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Re: 10 Dating Mistakes Men Make

swiv — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 11:25:46 -0000

can someone tell me what cali has to do with responding to comments? either way, most of this stuff is common sense. all the advice in the world isn't gonna do jack for a man who isn't doesn't want to change.

i do think it's mad lame to lie to a chick in order to spare her feelings. not to say that i haven't done it, but it's still lame. and yes, i'm saying that in the instances i've done it, i've been lame.

and there's a huge difference between being emasculated and being nice. women want a man who's a man.

Re: 10 Dating Mistakes Men Make

swiv — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 12:20:49 -0000

"Not many black women these days are into a relationship based on organic growth; they’re more about acquisitional growth."

this is BS. more often than not, women are into it because of the relationship as opposed to what it can do for them. gold diggers and their ilk are the exception, not the rule. women are more willing to work with a man in progress than vice versa. it's just the way it is.

Re: Time to Get a Girlfriend

swiv — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 21:09:55 -0000

the 18-23 age bracket is pretty much on point. those very qualities have been in dang near every young woman i've dealt with. i'd say that the 24-28 and 29 and up group should be changed to more like 27 and up, though.

of course there are exceptions, but there are reasons why mature young women are the exception and not the rule. when i was in that age bracket i thought i knew it all. like so many in that age bracket. now that i'm 29, i look back at myself and think of all the young stuff and bs i did that i would be hard pressed to do. it goes for both genders.

Re: Pick Up the Phone! Don’t Text Date!

swiv — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 21:11:46 -0000

what a sad world we live in that someone HAS to be told this.

Re: Vibe Covers: Ciara v. Toni Braxton

swiv — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 17:07:28 -0000

toni looks better. always. i'd poke holes in the condom.

Re: Listen Up, Females. This Man Is Talking.

swiv — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 21:46:49 -0000

if low expectation having ass women didn't knowingly fall for his BS, he wouldn't be getting the attention he gets. someone who's lame is entertaining him, and i'm willing to bet it's not a small minority. LOTS of women have low expectations, but bypass "good ones" for whatever reasons.

Re: Review: The Family That Preys and Characters In Tyler Perry Movies

swiv — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 12:23:00 -0000

maybe perry is clapping back at all the professional chicks who clowned him on the come up. i personally like professional women. but if stereotypes cause drama. and drama sells. it'd be boring if she got saved by a dude with a degree and a job.

Re: The Perfect Wife, The Clair Huxtable Syndrome

swiv — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 08:42:28 -0000

i want a wife like claire.

Re: McCain Backs Out of First Debate

swiv — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 19:35:37 -0000

it's a ploy. he's too scared to debate with obama because the "fundamentals of the economy" aren't as strong as he thought they were. what is he as a presidential candidate going to do about teh economy that our congress isn't doing already? let them handle it, and you handle the campaign. not that they'd be getting a whole lot of economic insight form a man who finisioned 894/899 in his class. how many republicans does it take to screw in a lightbulb?

Re: The Perfect Wife, The Clair Huxtable Syndrome

swiv — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 19:36:58 -0000

i'm going to make a shirt that says "i'm cliff"

Re: The Perfect Wife, The Clair Huxtable Syndrome

swiv — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 18:41:37 -0000

well, hello christine.

:inserts smiley face:

LOL

Re: Cheating and Gender

swiv — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 11:15:08 -0000

everyone does it. for various reasons.

Re: Help - My Girl Is Letting Herself Go

swiv — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 11:32:22 -0000

i like the head wrap

LOL

Re: Now It’s Cool To Be An Independent Black Woman?

swiv — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 09:17:51 -0000

kim kardashain isn't independently wealthy. take her father's money away, and she's working at wet seal. other than a little bit of fame, she brings absolutely nothing to the table.

the independent women that this song speaks of are those who are generally educated, very ambitions, and bring way more to the table than just ass implants and large tiggoes. i prefer women like such stated above. and women like that aren't exclusively black, either.

<== brings a whole lot to the table.

Re: Stars Ballin’ Out of Control: Foreclosure Edition | The P.O.S.H. Life

swiv — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 09:28:13 -0000

i've never understood those pay mortages if they have enough to buy. someone told me tax benefits.....but i can't fathom how.

