I like it, too, that she truly cares and she is so honest.

I think all of one's self can be expressed in what one wears.

Re: What are you afraid of?

Joannie — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 06:28:19 -0000

Fear has dominated my life especially the fear of abandonment. I would do most anything so someone I loved wouldn't abandon me. I found I could be creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. I learned that an adult isn't abandoned though a child may be. I learned not to abandon myself. I learned to face my fears. I learned that courage isn't the absence of fear but the willing to walk through the fear even while one is trembling.

Re: What are you afraid of?

Joannie — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 19:35:38 -0000

Thank you Carrie. I've been told before that I'm brave. In the past I've wondered how it was that I couldn't see it! Now I can.

Re: What about yourself makes you enthusiastic?

Joannie — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 08:11:04 -0000

What about me fills me with enthusiasm? That I'm a seeker of the truth. That when life's difficulties drop me to my knees, I weep for a while, then get right back up again. That I turn lemons into lemonade. That the older and more frail my body becomes the younger, stronger and more resilient is my spirit. That I look upon the beauty of and in life with the wonder of a child. That I am open to what life presents including the rare visit yesterday, to my garden, of a brilliant red Cardinal and a male and female yellow Finch supping at the Euchinasea.

Re: What are the tools of your trade?

Joannie — Mon, 07 Jul 2008 07:59:11 -0000

My life experiences, my computer, the containment of my work room, a lit votive, burning incense, access to my emotions and imagination, a love of language, Andre Bocelli on the stereo or complete quiet and visitations from my Muse.

Re: What’s your best travel tip?

Joannie — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 08:08:33 -0000

On a recent trip I forgot to take extra medication and my flight was cancelled. My tip? Take extra medication! Also weigh your luggage before you get to the airport to ensure you're within the pound limit.

Re: What do you do to promote your own happiness?

Joannie — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 07:56:37 -0000

I've always had problems with the word 'happiness'. It seems so emphemeral and, of course, it is. Everything changes. Nothing lasts forever, neither sadness nor 'happiness'.

I prefer the word 'joy'. There is something deeper, more inward with joy. It is something I feel in my heart. I've even wondered if it's a gift to me from my Higher Power.

Happiness or joy - as an addict - I didn't know what either word meant as it didn't form any part of my life experience. Now, after years in recovery, every morning I turn my will over to 'the God of my understanding' and my eyes see more clearly the beauty of everything even the painful parts.

Re: What do you want to be thanked for?

Joannie — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 07:50:41 -0000

The thing that has always maddened me is people not thanking me. I send thank you cards, thank you emails, say 'thank you' whenever someone does anything for me in the smallest way. I was brought up this way. I was taught it was good manners. But it's more than that--it's respectful and thoughtful--not only to thank others and for them to reciprocate, but to give thanks every day for my life.

Of course, when one gives anything it must be genuine, given with an open heart, without an expectation of return. The giving then must come from my Highest Self.

I agree with Andrea Davis in this regard.

Re: What is the sound of your voice?

Joannie — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 06:23:42 -0000

My voice is laughter, delight, empathy, acceptance. My voice is sorrow, judgement, harsh, controlling. My voice is strong, knows how to read - where to put the spaces. My voice is easy on the ear and is raised in the presence of the hard of hearing. My voice carries to the back of the room. My voice is in my writing.

It took my years for me to find my voice.

Re: What is the sound of your voice?

Joannie — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 14:04:21 -0000

Thank you Carrie. I never thought of my voice finding me. Just like love.

Re: What are you anticipating?

Joannie — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 07:15:35 -0000

I'm anticipating another trip to my roots next year and saving towards it every week. I'm anticipating freedom from the pain of peripheral neuropathy. I'm anticipating love reciprocated. I'm anticipating a red convertible Beetle. I'm anticipating freedom from fear.

Freedom is very important to me.

Re: What’s the best workshop or course you ever took?

Joannie — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 07:50:00 -0000

I have been to many wonderful workshops and retreats it makes it difficult to choose the best one. However, I'll go with a Life, Death, Transition workshop with Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross.

This five day workshop was held at a former convent in Winnipeg, Manitoba. There were 65 people from all over the world. Deep personal emotional work was done. Work I didn't think could be done with so many people.

A few years later my husband and I were privileged to spend two weeks volunteering for Elisabeth at her office and ranch in Head Waters, VA.

Life is filled with blessing.

Re: What’s the best workshop or course you ever took?

Joannie — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 16:48:30 -0000

It was one of the highlights of my life so far and I did actually sit at her feet. Elisabeth was a force of nature. You're right - it was an immense honour. One of those experiences you have to pinch yourself to realize it's actually happening to you and even then you're not absolutely certain it's real!

Re: What’s the best workshop or course you ever took?

Joannie — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 16:52:20 -0000

I, too, had a wonderful high school English teacher, Miss Barber. She made Shakespeare come alive. The Merchant of Venice and MacBeth were the two plays we studied. I understood nothing when I read on my own, but when Miss Barber read, the heavens opened, light shone down. It was wondrous.

I've often wondered if my love of language came from dear, sweet, little Miss Barber.

Re: What would be your last meal and with whom would you share it?

Joannie — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 08:44:02 -0000

I'm with you Jamie.

Re: What would be your last meal and with whom would you share it?

Joannie — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 08:47:31 -0000

I would want so much. I would want to have two last meals. One with my family and friends. Pot luck. I've always loved pot luck. That would be the first meal. It would be on the Fundy Trail in St. Martins, NB.

The second meal would be in an intimate room with the man I adore. The food wouldn't matter at all. All that would matter is that it would be his beautiful hands that would be holding mine, his lips that would kiss me goodbye - for now - and his face I would see at the moment of death.

