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Re: Damn...

HeadMistress — Mon, 10 May 2010 11:17:13 -0000

Hi Twin! We miss you but hey........live the life now, tell the stories later ;-)

Congrats on the marriage/baby Cuz

Re: A Yo' Technology

HeadMistress — Mon, 29 Mar 2010 13:35:14 -0000

LOL, thats funny, he probably had someone coaching him when he was texting...smh

I'd much rather text or BBM just cause I'm always doin a million things at once and holding the phone is annoying but actually talking to someone gives you so much more of who they are because it's harder to "edit" yourself in a real live voice convo

I'm the same person either way

Re: Willing To Wait...?

HeadMistress — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 10:17:43 -0000

Yeah, 12 months is OD, I mean you can set a goal to reach a certain stage in the relationship before you have sex and maybe to reach that goal takes 12 months (I don't see it but whatever, we'll pretend, LOL) that makes more sense to me because you are working towards something concrete and not just a haphazard date...and for a man to suggest it is especially odd

Re: Willing To Wait...?

HeadMistress — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 08:45:43 -0000

Wow, I was thinking about something similar the other day. I don't believe in "pre-set waiting periods". Some women say they make a guy wait X number of months before sex, and I always think what revelation do you get the night before your deadline ends that lets you know it's now "ok to do it"? o_O That has never made sense to me, unless you are actually waiting for marriage then a pre-set timeframe is just silly in my opinion - six days might be too long and six months might not be long enough - LOL - just do it when it feels right.

But I'm starting to think waiting longer, not necessarily a fixed time period, but just giving a relationship more time to develop and grow is not a bad idea...to me spending time with someone I like and sleeping with them just because it's natural and feels good just to discover later that there's no chance of it ever working out is starting to feel like wasting myself - the time spent with someone is necessary but letting them all the way in isn't always necessary and especially for a feeling that I can accomplish on my own ;-) LOL - yeah it's always better with someone but sometimes it just ends up having not been worth it, even if the sex is mindblowing. And then sometimes circumstances have forced a waiting period and I end up discovering it was for the best and being glad that the opportunity to sleep with that person was thwarted...LMAO

We've become too fast-paced with everything - food, sex, friendships, relationships, marriage, having children - and it shows in our failing health, our failing morals, our failing family structures, etc...

Re: Don't Be Rude....

HeadMistress — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 16:38:23 -0000

I agree totally, Twin, you don't necessarily have to swallow it, let him bust elsewhere or even if you're caught by surprise you can play with it...but spitters are quitters!

Xilla put it funny in one of his posts one day he said "I get upset when I get a runner" LMAO!!!

And there is a simple way to ensure the taste is on point, that is simply to make dietary suggestions for him, the pineapple / pineapple juice thing is common knowledge so if you suggest your man eat/drink them he knows exactly where your mind is and idk any guy who wouldn't be happy to oblige (a n*gga could be allergic to pineapples and I think he would still risk anaphylactic shock just to get head) LOL

But I was caught by surprise my first time, I was mortified that I swallowed but his reaction was not what I expected, he had this look of endearment that I totally did not expect - but after that I learned real quick how to tell when the moment was "upon us"

Re: Sacrificing Sex

HeadMistress — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 20:00:21 -0000

Nada, just sittin here twirling my hair ;-*

Oh believe me I do not shovel snow...ever - I don't even leave the house unless I absolutely have to - and if I'm snowed in I just chill til someone comes to rescue me...

Re: Sacrificing Sex

HeadMistress — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 15:25:41 -0000

Awww...hope you have someone there to serve you something nice n hot after all that ;-)

I'm chillin - bored silly but I don't do snow if I don't have to

Re: Sacrificing Sex

HeadMistress — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 23:16:03 -0000

Hey Black!!!

Re: Oral vs Penetration

HeadMistress — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 23:08:41 -0000

That is THE truth!

Re: Oral vs Penetration

HeadMistress — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 23:07:43 -0000

Good Penetration! Oral is great but I couldn't live off of it...LOL

Re: Freebies

HeadMistress — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 19:17:12 -0000

I like to learn on my own what a person likes or doesn't like - I think knowing too much takes the fun out of exploring. It's ok to give away a few freebies...especially if it's unusual, whether it's a like or dislike it can avoid an embarrassing, tense or outright turn off situation...

