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Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/07/how-did-you-get-your-man.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 20:11:00 -0000

*Coming through for the first time*

I just wanted to say thank you for posting this. It has opened my eyes to certain things when it comes to dating.

Great post :)

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/09/new-mexico-haven-for-race-relations.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 16:51:00 -0000

I've heard these words from many different Hispanics, and it pisses me off. Truth be told, not all Blacks arrived as slaves, but a vast majority did (read upon your history). Also, Blacks paved the way for all minorities, especially Hispanics, for we (Blacks) had no choice to deliver what was encumbered upon us.

How dare any Hispanic look down upon Blacks?!

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/10/why-is-this-fat.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 12:25:00 -0000

I think what has shifted is the acceptable "norm" by society. Society put a label on what is suppose to be pretty, beautiful, and attractive when a majority of women don't fit that norm. While speaking to my mother about this, she informed me that the fashion industry and the idea of beauty was changed with the introduction of models who looked like Twiggy. That changed everything.

When this happened, it messed with the mentality of women, and it also made them negatively decipher between what is pretty vs. ugly. When everywhere you look, you see a woman who is a size 4 at max, it messes with your mentality and makes you begin to think, "Is there something wrong with me?"

Personally, I'm not one of those women who wishes to be skinny (yet I still read Cosmo, Vogue, and others) , and I like to see women who aren't so consumed with being skinny. I battled with an eating disorder for a long time due to what society said I should look like, and now that I'm comfortable with my looks, I can care less of what society thinks.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/10/biracial-multiracial-or-just-black.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 20:52:00 -0000

I concur, and I'm glad you said this. I'm getting sick of hearing, "O' they are biracial." Tell that to society.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/10/i-swore-i-would-do-this.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 21:57:00 -0000

Honestly, comments and thoughts like his aren't even worth my entertainment or worth my mental space, therefor I didn't listen to the clip.

I've heard of comments like his from everyday Black men, and I have to admit, it used to bother me. I guess it bothered me because at that point in my life, I felt unsure of myself, and I felt as though I needed to be validated by a Black man. Not only have I gotten over that insecurity, but I find myself more in tune with positive ways, lifestyles, and people...including men.

In closing, eff what this fool has to say. If you're sure of yourself, it won't matter. Dude can kiss what I twist and I ain't talking about my wrist.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/10/white-prideyour-thoughts.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 21:20:00 -0000

It's obvious that this girl has an issue or shall I say, a personal probelm. I watched the video by "mulatto diaries," and I saw nothing wrong with what she said. All she was saying, in essence, was that she is proud of who she is. So what if she said, "I'm proud to be white." Get over it! If you ask me, I'm proud to be white, black, and native american, for they all come together and make this wonderful being *smile*.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/10/white-prideyour-thoughts.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 14:53:00 -0000

Normally I wouldn't go further into this, but since I'm having a good day, I guess I will entertain "Moviegirl" for a minute, and maybe Jazzy can agree:

As stated before, I don't find anything wrong with what the girl was saying in "mulatto diaries," for I find having pride in self is something more people need to have. Unlike others, I wasn't offended by what she said; I'm very secure in myself to not be agitated with ideologies that represent one's truth. Yes, I'm very aware of the history behind the genesis of Black Pride, and the validation of such. However, we as a society tend to place our own connotations to words or phrases. It's obvious that the phrase "White Pride" has elicited a negative emotion in some people...maybe due to the connotation to the phrase; a connotation that represents negativity, harm, encumbrance, etc. This emotion is also elicited when other people hear the phrase "Black Power." Either way, society has made that happen, and it thrives, unfortunately. As someone who comes from a diverse family filled with various races, cultures, Republicans, Democrats, and even a parent who is an ex Black Panther, I'm always coming in contact with people who are different, yet find a way to respectfully come together and build together with dignity and pride...the same things that "mulatto diaries" was saying that she is now finding within herself, and I find it to be beautiful.

**I learned that from the book of My Life, written by The Creator, edited by civilization...a lesson that knows no age limits, just innate abilities to reconize the reality.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/10/white-prideyour-thoughts.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 20:28:00 -0000

Moviegirl,

The white race wasn't created...it evolved, just like any other race from the first known man and woman in Africa. As evolution proceeded,so did the ideologies of class, intelligence, and prevalence that was labeled upon races via trials and tribulations among these nations. You can read more into this via readings such as The Mismeasure of Man; The Journey of Man: A Genetic Odyssey; and Disseminating Darwinism: The Role of Place, Race,Religion, and Gender.

*A beautifully.conjured.up lie*=you lost me on that one? I don't understand what you was trying to say.

Once again, there isn't anything wrong with being prideful; if anyone bothered by someone doing so, then that's a personal problem. I could possibly understand your position if the woman said, "I'm white, so I'm right," or something to that effect but she didn't. All she said was, she is proud of who she is.

