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4 months ago
in Love: Complicated, or Simple? on Carrie and Danielle
Love is simple. Human beings are complicated.
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Carrie
Brilliantly said! Thank you
Anna
Great comment! I totally agree with that.
To me, love is very simple. It's either there or it's not. You can't force it. Hoewever humans have over complicated it with all kinds of relationship guides etc.
To me, love is very simple. It's either there or it's not. You can't force it. Hoewever humans have over complicated it with all kinds of relationship guides etc.
5 months ago
in Waiting for the Ring: Romantic or Anti-Feminist? on Carrie and Danielle
Many have said what I would say: diamonds are blood, romantic proposals invented by the jewelery industry, demanding two months' salary no different from the exchange of cattle between the betrotheds' families. I will not be bought.
My now-husband was skeptical, and asked me repeatedly if I was SURE I didn't want a big rock and a knight on a white horse. (I have never been a romantic.) Very sweet. But our personal path to marriage involved making the choice together, after much discussion, completing the past, sharing our passions, and creating a future together. Not to mention living in partnership for years, buying a home together, burying pets, enduring family illness, tasting the joys and sorrows of life together.
Almost 10 years together; almost 4 months married; so far so good. ;)
My now-husband was skeptical, and asked me repeatedly if I was SURE I didn't want a big rock and a knight on a white horse. (I have never been a romantic.) Very sweet. But our personal path to marriage involved making the choice together, after much discussion, completing the past, sharing our passions, and creating a future together. Not to mention living in partnership for years, buying a home together, burying pets, enduring family illness, tasting the joys and sorrows of life together.
Almost 10 years together; almost 4 months married; so far so good. ;)
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Elisabeth
let me add, I do wear a ring: my late mother's gold wedding band. My husband wears my father's.
8 months ago
in Are You Full Yet? on Carrie and Danielle
I agree that it is very important to pay attention to our bodies and to take care of them in a healthy way. Be aware, however, that the "Master Cleanse" and similar programs are NOT healthy. That energy, heightened awareness and sensation of lightness you feel are effects of the same chemical high experienced by anorexics. And drug addicts.
Please check with your doctor before fasting, cleansing, or flushing; you could be lucky, or you could do serious long-term damage to your body. And please think twice before promoting potentially dangerous "treatments" to people who trust you.
Please check with your doctor before fasting, cleansing, or flushing; you could be lucky, or you could do serious long-term damage to your body. And please think twice before promoting potentially dangerous "treatments" to people who trust you.
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Rick_Juliusson
Thank you for the warning, Elisabeth, and also the reminder to be careful how i present my enthusiasms. All i was really trying to promote here is the idea of listening to our bodies - that there's a healthy place between the extremes of overeating and fasting. I did love the learning experience and the physical sensation of the Master Cleanse and might do again, but that's a very personal decision, and one I made without fully researching the dangers you and Carolynn (below) bring up.
I'm both honoured and intimidated by the idea that people might give extra weight to my ideas and suggestions because they trust me through these writings. I do hope people will trust me to speak my truth, my version or understanding of truth, the world as i experience it. But except for rare cases where i do state some particular expertise, i'm not trying to prescribe a particular lifestyle or course of action, but rather to prod readers to take a look at their own lives from perhaps a new perspective. Thank you for this call to remain conscious of the messages i'm sending - how what is received may be different than the original intention.
I'm both honoured and intimidated by the idea that people might give extra weight to my ideas and suggestions because they trust me through these writings. I do hope people will trust me to speak my truth, my version or understanding of truth, the world as i experience it. But except for rare cases where i do state some particular expertise, i'm not trying to prescribe a particular lifestyle or course of action, but rather to prod readers to take a look at their own lives from perhaps a new perspective. Thank you for this call to remain conscious of the messages i'm sending - how what is received may be different than the original intention.
8 months ago
in Heartland: First Date Interrogations on Carrie and Danielle
But if that's not who you are, then who ARE you? Are you defined solely by your romantic "failures"? Were you fruitlessly searching for a man all that time, or were you seeing the world? building a career? learning about yourself? having fun??
All I hear in his question is, Tell me about yourself. I don't hear the judgement of your singlehood that you hear. But if you're "a long way from 20" and you've done nothing, accomplished nothing, don't have anything to say about yourself, then if I were him I would not call again.
I have moved all my life. You admire your gypsy family members. Why do you see it as a personal failure? Why not enjoy it?
All I hear in his question is, Tell me about yourself. I don't hear the judgement of your singlehood that you hear. But if you're "a long way from 20" and you've done nothing, accomplished nothing, don't have anything to say about yourself, then if I were him I would not call again.
I have moved all my life. You admire your gypsy family members. Why do you see it as a personal failure? Why not enjoy it?
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DaterGirl
Thanks, Elisabeth. *I* don't think I'm a romantic failure...at least I don't think that all the time. And I *have* been nailed for reading into things. But his line of questioning was leading the witness, your Honor.
8 months ago
in Lana’s Story. Family and career in proportion. on Carrie and Danielle
Please consider that evolution leads to something different, not necessarily something better. Our earlier passions are not worth "less" than our current ones; they were our passions at that time in our lives. They are equally meaningful and important. In time our current passions will fade to make room for something else; something different, but equally meaningful and important.
Lana may feel that having children was more important than having her career. Good for her. What bothers me is the implication that those of us with careers or other passions are somehow lesser beings.
Lana may feel that having children was more important than having her career. Good for her. What bothers me is the implication that those of us with careers or other passions are somehow lesser beings.
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CarrieM
I agree absolutely how important it is to create room for new equally meaningful things. As for the children topic I find often the first question I'm asked is "do you have kids?" And saying no halts the conversation. Wouldn't it be wonderful if we asked each other, "How's your day going? What's new for you? What inspires you?"
