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Re: What’s the lesson that keeps repeating in your life?

bene — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 13:51:02 -0000

Speak up and assume your God given place on this earth! It is i difficult task for me, as I have always been the nice girl. The one that accepts everything with a smile, and happily agrees with being trampled on. It is hard, but I am learning. One great lesson for me, has been that the people who trample on you, are insecure and probably jealous as well. Slowly i learn to walk away or distance myself from their behaviour. Another great idea is to voice your anger, hit a pillow and let out some steam.

Re: What’s your cheap beauty solution?

bene — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 08:36:02 -0000

moisturize, moisturize and moisturize!! I use a great, cheap one from the pharmacy! Always use sunscreen, again cheap one from pharmacy, both products are perfume free. Eat lots of fresh veggies and fruits and drink a lot of water! It is what you put inside yourself that count the most. And a great tip at the end, smile at strangers! Be happy! Today is a beautiful day!

Re: In terms of Creativity, what are you attracted to?

bene — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 08:49:40 -0000

Creativity is a change of mindset. Suddenly the world change, everything has a story, every person has a lifetime of histories to tell. Creativity is communication a. creativity is seeing opportunities in any prospect, turning the world upside down to get our attention and communicate. At the deepest level creativity is the humans primal language, we all relate to it in one way or another

Re: What culture do you want to learn about?

bene — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 09:07:57 -0000

I want to learn more about religion, as i am deeply attracted to spiritualism. Life is a journey and i want to learn as much as possible on my travel. I want to visit Tibet, I want to see India and a lifelong dream to get a ticket to the Transiberian railway. I want to see how people live according to their religion and what impact it has on their lives. I want to know if ancient ceremonies and beliefs are still present, as it is in Christianity for instance. For me, God is love and every human being is as valuable as the next. Religion is being used to set a value on peoples lives , starting a war, destroying whole tribes of people, denying freedom of speak and so the story goes on and on and on . I admire Gandhi and
Dalai Lama for their morals, strength, passion, compassion, humor and love of all life on this earth. I want to know and learn more about their view of the world. I think we all could benefit from their teachings.

Re: What culture do you want to learn about?

bene — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 09:13:42 -0000

What a great idea! Who wouldnt like to take a fiery green absinth drink with Tolouse Lautrec, Renoir and Degas watching the showgirls lifting their skirts during the cancan? I

Re: Special Friday Edition: What’s the desire beneath your envy?

bene — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 09:21:57 -0000

Sadly, when I am jealous it is totally superficial! I envy how people look and dress and... Lightbulb moment... I envy people who are able to and dare to express them selves and who they are through what they wear! WOW! Coming to think of it, I am a bit jealous of artists as well, who are able to create for a living. I think that my envy all comes down to being creative and express that in some way! Thank you so much ! As the saying goes: Ask and you will receive !

Re: Special Friday Edition: What’s the desire beneath your envy?

bene — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 09:34:29 -0000

Darling, I can relate to that! My brother is stunningly handsome and I was a bit jealous about that when I was younger. As I grew up I started to look beautiful as well, but I was not feeling any happier. My brother, whom I love to bits , is bipolar and has never come around to appreciate his good looks because he doesnt have any self-esteem. And to my surprise, he was actually jealous of me when we were kids, because I was artistically gifted. What I am saying is that being pretty is only half the job, being happy, enjoying life and being in touch with your feelings is what matters. Maybe you should talk with your brother, being pretty does not equal being happy! Communicate, be kind with yourself and love yourself for being unique! There is no one out there just like you! Remember that!