No, I don't feel as though I should be weary about someone who chooses to call themselves or refer to themselves as a "mulatto." Mulatto has many meanings, just like Creole which most people know it as a person of mixed ancestry (Spanish, West Indies, etc.), but it also means "house nigger" [from Port. crioulo, dim. of cria "person (especially a servant) raised in one's house,"]. Or like the word "Black," which can be translated to mean "dirty/soiled with dirt/ignorant/hostile/evil." Are you ashamed to be called Black? Do you think you are a dirty, soiled with dirt, ignorant hostile, evil woman? I hope not. My family comes from Creole descendants, so should we not be prideful of our ancestry because the word is also known to mean "house nigger?" Of course not...try going to any Creole and tell them to be ashamed of who they are, and see what happens. As a descendant, I'm proud of who I am. I may not be prideful of the harsh conditions and antics my Black and Native American ancestors had to go through, but I represent them...even my White/Spanish ancestors. Am I to hold my head down in shame? No. Am I to neglect to inform my future children and grandchildren about their ancestory and history because it involves a word that meant "house nigger?" No. I may not be walking around here announcing my heritage, but know that I'm proud of who I am and every race/culture that came together to make me...just like the woman being proud of who she is.

****Note Bene: I'm done with this discussion. I have a research article to work on. It was fun though *smile*.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/10/religion-or-lack-thereof.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 22:01:00 -0000

I think there is a difference between being religious and being spiritual, and for me, I know I'm spiritual rather than being religious. I think people get too caught up in religion and place their own idologies upon the religion; as well as place their own governance, which I'm not for. I haven't been to church in a while, and it's mostly due to me not feeling satisfied when I depart. I think the organized religion within the church (and others) has taken things in the wrong direction; the objective isn't focused on the spiritual health anymore, in addition to having false prophets and or/hypocritical leaders in the church.

I could never be agnostic, atheist, etc., for my relationship with God is alive...I've seen it, felt it, and experienced it. I don't call myself a Christian...I think that is just a way to label yourself. I'm a child of God who believes in the core principles of Christ (although I fall short of the glory time to time). Yes, I read the Bible, but I do know the Book has been tampered with, such as there are missing information from it. I don't doubt the validity of other religions,so I have no problem co-existing with others...besides, it's not my place to judge others, nor is it my place to force my beliefs on others...I feel like God will intervene in their life, just like He did with me.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/10/matter-of-time.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 12:30:00 -0000

I'm not going to entertain that thought or give it enough power to come to pass.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/10/beyonce-as-etta.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 21:12:00 -0000

How can Beyonce's thick, country ass play Eartha Kitt?!

BTW, I agree with you Siditty about this post.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/10/interracial-guilt.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 23:47:00 -0000

Siditty,

Why didn't you like being black?

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/10/wtf-senator-tarzan.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 10:24:00 -0000

This is what I don't understand about racsim...

It's expected to encounter racist people of an opposing race, for our country was "founded" upon that mentality, and it festers. However, why do Blacks continue to hold onto the slave/crab mentality? Why is it so hard for us to be supportive and welcoming of each other? Out of all of the races and nationalities in America, Blacks continue to be at the bottom...hmmmmm, I wonder why?!

This man isn't the only one...I encounter this type of mentality on a daily basis from everyday people, and it needs to stop. When we get the nerve to allow this mentality and actions to dwindle, a serious change will occur.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/10/wtf-senator-tarzan.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 10:26:00 -0000

PS, this is also another reason why not everyone is called to preach, and why I depend on my personal, direct relationship with God rather than relying on a "middle man."

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/10/sex-questions-for-black-women-answered.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 08:57:00 -0000

I've never been so stuck on size, so it never really mattered. Long as the job gets done, I'm cool. About the oral sex, from my experience of being initmate with Black, White, Hispanic, and Asian men (damn, I've had the whole rainbow), White and Hispanic men hands down offer it more and are willing to do it A LOT more than Black men. From what the Black men told me, they don't have to because they have big d*cks...then I was quick to tell them "don't believe the hype, for many of you have itty bitty weenies." Then if they do perform oral sex, its for maybe one minute...no passion, skills, or whatever...just doing it to be doing it for one minute (of course, not all Black men...just the average).

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/10/sex-questions-for-black-women-answered.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 11:51:00 -0000

LOL @ two incher...well of course you have to be able to feel it with a certain amount of thickness to give you that "wow" factor, but guys lie all the time on their d*cks (like we won't find out). Well I knew a guy who was THE WORST KISSER EVER, but he was highly skilled at oral. I don't know how that happened but it did.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/11/way-to-sway-under-10-vote-lady.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 09:42:00 -0000

Only a Republican would do this. These Republicans are very desperate, but it's sad when you put innocent children into the situation. This is how children incorporate ignorant ideologies, via ignorant adults. All the while, this lady still finds it acceptable to behave like this.