Re: How do you fall in love with the world?

Joannie — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 07:33:11 -0000

By being a gardener. Each time I am in a garden I see the Creator's handiwork helped along by my hands and heart. Growing seeds, caring for the seedlings, hardening them off to the elements and watching the Cosmos flowing in the breeze brought me back from the brink of despair.

A garden is a reflection of love/life, of its joy and sorrow, its accomplishments and disappointments. Kahlil Gibran writes that there is a sword hidden in love's pinions. Leonard Cohen sings that love chooses us, not the other way round.

Love is all that matters. Love is stronger than death.

Re: What’s your favourite inspirational quote?

Joannie — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 08:10:15 -0000

This is a wondrous thing!

Re: What’s your favourite inspirational quote?

Joannie — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 08:11:39 -0000

I love this one, too by Ghandi!

Re: What’s your favourite inspirational quote?

Joannie — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 08:12:41 -0000

It has taken me nearly a lifetime to know the truth of this.

Re: What’s your favourite inspirational quote?

Joannie — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 08:14:13 -0000

So many wonderful quotes this morning.

I love, 'We teach best what we most need to learn', though of course there are many more I also love.

Re: What are your favourite natural remedies?

Joannie — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 08:24:39 -0000

I have a friend who believes that if we need an herb it will be growing right in our back - or front - yard! She's proven her theory many times.

Re: What are your favourite natural remedies?

Joannie — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 08:29:35 -0000

Daily I take Vitamins D & E, CoQ10, Calcium. I put three drops of lavender essential oil on a Kleenex and place it under my pillow every night. I put it under my nose when the skunk family living under our shed goes out for a middle of the night stroll! I have a therapeutic massage once a month. Wish I could afford it more often! I've had acupuncture for lower back problems. I grow herbs in my garden, bring them in the house and enhale their aroma before I cook with them. I also use St. John's Wort spray orally when I'm feeling depressed.

Re: What do you regret?

Joannie — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 08:40:17 -0000

What do I regret? That I didn't love myself earlier in my life. That when I was young and beautiful I thought I was ugly and fat. That I'm sometimes afraid to speak my truth even though I believe we are all here on earth to help one another live a spiritually authentic life. That it took me so very long to truly know what real love is and how painful it can be (Kahlil Gibran). That I didn't know that love chooses us, not the other way around (Leonard Cohen). That when someone has had the courage to be vulnerable with me I've sometimes not 'heard'. That when someone has had the courage to ask me for something they've needed I've not endeavoured to meet their need.

As I've written this I also realize I regret being such a perfectionist, then I would realize that everything can be transformed and there is no need for regret.

Re: What is your biggest indulgence?

Joannie — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 08:54:20 -0000

Amen!

Re: What is your biggest indulgence?

Joannie — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 08:58:46 -0000

My heart skipped a beat when I read - living on your own!

Oh my this is what I want to do before I die. I've lived with other people all my life - mother, father, brother, sister, two husbands, three children, a couple of grandchildren for a time. It would definitely be an indulgence since we can't afford it.

I still might do it for a year!

Re: What is your biggest indulgence?

Joannie — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 09:06:38 -0000

I believe my biggest indulgence is eating out. Since retirement we live on a reduced income but we still go out to eat.

I do a lot of wonderful things - now - for myself. I no longer see them as indulgences but as necessary to my heart and soul. I listen to beautiful music when I write as I'm doing right now. I burn incense, light a candle. I buy soap from France that cost a fortune. I'm very sensate - loving to touch, taste and smell beautiful things.

If my heart says 'buy it' I do.

Re: What is your big, audacious dream for yourself?

Joannie — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 08:45:25 -0000

Same dream - different genre. Creative Non-Fiction.

Re: What is your big, audacious dream for yourself?

Joannie — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 08:52:55 -0000

My big audacious dream? To be healthy. To be published several times in Creative Non-Fiction. To live by the sea, actually on the Bay of Fundy, in a red frame house with a huge fireplace and hearth in its centre. Windows all around. The music I love playing on a gorgeous stereo system. A huge kitchen with copper pots hanging from a rack above a pine table in its centre. A garden filled with trees, shrubs, herbs that will grow by the salt water.

But most of all the man I adore, strong and healthy, in one of the rooms working on the computer he so loves.

Re: What is your big, audacious dream for yourself?

Joannie — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 10:40:21 -0000

Thank you for that Collette! It's just made my day!

Re: What is your big, audacious dream for yourself?

Joannie — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 17:18:53 -0000

I don't know what to say except Thank you very much! If you go to Saint John I hope you'll see the Reversing Falls in the Saint John river. Absolutely stunning when the tide reveals the rapids. I could have gone there every day.

Re: What is your big, audacious dream for yourself?

Joannie — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 19:18:55 -0000

The place overlooking the Reversing Falls is called - wait for it - The Reversing Falls Restaurant! I ate there on my trip to Saint John in June. I liked it there and the food was excellent.

I hope you have a wonderful time.

Re: What’s your favourite magazine?

Joannie — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 08:53:33 -0000

I no longer subscribe to any magazines though when I did my favourite was Canadian Gardening. It's still my favourite. I buy Hello, sometimes O (though I seldom finish it), Homemaker, other gardening magazines and I'm embarrassed to say People!

I like my trash glossy.

Re: Who in your life do you admire… and why?

Joannie — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 08:16:38 -0000

My husband. He retired nearly two years ago. He drives for both the Hospice and the Canadian Cancer Society. He delivers food for St. Vincent de Paul - and we no longer even go to that church! He 'babysits' his grandsons, takes them to movies. At 61 he's a Scouter with 1st year Scouts.

And it isn't that I admire that he DOES all these things it's that it's a natural, loving thing done without thought of return.

