DISQUS

You can probably find more blogs if you just go to one of the blogs you already listed...I know Meg (persephone) has a bunch on her blog...I have a few different ones on mine http://www.keptchained.blogspot.com - you could also add fetlife.com the Bdsm community - its sort of like facebook for the kinky.

respectfully

Ms

I know for me its more than understanding what is expected of me, I like to know the why behind it. Sometimes there isn't a why which makes the task more difficult for me because if it doesn't make sense to me I find it harder to remember and comply. When I understand it, I find that it is so much easier to integrate the task and comply with ease.

There are always little things that are "because I said so" but for the most part my rules, and directions have a reason behind them that allows me to understand. I totally agree that just dictating and punishing for non-compliance doesn't work. In fact I know for me this has the opposite effect, I become defiant and agitated.

I want to please, my goal is not to disobey and most infractions are unconscious which is when Master brings brings me back, grounding me and refocusing me on the task.

Respectfully,

Ms

I completely agree that we need to talk and be open about our relationships. Allow people to see that our relationships can be healthy, caring and freeing. As with the GLBT community the more we come out the easier it will be for people to start accepting us. Its just hard to take that first step and share openly when people have such judgment against M/s relationships.

Thank you for your contribution to our community.

Respectfully,

Ms

How funny you should bring up the crop. I just bought Master a new crop as a surprise gift because his had been misplaced. I love Masters crop, it is by far my favorite. Its nice to read about someone else's experience with its joy.

I am also struggling with bringing myself into balance, I love your blog, its so open and honest. Thank you for sharing your experience of surrender.

Your blog is so refreshing and reflects so many of the qualities that I find in my Master. It is wonderful that someone is putting this information forward so that others can learn that this lifestyle can be loving, respectful and not abusive. Thank you for sharing.

Respectfully,

Ms