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I will admit funny video, but nothing to do with the song. Look at Birthday Sex for a video that has something to do with the song and still looks classy. This looks like an 18 yr old's wet dream come true...

I hear ya on that... I was expecting something more Universal. I feel like Xilla's for women kind of touched on ALL women, this touches only the specific man. I was trying to qualify myself as dumb and from this list I don't qualify (except for agreeing with many of the reasons why women are dumber than doorknobs)... I guess thats good though.

To me this "beef" seems to solidify the fact about models... beauty over brains. Its also makes me question Rus too... yes they are fine, but really the stupidity of both is disgusting. I have agreed with Xilla before that Brains can increase a girls beauty, and it works vice versa too. These girls are hot but the lack of brains makes them ugly.

As a guy I can tell you for sure if a guy ever tells you that two things he loved about you were sex and head, then you are just a jump off. In all honesty, even if the sex is great, and the head is the best, any guy thjat "loves" a women wouldn't give those two reasons for loving them. They would say something else.... loving 2 sex acts though means that is all he wants.

On the real, I have been there and done this... still go back to her for head sometimes just cause its that good... never could I committ to her, but when she used to say she loved me and wanted to spend forever with her etc, I just said it back to keep the sex/head comming.

My advice to her would be move on... find someone who loves you for you, not just loves the sexual benefits of the relationship.

I agree R&B has taken a hit as of late. Everything is on repeat. The one artist that I am feeling still would be The Dream. His is the only R&B CD as of late that I can continue to pop in and enjoy. To expand off the idea of The Dream, many of the songs he has wrote for other artists are good too... Birthday Sex is my choice of song right now (and to be honest I do like the Fabo remix to divert from hating on the R&B/Hip Hop mix... but Fabo seems to always be alright on those types of tracks). I will wait and see what else I hear from Jeremiah, but as of now I believe most credit for that song belongs to Dream... other than him though R&B is slacking... What happened to the Dru Hill, 112, Jodeci, JE, Ginuwine, Usher music... seriously there are no more good R&B groups for sure.

I agree with this pust completely. The only thing is that not all girls can pull the look off. If you seen some 300lb women wearing any of those suggestions you just might NEVER want to see another chick wearing it. It does come down to natural beauty, and either you have the look or don't. If you are attractive all dolled up chances are you will look good in chill mode too, and vice versa.

I would remove the scarf from the list and add sports bra though, just my opinion.

As a male my response is that if you are planning on cheating why be in a relationship? In this day and age you can still have that one person to always fall back on (yes I know its not right but its true) without the actual title of dating. In that case then if you happen to meet someone new you do not feel as guilty cause there is never the title. This isn't saying live your life like that but if you really are not ready for a relationship then you shouldn't put yourself or your partner through the Bull$hit. Again I am not condoning sleeping around etc, I am just saying that you mentally have to be ready for a relationship and if you are not then why bother.

The seeds for cheating is mental, the act of cheating is physical. Some people can withstand the urge to cheat other will cheat with anyone or anything.

I think you hit the nail on the head when you talk about equality. If for a man that still practices chivalery would the woman opening his car door be an example of equality? I believe that women are equals with men in many aspects, but then again are different in others, sometimes for the better sometimes for the worse. No matter equal or not I have always believed since I first went hanging out with girls there are two things for sure a women should never pay for, thats a movie ticket and dinner/lunch etc. I believe in a setting of just you and a woman that it is almost a date atmosphere and the man should pick up the bill. Do I believe this because typically men make more money than women... hell no, I just believe it is the gentleman thing to do. Also I still will find myself holding a door open for a woman, pulling her chair out for her at dinner etc not because they are unequal but because again its a way to show respect for the lady you are with. Also I am the guy that will give up my seat at a bar or bus for a woman, or pass my jacket on to a female friend that is cold. I guess it is how I was raised. Its nothing to do with equality, it all has to do with respect.

In addition though I am always the person who says thank you to everyone for everything, or have a nice day when I am the customer. This has nothing to do with equality but more with respect, ethics, and morals. I do not believe that chivalry has anything to do with equality, other than the fact that some women wish to be seen as equals and in doing so shun away from chivalry from any male.

I believe this but the problem is finding one with the same standards and appreciation.

I agree but when asked what killed Chivalry, I was just adding my 2 cents. I am not changing my attitude or adjusting my morals or behavior to chase after some girl that is going for the a$$hole, I was just saying that this is part of the reason why chivalry has disappeared.

As a guy on this issue I do blame the idea of "equality for all women" etc.

I also blame it on the idea of the nice guy finnishes last type mentality. I hate to say it but if you treat a woman well (which I include in Chivalry) most women will walk all over you. These are the same woman that you go to dinner with, pay the bill, open car doors etc, but then tell you "You are one of my best friends, I can't take that any further." At the same time the guy that doesn't do sh!t for her, the guy who treats her shitty, puts her second is the one that gets all her attention.

Yes I know that this isn't all girls but from a guys perspectative you can see that many girls are more attracted to the a$$hole rather than the nice guy, this alone has damaged if not helped eliminate chivalry.

