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Re: 10 things that are not ybp (young, black, or professional)

Kay — Wed, 15 Aug 2007 15:27:31 -0000

I agree with some of what you said, but I think you have an extremely narrow view of being a ybp. The person you described probably lives on the East coast and doesn't work in a tech field. The tables turn when you move to the west (where the good weather means no one dresses like a professional, it's all business casual because the layers in a suit are too darn hot!), and/or work in a company that has "dot com" in the name or "web" in your title. I worked at a dot com that had a pool table in the breakroom. How do you play pool in a suit?

Re: Commentary or Contempt?

Kay — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 19:25:16 -0000

I agree with you on this one. I think the fact that people are really wearing "stop snitching" shirts in high-crime areas and that rappers are on public airwaves demeaning women and promoting criminal behavior is MUCH worse than the fact that someone made a cartoon about it. If we don't like what we see in the mirror, we need to change the reality.

Re: YBP? Yes. Expert? No.

Kay — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 19:38:33 -0000

I actually like what Bill Cosby said and I like what Hill Harper says, but I don't like that Hill Harper feels the need to chastise people like Bill Cosby. The fact is that there is a problem and some people will listen when you tell them one way and some will listen when you tell them another way. Why are black people only allowed one message? MLK vs Malcom X? They were both valid in some ways and perhaps they were both successful because there were two different viewpoints out there. Hill Harper and Bill Cosby are attacking the same problem from two different angles. Each will reach an audience that won't listen to the other. In my humble opinion, both are doing fine, and we should have MORE angles and viewpoints to choose from, not less.

Re: Young, not so gifted and black

Kay — Tue, 21 Aug 2007 19:41:48 -0000

I think others have summed up the main issues, but I wanted to bring up urban design. We have designed ourselves out of space. Part of the reason the boys (and even girls, now) are so antsy in class is that we don't have fields and yards for them to run in anymore. Contemporary houses barely have back yards, and inner cities have multi-unit dwellings with no yards at all and very few parks to go to. Kids are cooped up, spending time in front of the tv, the computer, or video games. Then, told they need to keep sitting still in class all day. That's fine for sometimes, but I think we've forgotten that what kids really need is wide open space to play.

* My favorite places to be as a kid were either in some random field/creek and in my grandparents yard, which doubled as a semi-truck graveyard. As a well-mannered girl, my favorite places still involved spaces and freedom. I couldn't imagine being a high-energy boy and being denied that. It must be terrible.

Re: Natural Black Hair not Glamorous?

Kay — Tue, 04 Sep 2007 14:11:55 -0000

I've been natural for about 5 years now. Luckily, I live in Los Angeles so I don't get weird looks because everyone here is pretty "off the beaten path". Idid find it hard, though, because as BronzeTrinity said, there isn't much help in the way of magazines, so I had to figure it out on my own. Here's what I found works:

I only comb all the way through my hair when it's dripping wet and covered with conditioner. That means washing in the shower because the sink is too complicated.

After patting dry, I section it and cover it with some sort of cream for moisture (Parnevu is good because it's light weight and doesn't turn white on wet hair), followed by a gel for hold. Leave it down and let it air dry (you can't put wet hair "up" because it won't dry and it can grow mildew - not going into detail about how I learned that one).

On days that it's not being washed, I spritz with infusium23 mixed with water so it's not so thick. Then rearrange the curls and style. Usually with a clip or something because it's really bushy when I leave it down.

Also, the first year is just for experimenting. It takes about that long to figure out what y0ur hari will and won't do, and how to prepare it wet in order to get the look you want when it's dry (assuming you air-dry. If you're blow-drying, you obviously have more control).

That's what worked for me. I know everyone is different, but hopefully if those of us who have gone natural talk about our experiences, it will help others, so I threw my two cents in.

Re: NOT SO NUTS

Kay — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 20:56:39 -0000

Foster parents in California get money to help care for the kids, and the kids get government services because they are wards of the state. That's why Angels in Waiting's foster parents were given state money and govt. services. All foster parents are.

Which is also why they need so much money to care for the octuplets. The mom wants to keep them. The sad thing is, they SHOULD be wards of the state because she obviously a narcissist and doesn't care a whit for those kids outside of the attention they get her. Then, Angels in Waiting could legitimately care for them as foster kids until they were adopted into families that would really love them.

Re: IS THAT A BIBLE IN YOUR HAND, OR ARE YOU JUST HAPPY TO SEE OUR KIDS?

Kay — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 21:04:28 -0000

Why don't you just teach your kid to do what everyone else does when offered something they don't want. Smile and say "no, thank you" and keep going. Pedophiles are scary. People with religious beliefs you don't share are only slightly annoying - unless you make them out to be something else.

Re: Five Reasons Not To See ‘The Happening’

Kay — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 13:59:39 -0000

Okay, here's the deal, people.

Alfred Hitchcock was brilliant and there will never be another like him.

The Sixth Sense was legend. It's the kind of film that most filmmakers try their entire lives to make, and fail.

If the only criticisms that people can make about M. Knight Shyamalan is that he can't live up to (1) sheer brilliance, or (2) himself, then he's pretty damn good.

Re: Abortions Pose Risk To Future Babies

Kay — Sat, 20 Aug 2005 15:08:52 -0000

13 year old should not have screwed anything that moves, then it would not be pregers.

1 - 13 year old pregnant is a "she", not an "it"

2 - in your world, I guess rape never happens

Why don't you offer something intelligent about how to handle 13 year old pregnant girls instead of this?

Re: Screw Abstinence

Kay — Sat, 20 Aug 2005 15:08:47 -0000

As a 32 year old virgin who started out waiting for marriage and is now at the "what the hell for?" stage, I can comment on the abstinence issue. The problem isn't teaching abstinence until marriage, or at least maturity (if you can't handle the consequences of an action, like a pregnancy, then you aren't mature enough for the action), the problem is the de-emphasis of committment within our culture. In other words, we teach kids to stay abstinent until married, then tell them they're too young to get married because they should go out and enjoy life. We tell them this until they're 30 (I know this personally), not ever explaining to them what they are supposed to do in the meantime. If our culture embraced the fact that marriage is a good thing and endeavored to support young marriages by encouraging continued education and supporting access to good childcare in case the couple needs it (a lot of the time, kids happen even without marriage, so this is a valid issue) and stop acting like 20-somethings getting married is the worst thing in the world, then abstinence education wouldn't be ridiculed so much because the average person wouldn't have to wait that long.