Re: What’s not working in your wardrobe?

bene — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 09:54:00 -0000

Ouch! That hurts a bit! I have just been going through my wardrobe and to say the least, it was crowded in there!! Mountains of clothes, mostly unused and with tags! It is a tragedy, it really is. I have spent so much money on clothes that I never ever have worn or intend to wear and heaps of illfitting shoes. Thankfully, my mountain of clothes has thought me something. I only have things I love and wear almost everyday in my wardrobe. It is now quite small ,well fitted and feminine, just like me:) I will never buy cheap clothes again, H&M, Zara, fashion magazines all tell us that we have to consume , consume and consume. We buy, we never use, we throw away and we buy again. It is sad, and buying things will never ever satisfy you needs, it certainly did not with me. Overconsumption is ruining our world, and it is not we who pay the bill, it is those less fortunate than us, like a family in Kenya who have one meal a day. Please, join me as we try to buy less and live more. When I need something now, like new shoes, I go to charity shops and get something really unique! It is great and I feel great about it as well. I also take better care of my clothes and treat them like the treasured items they are. Best of luck!

Re: What’s your form of genius?

bene — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 05:02:10 -0000

I am really good at a lot of things. As Carrie do , I love a thing of beauty, I am particularly strung by the beauty in nature. I am a photograph and my pictures are beautiful.they always tell a story and they are too beautiful in a kind of scary way. Underneath the beauty lies...you know...dark waters. I am a good listener and I do understand how people feel, and try my best to make them feel better if they are down. I am a great writer, a great painter, a great cook, a great walker, a great friend, a great singer, a great aunt, great at making things cosy, a great reader and a great melodramatic(yeah, that too-wink,wink) . As you can tell , I can go on and on and on. I find it liberating and it makes me feel good to say out loud what i am great at. Before I really disliked myself and thought I did not deserve a place on this earth, I did not comprehend that I already had a place on this earth and that me playing small was not good for me or anybody else. Now I believe I am a person of importance and every single day I sing a song of my self in praise. It makes me happy and my heart is smiling within:)

Re: What does it mean to be civilized?

bene — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 08:39:05 -0000

Be polite, kind and and respectful of others. Be the person you would like to meet!
Give me a smile, love:)

Re: Special Friday Edition - What’s your word of the week?

bene — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 13:30:17 -0000

I have two words, playful and cherished! I want to have playdates with my self and have some much wanted fun, life has been way to serious lately. Cherished means taking care of myself and loving myself everyday! It doesnt have to be BIG things, just small pleasures that make my heart sing. Today I bought a pot of pink roses for my desk, they light up my day. I love water and on my way home I walked in the wood alongside a river , and it made me feel so incredible happy and peaceful. Natures makes me feel connected with myself again, a bit like a child, happy and carefree!I adore that feeling!

Re: To whom will you show your appreciation today?

bene — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 08:17:10 -0000

I want to say thank you to Kari, a women I volunteer with. She is everything I strive to be, compassionate, kind and respectful. She gave me a huge hug today, which I really needed. It made me so so happy! Thank you, Kari, you made my day!

Re: What do you know more about today than you did two weeks ago?

bene — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 04:50:25 -0000

I have learned more about what I want in a man and that I am in title to A. a man who makes me blossom and be the best self I can be ( this regards my friends as well) . I will be with people who makes me feel good about who I am am.
B. He shall treat me with respect and as equal ( this I take for granted) C. Be a gentleman ( every woman loves to be treated like a queen once in a while ie. open doors, bring you coffe etc:) sounds lush doesnt it? Well, why should you settle for anything less. I have learned to raise my standards, and frankly so should you! I think we all should. It feels very liberating! Wish for the stars!
All this came down to my meeting with a truly handsome man at a meeting. He was very good looking and a true gentleman. He was polite and made me feel oh so comfortable, in other words he made me shine like I never done before. That came as a revelation, that people can make me feel that good. I have people I am friendly with, and family ( oh yeah, the joy of family, right?) that makes me feel really bad about my self. Now the bar is raised and that is so liberating. I feel that I am an my pat now, where I should be. Life is a journey, and i will not yet againg get caught up in the destinations. Phew and God bless:)

Re: Friday Edition: Who would you be if you were freed from your past?

bene — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 04:22:00 -0000

Woah! I would take myself less serious and have much more fun. I would live in the moment and fulfill my dreams. I would be bubbly, outspoken, strong and passionate. I would live and love everyday, be more present. I would kick my fear to the bottom of the Thames and do a silly little dance, then I would pursue all my goals fearless.