Re: Tales from the Hood Rich: The Real Housewives of Atlanta Edition

swiv — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 17:56:29 -0000

this show is stupid. i'm in atlanta. i enjoy the dating scene here. but i also don't normally talk to women who would come off as that fashion.

Re: Now It’s Cool To Be An Independent Black Woman?

swiv — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 17:57:37 -0000

i'm a dumbass, too. that's ambitious, not ambitions.

Re: Stand By Your Man: Get Like Kim Porter

swiv — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 12:15:15 -0000

some women have low expectations in life and are thus ok with this. the dudes are lame for doing it, but the women are lamer for staying with them.

Re: Relationship Revenge: Jazmine Sullivan Style

swiv — Sat, 25 Oct 2008 18:41:50 -0000

1. never. it's illegal.
2. no.
3. no. replace them. that's the best "revenge."
4. not necessarily crazy, but not fully control of their emotions/actions. at some point in time, all of us has thought about doing some crazy shit. it doesn't make us crazy. those of us who have control don't do those things we think about.

Re: Distant Lover: How to Make Long Distance Relationships Work

swiv — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 11:25:39 -0000

don't do it. it doesn't work.

Re: Distant Lover: How to Make Long Distance Relationships Work

swiv — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 11:36:54 -0000

"The point I make is this, not dating someone because they don’t live where you do is like not dating someone because they don’t drive a benz. You skip way past potential for qualifiers that can change with time."

no. the principle might be the same, but the levity of each is WAY different. i've been in a few, and i'm still single. clearly they're not working for me. not to say they don't work, but the numbers are against those that are in them. for me.....particularly because i live where i live, i don't see a point anymore. unless this woman completely blows my socks off, i won't do it. one of us has to make that move. there's no point in an LD if there's no talk about not making it an LD. the late night phone calls/emails/whatever the hell has absolutely nothing on sitting next to each other.

Re: Swagger Like Us: The Obama Relationship Edition

swiv — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 09:23:53 -0000

the definition of swagger is overstated confidence. and anyone who says otherwise is using the word wrong and has no clue on it's implementation in the english language.

<=== thinks swagger/swag/swagtastic is the most craptacular overuse of a word in recent memory.

Re: The Dating Rotation: Who’s On Your Team?

swiv — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 11:26:07 -0000

i don't ask questions i don't wanna know the answer to. that's what background checks are for. i had a starting 5 and some bench players back in the day. if i'm single, max 3 maybe 4. one is the favorite, the others are back-ups.

Re: Every Good Woman Needs A Thug?

swiv — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 11:27:32 -0000

a man can be a nice guy and still be a man. it's never happened to me. but i dont' approach women with bullet holes and stab wounds, either.

Re: The Male Whore Debate: A Duel Point of View

swiv — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 11:36:10 -0000

she should question his past because he did that while he was with her. that's not just conquests, that's cheating. you've broken her trust. you snitch....one of two things happens, she stops speaking to you or she accepts your honesty and sticks around. you keep it from her, and she find outs from someone else? then not only will she probably leave you, but she'll think you're a peice of sh*t.

Re: Cohabitation, Does It Work?

swiv — Fri, 28 Nov 2008 22:15:43 -0000

depends on the couple, i guess. i won't do it, though.

Re: The Gold Digger Diatribe

swiv — Fri, 28 Nov 2008 22:26:54 -0000

could be the women in the A or DC you're associating with.

Re: The Plight of the Good Woman

swiv — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 01:24:58 -0000

all of those same complaints about how men are doing x are the same EXACT complaints men have about women. and plenty of "good" men would be staring at you right in the face and you'd pass them up as well. two good people aren't always good for each other. it happens. oh well. i sure hope that little nugget isn't exactly rocket science, either.

Re: The Plight of the Good Woman

swiv — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 19:02:38 -0000

y'all kill me. we're all legends in our own minds. is that these men are threatened or insecure or do they just not like your ass? good grief.

oh yea, if you're all as tight as y'all say you are, if i ever run across you, i won't pass you up. unless i'm not really feeling you.

LOL.

<== in no way threatened by an ambitious woman

Re: The Plight of the Good Woman

swiv — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 12:48:21 -0000

the author's pretty cute, IMO. this blog generalizes too much and is too one sided.

Re: The Married/Engaged/Taken Holler

swiv — Mon, 22 Dec 2008 13:59:54 -0000

keep options open. selfish. their "situation" isn't providing what they need. see if they still have it. no, it's not fair. every single person has done this at some point or another, too.

there's a litany of reasons.

protect yourself. no one else will. even the person who is "supposed" to have your back.