I'm glad the guy came through and rectified the situation for the children...at least someone has some sort of holiday decorum.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/11/yes-we-can.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 01:12:00 -0000

My head hurts from crying...I know one thing, I will have a pep in my step and my head high in the sky when I go to work tomorrow!!!!

Matter of fact, I just might call in sick and celebrate at home.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/11/what-do-we-do-now.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 07:47:00 -0000

My aunt got tickets to the ball (luckily I'm going with her), and she said they were very high...too damn high.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/11/proposition-8-passed-black-people-are.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 20:23:00 -0000

I don't believe Blacks are to blame...we make up a small percentage of the population.

Even though I believe a marriage should be defined as a spiritual bond between a man and a woman, I don't think proposition 8 was fair. To have a right given then taken away is harsh.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/11/when-deuces-go-wrong.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 22:58:00 -0000

Ummm, where do I began?

...let me come back to this one (speechless, and that's rare)...

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/11/when-deuces-go-wrong.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 09:00:00 -0000

Ok, I'm back...

Why? Why would someone wish to partake in such coonery?! I don't like it when anyone does it no matter what the race is, but to see this is like watching a reversal minstrel show...no one is laughing with him, they're laughing at him...

...pathetic soul...

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/11/six-flags-over-jesus-and-social-status.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 17:51:00 -0000

I guess in response, it's jut the Black church culture. For years, we have viewed the church as the center of our community, and we wanted to reflect good things in that place (even though times for us weren't always good). This meant, looking your best and emphasizing an idea that you bring and look your best for God since He has done the best for you. It lifts the spirits.

I must admit, when I go to church, I dress up...it's embedded in me, and I won't ever change that. I actually get excited to wear my best with my pearls. Even though it says come as you are, when I usually step out, I dress up anyways...that's me on an every day basis...even if I'm wearing sneakers (which is rare), I'm on point with it.

About mega churches, I have mixed feelings about it. There are lots of celebrities who go to my church, and the church has expaned to its own schools, gyms, little league teams, and whatever else...frankly, I find noththing wrong with it. About the money...if you have it to give, give...if not, o' well. I love my pastor, Bishop Eddiie Long, and I love his sermons. However, I hate parking at church and leaving the parking lot. People get so filled with the spirit yet want to cuss you out if you try to cut in front of them to leave the parking lot. What happened to the loving spirit?! I'd rather just watch it on television or go to the early service.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/11/six-flags-over-jesus-and-social-status.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 09:41:00 -0000

I would say, in the past when all we had was the church to depend on, it lifted our spirits, for other than that we had no major reason to look our best...our jobs mostly included being maids, brick layers, etc. Currently, it's not the only thig that lifts our spirits because we have a lot more compared to our ancestors, yet I still think it has that affect (somewhat). Some may call it materialistic, but I don't see it that way...I just see it as tradition. At my church, you can come as you are...I've seen people wear nothing but a t-shirt and jeans, and sit at the front...does it matter...no. It's all about you being comfortable in what you wish to wear. I feel the saying come as you are, is saying come how you feel comfortable. If you're comfortable in it, and coming to church for a purpose, then forget what others have to say.

The celebrities don't participate in the other parts of the church (i.e. gym, schools, etc.), well I haven't seen them, but I'm more than sure their money has helped to make it happen. The centers aren't only for church members, rather they are for the community, so it isn't a social center. It's the same as when they send transportation for the elderly, college students, and regular people who don't have cars. They also help pay students tuitions, feed the homeless (and college students at times), pay for educational trips outside of the country, help people with their health, offer counseling services, help people pay their bills (even sometimes paying off major bills), and much more. I think it is just trying to once again be an integral part of the community like it once was. Often we tend to look at the negative without fully seeing the whole spectrum and understanding why the church is doing what it doing.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/11/six-flags-over-jesus-and-social-status.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 09:53:00 -0000

Also, for anyone who wants to read upon the reason why black women wear hats in church, the book "Crowns: Portraits of Black Women in Church Hats." Then of course, there are also various articles out there about the same thing.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/11/six-flags-over-jesus-and-social-status.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 15:13:00 -0000

@starkitty50

Overall, I like the church (except for the parking and the ushers who act like they are being paid a six figure salary);my family has been going to see him for a long time (prior to the current location). People are going to have their own opinions and feelings towards religion, and various types of churches aren't above being looked down upon. With that being said, I would say come down to New Birth one day (sacrafice that drive for an experience) and see for yourself b/c I could tell you my feelings about it all day, but it's up to you to decipher whether or not it's for you.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/11/thanks-gloryus84-for-this.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 16:23:00 -0000

Siditty, why did you put this up while I am at work???!!! You know I can't resist...have me making a phone call as we speak to my "friend" since I've just been inspired ;)

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/12/questions-for-white-guys.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 10:11:00 -0000

I just wanted to speak about the "white male intention" caution flag.