I hate to be tickled and I've dealt with guys who will playfully try to tickle me so that is my # 1 freebie - I have to give all kinds of caution warnings because I get an instant attitude over that and it can easily be a deal breaker if he doesn't respect that, and it's hard because I love massages but sometimes that initial touch can feel like a tickle attempt and I automatically tense up >:-O

But I think you have to be careful what dislikes you make known cause certain things you can change your mind about depending on the person you are with.

Re: Age Ain't Nothin' But A Number

HeadMistress — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 11:05:09 -0000

Age really is just a number...I know I have family members in my age range that are light years in good GD sense behind me and others much younger that have it together

But that brother is just sad and scary - he should definitely know better...smdh

Re: Sacrificing Sex

HeadMistress — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 13:28:33 -0000

All the other qualities!!!

People can improve their sex game, and most are willing too if they know it needs improvement whereas if someone is an inconsiderate asshole, unmotivated, lacks ambition, lacks personality etc they are less likely to change.

So it is definitely more important to find someone who has decent qualities - cause improving the sex may not be easy but it is soooo much easier than tryin to change or hoping those other set in qualities (or lack of) will get better.

Re: Are You Serious!?

HeadMistress — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:27:41 -0000

LMAO @ "I'm sure she could suck a mean d*ck, but she probably couldn't spell it" you are toooooo funny!!!!

Re: Are You Serious!?

HeadMistress — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 11:05:04 -0000

UN-BE-LIEV-ABLE!!! ROFLMAO!!!

She had to have some level of literacy, I mean did she not have a job, ever read a magazine, like you said - text or chat, apply for a credit card, driver's license, read a bus/train sched, cook ??? I mean so many daily activites require reading o_O

I mean I know they can fake it pretty well, look at Fantasia, she went through a whole televised talent show and no one knew but GD, idk

I guess add that one to the list of deal-breakers too...LOL

Re: Deal or No Deal

HeadMistress — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 10:10:24 -0000

LMAO @ laid off, hell yeah!

And I'm sorry but small hands are somewhat of a deal breaker too - not just because I think its indicative to what he's workin with ;-) but it just doesn't feel right - guys that I've known with small hands usually have a weak touch (handshake, handhold etc)...blegh

Re: Deal or No Deal

HeadMistress — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 18:32:50 -0000

Lack of ambition and/or chronic unemployment, a man who f*cks indiscriminately, living with mommy or "nah, my mother lives with me" (yeah right), & dishonesty just to name a few

Re: "Report Cards"

HeadMistress — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 14:59:05 -0000

I cheated once - it was for the sole purpose of spiting him for cheating on me so many times - I cheated with a dude he HATED and then I told him about it and then I left him.

Other than that I just feel like no matter how bad a situation might be, cheating will only make it worse - if I've worked on bettering a situation to no avail, I don't cheat, I leave...

Re: "Report Cards"

HeadMistress — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 15:26:55 -0000

Yeah, you're definitely right about the cheating! I file that in the abuse category I think differently than a lot of people and for me that falls under emotional abuse.

Re: "Report Cards"

HeadMistress — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 14:50:37 -0000

The only thing I think I would want to know (b4 they become the SO) is if they've been abusive in previous relationships. A history of that would be reason for an automatic denial of the SO-Application

I think it's better to learn about your partner on your own - because whether you get the report from when the relationship was good or bad you're still getting info based on someone else's perception which isn't necessarily reality

Re: Barbie Definatly Don’t Look Like That

HeadMistress — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 15:41:41 -0000

*Standing Ovation*

Re: Who Was Your Teacher?

HeadMistress — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 14:16:24 -0000

Yeah, my worst trial and error was my first time ridin' - it was NOT good and gave me a complex that I hold even to this day. Thank God I got it now ;-) but I still get performance anxiety sometimes...

Re: Who Was Your Teacher?

HeadMistress — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 12:33:24 -0000

You are sooooo lucky! Kinda wish I had someone to school me beforehand

I learned through the direction of my first few bf's, my own experimentation & trial and error ;-), but that all has its benefits too so I can't complain

Re: My Apologies

HeadMistress — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 18:03:14 -0000

Hi Twin!!! Hope all is well and it's all "good" busyness.

Re: Rules of Sexting....

HeadMistress — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 09:55:16 -0000

Hiiii Ness!

Happy New Year PCL Fam!!!

Hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas!

Miss you guys!