I see this slightly quizzical look cross his face when he runs into his former work mates at the mall and they are moaning about how much they hate being retired. He'll tell them there is so much volunteer work that needs to be done and, sadly, too often he gets a response about volunteer work not paying anything.

He's not being self-righteous about what he does. He just doesn't 'get' the other guys.

Re: What would you like to revolutionize?

Joannie — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 15:29:43 -0000

I would like to revolutionize the way North America seems to see itself as 'the good' and everything other as 'the bad'. I believe until the governments in the Western world, especially in the United States, but in Canada too, stop acting like God is on their side against 'the evil doers' there will never be peace in the world. We must own our own shadows - own that we are both good and evil as is everyone in the entire world.
What makes me angry about another person is the very thing I've disowned in myself.

Re: What would you like to revolutionize?

Joannie — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 18:52:56 -0000

I don't like the word 'evil'. It has religious overtones that I find offensive. I prefer Jung's shadow - those unowned parts of ourselves that we need to bring to consciousness.

Another way of looking at it is to think of transforming our negativity; i.e blame, resentment, judgement of ourselves and others, etc. I believe this inner work is of vital importance not only to the one doing the work but also to the wider human community.

Can you imagine what the world would be like if we all did this work? I believe there would be no wars! What an awesome, mind boggling thought.

Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

Joannie — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 09:30:59 -0000

Right on Fiona. Or as Estes says in 'Women Who Run with the Wolves' - HOWL!

Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

Joannie — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 09:36:01 -0000

I would live apart from my husband at least for a time in my own apartment. I would decorate my apartment to reflect who I truly am. I would buy a VW Beetle convertible - red with a black top. I would walk to the river every day even in the rain. I would do Qi Gong every day even in the rain! :) I would create beautiful healthy meals for myself and occasionally for friends. I would give myself permission to read any time I want to instead of just at night before going to sleep. I would visit my friend at her antique shop.

My whole life I've lived with someone - parents, siblings, two husbands - not at the same time - children, grandchildren and once someone else's daughter and her child. I'd like to have some time completely on my own.

Re: If you believed you were enough, what would you do differently?

Joannie — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 10:51:10 -0000

I believe it's never too late! I hope you go for it. It sounds so wonderful.

Re: What is your big, audacious dream for yourself?

Joannie — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 09:43:43 -0000

Shug: Thank you SO much. I can see you paddling about the Caves at St. Martin's. I can see you finding the beautiful stone (part of me wanted you to keep it and send it to me!). I can see you 'heaving' it into the water, hear the splash and feel my dream attached.

I'll let you know....

Re: How do you want to feel today?

Joannie — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 09:46:23 -0000

I want to feel alive, conscious, joyful.

Re: What are the best Inspirational or “Personal Growth” books you’ve read?

Joannie — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 08:11:04 -0000

Women, Sex and Addiction by Charlotte Kasl
Women Who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
The New Earth by Eckhart Tolle
Enneagram: A Christian Perspective by Richard Rohl

These are some of the books that changed me. There are many others which have touched me and which I've learned from.

Re: What are the best Inspirational or “Personal Growth” books you’ve read?

Joannie — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 08:13:38 -0000

I haven't read Style Statement yet, though I've had the book for weeks.

I'm looking forward to seeing any links between my Enneagram type (I'm a Four) with my style statement.

Re: What would you like your home to say about you?

Joannie — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 08:42:44 -0000

I would like my home to say that within its tiny walls lives a Peek-a-Pom named Bacchus whose toys are everywhere and who is the joy of my life. I would like the brightly coloured walls to say that a creative soul lives here and the work room to say that soul is a writer.

I would like the view from the patio window to say, 'Come out and wander through my garden. See the beautiful Red bird and the pair of yellow finches, a 'lady' and her 'lover'! :) The Passion Vine to reveal its secrets, but only to you and the heady scent of Sweet Autumn Clematis to make you swoon.

I would like my home make you happy to be alive.

Re: What’s your beauty dilemma?

Joannie — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 13:58:10 -0000

I'm short, cute and no longer young - chronologically that is. I've learned that tall men LOVE short women. It's a protective thing. They think we need them to look after us. I'm won't tell them the truth if you won't! :)

Re: What’s your beauty dilemma?

Joannie — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 13:59:32 -0000

I don't like aging either, Connie, but we all gotta do it.

Actually I think it takes a lot of courage to be human.

Re: What’s your image of God?

Joannie — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 09:14:33 -0000

My image of God? Love.

Re: What’s your image of God?

Joannie — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 09:20:29 -0000

I do love your response, Colette. I am a Christian - though I've always had great difficulty even saying the word - Anglican now. I repeat the Creed, sing in the choir, will soon be a reader. I also believe in reincarnation and that we create our own hell on earth, there is no pie in the sky. I believe when I die I will return to the Source from whence I came, the Source of all things. I believe we are all One.

Re: What’s your image of God?

Joannie — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 09:21:20 -0000

Another wonderful response, Lisa.

Re: What’s your image of God?

Joannie — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 09:22:45 -0000

I love the line, 'If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him your plans.'

Re: What are your 3 top priorities this week?

Joannie — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 08:43:59 -0000

Spend a day with my daughter who lives out of town and so we don't see one another very often.

Spend time with my friend going to see 'Mamma Mia'.

Visit with my priest to talk about Restorative Justice Week in November when I'm doing the homily.

Re: How has astrology influenced your life or a decision?

Joannie — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 09:02:53 -0000

Astrology has helped me to understand myself better. However, the only astrologer I consult is the one in the daily newspaper! This, of course, leaves much to be desired and is seldom 'on'.

