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Re: What’s sacred to you?

Alison — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 04:36:26 -0000

Silence. Chaotic atmospheres, noise, chatter, tangents, distractions, to-do-lists... everything in the world is too fast-paced and noisy. I need silent moments, free from anxiety and chatter. There's nothing like a moment alone, by myself, when I'm right there in the moment and not thinking or feeling about something else.

Re: What’s your favorite eco-friendly habit?

Alison — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 20:07:41 -0000

Another one for the Mooncup! Its stellar. It doesn't smell. You don't have to throw anything away. Its clean, environmentally sound, comfortable and I find that I have fewer cramps when I wear it! Its so much less of a hassle. I love it.

Re: What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever given or received?

Alison — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 20:16:02 -0000

Oh, wow.

Re: When do you hide?

Alison — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 19:56:37 -0000

When I feel threatened. It happens more often than it should, I'm afraid. I'm naturally the kind of person other people see as "scary", before I even open my mouth. Ironically, I find this idea very disturbing, and I've long developed a habit of behaving bubbly, which doesn't really fit me.

Re: When do you hide?

Alison — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 00:03:13 -0000

Thankyou very much! I'll go book hunting very soon. I appreciate the recommendation, it sounds like a good fit.

Re: Who in your life do you admire… and why?

Alison — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 01:07:15 -0000

My cousin. He draws, and draws, and draws. I'm not kidding. He'll pull out his sketchbook wherever he goes and just draw without hesitating, its invigorating.

Re: In terms of celebrities, whose fashion sense do you admire?

Alison — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 01:16:52 -0000

I agree!

Re: How do you define waste?

Alison — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 01:19:34 -0000

Finger-on-the-pulse trendiness. This is in for the next five minutes, then its going to be....

Re: When are you your best self?

Alison — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 01:23:52 -0000

Gorgeous. I'm with you on that one. My puppy is silly, and he brings out the best in me.

Re: It’s the Thought that Counts!

Alison — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 02:56:38 -0000

If it were me, I'd buy one of my closest friends a gorgeous, romantic red formal dress: Its got a full skirt, like a ballgown, and a corset top, and its all in red satin. My friend gasped aloud when she saw it. Her favourite flowers are roses, and this dress practically embodies a red rose. I'd love for her to be able to wear it, and I know she would too! (She's a Nostalgic, for sure.)

Re: The Goddess Experiment, Day 20: We Are Stars

Alison — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 02:57:24 -0000

Wow. Oh... wow.

Re: What adventure are you craving (or planning for)?

Alison — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 03:51:46 -0000

I'm crazy about the idea of going to Japan, hopping into a kimono and standing under an oiled paper umbrella in a Hanamachi district. Just thinking about it puts me on Cloud Nine.

Re: What’s the best work you’ve ever done?

Alison — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 20:57:32 -0000

I'm with Danielle, who put it so beautifully. I think my best work is yet to come.

Re: If you suddenly inherited $10,000, what would you do with it?

Alison — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 03:36:41 -0000

I'm boring. I'd put most of it in a savings account, too!

Re: What do you find sexy?

Alison — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 20:38:55 -0000

Gentleness, loyalty, sincerity, closeness. Consideration. When a man's not afraid of his feelings. Understated intelligence. People who listen. Chivalry. Respect. Men who don't react aggressively. Devotion, knowing or heartfelt smiles, intense gazes. I don't know why, but when someone gazes intensely at something, or looks for something and their eyes are more focused, its amazingly sexy.

Closeness, closeness, closeness. When someone really knows their partner, that's sexy.

Re: What do you find sexy?

Alison — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 00:02:37 -0000

Miaoww! Having lovely, gorgeous, sensitive things written about you is definitely, definitely sexy.

Re: What do you find sexy?

Alison — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 00:18:03 -0000

That's lovely! I love hearing about happy marriages, committed relationships have so much more appeal to me, and hearing comments like these is amazing.

Re: What is your favorite fiction book?

Alison — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 20:27:36 -0000

Artemis Fowl. Its technically a Children's/Young Adults Book, but that's all the better. It really gets to the heart of things, not to mention the adventure, character banter, wonderful diverse relationships and Colfer's quirky sense of humor! I just love it.

Re: What do you find sexy?

Alison — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 20:30:35 -0000

This really has been fun. I love the fact that there are SO many responses to this question...

Re: What is something completely luxurious that you dream of owning?

Alison — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 19:29:52 -0000

Another Cultivated! Hello there! Your response and Style Statement are made for each other.

Re: What is something completely luxurious that you dream of owning?

Alison — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 19:48:17 -0000

Ohh, do get a Style Statement! I'm sure it'll be a great money saving device in return.

Re: What is something completely luxurious that you dream of owning?

Alison — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 02:01:23 -0000

I'd LOVE to get myself a Yosh signature perfume! She sounds absolutely amazing, and I love the idea of having a scent that's... just right.

Re: What is something completely luxurious that you dream of owning?

Alison — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 02:08:25 -0000

A cashmere sweater would be lovely! In a deep, rich, royal blue. I wouldn't say no to a Rainforest, either. I have some wild, rich fantasy about being the lady of a forest. The forest is MINE, and nobody can cut it down! Muahahahaa...

Re: What is something completely luxurious that you dream of owning?

Alison — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 02:11:02 -0000

Ohhh... I can practically feel it. Divine.

Re: What are you excited about right now?

Alison — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 19:45:33 -0000

Wow, thankyou, Carrie! Hello from Australia! Q&A always brightens up my mornings...

Re: What are you excited about right now?

Alison — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 19:46:20 -0000

I'm excited, and nervous, about recovering from long term chronic illness. I can finally get back to study and rebuild my life! Things are looking up.

Re: What are you excited about right now?

Alison — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 21:27:25 -0000

I just want to say that I'm really excited and hopeful that I'll get to meet some other women with Style Statements! Who woulda thought there would be so many Cultivateds out there?

Re: What are you excited about right now?

Alison — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 21:29:07 -0000

Would you share your Style Statement with us? It sounds grand!

Re: What are you excited about right now?

Alison — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 21:31:22 -0000

Oh, WOW! Make sure you let us know how it goes!

Re: What are you excited about right now?

Alison — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 21:32:28 -0000

Me too! I'm still working on my Second Word...

Re: What are you excited about right now?

Alison — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 00:41:49 -0000

I'm really feeling the arrival of Spring, its wonderful... the bees are humming, the days are warm and sunny, flowers are blooming, and mangoes are back! Yum!

Re: What are you excited about right now?

Alison — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 00:44:50 -0000

I really like that. Making your art personal is a sure way to give it depth and make it interesting.

Re: How do your actions manifest, and contradict, your beliefs?

Alison — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 22:41:22 -0000

Beautiful. People attempt to be far too black and white when it comes to self-definition. Trying to see yourself as something simple that always behaves in the same way just doesn't work. Its lovely to see such beautiful things taken into account in Style Statement. Its freedom.

Re: How do your actions manifest, and contradict, your beliefs?

Alison — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 00:01:38 -0000

I'm rather contradictory in the way I both speak up (loudly) and keep silent. People are often surprised when I withhold my opinion and let people get away with things, or stand up for something I'm passionate about. I suppose people like to believe that you're either one way or the other.

Re: What do you know the most about?

Alison — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 22:03:24 -0000

I know a lot about Japanese art, artists, courtesans, legends and customs. That, and Eastern Medicine. Skin. Japanese names.