Re: What will you say no to this week?

bene — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 04:36:22 -0000

I am saying no to my family at the moment. And I say no to the guilt that creeps upon me afterwards. I need time apart from my family and I do not need to make excuses about that. Mostly I say no to all the guilt I sometimes feel! No to guilt! And yes, darling, people can take care of themselves, just relax for a bit and have more fuuuuuuuuuuuun! Jup. That´s about it!

Re: If you had an audience of a billion people, what would you say?

bene — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 04:40:59 -0000

Relax !!! And have more fun! Don`t be sooooooo serious! And listen to your gut, it tells you everything you wan`t to know. Life is not that complex, really. All you need to do is love yourself unconditionally. When you love yourself , life takes a whole new direction. Be a giver as well and do some volunteer work!

Re: When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?

bene — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 07:52:17 -0000

I wanted to be an anthropologist , I loved history and dinosaurs and stones. I was really onto nature and biology as well. I am still passionate about nature and history. I also wanted to be a writer, and made my own magazines with funny, little short stories. I write, I love nature and history, both written ( everything with a magical storyline intrigue me) and literally.

Re: What are you anticipating?

bene — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 11:17:51 -0000

A great holiday, I am leaving friday and I am so happyyyy! hurrayyyy! holidays are great. I am going to live with a friend of mine on a little island as far out in to the atlantic as you can come. I love the sea and i hope for sunny weather and a smooth travel.

Re: What is the sound of your voice?

bene — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 11:23:07 -0000

My voice is warm and happy and bright like a summers night. My voice is comforting and musical, like a light melody. It is holding back a bit though, and sometimes it comes out in tumbles of laughter , especially with my girlfriends. We feel like teenagers again and no doubt sounds like them.It is fun and liberating!

Re: What do you do to promote your own happiness?

bene — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 11:33:03 -0000

Oh, that amount to soo much! I love nature and it makes me happy to talk a walk in the forrest or by the sea. I also like taking walks in the rain and having no care in the world. It makes me blissfully happy when the raindrops meet my face and iI hear the wind in the trees. I keep my home tidy and cosy, I eat comforting food-what beats sausages and mash? I dance and sing loudly in the living room. I only interact with people who I like and that makes me happy. I read a lot, mostly classics and I write. Being creative makes me happy and so do bold colours . I have profound conversations with friends. I listen to classical music, so soothing and uplifting, like Handels Sonatas. In short music, literature, friends, food ,art and yoga makes me happy.

Re: Who in your life do you admire… and why?

bene — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 09:04:47 -0000

I admire a swedish artist and comedian, Jonas Gardell, for being himself no matter what, for being courageous, for being honest and loving, for raising to his potential after a dark past and for giving hope, laughter, passion and awareness. I admire people with a passion and who are true to themselves. I loathe people who are negative and always complain. That will never move you forward, rather it makes you stuck. But foremost, I admire people with a zest for life. It is a hot day and I am on my way to get the biggest ice cream imaginable, maybe even two! Life is to short for regrets, ENJOY:)

Re: What would you like to revolutionize?

bene — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 09:14:33 -0000

I would like to make a shift in womens consciousness. We waste out time and intellect on purely superficial interests. When we think about living life to the full, it is suddenly food related. Sadly because that is always on our mind. Freedom is not being able to eat heaps of chocolate, it is to be able to fulfill your potential and use that godgiven intellect. It is to be a part of society , voicing opinions in debates and politics. Freedom is to raise your voice and be heard! I am tired of hearing about diets and " oh, I feel sooo fat"! Start loving yourself and make the world your main interest! Carpe diem!