I have read a lot about my Sun sign - Sagittarian - Moon sign - Capricorn - and Rising - Aquarius. I AM Fire like my Sun - a homebody like the Capricorn - the Earth. I'm not sure how I'm affected by Aquarius.

I do not use Astrology to make decisions.

Re: How has astrology influenced your life or a decision?

Joannie — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 09:06:55 -0000

Emily, I, too, like Tarot. I have a friend who is a Sensitive and she will often do a reading for me over the telephone. She lives in Florida. I live in Ontario! My Tarot cards are Goddess cards.

I like the idea of choosing one card each day and thinking on that. Presently I'm using The Four Agreement cards. I will consider using my Tarot, too, or later.

Re: How has astrology influenced your life or a decision?

Joannie — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 09:11:18 -0000

I'm curious why you call yourself 'The Goat'? Isn't Capricorn the goat (my son is a Capricorn) and Libra the scales of justice?

Re: How has astrology influenced your life or a decision?

Joannie — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 17:17:38 -0000

I think of these things fit me, but I'm anything but cool - the Fire sun sign I guess - or dispassionate!

Thanks for this.

Re: How would you spend your last $20?

Joannie — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 08:30:42 -0000

I would save it!

I'd so much like to say I'd give it to Joanne so she can buy more food or to someone else in need, but...

Then I think of the parable about the talents (coins I believe) and the moral is to use it to help others, give it away. Isn't there some saying about when you give something away you get it back a thousand fold?

That's what I'm aiming for.

Re: How would you spend your last $20?

Joannie — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 08:31:19 -0000

I love this answer!

Re: How would you spend your last $20?

Joannie — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 09:54:14 -0000

I live in a similar country - Canada. I am grateful every day. My little mother - dead now since 1986 - was born in Sussex-by-the-sea (that's how she would say it to me)in England. She immigrated with her family to Canada when she was two years old. She never lost her love of everything English. When she was 77 years old on a visit with my husband and I to England and Europe she took high tea at the Savoy all alone. And this from a woman who had very little in the way of material things during her lifetime!

And I believe if she had been asked this question she would have given the money to someone else, Joanne! Maybe even you! :)

Re: How would you spend your last $20?

Joannie — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 16:33:18 -0000

My Mom LOVED her high tea. So full of pomp and circumstance! As I said Mom loved all things British!

Re: What would improve your work space?

Joannie — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 08:24:22 -0000

I work at home. What would improve my work space is my husband getting Danielle's message:

BUSY BEING BRILLIANT. KINDLY PISS OFF.

I don't know what it is about my need for privacy that makes my husband call me for something URGENT - YEAH RIGHT! - or knock on the door - anything it seems to get my attention and

piss me off.

Re: What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever given or received?

Joannie — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 08:28:09 -0000

I wish I'd known this years ago! Best advice ever.

Re: What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever given or received?

Joannie — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 08:29:26 -0000

Further to that someone said (I can seldom remember who) 'STAY in the boat'.

Re: What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever given or received?

Joannie — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 08:31:52 -0000

You don't suppose, Jamie, your husband could be cloned?

Re: What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever given or received?

Joannie — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 08:34:13 -0000

For years I had a wonderful therapist. She helped me save my life. I think what she told me was probably the best advice I've received.

'Give all the love you have to give. Don't hold anything back.'

Re: What kind of clutter is in your life?

Joannie — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 07:43:28 -0000

I let people rent apartments in my head. When this happens I say a prayer of letting go, surrender and voila before I know it they're gone. Problem is they move back in quickly as if they have squatters' rights, so I'm praying a lot. :)

Re: What kind of clutter is in your life?

Joannie — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 11:28:03 -0000

Perhaps that's what happens when I pray! :)

Re: What kind of clutter is in your life?

Joannie — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 11:30:24 -0000

Your description of your clutter is almost poetic.

Re: What kind of clutter is in your life?

Joannie — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 11:32:40 -0000

What a great idea, Krysti, to have your friends come over and 'shop'! I'm going to try that.

Re: What kind of clutter is in your life?

Joannie — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 11:33:42 -0000

Not the gentleman friends! :)

Re: What do you need to let go of?

Joannie — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 05:47:31 -0000

Judging others and myself by some yardstick that came from somewhere (my upbringing?) and I'm sick and tired of it.

Expectations. I had no idea how much I carry expectations about EVERYTHING. It's annoying. It's excellent that I'm noticing it. After all I had to become aware of it in order to let it go. Though as I write I wonder if I ever will.

My house. I love my little house. We've lived here for nearly 11 years. It's been decorated in vivid colours to reflect my personality and the bathroom has been completely renovated. However, I'm too attached to it and I can feel this is no longer healthy for me.

Perhaps what I'm aiming for in my life is what the Buddhists call 'compassionate detachment'.

Re: What’s your favorite eco-friendly habit?

Joannie — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 08:46:53 -0000

I don't use any form of pesticide, herbicide or fungicide in my garden. I live with Clematis wilt, slugs, earwigs, tomato's blossom end rot. You get the picture.

We recycle and in our city that means paper, cardboard, glass, tin, aluminum and plastic. It is picked up by the city every other week.

We have three rain barrels and only water the garden with the hose when the barrels are empty and the plants are in danger of dying. Tap water is cold and shocks the plants; conversely the water in the barrels is the same as the outdoor temperatures.

We use cloth bags provided by the supermarket. Plastic bags will soon be a thing of the past.

I compost.

I would ride my bike if I wasn't so terrified of falling. This is an age thing over which I have no control. Or at least that's how I rationalize my fear.

I used to walk every day but haven't now for a few months. Once I stopped (icy weather - fear of falling again) I'm finding it difficult to begin again.

'Just do it' needs to become my primary motto! :)

Re: What’s your favorite eco-friendly habit?