I find this to be very true, especially when I'm talking to my friends about IR dating. Personally, I won't date a WM who has never dated BW...I'm just picky like that. To my surprise, many of them want to date IR, but are afraid to due to them thinking WM only have a sexual objective. Luckily, for me, most of the WM that I know date black women exclusively and want to have serious relationships...even marriage (some are on the verge of that big step).

Just like anyone else, I don't think it's fair to box WM into a category of whether or not they want serious relationships...they vary just like other people.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/12/questions-for-white-guys.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 20:59:00 -0000

I think the reason why BW/WM relationships aren't high in numbers are due to various factors. The ones that stick out the most are reasons previosly stated by other commenters, such as WM and BM not being in the same social circles (it's hard to step out of your niche into someone else's) and historical reasons. I would also like to think, BW are more hesitant to date WM due to various social ideologies in the black community, such as being seen as a weak woman, etc. (thankfully I don't care what society says or thinks). So many of my black female friends want to date WM, but are scared of the flack they will receive from the black community, especially BM.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/12/concept-of-being-white.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 12:06:00 -0000

John is on your page too!!!

I swear, almost everyone I know of has had John come to their page and talk about Whites and how anti-white we are. Sometimes he changes his name, but his messages are the same. He obviously has some issues and needs to see Dr. Phil or someone of the like.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/12/concept-of-being-white.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 12:20:00 -0000

I can't speak for whites, but I know in my family, we realize we're all mixed with different races. Recently my family did a geaneology project, and we weren't shocked that there was racial mixing, butwe were surprised at the amount of racial mixing that went on in our history...it was shocking, but it made sense. So many of my family members range in skin tones, eye colors, hair colors, hair textures, body shapes, etc., and it was hard to explain because we didn't know our family history was so heavily "diluted" with other races...until now.

Due to this, it showed me how related Americans are, yet we wish to stay divided...if we only knew and/or chose to face the reality.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/12/concept-of-being-white.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 20:35:00 -0000

Once again, this "John" guy posted the same thing on my blog, and once again, I deleted it.

It's people like this pitiful imbecile that makes it so hard for Americans as a whole to begin to have an uninhibited, ideology of the truth and learn to respect it. Seriously, what good does it do for imbeciles to react this way? Huh, John (if that's your real name)? Let's have a "tell us why you mad son" moment, and express what's really going on in that ill mind of yours.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2008/12/is-it-wrong-i-am-jealous.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 09:50:00 -0000

I can't lie, dude has skills, and I'm trying to learn them :)

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/01/blacks-gone-wild-john-mcwhorter.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 16:49:00 -0000

To be honest, this isn't surprising to me, for I went to high school with blacks who felt the same way...it's hard being surrounded by imbeciles when you're trying to connect with someone.

I would have to agree with Brohammas, yet I also think racism is institutionalized, and this is America's legal way of keeping opression on various levels.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/01/bad-boys-why.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 20:47:00 -0000

I like the nice boys...who are bad boys in bed ;)

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/01/dear-anonymous.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 13:47:00 -0000

I must say, this comment by anonymous isn't new to me...I've heard it all...while reading it, I had my violin playing in my head. With that being said, I have no need to entertain him, for ignorance isn't worthy.

BTW, are you expecting Siditty? If so, CONGRATS!! (I'm piggybacking from the other comment)

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/01/dear-anonymous.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 14:32:00 -0000

Ok, I see that I'm slow, for I should have read your new title "Knocked Up Since 2008." Once again, congrats and may you have a healthy pregnancy, birth, and baby :)

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/01/this-is-late.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 15:11:00 -0000

I don't know if I should laugh or be pissed...hmmmmm.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/01/how-i-grew-up.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 11:47:00 -0000

I have always been told I talk white (whatever that means)...also, I'm stuck up, prissy, etc. because I listened to "white music," watched "white television shows," and carried myself with high esteem. It never bothered me, because I had a strong family foundation that made sure to instill in me where I came from and where I could go in life...majority of my family members went to HBCUs, and were also involved in the Civil Rights movement, SNCC, etc. here in Atlanta, GA & Alamaba, so even though I was teased for my speech style (and other things), I never once felt I wasn't black or not part of the black community. I just looked at it as though my family placed education as a priority, and whoever didn't like it, well that's their problem.

I also think it depends on the type of people you're surrounded by. For instance, the black children that teased me for my speech, were also children whose background wasn't similar to mine; their family didn't care about education or the value of learning. On the other hand, when I was around my family members, or children in social clubs, activities, etc., it wasn't ever an issue. The black community as a whole can't be lumped up into one, for we're diverse as any other community.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/01/saturday-night-party-yeah-i-really-have.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sun, 01 Feb 2009 16:11:00 -0000

I have no comment about the post...just wanted to say I like the new background and the profile picture is very cute (the new picture with the baby).

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/02/if-you-want-something-done-right-go-to.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 01:54:00 -0000

I have no problem doing business with black people...I do, however, have a problem doing buiness with blacks who have a Willie Lynch mentality.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/02/hope-that-black-women-could-be-on-equal.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 11:09:00 -0000

I guess to answer your question, I would have to say you need to instill in her, at an early age, that she is beautiful inside and out and continue to nurture this ideology within her.

