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4 weeks ago

in Casual Sex Is Screwing Relationships on The P.O.S.H. Life
"Women are coming along to view jump-offs as the thing (a step-down from part-time lady to someones full-time man), but guys still the jump-off is cool because that what we learn as men to an extent. if your parents, friends,etc taught you different and you practice dating, good."

Jumpoffs are the death of everything. My personal opinioin is this ...if you are a jumpoff there is no step up for you. Your promotion is never coming. You are in a dead end job for manual labor only. Women need to realize this and stop settling for being on tap va jay jay. If you want that....ride out. But, I know most of us don't so your settling is only going to lead to your emotional downfall when he stops screwing you and tells you he is in a relationship....
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Brandon St. Randy Angyr CocoaDiva! CocoaDiva Want Commitment! Actually, I agree with you, jumpoffhood is not a step toward a relationship, but I think your assumption is that women think they are going to get saved by being a good jumpoff. Pretty much all women know in their hearts that's not the case. Some might try to fool themselves into thinking it is, but whose fault is that? Why do you assume women are so easily bamboozled and naive?
mystiphi I think the other side of that is can a guy who has just moved from having a series of Jump-offs make it in a relationship. I think he is in emotional downfall about being alone and is always seeking the jump-off. I think he can reform (i really do), but it will take time, committment and hardwork, all the things that go into a relationship that some of us fail to realize.
Brothers will reform their ways, but the sisters may have to lead that revolution.
Make us work for it. (I know a lot of sisters do make the brothers work, but its the others that make us lazy).

1 month ago

in The Engagement Ring Is The Thing? on The P.O.S.H. Life
Diamonds may have bene enforced or made all shiny to the public but the tradition of engagement rings began way before DeBeers. DeBeers forced the idea of the diamond solitaire on the public.

The tradition of engagement rings as we currently know it arose in the medieval era, when, in 1215, Pope Innocent III instituted a mandatory waiting period from engagement to marriage. For the first few hundred years in the tradition of engagement rings, only the wealthiest nobles could afford precious stones for their rings, and most engagement rings were simple metal bands. Plain bands are still worn as engagement rings by both men and women in many countries, including Denmark, Germany, and Sweden.

2 months ago

in Can You Turn A Hoe Into A Housewife? on The P.O.S.H. Life
Hey if Danger can smash the homies and still have a shot at love..... I kid I kid.

I am apprehensive about this situation. If a person was that promiscuous (male/or female) their past will always come up and rear its ugly head. I think it would take a secure person both secure in their relationship and secure with themselves to take on such a task. Otherwise, trust will always be a factor and you may feel like you are constantly looking over your shoulder.

I do think men have an unfair advantage in the hoation department. I agree with you John. You have to stop allowing that bed post dude into your house. Sometimes we get so excited about a prospect we don't think about the ramifications on our lives.

I really don't want to hold a persons past against them. But I think no matter how you try, under these circumstances, you will always be "that girl/dude."

2 months ago

in Product Review: Pantene Relaxed and Natural Breakage Defense Mask Deep Conditioning on The P.O.S.H. Life
I find that my hair is really moisturized when I rinse the conditioner out. I also use it as a leave in. I say give the conditioner a shot. For only around $5 its so cheap you could hate it or love it and not feel guilty like some of the more pricey products.

I could see your dermatologist saying scrap Shea. I love it but sometimes if I use it excessively or do not wrap my hair it causes oil issues with my face.

2 months ago

in Is An Emotional Man A Lame? on The P.O.S.H. Life
John...I'm not sure I understand how you say women emasculate a man when he shows a little emotion.

I would love for a man to tell me when he hurts so I can help, or allow me to be helpful in an emotional period in his life. I admit I don't want a man crying every 5 minutes but that is because I am not a big ball of emotions either.

However, I don't see women even given the opportunity to know a man is going through it. Maybe some woman in a prior relationship told the guy to man up but I dont see that happening with many women. Most times we don't even know what the problem is bc men bury their emotional pain.
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John Williams Well Cocoa, it is a good thing that you may not see it as a problem, because that probably means you don't do it. But there are many women who are on the other side of your fence, where they will provoke/emasculate/demean a man when he is trying to be open. Now granted, if a man has been through this in a previous relationship, then he may not be as open to the next woman emotionally. And in many cases, when a man doesn't open up, it may be because of how his previous attempts at "opening up" were viewed. I know the reason why I suppress things that I feel is because I was once told I was too sensitive because I asked the lady not to talk to me reckless. Well, from that point, I never said anything when she would demean me...but I took up residence and comfort in another woman during the hard times. Definitely not an excuse and didn't turn out well. (I should of just cursed her out and left, but then I would have been called abusive...such is life.) Point is...if women don't assist/facilitate our opening up, then it will manifest itself in other ways.

*And I am speaking from my experience and the experience of some of my cohorts. Solely my opinion, and does not apply to every man/woman.*

3 months ago

in 27 Things Every Woman Should Know About Sex (Part 1) on The P.O.S.H. Life
i meant it was interesting in laying out a few of the lesser discussed sex topics. Heck it is even great for the male audience to read.

3 months ago

in Is Chivalry on Life Support? on The P.O.S.H. Life
Here is a comment from Ms. Manners about door opening. I felt it was appropriate for the discusion

http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/articlep...

Gentle Reader,
Keep holding doors, please. You really do not want to learn manners from people who curse you out when you are trying to be courteous. Besides, that was a long time ago, and many such people have since learned that it was not a good idea to stomp out consideration of others.

However, Miss Manners suggests that you drop the bit about its being done to honor ladies. It should be done for anyone who needs it, male or female, simply because we all want to live in a world where not everyone is pushing everyone else out of the way to get in first.

3 months ago

in Is Chivalry on Life Support? on The P.O.S.H. Life
Interesting response.

I agreee with you regarding the premise of chivalry and the basis for it. Yes, women were housewives and mothers and life has changed.

What amazes me is how roles have switched. It appears to me now that as men are more comforable with the independent woman they have started to slack on responsibilities or expect more from the woman while giving less in relationships than way back yon.

For instance, men want a woman who works and most don't want a housewife. So you want her to work, open her own doors, care for and educate your kids, cook, clean and etc. Meaning, men have given up their responsibility (working) and have picked up no other responsibilities. So, you work.....what else do you do. So, that being said, you could still pick up a tab, or open a door.

Women aren't the only ones with a heighened sense of entitlements. Men are expecting a lot without changing their game....Your roster is coming up short homey.

I write these things becasue I see the glaring inequalities in relationsihps. Instead of them being a balanced equation or folks adapting and changing. Gen Y does need a shock to the system and worry a lot less about self and more about the whole.

4 months ago

in Product Review: Herbal Essence Hello Hydration on The P.O.S.H. Life
Ms D:

I tried Cantu....it was alright but I am not in love with it.

As for Hello Hydration, we are on condition wash 5 and I have NEVER received so many compliments on my hair as I have in the last two weeks!!! And, it is cheap!!

This product is the truth ladies! Next blog is on what I did after washing (for the natural ladies)

4 months ago

in Product Review: Herbal Essence Hello Hydration on The P.O.S.H. Life
Hey Girl,

The one you actually want looks just like the picture and is specifically called Hello Hydration. I have never tried the other versions but have heard they do not include ingredients that work with natural hair. If you do try them let me know how they work!
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