Re: What do you know the most about?

Alison — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 22:07:07 -0000

I'm with you there. Being close to people in a meaningful way has always been something I've aspired to.

Re: What do you know the most about?

Alison — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 23:02:48 -0000

Congratulations, Gracious Bold. Your Style Statement is wonderful.

Re: What do you know the most about?

Alison — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 23:04:00 -0000

Spelling! Its so important that I forgot to mention it. That's a big one.

Re: What do you know the most about?

Alison — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 23:16:12 -0000

That's wonderful! The book is absolutely fabulous, and I know you're going to have a real adventure reading it. Make sure you let us know what you find your Style Statement to be.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Alison — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 00:50:17 -0000

I tend to go straight to it. The minute I start to overthink, I lose focus. My intuition is generally the first thing that speaks. It speaks gently but firmly, and doesn't force me to listen. I don't writhe, or flit until I'm off in the maze of my own second guessing.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Alison — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:00:15 -0000

Zen sparks? How gorgeous!

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Alison — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:01:38 -0000

Feminine Creative and Genuine Spirited? You sound like an amazing pair of friends! That's magnificent. It must've been a memorable evening.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Alison — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:03:17 -0000

This reminds me of a conversation I remember occurring on Q&A about how your heart can still skip a beat after years of marriage. Being in tune is so very important.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Alison — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:04:48 -0000

Oh, Keiko, that's SO true! Often the biggest, most personally "scary" choice is the best one. Not necessarily stupid, but amazing and frightening in the sense that it puts your soul right out there. Very Style Statement.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Alison — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:05:56 -0000

Jennifer, are you a Bold? You've really got a brilliant way of getting to the point.

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

Alison — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 22:09:33 -0000

That's beautiful. I'm tempted to hear what you've gathered about other starsigns...

Re: What do you find beautiful about your body?

Alison — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 19:33:54 -0000

Its funny, but my surname translates as meaning "Tall, lofty". My Grandmother remarried to a man whose name is translated to mean the highest point on a mountain. He's unusually tall, especially considering his racial background. So are my relatives. I'm tall, too. Its a wonderful coincidence, really.

Re: What do you find beautiful about your body?

Alison — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 19:42:41 -0000

As a feminine, I always wanted to look... well, feminine. I used to see girls with delicate figures and features and soft, fine, smooth hair and wish that I had that pixie look. I remember seeing soft wavy hair and wishing my hair could look like that. I felt so big and clumsy in comparison. Tall, with thick, wiry black hair and strong features. Big lips, a button nose, a wide face and height. Olive skin. I felt like a giant compared to those girls. I was never delicate. I'm starting to realise that, as pretty as my pixie friends are, I'm a woman. Standing tall and strong can be as woman as any petite frame. I'm a tall girl, and it suits me. My thick black hair suits me. I wouldn't want another person's body. It'd just lie about me.

Re: What do you find beautiful about your body?

Alison — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 19:44:32 -0000

I adore movement. Its one of the greatest joys of having a body!

Re: How have you changed?

Alison — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 19:59:51 -0000

I love this. I remember so many times as a little girl having people not listen to me or just put in an automatic response because they didn't think a little girl would have something to say. I see little kids, and they understand a lot that adults are forgetting.

Re: What's on your must-have list for fall fashion? boots - Petit Bateau - Foley and Corrina - vintage - Luchesse cowboy boots - wide leg jeans | Carrie and Danielle

Alison — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 20:32:12 -0000

CUTE!

Re: What's on your must-have list for fall fashion? boots - Petit Bateau - Foley and Corrina - vintage - Luchesse cowboy boots - wide leg jeans | Carrie and Danielle

Alison — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 20:36:59 -0000

T_T Did I just find my wardrobe twin?

Re: What's on your must-have list for fall fashion? boots - Petit Bateau - Foley and Corrina - vintage - Luchesse cowboy boots - wide leg jeans | Carrie and Danielle

Alison — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 20:38:38 -0000

That DRESS! It sounds divine. You simply must get it.

Re: Guy Kawasaki asks: If you could eliminate one activity from your day, what would it be?

Alison — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 02:23:17 -0000

If it were me, I wouldn't eliminate any activities: Just the time I spent aimlessly. I know that there over 12 waking hours in the day, but I honestly don't know what I spend them on! I think wasted time can go. I can't believe how an hour can go by without my doing anything at all, not even relaxing!

Re: Hip Grandmama: Carrie’s “You Look Great!” Fashion Tips

Alison — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 03:15:21 -0000

I LOVE her! Please tell me she's joining us! I'm a Cherished myself, and it would be nice to have Patsy, the iconic Cherished from the Style Statement book online...

Re: Guy Kawasaki asks: If you could eliminate one activity from your day, what would it be?

Alison — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 21:40:48 -0000

I'm with you. I'd love to be rid of mine, too.

Re: 10, 9, 8… and LAUNCHED! Welcome to our new site!

Alison — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 00:44:24 -0000

Looking good, ladies! I love having a personal introduction like this. Its so warm and fuzzy. I'm really happy to see so much of you two, as well as the wonderful women you've featured, in your book and profiles! Its like meeting a celebrity. No, better.

Re: What is your favourite form of courtesy that you like to practice?

Alison — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 03:50:58 -0000

I'm with Danielle. Telling people they look fabulous when they do is a wonderful way to spread the love. I've found that it brings out a person's character in some really surprising ways. I once told a lady I adored her frames: They were ornate and gold, and I couldn't stop glancing at them, and the way they were shining at me. I told her that I loved them, and she looked flattered for a moment before saying. "Thankyou! At first I thought them too expensive, but bah, I adoooored them too much!" Oh, fabulous shop stranger. If only I knew what your Style Statement was!

Re: Shake on it: Our Fathers’ Rules For Good Conduct

Alison — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 19:35:44 -0000

That's adorable! Really, really, super cute!

Re: What is your favourite form of courtesy that you like to practice?

Alison — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 19:38:31 -0000

Is he single!?

Re: What is your favourite form of courtesy that you like to practice?

Alison — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 19:41:53 -0000

Words aside, I think the best thankyous and your welcomes are given very consciously and seriously. Its nice to see a warm look on a person's face, like they really care! If you can tell it matters by the way they're saying it, its wonderful. It shouldn't be done like a passing comment, not when you really mean it.

Re: What is your favourite form of courtesy that you like to practice?

Alison — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 19:43:35 -0000

That's lovely. Many people are often quite abandoned when they're grieving, which usually is just not what they need. Being around to assist takes strength, but what you're giving is the best kind of support. The kind that is really, truly, needed, and not often given.

Re: What is your favourite form of courtesy that you like to practice?

Alison — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 19:45:45 -0000

I love doing this. I adore giving gifts, especially precious little ones. Thoughtful and personalized or hand made things are the best.

Re: What is your favourite form of courtesy that you like to practice?

Alison — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 19:50:27 -0000

So true. I hate letting that chance go by when they really ARE fabulous. Its like, who else is going to tell them right now!? Argh!

Re: What is your favourite form of courtesy that you like to practice?

Alison — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 19:52:56 -0000

Don't be. Your heart's alliance is more important than theirs. I know that everyone on here appreciates the art of chivalry.

Re: What is your favourite form of courtesy that you like to practice?

