DISQUS

How old are these stupid little girls who posts these types of videos and do they know that these explicit videos on the web can come back to haunt them in the workplace, etc? What is the purpose of uploading these types of videos? Does she not have girlfriends that she can discuss these types of topics with? No one can decide what is bad for her but her, if she is not happy with the results of any of her actions, why not just stop doing it?

This post has me completely confused....I literally have no idea how to even begin to try to comprehend it. Maybe I am the only one, but I have never heard of this and who.....oh hell forget it, I am just confused dammit!

LOVED, LOVED, LOVED the letter. I thought that I was the only person who noticed that she was reading EVERYTHING from a card. I could not believe the summations of the debate, where some analysts were actually saying that she won the debate. Then, one actually said that she hung Biden with the "waving the white flag of surrender" comment. It was so OBVOIUS that that comment was premeditated.

What you should do is email your article to Joy Behar's email address at "The View". She hates Palin and would probably acknowledge some of your points on the show.

I'm already in tears.................from a comment posted on a blog, by a person that I've never met!

There was a post called, "Ask Me Any Question"...I asked "do you ever want to be married" to which, if I recall correctly--I could be wrong----Xilla responded, "No, don't want to be married, but to find someone to spend my life with" (something to that affect). I could be wrong about the exact response, so Xilla just clarified it ---which was the PURPOSE of the question asked to XILLA, not you.

I, personally, don't see how asking a question about, what I percieved to be double talk, negative. The question was asked and answered. Also, it was based on a previous interaction with Xilla, which proves that I am a fan. If you are SO ABOVE my negativity, why not be TOTALLY ABOVE it and ignore my question---that was not directed at you in the first place. Your "sun should be shining so brightly" that it blinds your eyes from reading my question, that was---and I reiterate--- directed at Xilla and not you! Ever been told to mind your business?

You've already said that you DON'T ever want to be married...so which is it?

On the style issue....the celebrity's personal style does not matter because they are dressed by stylist. Just like when Sarah Jessica Parker got her own clothing line, because she is considered a style maverick, but stylist choose her clothing. As a result, the clothing line is nothing like her style/image. Most celebrities don't even dress the same when they are just leisurely out and about.

The only "celebrity" that I would say is always styling, even when going to the gym, and it is her own personaal style, is Kim Kardashian. She has a TRUE sense of style because she was a stylist for a while.

All of this drama could be avoided, not to mention lives possibly saved, by one very simple, near effortless act---PUTTING ON A DAMN CONDOM. In addition, REALLY get to know a person's CHARACTER before you have unprotected sex with him/her and bring a child into this effed up situation.

I get so sick of so-called adults always complaining about how their bd/bm have wronged, them when it was THEIR decision to F that person, unprotected, in the first place. Although I don't have any children yet, Michael Baesden said something that shook me to my core when I heard it and I think it is worth repeating ......"If you are a woman and you have a child with a man that you would NOT TRUST to raise that child in the event of your untimely death, then guess what, you PLAYED yourself BIG TIME....no excuses, you played yourself and your child, period. If you found out that you had a terminal illness today, and your BD is still alive, you should not have to worry about if your mother/sister/cousin/best friend can raise your child, because that is the role of the FATHER."

I know that this blog is all about sex, but their are consequences to sex and sex involves GREAT responsibilty....so ACT responsibly, if not for yourself, then for the future unborn children that could be the result of your actions. We, as a culture and a community, have got to do better. Until we REALLY recognize that the breakdown of the black family is the cause of most, not all, of the major problems in our communities, then we will not understand and respond accordingly to the urgency of being responsible sexually.

Damn Xilla, why doesn't anyone ask you any questions---they have the perfect opportunity. Anywho, 1) How old are your kids; 2) Did you always know that you wanted your blog to be sexually oriented, or did it just evolve into "Sexual Intellects"?; 3) Do you desire to be married one day? (As Chris Rock says, every man MUST get married because you don't want to be the old man in the club!)

How do you come up with them, Xilla? Always interesting, yet unexpected.

Make the bed, with the same dirty ass sheets on it-----I think not!

@ 2Bashy:

Read my post...you can get past the hymen on your own, not without the pain, but without the awkwardness.

I was a virgin in my twenties, also and so were a lot of my friends. I don't think that it is rare to still find virgins, I think it just depends on where you are looking. Especially now, with the whole chastity/promise ring movement (check the fiasco at the MTV awards). Also, I feel that because of peer pressure, a lot of teens lie about not being virgins when they actually are.

