"D. said... Not really.....just want to know what the standard is. It's a fair question, especially considering that Michelle made no mention of the service members dying in Iraq during that part of her speech."
D. obviously you were not there, or you would know that she did talk about service members dying. She talks about them quite often.
Also, with regards to your question about who is more patriotic, our servicemen or Michelle Obama -- this is not the patriotism olympics. We do not measure patriotism or compare it among ourselves. There are no scorecards for patriotism. Either a person is a patriot, or they are not. Michelle Obama is a patriot, and so is every single person serving in our armed forces. To use their service to tear down another person, any person, is extremely disrespectful.