Alison — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 19:55:22 -0000

Its important to remember to treat the people close to us with respect. Its often forgotten in the face of habit and comfort, but its true, we do need kindness and consideration. Being kind and considerate of each other behind closed doors is probably the purest form of kindness. Continuing to treat each other in such a way, well, it makes it more special.

Re: What is your favourite form of courtesy that you like to practice?

Alison — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 19:56:29 -0000

Its too bad that most people automatically say "Good, thanks!". Like its a pretend conversation.

Re: What expert help or advice would you like?

Alison — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 03:40:17 -0000

I'd adore someone wise, canny, smart, nurturing and inspiring to be my mentor. I'd just like things that way. Someone older, wiser and more experienced to give me advice, have discussions with. Communication. It makes me wish I still had my Grandfather or Great-great Uncle around. I want an expert at life.

Re: Documenting Life: Simple Tips For Taking Better Photographs

Alison — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 20:53:45 -0000

I was looking for something like this! Suddenly, it appears. Thankyou.

Re: What expert help or advice would you like?

Alison — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:04:56 -0000

Ah, Ayurvedic medicine. So holistic, pure and ancient. I adore it. Medicine that's based on the way the body is and maintaining balance is so wonderful.

Re: Journey to Creative Joy: A Style Statement story

Alison — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:06:14 -0000

I've seen this! You can see her creative fire radiating from that set she made.

Re: Style Statement: a treat for the senses

Alison — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 02:33:54 -0000

Sensual... Artist. And just look at her job! That's just wonderful, how well things can fit a person. How well my Style Statement fits me.

Re: C&D’s Letter to Oprah

Alison — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 02:42:42 -0000

Whether you two get featured on Oprah sooner or later, you've certainly changed my life for the better. Be proud of yourselves, C&D, what you've done is given self-expression clarity. So beautiful.

Re: Carrie and Danielle on Studio 4 with Fanny Kiefer

Alison — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 02:57:59 -0000

Oh, wow! The book! My book! And the beeaaautiful people in it. Wonderful.

Re: What expert help or advice would you like?

Alison — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 03:00:48 -0000

Ohh, Jennifer, you crack me up! Your pragmatism is so pure its outrageous!

Re: What do you collect?

Alison — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 03:08:37 -0000

Style Statement answers. Though my answers to those sacred questions change, they always seem to fit my Style Statement.

Pens, such as calligraphy nibs and felt tip pens. I adore fine, flowing, gorgeous handwriting and rich, stark black ink on paper: The movement and variation in strokes. I'd love to take up Chinese Calligraphy. I also have a lot of notebooks, as writing is vital to me.

I also collect oriental items. They're beautiful and help me connect to my heritage. The legendary beauties have black hair and brown eyes. They look like me, and they're nothing like Western icons. Even the mountains in China and Japan are shaped differently. They just speak to me.

I'm also building up cards, writing paper, envelopes and craft items, because hand-written notes are just wonderful.

Re: Click to Give: The $80,000 Squidoo Charity Giveaway

Alison — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 03:29:15 -0000

I went for the Inner City Scholarship Program. Education is important, and for many kids, school can be of great importance: The difference between having your talents recognized and sent soaring and going nowhere. I've struggled due to exceptional circumstances and little money with my own High School Education, and so, I truly understand the importance of giving kids a shot.

Carrie and Danielle, have you heard of these Daily Click websites? You click once daily under each tab, and a small donation is made thanks to the sponsors.

http://www.therainforestsite.com/clickToGive/ho...

It all adds up, and all for good causes.

Re: Mistakes vs. Learning

Alison — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 03:37:38 -0000

I of all people understand how absolutely vital "Giving yourself the permission to fail" is. Because when you do, you need to heal. You need to move on. You can't make your life a disaster based on something every human goes through. Its true, humans aren't perfect, and we have to make mistakes. Holding onto them is devastating, destructive, unhealthy. Not to mention the fact that it can impact your relationships if you base your self-esteem upon always succeeding.

That said, amazingly enough, I did stop crawling and start walking. I was careful, careful, careful and held onto things, figured things out properly, and actually walked late to avoid hurting myself. I was a strange baby.

Re: What do you collect?

Alison — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 03:43:16 -0000

Crema Gelati! Oh, bliss!

Re: Street Hello Love: Please, Join Me In a Revolution People!

Alison — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 00:52:17 -0000

I really am all for street love, or at least eye contact. Its funny how people develop an almost scared blank stare, not looking at any faces in crowds... of other human beings. I think I was born with street love, because I used to say a great big enthusiastic hello to people when I was out with my Mother in public as a little girl.

Re: Patricia Larsen: Goddess of Personal Style

Alison — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 21:11:42 -0000

Wow. She's really beautiful...

Re: Patti Digh asks: What would you be doing today if you only had 37 days to live?

Alison — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 21:15:44 -0000

You'd look beautiful. I know it.

Re: Patti Digh asks: What would you be doing today if you only had 37 days to live?

Alison — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 21:22:31 -0000

Someone wonderful once said to me that in life, your reasons are important. If you make a decision because its safe, because you're obligated to, because you lack faith in others or in general, or because you're hiding yourself from the world, ultimately, its not a truly good decision.

Re: Patti Digh asks: What would you be doing today if you only had 37 days to live?

Alison — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 21:35:49 -0000

You always get me smiling, Danielle! Viva Dramatic.

Re: Patti Digh asks: What would you be doing today if you only had 37 days to live?

Alison — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 21:37:38 -0000

That letter idea is so wonderful. If its going to happen, leave something beautiful, meaningful behind. My Mother got a letter like this one when she was little, and as painful as it was, its the most special letter she could ever receive. She still treasures those words. You can be sure they will listen.

Re: Patti Digh asks: What would you be doing today if you only had 37 days to live?

Alison — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 21:40:56 -0000

Count me in. I'm scared, but that is why I have to do it.

Re: Patti Digh asks: What would you be doing today if you only had 37 days to live?

Alison — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 23:14:08 -0000

A FORUM TOPIC! Yes, that sounds like a brilliant idea. I'd love for everyone to share what they did, how they did it. Breathe inspiration.

Re: Patti Digh asks: What would you be doing today if you only had 37 days to live?

Alison — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 23:22:24 -0000

I'm glad to have met you here, Jennifer. I'll do my best and start writing. I already know exactly who I need to reach out to. Thankyou.

Re: Patti Digh asks: What would you be doing today if you only had 37 days to live?

Alison — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 01:36:14 -0000

I don't know what I'd do. Its strange to think about, I'm not sure how people would react. I think its something that you'd only truly know once it had happened.

One thing is for sure, though. There's a bluebird in my heart, and for my last days, I'd want to let it out, and let it sing as much as it wanted. My soul is quite delicate, and so it does get locked away, but not this time. I'd have to forgive and forget everything that I don't want to carry with me for my final days and in the next life. I'd probably be cleansed and in tears. Still, the next 37 days I'm going to spend as though they're the last. People may not treat me in the same way, but I'm interested to see what choices I'll make and how much braver I'll become. Its only been a few hours and my life, it seems, is different.

Re: Play Dates: Mommy Cards Made For You

Alison — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 01:39:44 -0000

Keiko, dear girl, please tell me your Style Statement! Everything you put here is so gentle and full of heart...

Re: Destiny Gems: 5 Ways to Research Yourself

Alison — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 01:41:06 -0000

My parents chose my name because it sounded soft and loyal. What a thing to say. A born Genteel. I won't forget those words.