Joannie — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 15:13:41 -0000

These trikes sound wonderful. I'll have to check them out! You'll see me 'whizzing' around the neighbourhood! :)

Re: What do you need to let go of?

Joannie — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 12:03:23 -0000

It might sound silly but I believe I'm co-dependent to the house! I tend to hide inside of it. I want more freedom, more space, more community involvement instead I am too often within the four walls of my little house.

Of course I'm also open to the possiblity that this isn't the reason at all and perhaps the true reason will come to me - down the road! :)

Re: What promise did you keep that changed your life?

Joannie — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 12:08:59 -0000

I am having a lot of trouble with this question. I've done so many things in my life that have changed it - went to university to fulfill my life's dream of becoming a social worker. I was 41 years old when I went to school, 46 when I graduated with a BSW.

I'm recovering from a multitude of addictions including nicotine addiction, which was the most difficult of all to surrender. I haven't had one of those filthy 'sticks' in my mouth for 11 years. And I thought I'd die with a cigarette in my mouth.

I became a Master Gardener in my early 60s and am now the group's coordinator.

I started a little theatre group years ago with a friend and we put on a Western melodrama. We approached the town council for money to pay for what we needed.

But I am not aware of a promise I made that changed my life.

Re: What promise did you keep that changed your life?

Joannie — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 12:11:28 -0000

Welcome to clean smelling breath and hair, not to mention clothes - from one recovering smoker to another.

Re: What promise did you keep that changed your life?

Joannie — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 12:21:10 -0000

Colette, what is a comfort band?

I, with the others who have responded to your post, LOVE the idea of wearing a ring which is a commitment to being true to myself.

Thank you SO much for sharing.

Re: What promise did you keep that changed your life?

Joannie — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 12:23:19 -0000

Since I began trusting my instincts or my intuition as I call it, I have learned how 100% reliable my intuition is. I trust it and by so doing trust myself. Such a wondrous change from the first third of my life when I didn't even KNOW what I was feeling and I certainly didn't trust myself.

Thank you, Carolynn

Re: What promise did you keep that changed your life?

Joannie — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 15:14:47 -0000

Thank you Sheri! As I went about my day running errands, etc. I too thought of these things as promises, without my really being conscious of them that way. And, of course, the more I thought about my life the more promises I've made - without even knowing it.

Thank you for the beautiful image of the string of promise pearls! That's how I'll think of my life from now on.

Re: What promise did you keep that changed your life?

Joannie — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 15:18:11 -0000

It depends where you live. I live in Ontario, Canada so the requirements for being a Master Gardener are specific to my province as our local group is a member of the Provincial group.

If you are an American, becoming a MG would be different for you.

But I believe all MG have one goal - to help the home gardener with their gardening problems on a volunteer basis and with some specific educational requirements and number of volunteer hours per year.

Re: What’s sacred to you?

Joannie — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 09:01:50 -0000

I LOVE this response, Ella. For years I hated living where I've now lived for 27 years. Then one day I walked into a Catholic Christian Book Store and was looking through the cassettes. There staring at me was a tape, 'Bloom Where You're Planted'! I took it as a message that 'wherever I go, there I am' and to give myself a shake! :)

Re: What’s sacred to you?

Joannie — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 09:05:50 -0000

The earth, taking care of it for the future.
Words - I'm with Danielle on this. I'm a writer and I know the power, the importance of every word spoken or written. A word once spoken can't ever be taken back.
Kindness - a wonderful social activist, and writer from Canada whom I was privileged to meet a few years ago - felt this was the most important virtue.
Having time alone to write, think, read, reflect, look out of the patio doors into the garden.
Meditation.
Music including singing in the choir.
Love.

Re: What’s sacred to you?

Joannie — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 18:16:14 -0000

Living just three days in a new city! How exciting. How scary! Good for you Ella. You're very brave. I hope you enjoy your own company. I think something happens when we do. Somehow it draws other people to us like a magnet! :)

Re: What’s your favorite gadget or piece of technology?

Joannie — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 05:39:15 -0000

My computer. I feel like I'm missing an beloved friend when it isn't working.

Re: If you had a totally open day, every day, what 4 or 5 things would you fill it with?

Joannie — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 05:41:09 -0000

I would walk by the river just as the sun is coming up. I would write in the morning, read in the afternoon, visit with family or friends off and on throughout the day, meditate in the evening.

Re: When do you hide?

Joannie — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 08:49:37 -0000

When I'm hurting deeply and it's too soon to talk about it or the person I'm with is the person who hurt me or isn't the person I want to share myself with or I don't want to talk to anyone about it except God.

I don't answer the phone if the person calling is a chatterbox and I'm not up to chatter. Caller ID is wonderful.

When I need help and know that my need will not be met but will be seen as a want and therefore not important or selfish. This is unique only to my husband.

With Beccie I'm very sensitive, some would say too sensitive. However, it's who I am and I believe it's what makes me tolerant, compassionate and loving. It's like my honesty which can make me naive. But, hey, I'd rather be naive and honest than a liar.

Re: What’s your favorite easy thing to cook?

Joannie — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 08:42:56 -0000

I dreamt I was in England last night. I was walking with an old boyfriend's mother though we were both the same age! (Aren't dreams wonderful.) I was curious if they liked my Canadian accent. They did. We were walking along cobbled streets with old houses. Each house had garden beds filled with wildflowers. We were walking to my old boyfriend's mother's home. She was very tired. We were both hungry and looking forward to having dinner. Perhaps it would have been home made soup which is my favourite food to make. What I love is chopping all the vegetables!

Re: What’s your favorite easy thing to cook?

Joannie — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 08:46:52 -0000

That sounds really good! What kind of cheese and how do you melt it?

