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Re: Hugging Is Sinful?-Christians Yall Need To Get Your Folks Off The Stage

Cynthia — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 13:00:34 -0000

Girl, who had time to put all that bunk together? LOL, wow. That's all I will say.

I guess we are two nasty heffa's, I hug folks like that all the time. If I'm into you...I hug you a totally different way, probably. Hell, I don't know...I don't even think about it.

Re: What Color Is Obama Exactly And Why Does It Bother People He Chooses To Be Black?

Cynthia — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 09:21:21 -0000

I personally don't understand the big "to-do" about Obama's race. I know he is of mixed background but that he classifies himself as black. Ok, that's fine with me.

To go back to what the lady stated on why he married Michelle. I know that it might not be the reason behind Obama's way of thinking but I do have a great-grand daddy who did that same thing. He was so light that he found himself the darkest woman that he could find (haha). He wanted to get as far away from his white roots, though. I don't see that in Obama's case.

Call me naive but -within the black community, one which I'm apart of - I don't go around claiming people. It's just not in me to do. I don't knock people that do that but that is not for me. Now, if the person who is bi-racial wants to claim a particular race than go on do the damn thing, if you don't want to (ex. Tiger Woods) then that's fine as well.

Race separation happens everywhere though. In all countries, everyone has a long way to go. I personally don't think the blogger quoted had a very valid basis for her argument.

Re: Black Students Told To Act Like Slaves

Cynthia — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 10:23:13 -0000

I don't know how you depict something as racially sensitive as slavery in a way without having someone (or some parents) being upset about it. I know that at one of the Smithsonian's in DC, they had a picking cotton exhibit and I remember one of my good friends taking part in it (she is white and native american) and saying how hard it was and it was just an insane thing to have someone do. She also was the chick who had my back when anyone said anything racist (whether it was her family or not). I am not sure if he should have singled out just the black kids - I would like to think there is a way to talk about slavery that isn't PC because slavery wasn't. I think people don't fully understand until they are forced into seeing the harsh realities of what others have faced and if you happen to feel guilty...is that really my fault?

I mean I knew the Holocaust was a horrible thing but I didn't realize how horrible until I went the museum in DC but did I leave with a better idea of what happened, yes.

Re: Dating: Just Stay Focused on the Positive

Cynthia — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 09:53:00 -0000

I love the Truth campaign commercials. I don't care what anyone else says!

I feel you. I'm overtly optimistic to a fault - I wasn't like this as a wee one so who knows when this trait developed.

I understand your sentiments, I live in Atlanta currently and the dating scene is well...I'm not sure there is a nice word to describe it but I keep truckin' on!

Re: Manly Monday: Does Size Matter?

Cynthia — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 14:29:41 -0000

If the dude can't hit the switch, there is no point. I like the feeling of being penentrated so when that doesn't happen; I'm upset. And I'm sorry, fingers won't work all the time. But I agree, I don't want to be ripped in two either. Not cool. Like the Goldilocks, I need to find one, "just riiiiight". ;-)

Re: UPDATE: Latest Article Published

Cynthia — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 12:01:15 -0000

Congrats!

And I'll have to see that movie. Just to see what homeboy is talking 'bout.

Re: Diary of a Tired Black Man

Cynthia — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 14:40:00 -0000

I have to agree. I'm not angry and I date whomever I please (truth be told, male or female but let's not open that can of worms, shall we). I was annoyed with this movie, hell, I was annoyed with Waiting to Exhale too because none of these scenarios speaks to me. What about the chicks that are right down the middle, who do their own thing? Why do I get lumped into a category that doesn't fit me on either side?

I don't get it.

Re: See Funky Brown Chick at black.alltop.com

Cynthia — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 10:25:49 -0000

Congrats!
You need to tell me your secret. :)

Re: Who is Affected by your Intercultural Relationship?

Cynthia — Fri, 22 May 2009 20:11:36 -0000

I think it's amazing how family plays such a big part in things when it comes to families outside of the Western Hemisphere. I dated someone who was from Africa and even though we shared the same skin tone our "loyalties" couldn't have been anymore different. I guess I couldn't see how you could have your identity be wrapped up in some one elses view but if I wasn't raised that way - who am I to say, really?

Re: Sunday’s Thoughts: Passion for Life

Cynthia — Mon, 05 May 2008 12:46:33 -0000

Afternoon,

I'm a new poster and I stumbled upon your blog on a whim. I have to tell you that I understand where you are coming from.