I can honestly say, I never had this problem feeling as though I was less than or my looks wouldn't suffice because I was a dark-skinned, full-lipped Black girl. Contrary to your experience, I never dealt with negativity from Whites about my looks, for it was more of them (White females) complementing me and telling me how they wish they had what I had. On the other hand, I've experienced negativity from Blacks, but that didn't bother me, for I knew and understood who I was, where I was from, and who I represented.

In no way am I saying your daughter won't ever have to deal with the negativity because people will be negative until the end of time. I am saying you can help her have enough mental strength and knowledge so that it won't affect her. Pain is inevitable, but misery is optional...teach her how to not be miserable from this pain and carry it with her in her lifetime.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/02/is-this-racist.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 20:44:00 -0000

Hell yea it's racist!!

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/02/yahoo-chat-fun.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 17:07:00 -0000

I just can't believe you kept on talking to him for that long...the idiots get no love from me after a while.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/02/proof-of-mainstream-ir.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 22:54:00 -0000

See, this is one of the many reasons why I'm not on facebook...dumb ish all around.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/02/how-did-they-manage-to-overlook-race.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 14:28:00 -0000

Great post!!

I had no idea about this, and now I want to learn now about it...thanks for sharing this with us!

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/03/pregnancy-and-marriage.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 16:43:00 -0000

Our whole ideology of what the "norm" is has changed, hence a plethora of "standards" have changed also.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/03/pregnancy-and-marriage.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 14:52:00 -0000

BTW, I gave you an award on my blog :)

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/03/michelle-obama-under-attack-from.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 10:09:00 -0000

One word can sum up her hate...

...Black...

She obviously has an issue with black women, and from my personal experience, most (white) feminist do. I don't understand why, but their objection isn't only against male control, but it's obvioulsy also against black woman control.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/03/myth-of-strong-black-woman.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 16:06:00 -0000

I hate to admit this, but I hate this myth. It's as if to say we're not human...we're not suppose to be able to express our emotions or to feel anything; we're only suppose to carry everything on our shoulders, pray about it and move on.

Not I.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/03/is-it-ok-to-stereotype-yourself.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 16:05:00 -0000

I'm at work right now, so I can't see the videos.

To answer your question, I would say No, It's not OK. It's not OK because you're setting yourself up by limiting youself to various labels and ideologies...one shouldn't ever place themselves in a box, only to figure out that the box doesn't fit.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/04/my-lesson-in-being-strong-black-woman.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 09:04:00 -0000

I will keep you in my prayers.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/04/does-steve-harvey-share-sentiments-of.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 11:22:00 -0000

I just don't get it.

On one hand, they want an independent, intelligent woman who can bring something to to the table. However, if she is "too independent" then they don't want her.

This is some bullshit.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/04/i-guess-i-need-to-pack-my-bags.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 10:57:00 -0000

This isn't totally about taxes...it's about race as well because there is a HNIC in the White House.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/04/do-friends-influence-your-taste.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 20:11:00 -0000

Plain and simple: No

If my friends are really my friends, they will respect my taste and leave it at that...end of story. If they don't respect it, they're free to go.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/04/matthew-mcconaughey-and-his-love-of.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 16:10:00 -0000

No, there wasn't anything wrong with what he said. Well, it depends on how you perceive the question...I perceived it to be by the standards of Hollywood (i.e. not many black women are on the covers because we fall short of the standard). By that, he was speaking the truth.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/04/rip-bea-arthur.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 18:12:00 -0000

I watch The Golden Girls to this day...she will be missed.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/05/3rd-reich-history-month.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Wed, 06 May 2009 16:18:00 -0000

First, let me just say LMAO @ "Thank you Paul Wall and let me do my obligatory R.I.P. DJ Screw and Pimp C. Shout out to Swishahouse!!!!!!!!" For some reason, that made my day.

Back to the point, I live in Georgia, and I find it to be the same way. Granted, Atlanta is heavily filled with African-Americans, many well to do African-Americans, but when you venture to the outside of that, it's a different story. Sad to say, but I feel as though many white, die hard southerners want to so badly think that the south won and that things could go back to the way they were. They will forever stay in denial and have a false ideology.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/05/so-does-this-mean-things-are-changing.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Fri, 08 May 2009 10:19:00 -0000

No...it's just good marketing.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/05/blog-post.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Wed, 13 May 2009 17:28:00 -0000

Siditty...you must have been terribly bored. However, I enjoyed it, and it gave me a good laugh...especially wating a robot-looking cartoon moving her hips!!

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/06/annie-chicken-queen-modern-day-mammy.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 11:57:28 -0000

When I saw this comercial for the first time on t.v., I must admit I was shocked. It screams out stereotype...it's nothing but a modernized Mammy.