Re: Interracial Dating, What Gives

swiv — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 22:15:44 -0000

i'm all for it.

<=== dates who the hell he wants

Re: Are Professional Women That Intimidating?

swiv — Sun, 28 Dec 2008 02:25:44 -0000

Where do these statements come from?

a couple of places. weak ass dudes. women trying to make themselves feel better for being single.

Is being professional that intimidating to potential daters?

not if you're confident in what you bring to the table. i personally prefer a professional, well educated woman. but i bring quite a bit to the table as well. but i've always been expected to bring a certain caliber of woman home, anyway.

Does being thought of as being intimidating hurt you in the long run on the dating scene?

if you go out of your way (i.e. purposefully overbearing) to intimidate, then yes. but that in itself is rooted in insecurity, anyway. if you're a strong, confident person, not with the right person.

Are men really ready for a woman with a Type A personality?

yes. but can a type a woman deal with a type a man?

Re: Are You In A Rush To Get Married?

swiv — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 17:40:39 -0000

i don't feel pressure. some of those reasons are pretty accurate.

Re: 2009 P.O.S.H Fitness Starters

swiv — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 18:45:34 -0000

the new years crew is screwing the treadmill lines at my gym.

Re: Buffy the Body: The Modern Day Hottentot Venus

swiv — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 19:02:01 -0000

hi, JJ.

Re: Having a Big Butt May Be Good for Your Health

swiv — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 08:39:00 -0000

this is the greatest test run ever.

Re: How Much Do Your Parents’ Relationships Effect Your Love Life?

swiv — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 11:58:09 -0000

i'd say that there's a good correlation between the two. it's easy to say that one should just know how to be in a good relationship, but oft times we learn how to deal with the opposite sex from what we see in our own home. you can't put ALL the blame on the parents, but i do think that some things are learned.

Re: Get Your Mind Right, Domestic Violence Is NO Joke!

swiv — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 13:03:33 -0000

so she didn't give him herpes?

Re: Get Your Mind Right, Domestic Violence Is NO Joke!

swiv — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 14:28:57 -0000

lets assume she gave him herpes. she assaulted him. you can heal from a black eye. you can't get rid of herpes. that ish is for life.

Re: Get Your Mind Right, Domestic Violence Is NO Joke!

swiv — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 15:19:45 -0000

phone number vs. herpes.

lets get some levity here. seriously. that's the most ridiculous comparison ever. no one's saying it's right for him to hit her. but i understand it if she gave his ass something he can't get rid of. but lets say your man gave you AIDS. how would YOU react?

Re: Get Your Mind Right, Domestic Violence Is NO Joke!

swiv — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 15:36:24 -0000

semantics. i see you still deflected and avoided the question. herpes and HIV is way more of a valid comparison than a phone number and herpes.

Re: Get Your Mind Right, Domestic Violence Is NO Joke!

swiv — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 17:54:50 -0000

it sure is easy to judge when you're sitting on the sidelines. of course everyone in here is just going to take the high road when their MATE a. steps out of them and b. gives them a disease they CAN'T cure. no one is saying him hitting her ass is right.

i also heard she was choking him, too.

Re: Thirty Minutes of Exercise is No Longer the Business….

swiv — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 13:04:10 -0000

can we define moderate intensity? every time i'm on the treadmill, the little counter says i'm gone through around 450-500 calories for around 33 minutes of running/walking. and that's about 4 days a week. the other days i'm lifting.

Re: Guess What? They Just Aren’t That Into You

swiv — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 16:49:27 -0000

i guess this should go along with the "good woman" thread.

LOL.

Re: She’s Just Not That Into You

swiv — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 11:46:54 -0000

it's a sad day on earth if people didn't know all of this.

Re: 10 Ways To Find New Boo

swiv — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 11:55:22 -0000

a class in dating?????

LMAO!!!!!

i'm willing to be a lot of those so called relationship experts are single themselves. good grief.

Re: Rules and Dating Just Don’t Mix

swiv — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 11:47:59 -0000

tell that to the "relationship experts."

Re: The Key to Weight Loss Revealed…

swiv — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 22:17:45 -0000

cutting calories = lose weight.

oooooooo

the money spent on this study could be more usefully spent.......like on me.