Re: Patti Digh asks: What would you be doing today if you only had 37 days to live?

Alison — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 02:09:05 -0000

Please make that Documentary, Carrie. What a beautiful thing to create.

Re: You Smell Good: Is sniffing an act of adultery?

Alison — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 06:26:06 -0000

A man... that smells... like books. Oh, heaven.

Re: What immediately comes to mind when you say the word, bliss?

Alison — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 02:08:07 -0000

No visions, just yearning. And a tiny bit of peace.

Re: Tsh Oxenreider asks: In what way are you delightfully conventional?

Alison — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 22:39:43 -0000

Monogamy is of absolute importance! I can't stress this enough.

That aside, I like to keep things pure and simple, and enjoy traditional celebrations. Old-fashioned Christmas with a Christmas tree and fairy lights and a fireplace and cold weather.. eggnog, spice. I love birthday cake covered with candles, and I wish more people had such a pretty thing as a home made cake for their birthday. I'm very traditional about marriage and pairing up for life. I take the concept of marriage vows very seriously. I've always aspired to having a fulfilling and lifelong marriage.

Oh! And good old-fashioned romance. Flowers. Being carried, being taken care of, consideration, thoughtfulness. I simply must find myself a gentleman. Chivalry, daring, morality... A base in all that is good and pure. Gentleness. Books. Education!

Re: In this very moment, what are you grateful for? (In no particular order of thanks…)

Alison — Sat, 11 Oct 2008 00:12:26 -0000

Call me ungrateful, but I'll be grateful when this week is finally over and I recover from my procedure. It is most a most ungraceful thing to be purged and then sedated, and I'm trying very hard not to let it upset me. If anything, I'm grateful for this list and hearing all the nice things I may have to look forward to and the nice things happening in everyone's lives.

Re: In this very moment, what are you grateful for? (In no particular order of thanks…)

Alison — Sat, 11 Oct 2008 22:42:08 -0000

I want your job! That sounds wonderful.

Re: In this very moment, what are you grateful for? (In no particular order of thanks…)

Alison — Sat, 11 Oct 2008 22:42:40 -0000

Another Autumn lover. C'est magnifique.

Re: What do you secretly desire?

Alison — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 21:05:20 -0000

Oh, wow...

Re: Go Cheap or Go Lux?: 6 Tips for Cosmetic Dollars & Sense

Alison — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 21:12:44 -0000

Vitamin C in face creams isn't usually effective. Unfortunately, most moisturisers tend to use types of vitamin C that simply evaporate upon application. Deceptive and unfortunate. In order to be rid of free radicals IN the skin, the Vitamin C has to be a stabilized version that's built to penetrate the skin's outer layer. The latest version of Vitamin C built for face creams is Ascorbyl Tetraisopalmitate.

Re: Weezie Fitzhugh: Sophisticated Harmony

Alison — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 00:50:27 -0000

The famous Weezie. As mentioned on TV. You're wonderful, like all of the Style Statements interviewed so far. Its amazing how something like this brings together so many different types of fabulous. Age, race, culture, taste... there's variety in everything.

Re: What’s the best “how to dress right” tip that you know?

Alison — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 21:46:22 -0000

Your wardrobe should be making you look good, not the fashion.

Re: Weezie Fitzhugh: Sophisticated Harmony

Alison — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 21:49:44 -0000

Oh! I just remember an interview I watched where Carrie and Danielle were talking about you...

Here it is! http://www.vimeo.com/966834 I remember it making me feel really warm and fuzzy, knowing that the girls I'd met online had been talked about by Carrie and Danielle themselves!

Re: Weezie Fitzhugh: Sophisticated Harmony

Alison — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 21:50:14 -0000

No, wait, sorry, that wasn't it!

Here it is: http://www.vimeo.com/990454

Re: Eyebrow Threading: A Natural and Affordable Beauty Tip

Alison — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 22:03:13 -0000

I've never heard of this! But I'm going to try it. I love the idea of having perfect eyebrows... And yours are looking lovely!

Re: Saving money feeds my soul.

Alison — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 22:06:30 -0000

I love my brand of organic milk that I buy here in Australia... It just tastes so much better.

Re: Saving money feeds my soul.

Alison — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 22:07:38 -0000

Its so strange, I find this to be true, too! Whenever I buy non-organic, I find myself throwing out off milk. Such a waste. But my organic brand seems to last so well..

Re: What’s the best “how to dress right” tip that you know?

Alison — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 22:11:03 -0000

Egads, and wouldn't it be lovely to see well-groomed people in your work space? Beauty spreads happiness, people! An office filled with bad dressers sounds like a terribly bland working environment.

Re: What’s the best “how to dress right” tip that you know?

Alison — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 22:14:31 -0000

So true. There's no point in fabulous shoes if they make the woman herself look bad. Its amazing how women tend to misdirect their energy, attempting to make the clothes look fabulous instead of themselves.

Re: Black = Blah: Is that the message we want to send to the world?

Alison — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 19:57:25 -0000

Oh, blue. How wonderful you are...

Re: Guidance for “Composed”

Alison — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 19:57:44 -0000

I want to marry a Composed! Miaow!

Re: What kind of friend are you?

Alison — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 01:59:32 -0000

I'm the kind of friend who is supportive, loyal, self-sacrificing and honest. I tell stories, use metaphors, and quote lines that I like. I also carry secrets with me to the grave, something I've done for a very long time.

Re: What kind of friend are you?

Alison — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 02:00:39 -0000

No poetry, just a smile. What you wrote is really beautiful.

Re: Aleca McKenna: Creative Natural

Alison — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 02:02:20 -0000

You have a really pretty face, Aleca! Lovely eyes.

Re: What guests would YOU like on the Daily Q&A?

Alison — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 02:03:35 -0000

Its childish of me, but I love Eoin Colfer! He's a wonderful author with such a quirky mind. I'd love to see what he comes up with. Probably something just sparkling...

Re: What kind of friend are you?

Alison — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 02:38:30 -0000

You sound like you'd attract good friends, you're a great one yourself. The truth is something all people need to face, as much as many don't wish to.

Re: What guests would YOU like on the Daily Q&A?

Alison — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 01:31:48 -0000

Oh! Caroline Meiss. She's a character and a diamond, if you can get your hands on her!

Re: Tattoos, For Real: 8 Things To Know About Getting Inked

Alison — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 22:28:21 -0000

Please, NeXuS, be nice. Everyone I know who has a tattoo says that the process was painful. Danielle is just sharing as someone experienced in the matter, since a lot of people ask whether or not it will hurt when they get inked. At least this way, they won't get a mean shock if it does.

Re: Tattoos, For Real: 8 Things To Know About Getting Inked

Alison — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 22:29:34 -0000

I don't know about Canada, but I do know that people with tattoos aren't eligible to give blood here in Australia. I suppose the law varies from place to place...

Re: Know Your Flower Power: A Meditation For Blossoming

Alison — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 22:42:37 -0000

Its true, isn't it? Amazing.

Re: What is your favorite flower? (And, are you curious as to why we’re asking?)

Alison — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 22:42:58 -0000

I like roses (particularly in bunches), irises (the stems are so elegant, and the flower is lovely) and flowers on jewelery and in art (I have the prettiest crystal cherry blossom ring..). I love the use of flowers in Japanese culture, always in association with their own seasons. Blossoms are a favourite: the lovely dark branches, few leaves and glowing flower, like carved light..