Maybe, just maybe if she wasn't so "fiesty"...maybe it wouldn't be so bad. Then again, it's a black woman representing the face of fried chicken...it's bad.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/06/lessons-learned-in-push-black-women.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 08:52:39 -0000

This reminded of the time when my alma mater took a stand against a very well known rapper's song and his images of black women in his videos. He wanted to have a function at our school for health reasons, but many of us (just about all on SGA) didn't find that acceptable due to how he portrayed black women.

Well, when local media invited some of the students to speak about it on their t.v./radio shows, I expected a lot of black women to be supportive. WRONG! I have never heard so many black women get angry, say mean things, etc. about what we were doing. It was if they were finding what this rapper was doing in his videos and in his song acceptable and what we were doing wasn't acceptable. They were trying to emphasize the importance of sticking by a black man no matter what he did because it was just "entertainment."

It was a sad situation.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/06/interesting-article-on-dealing-with-ir.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 11:41:04 -0000

I've tried the online dating, and it was horrible...mostly because the white men had stereotypes of black women and expected me to be like that...ummm, no. Not to mention the lies...the lies were too much. So I've left it alone and don't plan on going back.

I find those articles to have some truth to them, but just like most articles "published" on the internet, they're mostly biased.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/06/red-house-brings-people-together.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 07:30:27 -0000

What about the asians????

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/06/do-i-need-to-quit-buying-loreal-yeah-i.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 10:49:53 -0000

I found this post to be educational yet comical...wow!!

I'm sure L'Oreal isn't the only company that does this...they just got caught.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/07/why-black-folks-dont-learn-to-swim.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 20:59:27 -0000

It's just really frustrating that the children had to go through this...that's what pisses me off.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/07/who-hell-left-gate-open.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 15:11:00 -0000

I played the first video for maybe 30 seconds and bust out laughing!!!

Is this a joke??? This can't be real...ROTFL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/07/racial-profiling-or-uppity-negro.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 13:40:13 -0000

I def. believe he was upset...not only that, but probably tired and ready to call it night.

I find it very suspect that his neighbor(s) called the police on him...that doesn't sit well with me.

I'm sure the police was at fault...often police officers adopt an attitude that makes them feel as though they're superior and treat you as something less than...add race into the situation, and it becomes wors.

I haven't read the comments the people were saying (don't want to...I'm at work, and I don't need any negative emotions to be elicited), but I'm sure they were very impertinent and fallacious.

Sorry to say, but racism is alive and thriving.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/08/good-hair.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 10:26:04 -0000

I actually like Chris Rock, and I don't have an issue with his type of comedy...don't find it disrespectful at all. Mockery is part of comedy...even regular people mock others in one form or another.

The preview makes me want to watch it, and I'm glad to see that he is doing this and placing it in the media like this. I'm also glad to see that the chemical composition of relaxers are mentioned. I work in a chemical lab, and sodium hydroxide (NaOH) is something serious; it's the main ingredient in hair relaxers.

I'm not going to praise it just yet though, because judging from the preview, I don't see any naturals, and I would like to see that.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/08/have-i-trained-myself-to-realize-im.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 13:15:23 -0000

I can't say for you because I don't know your whole story, but from my POV, I've never seen myself or any other black person as "other", "abnormal", etc. I've seen us as different in the sense of our skin color, hair texture, body shape...maybe some cultural differences, but other than that, I felt as though people ate, slept, and ________ just like I did.

The media never defined my perception of who I was, what I represnted, or who I was destined to be...my family helped me with that, and I'm thankful that they did.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/08/shes-pretty-for-dark-skinned-girl.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 09:25:17 -0000

Yes, I am a dark-skinned black woman, but I was lucky enough to not feel inferior due to my complexion. Maybe it was due to my environment...maybe it was due to the "you're pretty for a dark-skinned girl" saying {that I secretly hated hearing}, but that's just me. I grew up having friends that were of all shades, all races, but a vast majority of my best friends were either light brown or light skinned. I got blamed for colorism at an early age due to this...mostly by the light skinned elders in my family. Being honest, it wasn't because they were light that we meshed well together...it was the fact that I was a dark-skinned girl who didn't feel bad about it, who kept her spirits high, carried myself with high esteem, etc, and the majority of my light-skinned friends were the same. I hated being around people who carried self hatred or self doubt...I didn't like it then, and I don't like it now.