Re: What is your big, audacious dream for yourself?

bene — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 09:52:27 -0000

I want to travel a lot, to Paris, Venice, the Amalfi coast etc. I would love to live in a village in England, preferably close to the sea.( I think I may have watched to many Miss Marple shows and have a bit of a romantic view about it all.) A big old, ramshackle of a house where I could paint and write and have a huge family about. Another possibility would be to live in London and work as an artist.

Re: What are the best Inspirational or “Personal Growth” books you’ve read?

bene — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 06:41:12 -0000

I used to be into personal growth books, I still have to many to count. I stopped reading them when I understood that growth is personal, and all those books where about persons who had found their own way and wanted to share that with the world. As I mentioned , growth is personal and unique, it differs from each person. I will grow in my own time and way. I also understand that I can`t fix my life in a go , as much as I would like to. Anxity, depression, sadness and anger are in life for a reason and we have to deal with that. No matter how many affirmations we do each day they won`t go away unless we react to them.I read personal growth books for inspiration now and then, and value my journey.

Re: What would you like your home to say about you?

bene — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 06:59:54 -0000

My home is just like i want it to be, a true reflection of who I am. It is bold, spiritual,packed with books, artistic, relaxed, cosy and romantic. I wondered how it all would come together, all the different aspects of me, but it mixed really well. I am quite a paradox, very romantic indeed and yet bold, dramatic, have a real zest for life and any adventure that comes my way. To put it in short, I am a romantic tomboy. A bit like Anne of Green Gables and a bit like Annie get your gun. It always takes people by surprise, because I look very sweet and innocent, indeedio.

Re: What would you like your home to say about you?

bene — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 10:48:08 -0000

It is natural that your home reflects who you are! Just like clothes, the people you hang out with and the books you read . If pretencious, like having Kafka and Dostojevskij on the coffeetable, that is a matter of Ego. There is a natural difference between the sexes in this matter and so is taste. I remember with fright my boyfriends homemade wood clown clock.

Re: What’s your beauty dilemma?

bene — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 03:52:28 -0000

It is my hair, it is very frizzy and sometimes looks like a bush. I have started to grow it longer and that is actually helpful, it can`t be that big when it is longer, phew. I have tried every frizzfree wonderproduct there is, but it doesn`t help one bit. Saltwater, though, makes my hair curl beautifully.

Re: What are your 3 top priorities this week?

bene — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 08:02:55 -0000

I plan to meditate and do yoga everyday. I nee to de- stress a bit.I also plan to have fun and not take myself too seriously. And I will try to take a walk in the woods as often as possible. And write and be more creative, things just keep popping up. I think I should plan to not have a plan and that`s it,really! Or rather, I plan to be happy, at peace and productive. The end:)

Re: How would you spend your last $20?

bene — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 06:16:26 -0000

I love my lattes, so I would probably buy as many of them as I could. Not very profound, I am afraid:)

Re: What would improve your work space?

bene — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 04:52:20 -0000

The biggest improvement would have to be myself. I have to get out of my head and onto the sheet. And I could do with a tidy up, I work best when everything is tidy and frankly, now it is a mess. I think I will start right away, now that I understand that there is no big, mental block crossing my way. Thanks:)

Re: What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever given or received?

bene — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 05:55:57 -0000

I was told that if you dont`t control your life, someone else will . It gave me the shivers...it was like a cold wind rushing through my spine. From that day forward I have regained control of my life. Destiny may have given you a bad hand, but when you are an adult you have to stop blaming everyone from your parents to siblings, bad boyfriends or your evil secondgrade teacher. Take control , listen to your gut and be happy!!