Re: What is your favorite flower? (And, are you curious as to why we’re asking?)

Alison — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 22:44:44 -0000

I found a page that mentions them both! Just for a bit of fun...

http://www.care2.com/greenliving/favorite-flowe...

Violet: Sensitive, private, and complex, this type may take a little time to get to know, but she is definitely worth it! Her style tends to be understated but tastefully and quietly elegant. Choose subtle colors and soft fabrics that feel good against your skin. Image: A secret garden at sunset; at the foot of the mossy brick wall, small flowers bloom.

Iris: Meditative and with a deep sense of spirituality, this type often prefers simple, cool-colored clothes that move well, and that impart a sense of ease and serenity. Image: A still pool reflects the misty dawn light; a heron stands quietly nearby.

Re: What is your favorite flower? (And, are you curious as to why we’re asking?)

Alison — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 22:45:40 -0000

Blossoms and ballet.... I could float away, pure happiness!

Re: What is your favorite flower? (And, are you curious as to why we’re asking?)

Alison — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 22:48:06 -0000

I admire your taste, water lilies and lotus blossoms are just beautiful! And your description is really very strong and heartfelt.

Re: Know Your Flower Power: A Meditation For Blossoming

Alison — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 22:49:02 -0000

This reminds me! Its said that the things you love are what you identify with as a person. I think Style Statement proves that to be true....

Re: What guests would YOU like on the Daily Q&A?

Alison — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 22:50:03 -0000

Angelina. How brilliant.

Re: Are You Green Enough to Go Gray? The dangers of hair dye and some natural alternatives

Alison — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 19:36:48 -0000

I've heard that Daddy-O by Lush is a good one for greys and blondes...

Re: Learning from Teaching: It’s Not About Me

Alison — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 19:39:37 -0000

I wish more people, myself included, took this wisdom to heart. A lot of people believe me to be unpleasant before I open my mouth. Apparently it runs in the family. For some reason, we look fierce by default. Even moreso when we're concentrating.

Re: What is your current, of-the-moment obsession?

Alison — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 20:45:50 -0000

The concept of beauty, femininity... and perfume. I'm determined to find my own signature scent.

Re: Lucia Frangione asks: What glass ceiling do you want to shatter?

Alison — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 18:23:04 -0000

Everybody seems to have something to say on what a glass ceiling is or isn't, and how they relate to it. Difficult greater goals seem to be the norm here. I don't know about you, but I'd like to see more of this. It seems to show real honor and strength of integrity in my eyes.

Re: Muji Magic. Simple designs and affordable prices.

Alison — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 20:30:52 -0000

This site, its beautiful. Everything is so pure.... and Elegant....

Not to mention the fact that they sell double ended pens!

Re: Paula Begoun: Crusador for the holy grail of skincare: Book Review

Alison — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 20:39:17 -0000

Ah... the Cosmetics Cop. She can be a bit cruel towards certain beneficial ingredients, writing them off as perfumes. However, I must be happy that somebody is putting the ingredients in cosmetics under some scrutiny.. There seems to be a massive lack of awareness when it comes to the way skin works, and the way ingredients in products used on your skin works. I'd love to shed some light on such matters myself. People don't seem to realize the importance of your body's largest organ, and seem to make little to no connection between the health of your skin and their own health.

Re: Sensitive Souls. Living as a Highly Sensitive Person

Alison — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 20:49:11 -0000

Ah, I adore this! Of all the people to interview, I'm admiring of the fact that she chose you, and what a find!

Re: Tsh Oxenreider asks: In what way are you delightfully conventional?

Alison — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 01:53:24 -0000

I've had to refrain from proposing to a number of men on this site...

Re: What would you do if you weren’t afraid

Alison — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 21:19:59 -0000

Shine.

Re: What do you do to make yourself present in the moment?

Alison — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 17:56:10 -0000

I've found that yesterday's question gets me present in the moment. "What would you do if you weren't afraid?" That lights a fire in my belly. When I think about it, I feel warm and determined, like I know exactly where to go. Fear can go away for good if that's a glance at my life without it.

Re: Confessions of an Imperfect Man (Just Ask My Wife!)

Alison — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 18:32:19 -0000

*giggles*

Re: How do you define good leadership?

Alison — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 18:35:12 -0000

Its said that good leaders don't flock. You find them, one by one.

Re: How do you define your self worth?

Alison — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 19:01:05 -0000

It's terrible, isn't it? Having to go through something so completely beyond your control, and feeling as though people just aren't doing things based on their love for you, but something else entirely. Harder still is forgiving, and learning that you're now responsible for your own happiness, and even your angered reactions to childhood neglect.

I'm happy. I'm glad that someone else has overcome something quite similar to what I myself have been through. And I'm glad that you're taking care of yourself. Your lesson is powerful, wonderful, and I'm sure it has made all the difference.

Re: How do you define your self worth?

Alison — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 19:08:04 -0000

I'm like Carrie. Part of me is simply happy to shine and be myself. Generous, respectful and always actively trying to do things well. But another part questions my intentions, and clings to perfection, which creates anxiety. I sometimes wonder if I'm generous to make people like me, or respectful to hide my true feelings. It makes me uneasy, and I always feel out of whack when I start thinking like this. It just makes everything seem so empty.

Re: What’s a Jewel of Wisdom You’ve Received From a Child?

Alison — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 00:27:01 -0000

There was a gorgeous little boy visiting a house that I was staying at. He was just adorable! I wanted to make a good impression, so I went up to say hello. "Hi!" he said, and scampered off. It wasn't the most cheerful moment, but the way he did it made me jump and realize just how much he didn't need my approval, or feel obligated to have a conversation. How inspired.

Re: Style Statement for your career.

Alison — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 04:07:19 -0000

A fellow Elegant! Wonderful!

Re: This Weekend, How Are You Going to Play?

Alison — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 00:47:40 -0000

You're so lucky. I would love to have friends like that.

Re: This Weekend, How Are You Going to Play?

Alison — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 00:48:47 -0000

I adore Feist, and sushi. Your weekend sounds just divine.

Re: An Introduction to Ayurveda, Part One

Alison — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 22:14:06 -0000

AYURVEDA! My goodness, this is a topic I am quite passionate about. Its a wonderful tool for understanding others, and amazingly effective medicine when it comes to the way you live your life or perceive people. I'm 100% pure Vata, mentally, and physically. Movement, movement, movement, though I can become flighty and unreliable. I lack grounding under stress, and can sometimes disappear behind my frantic, racing thoughts and preoccupations.

www.thridosha.com has a wonderful self-test. You can generally tell a person's dominant doshas just by looking at them.

Re: What is your favorite cultural activity that doesn’t cost money?

Alison — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 22:17:52 -0000

Other people's weddings. Ha. Ha.

But in all seriousness, I have a habit of being invited to weddings that are of mixed backgrounds, usually Western meets Eastern. It's very interesting, and usually the speeches are repeated in 2 or 3 different languages, and the food... the introductions... the colors and other symbols... Are all very amazing. Not to mention what happens when you get the in-laws together.

Re: Be true to you.The gift of Style Statement.

Alison — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 22:19:00 -0000

A fellow Elegant! Come chat with us on the forum!

Mwah!