Previously, someone made the statement, "I believe dark-skinned people are mainly responsible for keeping this an issue," and I have to totally disagree. As I got older, I became more cognizant of racism as well as colorism...especially in high school and college. College was a huge litmus test for colorism since I went to Spelman, and if you want to monitor colorism, what best place to do it than at an all black, female college. Everything from sorority life to clubs/organizations to wealth had an affiliation to colorism. Prior to me going to this college, I had people questioning my desire because I wasn't light-skinned (by both light-skinned and dark-skinned blacks). I got questioned as to why I didn't want to pledge a certain sorority, for everyone assumed I would want to "fit in" because of my skin tone (by both light-skinned and dark-skinned blacks). I remember when the college queeen for Morehouse was picked (2002), and hearing people in stores saying, "I'm surprised they picked a dark-skinned girl." Once again, this is by light and dark-skinned blacks. I could go on and on with examples that have stemmed from situations in my life, as well as a published research article that I contributed to and presented that shows colorism is split down the middle (light vs. dark) in the black community. We're all at fault for this ideology continuing, and it's going to continue long as we keep these abhorrently, moronic ethos about ourselves.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/09/why-you-cant-use-n-word.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 13:09:36 -0000

I love this post.

It made me think about a recent conversation I had with an associate who happens to be a high school math teacher and an assistant basketball coach. I noticed that he said the N word often, and I asked him how does he feel about his students using the word...he said, "Not a damn thing."

...sad...

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/09/whats-is-true-purpose-of-tea-parties.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 16:50:12 -0000

The true purpose for the tea parties is to be an undercover KKK rally...but they can tea bag on some...

...anyways...

...you get what I'm saying.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/09/what-tyler-perry-movies-have-taught-me.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 13:37:40 -0000

Being honest, I take his movies for what they are, and that's entertainment. I haven't seen all of his movies; the ones I have seen have either been enjoyable or not. While trying to understand his purpose and objectives of his movies, it's clear that he is attempting to send a positive message...whether or not that message is received as such depends on the receiver. There are people who can identify with various characters in his movies, for if they didn't, the movies wouldn't be as popular as they are. Do I think some of the actions/scenes in his movies are over the top...of course, but I'm not going to bash the man for something like this when there are people who have done much worse.

I'd like to think of myself as a black woman who is an independent thinker, and in no way shape or form do I feel as though his images are inflicting a negative ideology or a mentality that would set me back or anyone else. If a movie has that much power to set someone back or change their whole mentality, then that person has a bigger issue, and needs to take that up with some professional medical help...not Tyler Perry. Many women in our community neglect themselves on a daily basis; they don't need a movie to do such.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/09/what-tyler-perry-movies-have-taught-me.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 16:41:02 -0000

"So you are saying perpetuating stereotypes has no impact on you as an individual."

Yes I am. The veil has been lifted from my eyes a long time ago, and I found out I have this wonderful thing called a brain. No one can force anything upon you unless you allow it. I don't allow stereotypes to dictate my reality...my future. Unfortunately, many people don't understand the power of a strong a mind...a mind that isn't easily deviated from the truth...one's own truth that is define by his/her perceptions.

I see black people portraying "stereotypes" everyday, and I don't succumb to them...I damn sure won't succumb to them in a movie.

Re: http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/10/linguistic-privilege-eradicated-he-says.html

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 15:39:10 -0000

Maybe this is the type of equality that some people wish to see...

...I'm not one of them.

Re: Undecided: What is Marriage Anyway?

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sat, 25 Oct 2008 21:06:00 -0000

I have mixed feelings about this.

I too was raised in the church, but I was also raised around gay men (my mother worked for a modeling agency). On one hand, I view marriage as a sacred bond between a man and woman only...yet, I don't want to discriminate against anyone, for I understand how that feels. I'm not for gays being married "under the eyes of God," for I have strong feelings about homosexuality and religion...that's just me. However, no one should be given rights then have it taken away...the government should have thought about that before they gave homosexuals the right to marry.

Re: I Got The Shotgun For Your Back

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 07:32:00 -0000

I love Harriet, for she was serious with her actions.

I can't tell anyone how to vote either, but I can (and will) say please vote and don't make an abortive vote by writing yourself in. This isn't the time to be performing such ignorant antics and making a mockery of the people who came before you fighting, crying, struggling, and dying.

Vote, and be part of history.

Re: The Anger Zone

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 17:44:00 -0000

I run...that's usually calms me down. The increased release of dopamine is wonderful, and it puts me on a high that is hard to come down from.

Not only is it helping me physically, but also mentally and emotionally.

Re: Weekend Love

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sun, 07 Dec 2008 22:41:00 -0000

I like it...you have some talent :)

Re: The Newness

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 22:20:00 -0000

Hmmmm...

My goals would be

1. Read more

2. Stay fit

3. Let the past stay in the past

4. Keep my finances in order

Re: Books, Books, Books I do Adore…pt 1

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 19:10:00 -0000

I read The Coldest Winter Ever in middle school, and I loved it. I have yet to read Midnight, but I might have to.

Re: Attention Single Moms: It’s All Your Fault!

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 14:57:00 -0000

All I have to say is, my mother raised my brother and me by her self. My brother is a college graduate, and the first Black person to graduate with the highest honors from his college. He is now working on his masters, and is married with two children. Besides that, she put me through private high school and through Spelman...I'm now working on my masters in neuroscience.

One of my aunts had five children...all of them are college educated and working (two of them are married and working on other degrees). She did it on her own.