I just couldn't see myself having sex in someone's mama's house. That is just gross and disrespectful to me. Call me old fashioned, but I have just always felt that a child should stay in a child's place, so I waited until I was grown and in my own place. Wouldn't change a thing, I never had to worry about VD or pregnancies. I was just young and carefree---sometimes I miss those times. Also, I took care of the first time "awkwardness" for females, on my own--with a dildo. So the guy never knew he was my first. I also had no love for him. I just felt that, at that point, I was way old and wanted to get it over with already.

*Gasps, then Blushes* MzVirgo, behave....LOL

Xilla,

Beginning at what size/weight is a woman considered slim to you. What size/weight starts the "thickness factor"?

When I began reading the post, I was thinking BORING.....but the end more than made up for the slow start!

@ Lawdhavemercy:

You are talking the sex talk with that picture of Frankie is making feel like Frankie is talking sex talk-----gives me a chill...GROSS!!!

Remind me to never come to any of y'alls house and sit on the furniture!

Men are the new women when:

You are conversing with a guy and he wants to go on and on about what is wrong with the women of today. As if that isn't bad enough, he references the show "Girlfriends" (with ample knowledge and examples) to illustrate his points. What REAL man watches "Girlfriends"?

My estimation of the problem is that men have bought into the oh-so-prevalent-idea that women want a sensitive man. I have always contended that I do not want a sensitive man, I want an understanding man. A man who understands that women are emotional and he may not get it, but he allows me to be emotional over "women's issues" without mocking or scolding me. Men have stopped being men because they allow women to effemanize them by doing such things as watching Girlfriends/Sex and the City, Going shopping and holding the purse; Making baby showers co-ed, etc.

A man should be man enough to stand up to a woman and put his foot down and say with great CONFIDENCE---"No, I will not do that because I am a man and that act is feminine!" If a man will not assert himself with a woman, he is not a man, but a mouse. A man should always have his own barometer of what is/isn't feminine behavior for a man to participate in. If I can control a man, beleive me, I don't want him and CANNOT repect him. I am old-fashioned, the bible says a woman will never have authority over a man and the man is the head of the household. If you want the authority and to run the household, then you must command respect as a person and a man. PERIOD.

@ Nykya:

Your post goes in the hall of fame!

@ Nichelle W:

I agree with you (see above post), but what you have to remember is that alot of these women are just talking shyt because they are on a blog. Most of them have probably never had a one-night stand and if they did they probably wouldn't admit to it in mixed company. This is what people do on blogs....talk shyt because they are anonymous, it's called bragadocious.

You REALLY need to start proofreading. The typos are becoming ridiculous.

From what I see on the video, it is the nicca--not Superhead--who got served. She obviously tore him down so bad verbally, and he obviously couldn't defend himself intellectually, so he had to resort to using his physical strength to try to degrade a woman. I would love to see him try to do that shit to a man. Men who try to abuse woman are always cowards and would never attempt that same shit with a man. Also, she obviously wasn't intimadated by him, afterwards, because she was ready to bring the noise; while she had to be restrained, he did like all cowards and backed away.

I, personally, can't stand the woman, but obviously she doesn't back down from a fight! This is the first and last time that I will probably ever defend that woman (using the term "woman" EXTREMELY LOOSELY when referring to her) but----GO SUPERHEAD!!!

@ Suga Tits:

I am still laughing about your comments about those two DAMN FOOLS in the picture---they look like they got stuck in the mid to late 1990s. For their sake, I hope that this is an old picture. I always wonder, are the people in the pictures people that Xilla knows....cause if those are his homeboys, well, lets just say, I have no words...

You all are talking crazy about do it if you feel like it, as if we don't live in a world with consequences..... 1) I mean, personally, I would never go home with or bring a complete and total stranger to my home--what if you turn up missing, you don't even know him, so how will any of your friends or family know where to start looking or even to notify the police, since most one night stands are kept on the DL; 2) You have no idea about this person's health or even his/her hygiene--I can image nothing worse than attempting to be intimate with someone you already don't know, only to find out that he/she has body odor, I'd love to see all of you "free spirits" try to get out of that one, when you are in dude's house and you don't even know him and have gotten him hot, horny, and naked, talking about "I'm gonna need to go now!"; 3) What if he/she is married (after all, you don't know him/her) and he/she hase taken you to his/her home and the spouse comes home or even worse this nicca has brought you to his mother's home, lying like it is his home, only to have his parent or younger sibling walk in on you. These are just a few of the reasons why I would never do the one night stand thing.... I mean we all know that we do not live in the 1940s and that adults can do whatever they please, but I guess I am just old fashioned. My morals would not allow me to do it, along with my paranoia. Finally, no matter how we like to delude ourselves into thinking that things have changed and no matter what Xilla writes on this blog, we all know that the double standard will never go away...even with the one night stand (man) that you are F*cking with.