Re: What adventure are you craving (or planning for)?

Joannie — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 08:11:12 -0000

I would like to live in my own place. I have lived with other people all of my life, parents, siblings, ex-husband, present husband, children and grandchildren.

I can picture how beautiful my place would be - filled with plants, books, flowers. Music playing from my little stereo system. Birds singing outside of my windows, not just the Mourning Doves those early risers but all kinds of song birds throughout the day. The fragrance of Sweet Autumn Clematis wafting in my bedroom window in the middle of the night, its sweet scent intoxicating as summer begins to wane.

Hey - wait a minute - except for not living on my own I already have all of those things! Hmmmm.

Re: What adventure are you craving (or planning for)?

Joannie — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 12:10:15 -0000

This is my sense exactly. I do have a fair amount of alone time as my husband spends a lot of time away from home. But it's just not the same as actually LIVING alone. Even if for 60 days - or a year! :)

Re: What’s your favorite easy thing to cook?

Joannie — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 12:13:41 -0000

I can't get your post out of my mind and want to try it. How long do you cook the stewing beef? I have two temps on my crock pot - low and high. How long on each; i.e. an hour on high and four or more on low?

I'm going to try it tomorrow! Thanks, Frances

Re: This Labor Day, how would you change our work culture?

Joannie — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 06:43:01 -0000

I think we need to recognize that workaholism is every bit as killing as alcoholism, drug, food or sex addiction. Instead people are asked and expected to work long hours and if they don't they jeopardize their careers. The impact of this on families can be devastating. Children are being raised by people other than their parents. I think this has led to an emphasis on sending children to school far too early. Instead of letting children BE children they are educated, monitored, medicated to keep them 'in line'. This denies them their unique personality and character so that we are developing 'robots'.

So employers need to think about more than the so-called 'bottom line' and remember that they employ human beings - flawed, imperfect, wonderfully unique human beings who need every aspect of themselves nourished. They need to provide wellness days rather than 'sick' days then many people wouldn't take days off when they simply need to sleep in for a while, lay in the sun, work in their garden, walk on the beach rather than 'pretend' they are sick in order to do any or all of these things.

We have bodies that need taking care of. We are NOT machines.

Re: This Labor Day, how would you change our work culture?

Joannie — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 08:46:10 -0000

The first step IS the biggest one - admitting one's powerlessness over the work addiction.

May God be with you as you work the Twelve steps.

Re: What’s the best work you’ve ever done?

Joannie — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 08:56:01 -0000

Writing my first book. Seeing my name of the cover of this beautiful little book confirmed that I was a writer. I self-published. I may never publish another book. But my book has helped many parents deal with their grief at losing an adult child.

'In Her Room' is about the last weeks in the life of my husband's 24 year old niece who died of lymphoma. It is a book about death, life, love, hope.

I also went to university when I was 41, graduating at 46 with a Bachelor's in Social Work. It was, decidedly, the most difficult thing I've ever done and the most joy filled.

Then in 2002 my husband went through a seven hour surgery and was a year recovering. I took care of him. Perhaps this was my greatest accomplishment - my four stars - my opus. I hate physical illness and here I was confronted with it every day, every night - tubes, medication, everything I hated. AND I DID IT - with help and often by myself.

Re: If you suddenly inherited $10,000, what would you do with it?

Joannie — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 07:58:10 -0000

I'd hire a personal trainer. I don't have a clue how much that would cost but if it didn't take the full windfall I'd use the rest for new clothes for my new toned body.

Re: What do you find sexy?

Joannie — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 08:31:16 -0000

My husband calls this quality 'a certain something'. Some men (and women) have it but it doesn't seem to have a name.

A man at the church I used to belong to had it. The women in the church just flocked to him like hummingbirds to nectar. I was no different. He used to kiss all of us at Christmas Eve Midnight mass. The women lined up! No s***.

Re: What do you find sexy?

Joannie — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 08:38:07 -0000

Hands - all different kinds - almond shaped finger nails - short, stubby, strong fingers - delicate, long, slender fingers. Clean nails.

I wrote a poem once about a man's hands. He later became my lover. It's as if I can tell how a man will touch me, make love with me by seeing his hands.

I love writing erotica and love a man who writes it back.

I love SMART. A man who has street smarts and intellect.

I love a romantic man, one who brings me a gift - just for no reason at all.

A sense of humour is very sexy but it must not step over a certain line - a line I draw - then the humour is no longer sexy but vulgar and base.

A man who loves to read.

A man who gives of himself to make the world a better place.

A man with a smile like quick silver.

Re: What do you find sexy?

Joannie — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 11:34:30 -0000

Since I can't reply to your reply Kat, 'mojo' is EXACTLY what it is. Now it has a word! :)

Re: What do you need to move your vision forward?

Joannie — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 08:24:22 -0000

Amen, Kristin!

Re: What do you need to move your vision forward?

Joannie — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 08:25:17 -0000

The belief that I'm worth it!

Re: What is your favorite fiction book?

Joannie — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 07:22:05 -0000

Now I KNOW you're a writer, Kristen.

Re: What is your favorite fiction book?

Joannie — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 07:29:10 -0000

Pillars of the Earth by Ken Follett - nearly 1,000 pages - put off getting it for a long time then couldn't put it down when I finally did!

A Thousand Splendid Suns and The Kite Runner.

Re: What is your favorite fiction book?

Joannie — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 09:50:25 -0000

No Great Mischief by Alistair MacLeod.

Dr. MacLeod won multi awards including the prestigious Irish one for this book. It is Dr. MacLeod's only novel. He is a writer of short stories. His writing makes you weep it's so beautiful. He is considered, arguably, the best living Canadian writer of short stories.