Re: Start Living Again: Weighing In - Part Two

Alison — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 22:04:36 -0000

I'm technically quite underweight, but I understand how this feels. Its often easy to wait for life to start while obsessing over perfection in one area. I've often done this, not wanting to face up to the fact that my purpose was to create the best life possible for myself. I was putting off my life, avoiding the speed at which my life would have to change if I did stop.

Re: Who were you in High School?

Alison — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 21:42:45 -0000

A sad girl, a hurt girl. I may have been many things to other people, but mostly, I was in pain. And terrified of living.

Re: What’s that one thing you are putting off that would contribute significantly to your well being?

Alison — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 22:24:33 -0000

Throwing myself right into my happiness. Letting go.

Finishing the manuscript that's been driving me crazy!

Re: How to Trust Your Intuition

Alison — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 23:02:08 -0000

Trusting your intuition, like all powerful things, is incredibly difficult. Difficult, mostly because its simply a gut feeling, and not a guarantee. Most people would like intuition to be (in the words of Caroline Meiss) "Knowing that if you go ahead and take this step, you won't lose any money and there'll be romance waiting for you on the other side."

If we all had that guarantee, there would be no faith involved, no risk, and probably no strength. That's why people who take these leaps of faith generally deserve to succeed. They're doing what a lot of people choose against in loyalty to their dreams.

Re: If you were an animal, what would you be?

Alison — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 21:40:11 -0000

Being an eagle can be a real burden. Being a bird of prey can weigh on your heart. I'm glad that you seem to have triumphed, Danielle. I've found Eagledom a real struggle at times. Its frustrating, and often, it feels like there's more expected of you. Not to mention the fact that we've got SHARP talons!

Re: If you were an animal, what would you be?

Alison — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 21:42:08 -0000

That's wonderful!

Re: If you were an animal, what would you be?

Alison — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 00:29:58 -0000

MoJo, if you have time, there's a video I'd like to share:

http://au.youtube.com/watch?v=zmBB69gfbEA

I think it says a lot about butterfly medicine, don't you?

Re: What four words describe you?

Alison — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 17:39:26 -0000

Devoted. Honest. Considerate. Searching.

Re: If you were an animal, what would you be?

Alison — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 18:25:12 -0000

I'm so glad you think so! Its my pleasure.

Re: Healthy Body, Healthy Mind… Healthy House? Tips on Detoxing Your Home

Alison — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 17:23:26 -0000

Wonderful! I'm loving the connection between a healthy home and a healthy body.

Re: Body Brushing: Give Bad Karma the Brush Off!

Alison — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 19:39:11 -0000

I dry-brush regularly too! I love it, there's something very satisfying about it, not to mention the fact that I know for a fact that it aids the lymphatic system - As a long-term sufferer of chronic illness, I can actually tell the difference it makes. Apparently brushing towards the heart stops you from going against the natural flow of your lymph, etc. You wouldn't want to work against your own body!

Re: Being a Skinny Bitch is Overrated (Upon Reading a Manifesto Inspiring Body Hate)

Alison — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 21:28:50 -0000

As a person branded with the Skinny Bitch title since her childhood, I can say that its very much overrated. Strangely, it seems that most people have a lot of regard for obese women's feelings, but little regard for a slender gal's. I've been called outright slutty based on appearance. I've been treated with resentment and have even been accused of having eating disorders despite being perfectly healthy. The snide comments, the unwanted attention... And little understanding or support, made for a very, very uncomfortable time with my body image.

People seem to think that if you're thin, you're living the dream. We have as many troubles as people with weight issues do. (I like the saying "Be kind, for everyone you meet is facing a hard battle." ) What a lot of body image campaigns, or women-based forums seem to lack is the ability to see beauty in all body types, not just their specific type. Why encourage more body angst? We should be encouraging health, not saying which dress sizes are right or wrong.

Re: What are you sensitive to?

Alison — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 21:32:10 -0000

A Virgo! We'd get along for sure. My sun sign's Capricorn, and we're known for our stubbornness and perfectionism. Wonderful.

You know, whenever I see a stupid typo or error like that, the people around me can actually sense my aggravation. My old High School English teacher actually turned around and said "What is it!?" when I couldn't rip my eyes from one of his errors.

Re: What are you sensitive to?

Alison — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 21:36:48 -0000

Noise, visual dissonance, pollution... Graffiti, prejudice, bullying, and just about anything crude, tacky or ugly.

Re: What have you done recently to make yourself feel proud?

Alison — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 23:05:23 -0000

I'm working on this. Its a nasty habit of mine not to feel pride at all.

Re: Who in your own life would you give the title of “Hostess With the Mostess”?

Alison — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 18:27:16 -0000

An Aunt of mine can cook. I know there are plenty of people out there who can cook an amazing meal on occasion, or do really wonderful roasts and what not, but somehow she can conjure up a several course meal for a hundred people at last minute's notice.

On a budget.

Re: What are you sensitive to?

Alison — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 22:15:45 -0000

I'm hugely sensitive to lying. I'm one of those people who just needs the truth at all times. I can tell when people hide things and it drives me insane. I always craved truth...

Re: How To Ensure Your Daughters Marry Sensitive Men

Alison — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 19:12:04 -0000

Ahahaha! Oh, that IS cute!

Re: Thoughtful Gift Giving for under Fifty Dollars

Alison — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 19:17:24 -0000

GASP. That PEN! Its gorgeous!

Re: What holiday gifts are you excited about giving this year?

Alison — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 22:10:46 -0000

Aww! Such a thoughtful and wonderful gift. I hope that he loves it!

Re: What holiday gifts are you excited about giving this year?

Alison — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 22:12:12 -0000

She'll love it. Its pure validation: so powerful.

Re: Nine Shortcuts to Shave Minutes Off Your Morning Beauty Routine

Alison — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 22:21:27 -0000

That's brilliant. It goes to show that conscious choice truly pays off. You may pay time and money for quality, short-term, but in the long-term, you look better, feel better, and likely end up spending less.

Re: Nine Shortcuts to Shave Minutes Off Your Morning Beauty Routine

Alison — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 22:56:19 -0000

There really are no shortcuts. Simply be conscious, take care of yourself, and spend time on yourself. You deserve it. That said, choosing effective and quality products costs you a lot less in the long term. I spent time and money on buying my cleanser and moisturiser, but now I don't have to replace them nearly as often.

That said, waxing my legs has saved me plenty of time shaving. And getting your eyebrows done professionally isn't that costly, and is usually a lot more effective and worth it.

Re: What do you love about being a woman (or what do you love about women)?

Alison — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 00:01:50 -0000

Too right. Its sad, it seems that many of us feel ashamed, even when we shouldn't.

Re: How do you make yourself open to others?

Alison — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 21:49:47 -0000

Argh! Good question. I need to think about this one... I'm terrible at this. I can't believe how these questions always seem to find me at a good time.

Re: How do you make yourself open to others?

Alison — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 21:53:37 -0000

Oh, my, ME TOO! I talk a lot more when I'm nervous. Its terrible how that works, isn't it? I say a lot of ridiculous things where there would otherwise be comfortable silence. I need to work on that.

Its strange, but just from reading this post, I feel as though we might have a lot in common, Bridget... I can be extremely judgmental and critical of others, but it usually comes from a state of self-criticism. Its like you know all my secrets!

Re: My Couples Therapist is in Love With My Husband

Alison — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 21:58:27 -0000

I'm not sure what to say. I've been trying to write a comment, but nothing seems to do what you wrote justice. You've got us in tears, Lucia, and I don't know how you manage to write like you do about something so close to your heart. I really admire you for it.