Re: My Girl Got A Girlfriend

swiv — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 12:08:24 -0000

with a random? yes. with my wife? no.

Re: Rules and Dating Just Don’t Mix

swiv — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 13:38:15 -0000

that goes for everyone. the people with the "best advice" often have the most effed up dating history. i take advice from others with a grain of salt.

Re: Is Chivalry on Life Support?

swiv — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 12:48:56 -0000

i dont' want a woman whose goal is to be a housewife. women need to start picking up the tab after a few days, though. we in a recession. LOL. i do all if not most of the above. but i was taught that. i might slip on the side walk thing, but no woman ever carries bags (unless it's her purse, and i'll never carry that) around me. and if a man's dealbreaker is whether or not he sits face front to the door, he didn't want you anyway. that's pretty petty and small minded.

Re: Get Your Mind Right, Domestic Violence Is NO Joke!

swiv — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 13:07:09 -0000

i've never raised hands on a woman, nor have a abdicated what he did was right. in fact, i already said it was wrong. or didn't you catch that? now, it's been revealed that she didn't give him herpes. so this conversation is effectively moot.

however, in the instance that a woman/man does give a man/woman an incurable disease on top of that cheating on him, i can most definitely understand why he'd/she'd lay hands on her/him. how would YOU react if your man gave you HIV from a partner ourside of your relationship? would you just cry and keep it pushing or would you lose control in the heat of the moment?

it sure is easy to judge others when you're not in the situation, but i strongly doubt most people would react very much differently. and i'm willing to bet that if the situation were reversed, many of the women in here would sure be ok with her hitting him. women seem to think that they can do whatever the hell they want to a man because we're not supposed to hit them.

Re: Don’t Be A Dating Hypocrite

swiv — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 12:42:00 -0000

and here i thought all of this was common sense

LMAO!

apparently, it's not all that common

Re: Etiquette, Relationship Titles, and Introductions

swiv — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 18:09:40 -0000

a girl doesn't get the title until we've had the talk. i don't go around introducing someone as my girl, but if they ask, that's how she'll be referred to.

Re: Don’t Be A Dating Hypocrite

swiv — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 18:11:58 -0000

LMAO!

true true. then apparently 88 percent of the population are a bunch of idiots.

LMAO.

Re: Stop The Resume Ho’in

swiv — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 22:35:12 -0000

i see nothing wrong doing what james is doing. he just needs to quit dating women who don't have anything going for themselves. and in today's world, there's plenty of women who have stuff going for themselves.

Re: Stop The Resume Ho’in

swiv — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 22:37:07 -0000

wait, lemme rephrase that. i don't see anything wrong with being proud of his accomplishments. but i wouldn't normally be touting that stuff just because. it's more of a conversation piece. it's just good to know your worth and what you bring to the table.

Re: Stop The Resume Ho’in

swiv — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 12:46:27 -0000

"She perhaps needs to check out non-black men (although, truth be told, non-black men don't necessarily covet black women). "

some of us do

:party

oh yea, boo the SEC/ACC.

it's all about 3 yards and a cloud of dust.

Re: Racially Motivated Slaying Of Interracial Couple

swiv — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 10:06:30 -0000

they should face the death penalty if convicted. i'm surprised this hasn't gotten any news attention.

Re: Can You Turn A Hoe Into A Housewife?

swiv — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 13:24:34 -0000

yea. sure you can. i just won't be the one to do it. enough breezies out there in the world that i won't have to worry if half the room smashed my wife.

Re: I Wont Date A Woman Who Can’t Cook

swiv — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 10:57:27 -0000

i suck at it. most nights it's my turn, it'll be at the local ponderosa.

LMAO!

Re: Casual Sex Is Screwing Relationships

swiv — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 09:55:07 -0000

35%

that's low, IMO.

i see nothing wrong with random sex, LOL.

it only ruins stuff for the future if you really believe you lose a part of yourself when you sleep with someone.

Re: Should Women Carry Condoms?

swiv — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 17:19:49 -0000

yes. might as well be prepared.

Re: What Is The Way To A Man’s Heart ?

swiv — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 12:18:31 -0000

through his zipper. i figure most of this stuff is common sense, but hey what do i know?

Re: Talented Black Man Syndrome

swiv — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 17:00:48 -0000

the ratio of men to women is too jacked up for tight dudes to ever go out of style.