Re: What is your favorite fiction book?

Joannie — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 12:19:02 -0000

Now you've gone and done it! I just have to have World Without End. Oh my what will I do with the books I already have on my couch waiting to be read? :)

Re: What is something completely luxurious that you dream of owning?

Joannie — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 09:04:19 -0000

My log cabin on the Atlantic ocean furnished with all the things I love including a garden that doesn't mind salt AND the money and TIME to truly live in it ALONE, in good health with a vintage Porsche in the driveway and a Peek-a-Pom to walk and talk with me.

Re: What are you excited about right now?

Joannie — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 11:20:20 -0000

Add me in and I don't even get to vote for Senator Obama. Why you might ask innocently? Because I'm a Canadian! :)

But you can bet there are millions of us with our eyes and ears glued to the television set to find out what happens in your November election.

Now our stupid PM (Prime Minister) just called an election for October 14th just after Canadian Thanksgiving. I believe in voting so I do, but not for him or his party.

GO DEMOCRATS!

Re: What are you excited about right now?

Joannie — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 11:22:41 -0000

I'm not feeling very excited at this moment because I'm grieving. But reading many of these posts and seeing/reading your excitement makes me know that one day I will feel excited again! Thanks! :)

Re: What are you excited about right now?

Joannie — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 14:21:54 -0000

Thank you very much Sheri.

Re: What are you excited about right now?

Joannie — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 15:20:21 -0000

Your response and Sheri's show me the importance of speaking honestly - saying exactly where I am at this moment in time.

I love the poem. Is there an author. I would like to put it in my piece that I'm writing about Hannah, the little girl who died, the beloved 10 year old daughter of my dearest friend.

Thank you Jennifer.

Re: How do your actions manifest, and contradict, your beliefs?

Joannie — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 07:53:53 -0000

Wasn't it Walt Whitman who said something about contradicting himself and it being okay? It's on the tip of my tongue but doesn't reach my brain! Perhaps someone knows the quote exactly.

Re: How do your actions manifest, and contradict, your beliefs?

Joannie — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 08:06:43 -0000

I believe we should take care of the earth but don't always compost or recycle absolutely everything I could.

I don't believe in capital punishment, which is not part of the Canadian Justice System - SO FAR - but there are some convicted criminals I might be persuaded to throw the switch on or give a lethal injection to; i.e. Paul Bernardo.

There are some people I long to be close to but keep my guard up and my distance out of fear even though I'm an outgoing, warm, extrovert who hugs easily.

I think I'm full of contradictions. I think we all are. Hey, I think that's what makes us so infinitely interesting as a species.

Re: How do your actions manifest, and contradict, your beliefs?

Joannie — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 08:15:04 -0000

For Jamie: Thanks Jamie. Isn't that a great few lines of poetry! :)

Re: How do your actions manifest, and contradict, your beliefs?

Joannie — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 08:15:46 -0000

I have a technical question - why do some posts provide for a reply while others do not?

Re: How do your actions manifest, and contradict, your beliefs?

Joannie — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 09:49:28 -0000

Me, too! :)

Re: How do your actions manifest, and contradict, your beliefs?

Joannie — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 09:53:03 -0000

Very well said. Now why didn't I think of that! :)

Re: What do you know the most about?

Joannie — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 08:19:08 -0000

I wish I were possible to ask you questions, Jennifer.

Re: What do you know the most about?

Joannie — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 08:22:47 -0000

I forgot half of conversations. The beginning, end or middle jokes, important dates and even the times my children were born but do I forget anything about movies, actors, directors - even movies I HAVEN'T seen? Oh, no - that s*** I remember FOREVER. What IS that about?

Re: What do you know the most about?

Joannie — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 08:23:53 -0000

Whoa! Does that ever sound wonderful. Is it?

Re: What do you know the most about?

Joannie — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 08:26:52 -0000

I know the most about trivia! Then I know a great deal about sexual abuse, both personally and professionally. I also know a lot about death, dying, grief, bereavement, addiction, recovery, and other stuff I've forgotten! :)

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Joannie — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 08:06:56 -0000

My intuition is always spot-on. It took me years to trust myself (my intuition) but when I don't I pay the price and when I do pay attention which is most of the time now I feel good inside, peaceful. My intuition is so fine tuned it sends up a firm NO immediately.

Re: What do you find beautiful about your body?

Joannie — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 08:16:32 -0000

I am grateful to my body every day for hanging in with me through the abuse I've given it. I am very round, like a Buddha. My body is the vehicle through which my beauty shines. You see my beauty in my eyes - in their depths - in their sadness & in their laughter.

I also love my legs, my hands and I have a smile that will knock your socks off! :)

Re: What’s the best concert you ever attended?

Joannie — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 07:47:33 -0000

Years ago I saw Liberace in Sudbury! He was fabulous - all shining and glittery. A true showman.

Re: How have you changed?

Joannie — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 09:25:11 -0000

I need solitude and silence where once I couldn't stand either. I stopped smoking nearly 12 years ago and now smell wonderful. I don't explain when I cancel an appointment, or change my mind. I trust my intuition (myself) completely, express my feelings, am honest with myself. And much more...

Re: How have you changed?

Joannie — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 09:27:38 -0000

Who we are is eternal. Who we are not changes.

I love that too! :)

Re: What is the best relationship book you’ve read?

Joannie — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 09:04:54 -0000

Women, Sex and Addiction by Charlotte Kasl
Don't Call it Love by Patrick Carnes
The Enneagram: From a Christian Perspective by Richard Rohr

Re: Guy Kawasaki asks: If you could eliminate one activity from your day, what would it be?

Joannie — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 08:22:48 -0000

I'm with you Jess. The negative script from my past continues to haunt me. I'd like to be rid of it or at least not believe it.