I lost my mother a little over 2 1/2 years ago and I lost all my passion and zest for life. I stumbled around aimlessly helping others but never taking time for myself.

It wasn't until recently a light went off and I knew I had to change. Someway, somehow.

I agree with the previous poster. Some days all you can do is get up, get out of bed and the house and see what the day brings. A change of surroundings (even if it's brief) does wonders. I know it helps me, if I'm feeling clogged up...I go for a run, I go dancing or to a nearby cafe and I blog.

Keep your head up.

Re: Sunday’s Thoughts: Frustrated, Again

Cynthia — Mon, 12 May 2008 08:38:41 -0000

Girl, I understand.

I have a guy like that myself but we were together for awhile. I know we could never see each other or be friends because I know I'd still be tempted. Married or not, I know that and I don't ever want to go down that road.

Re: My Girl!

Cynthia — Wed, 14 May 2008 08:10:43 -0000

It's probably some type of subliminal messaging.

I lurve Jill Scott.

Re: MarvalusOne Icon: Tasha Smith

Cynthia — Fri, 16 May 2008 08:24:37 -0000

She made that Tyler Perry movie worth watching...and trust me, it was hard for me too!

I really like her. I read that article yesterday myself and it made me definitely have more respect for her.

Re: Sunday’s Thoughts: Climbing

Cynthia — Mon, 19 May 2008 09:17:40 -0000

I lost my job two years ago and even though I was scared, I know it was the best thing for me. Actually, I remember laughing about it because I felt free.

I love my job now, even though it's not what I want to do forever. I'm with you, though. I'm on the path to finding myself. I've been in this fog since my mother passed away and I need to find me and what I want. I've been the caretaker for others for way too long.

Kudos to you. Keep up the good fight. It gets scary and frustrating at times but you are on the path to finding the real you...so this path is more than worth it!

Re: Robert Kelly Unplugged: The Drama Begins

Cynthia — Wed, 21 May 2008 08:49:27 -0000

I'm sorry but maybe I'm not like most black women, I don't know...but he's so guilty.

OJ was guilty too. I don't even try to deny that.

I find it sad that he's just as famous if not more so since this whole thing.

I've even heard women say that "He is so sexy, he could pee on me too!"

Ugh.

Re: TV Watcher: Flavor of Love 3 Finale

Cynthia — Wed, 21 May 2008 08:51:27 -0000

I caught this last night when I got home from casino.

I was getting a little bit teary-eyed. I'm getting romantic in my old age (cough, cough).

But I empathize with Thing 2...I've loved someone like that once before and I know how crazy it is!

They are cute together. I hope it pans out.

Re: W2W: Mamma Knew Love

Cynthia — Fri, 23 May 2008 09:28:47 -0000

You are making me misty eyed and I don't even have children but I'm sure I'll feel that way when I do.

Congratulations to you and your son!

Re: Old School Friday: Grown Folks Music

Cynthia — Fri, 23 May 2008 09:30:05 -0000

Love FreeBird. I would have picked that one and the riff from Hotel California by the Eagles.

I might have to join in on this party! ;-)

Re: MarvalusOne…On Film

Cynthia — Tue, 27 May 2008 09:41:43 -0000

YAY!
I can't play it at work but I'm glad to see more black lovelies doing the damn thing with Youtube!

Re: TVWatcher: The Flavor of Love Reunion

Cynthia — Tue, 27 May 2008 09:43:20 -0000

@ Rachel - I know, right?!
I mean, why did he put the baby momma thru all that nonsense?

Ugh. I was feeling the finale, too!
HA. :)

Re: Commentary: An Environment of Disrespect

Cynthia — Fri, 30 May 2008 09:15:05 -0000

I don't have kids--yet! I don't have faith in a lot of people in my age group (twenties age range). I think rejection sucks from both parties, I've been rejected it sucks but I'm not going to beat the person or shoot at them. It's a part of life, you won't be everyone's cuppa, I'm sorry.

People want to always try to save "face" in front of their friends when most of them would sell you out, if it comes down to it.

Coming from a single, black chica. The way fella's feel they can "holla" at me is disparaging. Am I supposed to stop to talk to you while you are riding in a car just because you say, "HEY SHAWTY" or whatever clever come on that is poppin' at that time.

Ugh. Just...ugh.