Re: How do you make yourself open to others?

Alison — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 22:00:57 -0000

This is the key to it all, I think. Self-doubt and self-criticism are at the core of my lack-luster communication. (Ouch.)

Re: Thoughtful Gift Giving for under Fifty Dollars

Alison — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 00:08:01 -0000

Oh! A good idea for those of us with Style Statements: Look up people's words on etsy. It works!

Re: What is the quirkiest thing in your home that you will never give away?

Alison — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 22:50:23 -0000

He IS cute! I was rather surprised myself!

Re: What Would You Say to Your 10 Year Old Self?

Alison — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 18:30:49 -0000

Wonderful.

Re: Uttanasana: Stretch Your Back and Calm Your Mind in Standing Forward Bend

Alison — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 21:19:59 -0000

Thanks for all these yoga poses, Lindsey. I've been attempting to do yoga at home to aid in my recovery from chronic illness. I was wondering... If asked you for recommendations, would you be able to give me an idea of what to do to aid my various problems? A lot of my internal organs are under quite a bit of strain...

Re: What are your best organizational tips?

Alison — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 18:45:18 -0000

That time share idea of yours is very practical! I think its a great idea: Not many people know where their time really goes.

Re: What are your best organizational tips?

Alison — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 01:24:54 -0000

Stake out the extremes. Being disorganized isn't great, but life actually gets more complicated when you pay too close attention and become obsessive.

Re: My Couples Therapist is in Love With My Husband

Alison — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 01:30:03 -0000

I'm honored, thankyou. I'm very happy to be part of both.

Re: The Less You Get The More You Appreciate Christmas

Alison — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 20:43:26 -0000

How could that possibly be considered stingy?! That's the amount any normal parent would buy for their children, surely...

Re: What would you like to change about the holiday season?

Alison — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 23:49:19 -0000

Exactly what I'd like to change about the world. People's minds.

Re: The Girl Parts: Rehabilitating the “V” Word

Alison — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 23:39:48 -0000

Its incredible, and somewhat sad, I think, that women have so much trouble talking about their own bodies. I'm a woman too, and its not like I don't understand what you're talking about when you're talking birth or menstruation. Its like we build the awkwardness by not being open with each other.

Re: Creating Space and Independence as a Parent

Alison — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 23:42:59 -0000

This rings a very personal chord for me. Not as a parent, but as a daughter. At the onset of my chronic illness, my Mother had to change jobs and stay home on weekends to keep me company. She had to be my physical aid every time I went out. I could tell that she felt guilty about having her own space and time to herself, but to be honest, I knew that she needed that, and wanted her to have a break. I wanted her to relax, because, admittedly, I felt guilty, too. Thankyou for this. Its nice to know that you're not alone, perhaps just isolated.

Re: What would you like to be a master of?

Alison — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 19:45:16 -0000

I'm always striving for excellence, mastery, and in all of the areas I'm interested in, I'm really quite ambitious (for lack of a better word!). Its difficult at times, so its nice to have a question that gives me a little refresher on what I actually want. Its not easy when the world is constantly telling me to do otherwise. Even people who care tell me to relax and stop aiming so high, that I don't need to do things the way that I do them. The truth is, I'm not happy unless I have a wonderful goal to strive towards, and diligence for me is just what I do.

I want to learn more and more about the universe: about science, art, music, dance and language. I'm not sure if one can actually master those things, but I'm aiming for it. I'd like to be a master of self-expression. More specific areas would be... waltz, or maybe even ballet, writing, learning and teaching, and costumes or traditional Japanese dress. Japanese culture and celebrations in general would be wonderful!

Re: What would you like to be a master of?

Alison — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 19:46:28 -0000

Oh, singing! That would be absolutely wonderful, to be able to sing confidently and beautifully. Add that to my list.

Re: A Style Statement Holiday: Gifts

Alison — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 21:17:31 -0000

You said it beautifully, frankly. It seems that we're a lot alike. I'd love to have a friend like you, I found your post so reassuring, it really spoke to me.

Call me shallow, dismissive and overly blunt, but I usually don't like to get gifts from people who don't really know me. Its not necessary for me to have a pile of presents this time of year. Perhaps something lovely from someone very close to me, but mostly, I like Christmas for the celebration: Communication, feasts, and connections. If I do get a gift, I want it to be special, and show how much a person knows and cares about me. It must be something I'll wear, use or treasure. Otherwise, its wasted on me. I like photographs and memories, so long as they're beautiful, stationery that reflects my style (Which will give me great joy!), and things that I'll find beautiful in general: Books, prints, photography... I'm very aesthetic! I also love symbolism, and metaphor. Documentaries, and all sources of inspiration.

Re: What would you like to be a master of?

Alison — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 21:55:52 -0000

Ah, and being able to speak beautifully would be wonderful, too.

Re: Furoshiki, an Environmentally Friendly Alternative to Wrapping Paper

Alison — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 22:05:19 -0000

Now this has true appeal for an Elegant. A beautiful solution to a problem, that probably looks even better than the more wasteful alternatives. I'm usually one for wrapping and presentation, so I'll definitely give this a try in future. Wonderful arguments, by the way. I'm really impressed with your articles thus far.

Re: What do you want to leave behind in order to start the New Year afresh?

Alison — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 22:18:09 -0000

You said it.

Re: What do you want to leave behind in order to start the New Year afresh?

Alison — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 22:18:50 -0000

My anger is almost the same age. May we both be successful in letting go this coming year.

Re: What do you want to leave behind in order to start the New Year afresh?

Alison — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 22:24:00 -0000

Ah... Fear, anger, illness and shame. All of them are roughly the same thing, really.

Re: What word describes your desire for 2009?

Alison — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 00:05:57 -0000

Spacious: Like the sky. Room to grow. Something on the horizon.

Re: What word describes your desire for 2009?

Alison — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 00:06:47 -0000

Hello, Genteel Provocative. Welcome! I love your Style Statement.

Re: What word describes your desire for 2009?

Alison — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 18:44:36 -0000

That's a beautiful word. True power comes from peace.

Re: Understand Your Sign Signs: Capricorn

Alison — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 18:56:40 -0000

Ah, yes. I'm a Capricorn, through and through.

Thankyou for this!

Re: What is a Completely Outrageous Thing You Want to do This Year?

Alison — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 18:34:26 -0000

Gah, that change sounds like so. much. fun!

Re: What is a Completely Outrageous Thing You Want to do This Year?

Alison — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 18:36:22 -0000

Change is scary, but its well worth it: Your family and life is developing, so it seems that its time to choose an environment that's better suited to both. You're seeing the signs: I think its wise to act upon them. I'm sure you'll become very happy and settled once you've updated your lifestyle to suit your needs!

Re: What is a Completely Outrageous Thing You Want to do This Year?

Alison — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 18:37:35 -0000

I admire you girls like nothing else.

Re: Learning To Rock What You’ve Got!

Alison — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 19:22:43 -0000

Thanks for this. It seems that women need to hear this, over and over again. It all comes from, it seems (for me at least), misconceptions about worth, success... and of course, fear. Some women invest so much stock in how little they weigh, that they believe that, if they can just be skinny/tanned/immaculate enough, that everything else will fall into place: That their insecurities will magically disappear. That Prince Charming will fall for them, or that they'll find motivation elsewhere in their lives. Wrong. The insecurity doesn't end there. You will find more to scrutinize and "what if" about. Best to work what you've got, and grow!