Re: Guy Kawasaki asks: If you could eliminate one activity from your day, what would it be?

Joannie — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 08:24:23 -0000

You beat me to the punch, Marissa. This was what I would eliminate, too, without smelling and feeling wonderful that all of the things you mentioned bring! :)

Re: What do you love about men? (or, why is it so great being a man?)

Joannie — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 08:43:21 -0000

I love the mystery of the man I love - his 'otherness'. I love his smiles - like quicksilver. I love that he helps others, has given his life in service to others. I love his intelligence, how smart he is, how he loves it when I ask him a question even when he doesn't know the answer.

I can't answer for all men - just this man.

Re: What is your favourite form of courtesy that you like to practice?

Joannie — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 08:37:57 -0000

Saying Thank You at every opportunity.

Sending Thank You cards at every opportunity.

Such a simple yet exquisite courtesy and like writing letters long-hand nearly extinct.

Re: What is your favourite form of courtesy that you like to practice?

Joannie — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 08:44:16 -0000

I would like to put a picture beside my name. How do I do that?

Re: What do you collect?

Joannie — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 10:28:47 -0000

Books - especially certain authors. Teapots. Teas. Soaps especially Mistral. Candles. Incense. Benches and Chairs for my gardens. There's something I love about empty chairs and benches. I've written about both and still don't understand the mystery. Jewellery. Purses. It used to be shoes before surgery limited my choice. Unusual perennials. Cards especially ones created by one of my fellow Master Gardeners - beautiful cards with pressed flowers and calligraphy. Stickers. Beautiful writing pads and paper. Recipes. Tee shirts.

Re: Patti Digh asks: What would you be doing today if you only had 37 days to live?

Joannie — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 08:39:58 -0000

I have thought about this question in different ways often throughout the past ten years or so.

I would continue to do what I'm doing now - paying attention to my intuition and living from it, showing up to life and love, standing in my fear, acknowledging I'm afraid and doing 'it' anyway, telling the truth even when I'm terrified and letting go of the results. The first three are nearly easy for me now, but OH MY GOD the last one is still a daily challenge.

Re: What kind of award would you like to win?

Joannie — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 09:15:19 -0000

The Giller Prize

Re: What immediately comes to mind when you say the word, bliss?

Joannie — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 10:52:44 -0000

Being in the arms of my beloved. The smell and sound of rain falling outside my bedroom window. The fragrance of a Peony 'Festiva Maxima' in the Spring. Hot water falling over my head in a shower. The cooing of Mourning Doves early in the morning. The taste of blue Concord grapes in Autumn. Singing exquisite music in the choir. The sight of drifts of 80 varieties of Dahlias in my friend's front garden Seven of my friend's Dahlias in a vase on my dining room table.

Re: Tsh Oxenreider asks: In what way are you delightfully conventional?

Joannie — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 09:40:58 -0000

I love all of these things, too.

Re: Tsh Oxenreider asks: In what way are you delightfully conventional?

Joannie — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 09:41:48 -0000

Me, too, Sarah

Re: Tsh Oxenreider asks: In what way are you delightfully conventional?

Joannie — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 09:47:04 -0000

Jennifer: in Canada nursing was - is? - pretty conventional but not midwifery. (I do love the way the British say this word! mid WIF ery! :) ) I believe the reason or at least one of the reasons may be that the physicians in Canada put up resistance to the idea of someone other than them help women to birth children. A power thing?

Re: Tsh Oxenreider asks: In what way are you delightfully conventional?

Joannie — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 09:49:10 -0000

Beautifully written.

Re: Tsh Oxenreider asks: In what way are you delightfully conventional?

Joannie — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 09:51:40 -0000

Me, too. magnificentnotty@gmail.com

Re: Tsh Oxenreider asks: In what way are you delightfully conventional?

Joannie — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 09:52:58 -0000

My mother taught me the same thing, though I don't remember the no gum in public rule! :)

Re: Tsh Oxenreider asks: In what way are you delightfully conventional?

Joannie — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 10:00:10 -0000

I have a rebel who lives inside of me and whom I've named JJ and I'm unconventional when it comes to loving.

But I am SO traditional. I love Christmas, like so many others have said today. I love the smell of a living Christmas tree, lights, beautiful decorations on and off the tree. The beauty of the church dressed for Christmas together with the gorgeous stained glass, polished floors, candles. The ritual - sacrament of the Eucharist.

I love a beautifully roasted turkey with deep brown crispy skin, bread stuffing, cranberry jelly - homemade.

Pumpkin pie with whipped cream for Thanksgiving - which in Canada is this week-end.

I send beautiful cards - a tradition carried over from my little Mom. I say Thank you to both loved ones and strangers.

I sing 'Happy Birthday' over the phone to a select, elite group of family and friends. One of my cousins asked to be removed from the list! :)

I'm stealing the plate gift idea for this Christmas.

Re: What’s your favourite thing to watch on TV?

Joannie — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 08:42:30 -0000

That's okay, Debbie. Please don't sigh. I envy you actually!

Now, would someone please tell me how you got your picture on this post!

Re: What’s your favourite thing to watch on TV?

Joannie — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 08:46:50 -0000

Two shows I love and hate - Coronation Street, the only soap I watch and House. Can't stand them, can't stay away from them. It's like being addicted to a man who's no good for you.

I love Grey's Anatomy, lots of stuff on PBS Detroit, CBC Sunday Morning with Carole MacNeil and Evon Solomon, French Food at Home, The Barefoot Contessa, Ricardo, Re-location, Re-location, House Hunters. Reruns of The Sopranos and Crossing Jordan while I eat my breakfast.

Jeez...I didn't realize just how much TV I do watch.