Re: Sunday’s Thoughts: Renewal

Cynthia — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 09:54:26 -0000

Morning!
I'll have to update my bookmarks! I'm digging the blue...it's very serene! :)

Re: Artist Spotlight: Jay-Z

Cynthia — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 11:59:26 -0000

I like some of his music but a lot of it doesn't make any sense but it's better than the stuff Lil Wayne garbles out of his mouth!

But I do respect his business sense. I may not be a fan musically but conceptionally and business like...he definitely is holding it down ! :)

Re: Now…Witnessing History

Cynthia — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 12:00:46 -0000

I just hope the Clinton supporters will rally behind him. Either way, the race will be sizzling come November. I'm quite excited!

Re: Sunday’s Thoughts: Going To Church

Cynthia — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 09:21:28 -0000

Hey Marv,

I'm going through something similar. I would like to talk to someone who is Christian but I'm not sure about organized religion. Some days, I just want to talk to someone who is about being real and a Christian. Sometimes I feel that people get all holy-roller on me, which I can't identify. Another thing is I have issues with materialism, why does it matter what you drive or wear to the church. What matters is your heart and the inner workings of that. Some times I wonder if SOME churches view of things can be somewhat skewed.

Re: Spreading The Love

Cynthia — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 09:38:49 -0000

Thanks Marv!
You've given me my first award, so thanks! :)
I'm a huge believer of organ donation and now that my father needs a kidney this really sits close to my heart.

Thank you for including me. :)

Re: Artist Spotlight: Tupac Shakur

Cynthia — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 09:34:42 -0000

Keep Your Head Up is one of my all time favorite songs. I remember listening to it when I was younger (I believe I was in elementary or early middle school)...I still remember all the words.

I think what grated me was that he was so SMART and articulate and to get caught up like he did was such a shame.

Re: Commentary: Fighting The Battle

Cynthia — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 09:56:26 -0000

I really don't understand the fear.

Obama is actually biracial. So he represents MORE than just one race. He speaks to a multitude of ethnicities because of what he represents.

Everyone wants to be one sided (black, included).

I say judge him on his merit and character NOT the skin tone and leave his wife out of it. She is strong, educated and outspoken like Hilary was--it's a new era, so leave her be!

Re: TMV On: Shaq and Kobe

Cynthia — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 08:53:36 -0000

I am not a Kobe fan. I think he's too arrogant for his own good.

Was it the best way to go about it? No. But I think this is back when Shaq couldn't say anything when they were on the same team.

Anyway, maybe it's karma coming around for the Kobster. I'm sure this thing will go viral.

Re: TMV On: Shaq and Kobe

Cynthia — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 08:59:13 -0000

The Al Green tribute was the HIGHLIGHT of the night for me...and BET is supposedly my target age range right now.

Um, yea...okay.

Re: TVWatcher: The BET Awards

Cynthia — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 09:53:45 -0000

I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVED The Al Green TRIBUTE.

My mom raised me up on that man. So, the memories are bittersweet. I remember seeing him in concert and I was one of the youngest people up and singing along with him, with his shiny, gold suit on. I love him! Followed by Mr. Sapp-I have to download that song, does anyone know the name of it. He sang right when I needed to hear it and I got all teary eyed.

The SWV, EnVogue, Alicia and TLC segment was the next fave but the rest, ehhhhhhhhhhh..no.

I'm losing faith in black music. Yes, I said it. Or at least the popular stuff.

Re: TMV: Reconnecting

Cynthia — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 09:50:33 -0000

I'm so happy for you! Congratulations. :) :)

Finding your true path is so enlightening. I'm still trying to find mine. I have bits and pieces but it's not fully formed yet.

I'm glad you took the test. I know it's hard being pegged but I'm sure everything makes sense and clicks with you now.

Have a great weekend!

Re: Artist Spotlight: Floetry

Cynthia — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 11:16:05 -0000

I love them!

Say Yes & Butterflies...hmmm...good times right there!

It is horrible that they split. I didn't know!

Re: Peeking In

Cynthia — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 09:02:20 -0000

I'm glad everything seems to be working well for you and that the fit seems right for you!

Re: The10Spot: Behind

Cynthia — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 11:28:45 -0000

I loved Heath in Dark Knight. He was awesome and I'm not a fan of the Batman series at all but a lot of my actors held it down in that movie!

And I'm a huge Project Runway whore...yes, that is what I am...I'll admit it! I didn't see all of the first show, I have to see if I can get it OnDemand or something!