I agree that supporting NY artists is a must, but more importantly ALL artists need to realize if you drop garbage, expect to make garbage. That said I have been impressed with entire CDs lately, The Dream, Kanye, and now this Jadakiss CD seems like a good one too. Quality music deserves quality support.

To me abortion is a touchy subject. As a male I really do not have any deciding factor, it is really up to the female. If she wants the abortion she is going to get it no matter what I say, and if she wants to keep the kid and I don't, there is no guarentee that an abortion will occur. If the first part happens she goes on life, and I wonder "what ifs" about my kid, If the later happens, I am still stuck paying for child support. For the individuals that use abortion as birth control, shame on you. 1. it costs more than other forms of BC 2. You should learn the first time that "accidents" do happen.

What gets me though is the people who stand outside the clinics protesting. These people do not know the "mother" they do not know the circumstances of the pregnancy. These are the same individuals that show up at the funerals in Buffalo for the plane crash victims with signs "Gods hates Fags" etc. They are a disgrace. We are all our own individuals and make our own choices, some are not the best but still no stranger has any right to invade on someones life & choice. Yes I understand free speech and all but to intrude on something that you have no business being in infuriates me to no extent. I believe these "protestors" should have to adopt 4 children to help the cause if they wish to stand outside a clinic.

No matter what YOUR opinion is on the issue it is important to realize it is YOUR opinion. It is not EVERYONES opinion.

I agree but the thing is some "fans" can take it way too far cause the rapper is starting to do the same. I agree its all entertainment, but for some people outside the industry it is their life. People can say what they want, do what they want, who am I to judge? The problem I have is when 50 Cent is a complete hypocrit, to me that gets annoying and at least for myself tunes me out.

Yes but who is he to call out people?? He is a BS rapper now too. He & his crew haven't sold records for YEARS now. He claims to be the "best," he never was and never will be. He put out one good album, made his name off cheezy raps over other people's beats. Funny everytime his record is "due out" (I say that with quotes because he has pushed it back again and again cause of his failed singles), he starts some beef with an average artist. He can't hang with the big dogs cause lyrically he would get destroyed. He goes after Fat Joe, Ja Rule, Rick Ross, DJ Khaled.... if he wants to make a name for himself go after Jay-Z, Wayne, T.I., he has attempted to do so but falls back REAL quick. In conclusion he is as much critizes BS rappers, when he himself is a BS businessman (he isn't even a rapper anymore... its strictly business for him or he wouldnt have this corny online show.)

I am sure someone would argue then why do we celebrate MLK Jr Day? Or why aren't other historical figures given a month instead of a day. Its a complicated divide and this goes for the white and black communities. I taught a predominatly minority class and they were insulted that some teachers would only teach Black poets, Black historians, Black musicians during BHM, and that is understandable. It depends how the the month is approached and in my honest opinion I believe that more so than not BHM is exploited, and gives off the feeling that this dude talks about "One month for Black History/education, 11 Months for "white" history/education.

You know you have a good girl when you can see her in her "down time" and still feel she is beautiful.... thats always a good judgement. And some chicks look better when they aren't "trying so hard"

I believe it is because most of the time the females have the custody of a child. This day and age it is way too hard for the father to gain custody without police reports, hospital records, or drug convictions on the mother. It does work both ways though, but the father has an easier time to cover their children up if they do not have custody.

There is good credit and bad credit.... School loans and that are good cause it will help you in the future. MAJOR Credit Card debt, or the inability to get a cell phone in your own name because you previously did not pay your $400 bill is a red flag.

Co-Sign... I do not want HER debts, and it shows how responsible one is... good call!

I agree... first there has to be some attraction physically, but a conversation and potential wife/mother is just as important. (Also ladies if you already have a kid that is a HUGE sign of what mother you are/are going to be, so if you are out in the bars 4 days a week or talk about "dumping" off your kid so that we can hang out, you are taking great steps backwards) For me an education is a HUGE plus too. If you are educated it shows that you have the drive and motivation to get what you want.
Too many times I find a woman who does not meet these standards and even if I try to talk to them I still can never get myself into a relationship mode with them.

If it is a good friend I am in favor of dropping hints that you know something they dont. Again usually the chick will get pissed off and think you are trying to smash (been there before), so I go with the hints. Hopefully they will find it out. But any dude trying to smash shouldn't take this approach because the chick usually gets more pissed at the messanger than the cheating man

I totally second that... I am sick of hearing chicks complain about how SHE is this & that, but nothing wrong with the dude. As a guy I can man up to my business. I have never been in this situation myself but I have heard about it. Each time I ask the person, who should you really be mad at? But yet still bitch about the "other girl."

As a MAN if I cheat I can man up and take responsibility, but also if she cheats I can see it wasn't dude's fault it was hers.

Xilla I know you like the music, I do not know if you check these two sites trackdj.net, and hiphopearly.com. Both sites are great resources for new music (thats where I got the Lil Kim song from)

It is not just Guys though that wear that. I believe he should add "the sunglass person" cause you damn well know in a dark club you can't see shit with those on.