DISQUS

Well let me start by saying that I don't feel that expecting a man to pay for a 1st date means you want to take long walks on the beach and have a relationship with him....where you got that idea I'm not sure. I also don't remember saying that if he pays he's automatically a good man. My point is if EVERYtime you go out, you expect to pay- it's a problem. Also I wasn't beating up on the young lady in the interview, I was upset that those of us who were brought up to let a man do the courting (some of y'all need to add that word to your vocabulary) were called birds. Taking care of yourself is paying your on bills not picking up a check at a restaurant lol. (No- I'm not saying that she does not pay her own bills so please don’t try and read between the lines)

So you have to be a bird to expect a man to pay? It's one thing to be prepared to go dutch, but if you have to expect it- might want to re-evaluate your choices in who you're going on dates with. I'm all for taking care of the check- but not on the first date sheesh! IMO this type of thinking only adds to the decline of the price of…nevermind that’s for a different post lol. I get what she saying...but let's not all get excited like this is what's hot in 09.

" Are love poems still appreciated by today’s woman?" Yes! I say that as a woman who is in love with a poet. Well thats not why I fell in love with him- but it helped.

I'm gonna have to co-sign this one...not tryna be preachy but sex WITH love is the best. If that's not your situation right now, at least have a partner that you are comfortable with being able to share fantasies, try new things, and being uninhibited with your partner can also make a big difference.

Skinny v.s. Thick -blah blah blah...I think a woman will take a pounding if the man is worth it. If you truly put in work chances are she wont run from good D. I'm a slim chick but I don't buy into this theory that one can take a pouding better than the other. There have been times when I felt like my man was trying to kill me during sex but I just bit the pillow and took it like a champ.

I agree, if a man is taking care of things the way he should (meaning he is honest with you and his baby momma that he has moved on) then all of this baby momma drama is not an issue. I am in a relationship with a man who is also a father and we have never had issues, I have been with men in the past and had baby mommas acting a fool but when that happens you have to question what is he telling her to make her act that way?

Also to say that having a child with a man that is already a father is ridiculous! So women who already have a kid don't get excited when they get pregnant with baby number 2 or 3?

Bottom line you have to look at case by case- if the man is being upfront with you and being a good daddy to his child it should not be held against him just because things didn't work out with the mother. I have been uncomfortable with the idea of being a step mom before I give birth to my own, but if he makes me happy I don't see a problem.

Wow! I'm in a relationship right now with a wonderful man, unfortunately I let him chase me for a little over a year while I dealt with "aint sh*t n*ggas". Luckily this man possess many qualities that I lack- the main one being patience! Once I got my priorities straight and realized that it's not always about what a man can buy me or who my family and friends think I should be with- I was able to see the good man that had been under my nose for the past year. As for what do I bring to the relationship?

Money in the Bank:
I do consider myself an independent woman, but I am vulnerable with him and respect him as a man. I also pay for our dates every now and then to show my appreciation. He's and artist and I work a 9 to 5 I don't focus on what he does for me financially I focus on who he is as a man.

A love that will make you cry:
I keep an open mind and I am very supportive of what he does. I listen without judging and speak freely without letting my ego or insecurities guide my words. I have my own goals and dreams but I make every effort to help his dreams become a reality too.

A love you can feel inside:
I bring it in the bedroom! With him I will try anything once and go out of my way to make him feel good. Surprise him with sexy new lingerie and wear clothes I know he likes to turn him on when we go out.

I think most importantly I come to the relationship with a clean slate, by that I mean I have worked through past trust/abandonment issues, let go of past insecurities. Often times our relationships fail because we have shit that we haven't fully dealt with yet and honestly it is not anyone's job to fix us. As cliché as it sounds you really do have to love yourself first. I'm comfortable in my own skin I know this is supposed to be about what I bring to the relationship but I think my best quality is what I DON'T bring -emotional baggage

I think insecure women are the ones who desperatley want a bigger butt. And the ones who think their ass is their best feature are probably right LOL! I feel bad for girls like that because they must feel that they do not have anything else to offer. I had a friend in high school with a huge ass but her face was not so cute, if we were in the car and saw a cute guy she would always want to stop and get something out the trunk so they could see her ass because she knew that was the only way to get their attention. I say work with what you got and be sure to bring more to the table than a fat ass.

I agree, just keep in mind any dude that has to ask for head- we probably aren't too concerned about him leaving, take that bitch assness to the next lady.

May not have been rational, but he got on my nerves with that mess...sex should not be irrating and it should not turn into a debate about who will do what, my reason wasnt spite, but he constanly killed the mood with his whining about not getting head. Men can talk their way out of some good head.

I'm so glad someone mentioned pity head...I actually stopped talking to a guy because of the tantrums he would throw because he wasn't getting head from me. I even tried to explain to him that men in my life before him never had any complaints, and got head on the regular- only because they didn't whine about it or constantly bring it up.

Asking for it or getting an attitude because you didn't get it when you want it will get you nowhere.