And with the crush thing? Hmm, I'm pretty cut and dry once it's done...it's done. I try my best not to live in the past even though it may be easier sometimes. :razz:

Re: If I Ruled The World

Cynthia — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 09:28:47 -0000

To the Katie Couric comment I think for her its easy to bypass racism because I'm sure it doesn't really affect her but she's a woman SO sexism does.

I'm sure if you asked Soledad O'Brien her spin, she might have a different say on that matter...

I have been on a racist/sexist kick on my blog...I might have to look into her comment and write about it. :)

Re: I Got A Headache

Cynthia — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 09:26:08 -0000

I was so mad about the Luda thing and I'm a huge Luda fan, love him, love what he does for the community, heck, he's not even a bad actor but the song was bad timing. I'm all about saying what you feel but you know it's already a charged time...people are just looking for a reason to start attacking.

Black In America? Well, I think they missed the mark but some aspects were correct. It made me mad that more everyday people weren't interviewed. Hell, CNN is based partly in Atlanta...and you can't throw a rock and NOT hit a black person.

Re: Old School Friday: Rock Songs

Cynthia — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 11:25:48 -0000

I love rock music.

Freddie Mercury was an amazing singer, I love Queen! Good choice...Party Hard & Rock On!!!

Freebird's guitar riff is amazing, it give me chills like the riff in the Eagles' Hotel California. :)

Re: Enigma

Cynthia — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 09:24:29 -0000

I am learning that now at ripe ole 26 ;)
A relationship might have to end soon because of my wants. I'm not looking forward to it, though.

Re: Sunday Inspirations: I Believe

Cynthia — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 09:27:02 -0000

Good post. I may add this to my site. I really needed to read this today. :)

Re: FAB-U-LOUS!

Cynthia — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 12:31:38 -0000

I loved her (Michelle's) speech. I aspire to be like her in my own way! :)

I haven't seen HRC's message yet...I'll have to peep her out too.

Re: The King of Pop Is 50!!

Cynthia — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 08:55:17 -0000

I don't care what anybody says, I love me some Michael Jackson...his music alone and career speaks for itself. It's funny he and my daddy are two days apart! It's funny looking at them two because MJ's 50 and my pops 50 are two different things all together!

Re: The10Spot: Sista Can’t Fly On One Wing

Cynthia — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 09:46:43 -0000

Dwayne Johnson is mine! I think he's the only man my mother and I would fight about. He's oh so sexy.

And you sound like me, when I'm crossed I'm pretty much done with you.

Re: The10Spot: Comin’ From Where I’m From

Cynthia — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 10:13:51 -0000

HA...I can't stand R.Kelly.
He's gross, nasty and not that talented in my opinion...NOT as a singer.
I'm not sure why women want to look the other way!

That shit is not cute and will never be cute, sorry!

Re: The10Spot: Anything

Cynthia — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 10:16:58 -0000

I loved Paul Newman - since I can remember.
I was so sad to come back to the States and find out that he passed on (among other things that seem to have hit the fan while I was out of the country).

I haven't brought myself to watch the debates, yet. I think I'm tired of all the soap opera - ish that seems to be all over the place.

Re: Advice

Cynthia — Tue, 06 May 2008 10:44:44 -0000

I stumbled upon your site and I'm adding you to my blogroll (it's growing, slowly).

I'd love to write for you site. Especially in regards to giving advice. Let me know if you are still accepting!

Re: Is Gen Y really Lost?

Cynthia — Wed, 14 May 2008 08:08:33 -0000

I agree with the above poster.
It's just generalisations. Some subscribe to that mentality but there are a lot of people that don't.

Re: Being in love with more than one person

Cynthia — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 07:44:40 -0000

I'm a commitment-phobe as well. I think loving one person romantically is mind numbing in itself. But loving more than one person...I have extremely close friends that I would be destroyed if we didn't talk anymore, I love them like crazy.

Re: Twenty Something Advice: Get Things Done for the Right Reasons

Cynthia — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 11:02:14 -0000

Great post David.

I have to think long and hard on some key points that I'm wanting to make in my life.

I love the concept of mini-retirement.

Re: Gen Y: Waking Up Unemployed?

Cynthia — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 11:42:27 -0000

Great post!

I'm going to be looking for a new job at the beginning of this year and I'm very nervous about it due to the recession. Hopefully, I'll be able to add some of these tidbits to my search. :)