Re: What do you need to let go of?

bene — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 13:57:46 -0000

I need to stop being a people pleaser. I hope new generations of little girls will learn first and foremost to be them self and voice their opinions. It is no use to play small just to make people comfortable. Now it is time for me to be comfortable!! And I must say it is quite fun;)

Re: What do you need to let go of?

bene — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 14:17:38 -0000

I think people have more in common than they think. I always have wanted my mothers love. I have come to realize that she the best she could at the time.I also visualize her giving me a hug and me smiling. It makes me more relaxed and our relationship more grown up. Love is unconditional and you should not do anything to make your mother love you. Your birth gave you that right. If the relationship is a one way street I suggest you move on. Do not be sad about it, it is all about your growth. Do not give your power to her as you do now when you need her love. Be strong, start to know yourself and learn to love yourself. From now on I think you should have ME time all the TIME:) It is fun. Love and encouragement from someone who has been down the same road!

Re: What’s your favorite eco-friendly habit?

bene — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 04:04:16 -0000

Walking. I love to walk whenever and wherever. When I travel to new cities or places in the world, I have found that the best way to get to know a city is by walking. I recommend it, especially if you are visiting London. Walk through the many lovely parks, by the Thames or in the busy streets, and you will get to know the city in a whole new way. I have set myself a new goal this year and that is to stop impulse shopping! In cheap clothes stores, I may add:) I tend to buy a lot on impulse and surprise , surprise... I find them in the back of my closet a year later. Overconsumation is my pet peeve or has been. I have started to appreciate 50/60/70s design and go to thriftstores and on e-bay for a specific sum each month. And it is working! Overspending and overstuffed closeth, bye,bye ! Oh, I do love libraries as well. I love books and tend to, you guessed right, shop way to many books as well. My apartment is cramped with books and I love them all too much to get rid of them. So, no bookshops, just an art book now and then . Library therefore, is my new love. I can rent all the books I would like. And that is a lot:)

Re: What’s sacred to you?

bene — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 03:36:20 -0000

I find that I am sacred to me. It has taken me a long time to reach this point and it is still a struggle, because I love to help and take care of other people. This passion has led to me being taken advantage of and I have had a few one way relationships. That has been my lesson, to be strong enough to put myself in focus and love my self the way I love others. Nature and children is sacred to me as well . As I see it, they go hand in hand. We have to take care of our surroundings to leave the planet a better place for the new generations.

Re: What’s your favorite easy thing to cook?

bene — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 04:21:43 -0000

I love to bake and especially scones at the moment. It only takes one minute to make them, and I do it every morning. I eat them with clotted cream and raspberry jam. Can there be anything more delicious first thing in the morning?? mmmm...

Re: When do you hide?

bene — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 05:21:28 -0000

I hide when I need a break and feel a bit vulnerable. I rest in my bed and watch dvd`s that makes me happy. I walk in the woods or by then sea and just sit still for a while. Nothing is like the voices of nature, waves hitting the shore, seagulls cries, wind sweeping trees and birds singing. It soothes my heart.

Re: If you had a totally open day, every day, what 4 or 5 things would you fill it with?

bene — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 05:27:45 -0000

1. a morning in solitude with heaps of papers, scones and coffe outside in the sun.
2. a coffedate with a friend including a trip to an art museum
3. being creative and using my design skills/ reading/watching movie for inspiration
4. making a great dinner and invite all my friends
5. A walk in the dark with my camera

Re: What do you find sexy?

bene — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 05:29:23 -0000

I find self confidence, humor and generosity sexy. Honesty and being able to laugh about yourself is also a turn on.

Re: What do you find sexy?

bene — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 05:40:48 -0000

I find self confidence, humor and generosity sexy. Honesty and being able to laugh about yourself is also a turn on. I have to add voice as well. I was in a relationship with this beautiful, tall and dark man and his deep. husky voice made my day! I really miss that oh so sexy voice in my ear vispering sweet nothings. He had a great body as well, I remember cuddling in his arms. Ok then,big arms and great bod..definetely an asset. Girls just want to be crushed in your arms , guys. And as for chivalry..it is not a question it just is the way it should be. Open the door, pull out my chair and I am all yours , baby!

Re: What is your favorite fiction book?

bene — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 04:25:25 -0000

I adore No more belongs here more than you by Miranda July. It is funny, witty, smart, highly original and moving. It has been a long time since i read a book like this!

