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1 year ago
in noodad » 10 Things to Remember When Telling Your Preschooler Where Babies Come From on Noodad
Some very useful tips on how to navigate the maze that is parental responsibility. :)
1 year ago
in noodad » When Should Your Kids Stop Seeing You Naked? on Noodad
I have to say, I am very flattered by your comments on what I posted, as well as your invitation to write for you. I am intrigued, and would like to know more about what that would entail.
I had not considered that perspective (the more liberal one) you spoke of, but I do find that point valid, and I respect it.
Sorry it took me so long to reply back, and thanks again. :) You can contact me at
Ehsona@yahoo.com
I had not considered that perspective (the more liberal one) you spoke of, but I do find that point valid, and I respect it.
Sorry it took me so long to reply back, and thanks again. :) You can contact me at
Ehsona@yahoo.com
2 years ago
in noodad » When Should Your Kids Stop Seeing You Naked? on Noodad
I feel I have to weigh in here. This is too important. I do not feel the human body in it\'s natural state is wrong, or bad, or anything of the sort. But-- the fact is, we live in a very complex, dangerous world. When a child is old enough to ask questions, or suspect that the reproductive organs are different then the rest of his/her body parts (meaning they are sexual in nature) then I do believe is time to clothe yourself. Especially if you are the opposite sex of your child. Mommies should teach girls, daddies boys, and single parents have a more precarious road. I would suggest singles to keep clothed, but talk openly about anatomy, and clearly define what the sexual organs are for, (with a PG rating of course) so the child doesn\'t grow up completely clueless. There is always the guidance of a pediatrician\'s knowledge as well.
The reason I feel this way is simple: the rate of child molestation in this country is horrific! Before you blast away with comments like-- \"That\'s absurd! Nakedness doesn\'t promote sexual abuse!\" please consider, children are easily impressionable, and if they think it\'s normal to be around naked adults, then if a stranger (or family member which is often the dreadful reality) disrobe with molestation as their intent, the child will not hear an alarm bell telling them this is a dangerous situation. PLEASE tell your children, from earliest on, what their body parts are, and why NO ONE is supposed to touch them! Explain why their mother or father tend to their needs, (wiping, or bathing etc.,) and that they need to tell you immediately if anyone touches them, even if they were told it was a \"secret.\" It could be the most important thing you ever do as a parent! Any embarrassment, or awkwardness you experience, is pale in comparison to what you would feel if your child was a victim of sexual abuse.
In a perfect world, we would all live freely, like the young blissfully care-free couple from the blue lagoon, but in this world, you are your child\'s only defense from the real monsters in life. I am not advocating some puritan idea of shame, I only suggest for your child\'s sake, that you establish to them VERY clearly, that there is a time, and a place, for nakedness in their childhood, and that the child\'s parents are the only people allowed to see their bodies. There is no shame in teaching your daughter how to shave her legs or use feminine products , or have a father teaching his son how pee in the toilet, or any other necessary, pure, and beautiful examples of parenting your child. It is my hope to raise a child that is NEVER ashamed, and loves their body, but also knows how to protect it.
This is only my opinion. I am not telling anyone how to raise their child. I am only offering some perspective on my own experiences, and what I wish I had been given as a child. Thank you for your time, and your open heart. And may all your children grow up happy, healthy, and comfortable with their bodies.
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The reason I feel this way is simple: the rate of child molestation in this country is horrific! Before you blast away with comments like-- \"That\'s absurd! Nakedness doesn\'t promote sexual abuse!\" please consider, children are easily impressionable, and if they think it\'s normal to be around naked adults, then if a stranger (or family member which is often the dreadful reality) disrobe with molestation as their intent, the child will not hear an alarm bell telling them this is a dangerous situation. PLEASE tell your children, from earliest on, what their body parts are, and why NO ONE is supposed to touch them! Explain why their mother or father tend to their needs, (wiping, or bathing etc.,) and that they need to tell you immediately if anyone touches them, even if they were told it was a \"secret.\" It could be the most important thing you ever do as a parent! Any embarrassment, or awkwardness you experience, is pale in comparison to what you would feel if your child was a victim of sexual abuse.
In a perfect world, we would all live freely, like the young blissfully care-free couple from the blue lagoon, but in this world, you are your child\'s only defense from the real monsters in life. I am not advocating some puritan idea of shame, I only suggest for your child\'s sake, that you establish to them VERY clearly, that there is a time, and a place, for nakedness in their childhood, and that the child\'s parents are the only people allowed to see their bodies. There is no shame in teaching your daughter how to shave her legs or use feminine products , or have a father teaching his son how pee in the toilet, or any other necessary, pure, and beautiful examples of parenting your child. It is my hope to raise a child that is NEVER ashamed, and loves their body, but also knows how to protect it.
This is only my opinion. I am not telling anyone how to raise their child. I am only offering some perspective on my own experiences, and what I wish I had been given as a child. Thank you for your time, and your open heart. And may all your children grow up happy, healthy, and comfortable with their bodies.
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