Two of my older cousins have college educated children, one of them is heading to medical school, full tuition paid for. They did it on their own.

Not to mention the mothers of people like Dr. Ben Carson, Barack Obama...seriously, the list could go on longer, but I don't want to waste your time.

...so that single mother stuff goes in one ear and come out the other...

Re: Looking for Work? So Am I

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 17:14:00 -0000

I'm sorry to hear of this. I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts.

Re: with students like these…

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 10:04:00 -0000

While doing student teaching once, a girl threw her text book at me...

...from that moment on, I knew teaching wasn't for me. My brother is a teacher, and I honestly don't see how you teachers do it...it must be a passion, and I for one think that teachers don't receive 1/4 of the credit (or pay) that is due to them.

Re: Living Single

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 14 May 2009 19:02:00 -0000

I have nothing but respect for single parents (raised by one), and although you're not the typical single mother, the job is just the same. Your son and husband are very grateful for what you do.

Re: Michelle Obama and the Politics of Hair

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 23:31:00 -0000

Great post! I was thinking the same thing while talking to some of my friends about the connotations natural hair receives vs. relaxed hair.

At the end of the day, it shouldn't matter, but it does.

Re: I’m Not Fat, I’m Thick: Black Women in Media (Toccara, Beyonce, Queen Latifah, Monique)

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 23:41:00 -0000

Once again, you read my mind. I think we as Black women tend to get our ideology of "thick" and "fat" mixed up due to our own insecurities in conjunction with the ideologies that society brings us. As someone who comes lives in a family where diabetes and high blood pressure dwell, I try my best to not be oblivious by saying, "I'm thick." My health can't afford that mental defect.

Its sad when we as a people have a problem with working out or trying to stay fit, and making excuses thinking you are thick...no honey, you're fat, and its not good.

Great post...I think I will add you to my blog roll :)

Re: Let Them Eat Cake!

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 11:56:00 -0000

I have a lot of goals I want to achieve...just to name a few:

Reach my goal weight and keep it.

Learn to let go and let God (handle it).

Get a better paying job (who doesn't) :)

By the way, I'm loving the blog :)

Re: Being Raced

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 09:31:00 -0000

I too have often wondered what it would be like. What would it be like to easily get away with things? To have assumptions about me that were good rather than bad...must be a good feeling.

Growing up, it was always instilled in me to not do good but great. Even when I ventured to Spelman, the professors and administrators always emphasized the importance of being excellent, for we had two odds by being Black and women. At times, it made me mad because I wanted to go and play with my friends more or act a fool in high school, but because I was Black (in an all White, private school) that wasn't a choice for me. Number one, society wouldn't forgive me as much as they would my White school mates, and number two, my mom wasn't having that (whoopings lasted until I left for college...LOL).

In all, I'm proud to be Black, for it's a beautiful thing, but it's hard being Black in America.

Re: dear america…

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 01:45:00 -0000

America is starting to her act toghether, and I'm loving it.

Re: Looking for A Hero?

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 19:11:00 -0000

I think heroes exist, but we either don't give credit where credit is due or we are looking in the wrong places.

In the fast paced society we currently live in, we can barely reconize the color of the sky, let alone your average hero. Also, we look in the wrong places...omitting the true hero that dwells in ourselves...we are just to afraid to realize this.

Re: Fire In My Eyes

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 15:16:00 -0000

I have yet to see the speech due to me being in class last night and work, but I'm about to watch it on youtube.

Re: HAIRstylin!

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 09:34:00 -0000

I have to try that product out one day :)

Re: It’s Gotta Be You

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 10:29:00 -0000

I don't feel that conversations alone is enough, because once the girls are in their own environment, those conversations go out the door. Dealing with adolescents is a very difficult, volatile. One of the reasons is due to the mentality of adolescents and their changing internal functions (i.e. hormones, regulation systems). Depending on one action of prevention isn't feasible; these girls need to not only hear, but see, and experience some other avenues other than the ones they are participating in.

Re: It’s Gotta Be You

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 21:10:00 -0000

I think it's a combination of our culture (aggressive, strong minded, independent) as well as the media (t.v., music). We tend to glorify "bad ass chicks," and give them more attention than women who are not as confrontational and who would rather walk away. When we stop labeling the "Bad Girls" as fun and entertaining (as well as stop giving them attention), then we will start to end the problem.

Re: If You Had Any Doubts

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 18:31:00 -0000

Sounds like a great idea.

Re: Get Your Milk Ready

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 23:10:00 -0000

Nice post*~*

I remember being called an oreo all the way through middle school and high school. I never let it affect me though b/c I had a set goal in life, and my mother wouldn't allow me to misrepresent her. It is sad to know people still equate a Black intelligent person to trying to be White...what an insult to our people!

Re: Wait/Weight

Beautifully.Conjured.Up — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 15:11:00 -0000

I love this song...and this post.