Very positive.

Re: Costuming For Life: Dressing Your Character

Alison — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 19:23:01 -0000

Oh, miaow! It seems that we have a very similar sense of style: I love it. The jacket sounds so unbelievably sexy.

Re: This Year, Choose to Honor Your Style Statement

Alison — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 19:33:15 -0000

Ohhh my. Honoring my Style Statement sure sounds like an adventure. I'm also part Creative, so I think I've got some work to do in that department. This is a tough, anxiety-ridden thing for me, as I've relied so much on my first word, that my second is something I have to reach out and break out to do. What growth! It sounds good.

I find even painting freaks me out: Its my Elegant side. I become so fixed on details that its hard to get the basics in shape, or to have freedom of expression without criticizing every little thing. It seems that I'm suffering from some serious inner conflict, here. Ah well. I've much to sort through, and getting out of my shell will do it. I'll work on my list and get back to you, Suzyn.

Love to my Creative sister. Its been nice having you around in this community.

Re: How Would You Like to be Cared For?

Alison — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 23:29:42 -0000

I so agree. That would be lovely.

Re: How Would You Like to be Cared For?

Alison — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 23:30:57 -0000

Nawww.

Re: How Would You Like to be Cared For?

Alison — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 23:32:31 -0000

Love notes, beautiful, thoughtful little things, books, and touching. Lots of nourishing conversation and tea, people smiling when they see me. Most of all, I want loyalty and people I enjoy, who listen! Treasures, kindness, affection, thoughtfulness, and smiling.

Re: What Does Your Little Voice Say?

Alison — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 01:00:06 -0000

The truly evil voice says that "All is empty. Your words are empty. Your thoughts, they're empty. You're just trying to act all real and profound. You just want their attention and awe. You're not really like that, and you know it, you ingenuine b*****. You should be doing better, trying harder, and you're just making these efforts to avoid doing any real work. They're all going to abandon you for something better."

She's amazingly mean, and I can't believe that I put up with her, even as a nine-year-old kid!

Re: Waiting for the Ring: Romantic or Anti-Feminist?

Alison — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 01:52:07 -0000

I wouldn't say no to a pendant! I think that's a bit presumptuous, assuming that they're at the stage where they wish to get married. I'm one for thinking it over before going into things: I'd probably wait a very, very long time and then some before I considered marrying someone. (Typical Capricorn, I know.) A lot would have to happen before I knew I wanted to spend my life with someone.

As for being proposed to.... I'm not actually involved, but I think if I were in a serious relationship and was considering marriage, a lot of discussion would occur beforehand. I would love the idea of making the engagement/announcement a romantic one, but I probably wouldn't want a man to go out and buy a ring prematurely, without a lot of serious discussion and what not.

Re: How Will You Stretch Your Mind This Year?

Alison — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 02:15:20 -0000

I'm pursuing a career in Creative Writing. My ultimate goal is to become an author, hopefully writing for Children and Young Adults. I've always been someone people expected to become a Doctor/Professor of some description, so this is a big step for me. I'm heading back into study after a period of debilitating illness, so this year is going to involve a lot of change. I'm changing my mind about what classifies as a worthwhile career, stretching myself in areas I actually find challenging and even difficult, and defying expectation, which is a huge deal for me. I've always met people's expectations of me. It no longer works.

Last of all, I'm going to connect more with my spirituality, at the risk of ridicule and many other "scary" things. I'm hoping to live my life and conduct myself differently in my relationships, especially the one I have with myself.

Re: What’s One New Word You Want to Bring Into Your Vocabulary This Year?

Alison — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 18:26:43 -0000

Conscious. In my decisions, actions and relationships, I want to observe my intentions, and find the most honorable and conscious way in which to conduct myself. I need to be honest, and I can't cave into my fears.

Re: What’s One New Word You Want to Bring Into Your Vocabulary This Year?

Alison — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 18:30:04 -0000

Miaow. Right speech, right action is such a powerful thing.

Re: An Easier Way To Lose Weight: Love Yourself Thin

Alison — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 18:37:03 -0000

Let's do it, Colleen! We should invade a populated Department Store, and ban the trash-talk.

I have to say that making a commitment to health seems like one of the most ultimate actions of self-love to me. Without love for yourself, you can't make such commitments without ending up... disappointed and unhappy. How can you possibly commit to your health first and foremost without love for yourself? Self-respect and honor would create far better journeys into health and better clothes, in my eyes. Any other intention is doomed to have something other than yourself in charge.

Re: Letting Go of Your Child’s Innocence

Alison — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 18:44:35 -0000

Its something that has to be gone through, and something that has to be started, or else children won't have their own ideas about tribal matters. Kids aren't born with self-respect, or with knowledge about the world, and at first, their reactions to such knowledge will be immature and childish. They are children. They have yet to learn these things, and this is the start of their learning, and interaction with the world. If its of any comfort to any parents, this phase is very valuable: Your child is being exposed to tribal beliefs, and this is the first step to finding their own individual sense of what's right.

Re: The Smell of Crayons: Tapping into your Creative Freedom

Alison — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 21:57:00 -0000

You do workshops like this? I want in! It sounds like a wonderful thing to be able to do.

Re: If You Could Only Take One Book With You, Wherever You Went, What Would it Be?

Alison — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 21:57:07 -0000

I'm not sure. Maybe a picture book, but if I had to pick one for self-education, it'd be a Caroline Myss book, like "Why people don't heal, and how they can".

Re: This Year, Choose to Honor Your Style Statement

Alison — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 22:15:37 -0000

I know what that's like - the world makes it sound impossible, doesn't it? I have a fear of pursuing creative work, "knowing" there's no money to be made to support myself.

Re: What’s The Most Beautiful Part Of Winter For You?

Alison — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 18:10:37 -0000

I like the imagination of it, and what it inspires. The crisp air is clear, spacious and dignified, somehow. You can stand tall in your jackets, and you're not sweaty or sticky. I feel better that way.

Re: What Item of Clothing Makes You Feel Your Sexiest?

Alison — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 19:36:01 -0000

Ahahaha! Oh, ladies, you're all SO sexy! I'm very happy to read this.

I can't decide, I'll have to get back to you on this. I have so many ideas that I think that I'm missing the most obvious answer.

Re: Moving Away: How Distance Changed My Friendship

Alison — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 21:12:34 -0000

I'm currently experiencing a period of growth and change that, as a result, has left many of my friendships in the dust. We no longer have our insecurities in common.

Its said that two of the most important questions in life are "Where am I going?" and "Who's coming with me?" I'd say that fear of this kind of loneliness is one reason we resist change. We shouldn't. We'll meet people better-suited to our lives along the way.

Re: What’s The Secret That Doesn’t Need To Be A Secret Anymore?

Alison — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 21:09:39 -0000

Humans are solar-powered.

We require sunlight, more than we realize. People who want to improve their health should take into account that an indoor gym isn't offering them the same things as being outdoors: We've been spending considerable time outdoors for thousands of years! The sudden evolution of desk-jobs and indoor everything isn't made for us. The sun effects us more than we think.

Re: 5 Trademarks of an Abusive Man

Alison — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 23:17:44 -0000

The "Two Faces" thing is a big one. If a man lies to make himself look good, don't shrug it off. Keep your ears pricked up. If he does it again... and again... Then he has a problem.