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1 year ago

in Stay-At-Home Mothers Aren’t Worth It on Marina's Musings
Hi!
I'm curious if there is something I missed. Is someone considering compensating full-time moms for caring for their children, husbands and homes? I mean financially compensating them? It isn't something I've heard of.

I'm a full-time mom of two. I don't call myself a stay-at-home mom because I don't stay home. I take my kids to classes, MOMS club activities, the music and movement program that I created and run for mine and others' children, and many other activities. There is rarely a day that we don't go somewhere and do something of value. I also have 2 award-winning podcasts and I'm an administrative/personal assistant for a successful entrepreneur.

I believe the reward in getting to "stay home" with my children is that I get to do so. When I decided to have children, I told my husband that I wasn't going to have them so that someone else could raise them 50 of their awake hours per week. I was the primary bread-winner when I left my job of 10 1/2 years to become a full-time mom. I have had to work hard and be creative to make enough money so that I don't have to put my children in child care.

If someone told me they would pay me and I wouldn't have to clean my house, feed my family, grocery shop, do the laundry, create our budget, pay the bills, or have 2 jobs in addition to the full-time job of being a good wife and mother, I don't think I'd take them up on the offer because I would hate being bored out of my mind.

I'm a little bothered that your tag on this post is the word "laziness" which seems to generalize all full-time moms into some negative category. Maybe it's just a tag and I'm sensitive to people thinking that because I don't work in an office anymore, I just don't work.

I am aware that there are moms out there who might actually do their laundry while sitting down, but I'm not one of them. I hope you know that we are not all like that.

This isn't meant to be attackive, but it hit a weird nerve with me. I hope you understand and find my input interesting and not meant in an offensive manner.
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