Re: What are you excited about right now?

bene — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 06:22:12 -0000

A lot, and I am so grateful for it. Suddenly the possibilities are endless. Good things come in threes or more:) I am so excited about my article being printed,future jobs, friends, writing, writing,writing, family, new friends, sewing my own clothes,scented candles-especially vanilla, the future--it holds good things,
the upcoming weekend, photography , art, design and that I am going to be an aunt soon. And that I get to write new things here each day, God bless and thanks!

Re: What do you know the most about?

bene — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 09:35:51 -0000

I know a lot about art, aesthetics, beauty and form. That is my passion.My other passion is humans and I know a lot about them, too;) Art and humanity walk hand in hand. The greatest pisces of art touch our commonness, that we are all humans and alike. There is no greater, there is no smaller, just equality!

Re: How do you know when a decision is “right” for you?

bene — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 06:29:31 -0000

I sense if I have made the right choice, then I become energized and peppy. If I make poor choices my energy level goes straight down the floor. I just need to pay attention and I will know, though I am impulsive and often act without taking it in consideration.

Re: How have you changed?

bene — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 06:15:15 -0000

Did I ever. I was snobby, gossipy and righteoud as well. Oh..what a nightmare. I used to be an intellectual snob and forwn uopon anyone or, more rightfully, almost everyone`s taste in literature and arts. I did not feel great at the time, I felt very unsignificant. I lashed out at everyone to inflate my ego. Kharma finallay came and bit me in the ass, and now I feel really sorry for verything I did or said in that period. I recently met an old friend and he was in the " snobby and righteous" period as well. It made me laugh at first, it seem to be one of the stages in our development. Then I noticed how it seperates you from others, how can anyone feel like a part of the world when they are always better than everyone else? I remembered how lonely I felt at the time. I think part of our journeys goal is to understand that we are all the same and when you get that, really get that. that we are one, then your ego deflate and the world will be a better place.

Re: What's on your must-have list for fall fashion? boots - Petit Bateau - Foley and Corrina - vintage - Luchesse cowboy boots - wide leg jeans | Carrie and Danielle

bene — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 04:16:02 -0000

Great dresses teamed with long wool cardigans and gret leather boots:) plus a thick 70s belt to get the hole thong together! And about as much lattes as I can get through the season, please! And I wouldn`t mind a glass of chardonnay either.

Re: Tsh Oxenreider asks: In what way are you delightfully conventional?

bene — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 05:18:13 -0000

I have always been a rebel and I still am. I do not like to be one of the crowd, I like to make my own way. That`s the way I have always been. Still, though, I am an excellent cookf and I luuuuuve cooking. I adore the role of the 50s housewife...cooking, entertaining and being merry all around. Just remember, I did say role. It is fun playing around. I love Christmas as well, though that`s more due to my inner child:) I beleive i am a good mix of consevative and rebel, though I would neverever admit to it. I love a man in a coat and suit..mmm

Re: What do you secretly desire?

bene — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 03:59:27 -0000

I secretly desire luxury and old school glamour. Silk camisoles, diamonds and champagne. Huge candlelit dinners and long evening gowns,swoon...my daily luxuries are earl grey tea, vanilla scented candles, lattes and reading old classics:)

Re: Jonathan Mead asks: What’s right with your life?

bene — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 05:54:48 -0000

I am getting to know my self and my strengths, for one. I am much happier about my life , I am mote at peace being who I am. I used to lead a very superficial life. My nirvana was shopping, drinking( partying) and guys, guys ,guys!s To my surprise that did not make me happy. It made me feel empty and depressed. I have managed to turn my life around 360 degrees. I live with less and for less, so to speak. I enjoy the small things in life and really appreciate good food. I am becoming a little housewife..in some areas...I might add..iI do have a lot of dustbunnys under my bed. I use my creativity everyday and I love it. I take long walks outside and enjoy libraries and cafees as much as the next person.