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Re: Zoe Saldana Opens Up About Nina Simone Biopic

TrulyPC — Wed, 02 Jul 2014 10:49:48 -0000

"I find it uncomfortable to have to speak about my identity all of the time, when in reality it’s not something that drives me or wakes me up out of bed every day."

This comment sums up why she shouldn't have portrayed Nina Simone. Nina was not uncomfortable about her identity as a dark skinned Black woman. Zoe seems to always be about "transcending" her Blackness but maintaining the right to use it whenever it suits her career. Public Black people like her and "new Black" Pharrell make me ill because they think they are actually different and seen differently.

Re: BougieLand: Too much "Ha!" in the A-ha! Moment - A Bougie Bachelor Chronicle

TrulyPC — Wed, 21 May 2014 11:52:24 -0000

OhhhhhMyyGoodnesssss. It took me twenty minutes to read this post because I kept scrolling back up to make sure I had everything straight because I just could NOT believe what I was reading.

This is the kind of mess that if it were in a movie it would have me talking back to the screen. Both of them need to be roasted but BB2 needs to be roasted fo' the rest of his life because he didn't learn a lesson. How does that happen? *logs off laughing hysterically*

Re: BougieLand: Ask a Bougie Chick - Hoodwinked, Bamboozled and Led Astray

TrulyPC — Thu, 13 Mar 2014 11:04:37 -0000

Whaaaaat. Henry, they are the predators and you are the prey. She was counting on your on your love and devotion for your children being exactly what she needed to get back into YOUR house. Get to your lawyer right now!!! If you are feeling obligated because of the history and children your share... DON'T. She brought herself and some grown ass man into YOUR home for YOU to take care of because she has no respect or consideration for you.

I LOVE the suggestion of getting the two of them out the house for the weekend and getting all the locks and the security code on that alarm system changed. The most that I would do after they leave is to have that overnight package arrive wherever they are going with the information of where their belongings are which for me would be the closest "first month for $1" storage unit that I could find. Wishing you well!!!!

Re: Gradient Lair

TrulyPC — Tue, 18 Feb 2014 00:58:21 -0000

" I’m just disappointed in how disappointing life can be at times. It’s not made for the people who don’t want to play these games, don’t want any of the prizes awarded and don’t want to be on screen when the awarding happens. " These words are my truth. Great essay.

Re: BougieLand: When sweet becomes scary... ITOFTS!

TrulyPC — Fri, 16 Aug 2013 12:06:32 -0000

32??? Resorting to any of that behavior in order to date or be in a relationship is asking to be miserable. A person that wants to cheat will let nothing to stop them.

Re: BougieLand: Next up on the ITOFTS Chronicles - Perfection is a problem

TrulyPC — Thu, 15 Aug 2013 11:23:58 -0000

I just can't deal. The garbage that does crap like this is too plentiful out here. The prospect of dealing with crap like this over and over and over again is one of the reasons why I don't care to date. It requires more energy than I care to give. Just ugh!

Re: BougieLand: Next up on the ITOFTS Chronicles - Perfection is a problem

TrulyPC — Thu, 15 Aug 2013 11:15:32 -0000

"In my head I would have gut punched that mofo and made him upchuck all of that good food and wine! "

I laughed so hard at this because I was thinking how would I be able to extract every ounce of that food he just injested!

Re: BougieLand: Welcome back to the I.T.O.F.T.S. Chronicles...

TrulyPC — Wed, 14 Aug 2013 11:57:38 -0000

Sigh. He created an unnecessary sink hole. Just leave his body in the hole.

Re: BougieLand: Is "once a cheater, always a cheater" a fair assessment?

TrulyPC — Mon, 05 Aug 2013 11:57:24 -0000

A lie of omission is still a lie. Discuss with your S/O if you plan to continue the relationship because your doubts will destroy it for sure. If you are good with the answers then that is all that matters.

I personally don't understand cheating because I have always been of the mind that if you don't want to be here then don't be here. All. Cards. On. The. Table.

Would I be with someone that has a history of cheating? Probably not. People can change if they want to but I know from experience that the 'land of doubt' doesn't suit me at all.

Re: BougieLand: Dear Don Lemon, I'm respectable as hell, now what?#disqus_thread#disqus_thread

TrulyPC — Mon, 29 Jul 2013 16:43:11 -0000

Ugh. Saying this "And I do think they "ruin it" for the good ones." means exactly this "falling in line so they can like us."

Re: BougieLand: Dear Don Lemon, I'm respectable as hell, now what?#disqus_thread#disqus_thread

TrulyPC — Mon, 29 Jul 2013 16:32:52 -0000

That is the truth! I have a degree and I am currently reviewing financial aid and college information right now with my daughter and it is confusing and complicated in so many ways that it shouldn't be.

Re: BougieLand: Dear Don Lemon, I'm respectable as hell, now what?#disqus_thread#disqus_thread

TrulyPC — Mon, 29 Jul 2013 14:33:05 -0000

"...my mother always drilled it in me and my sister to always be presentable and never walk out the house looking ragged, but its just one part of my appearance that draws notice."

Exactly, but "they" could walk in looking like that just rolled out of bed from being hungover in grunge-wear (or whatever they call it now) and nothing.

Re: BougieLand: Dear Don Lemon, I'm respectable as hell, now what?#disqus_thread#disqus_thread

TrulyPC — Mon, 29 Jul 2013 14:02:50 -0000

This post expresses every word of disappointment that I have when Black people do the "respectability" crap. Ugh... it just makes you exhausted.

I remember leaving work early to go to a department store that was having a back-to-school sale. I entered that store dressed in full "corporate attire" and I picked up a tail a couple of minutes after I entered. Of course I noticed it and I smiled and waved at the security person (a woman) but inside I was angry and offended. After shopping for a while with her still tailing me I was so pissed that I handed her the clothes and told her that it wasn't worth spending my money there. I hate dealing with that crap.

Re: BougieLand: Worst proposals ever!!!!

TrulyPC — Fri, 26 Jul 2013 11:21:15 -0000

*Sigh* I would rather be alone and happy than spend any of my days--legally bound to-- considering the thoughts, emotions, needs and wants of a person that doesn't WANT to be with me.

Re: BougieLand: Are the friends you've had forever really still your friends?

TrulyPC — Thu, 25 Jul 2013 10:43:38 -0000

I haven't had to because I am a minimalist in most areas of my life and that includes friendships. I'm not anti-social but I am cautious about who I allow into my inner circle and I have been that way since high school.

Re: BougieLand: This week in #PostRacismFAIL: Zimmerman, Deen, SCOTUS

TrulyPC — Mon, 24 Jun 2013 14:54:54 -0000

So very tired of all of this.

Re: BougieLand: All feminists are not created equal... and we should be okay with that

TrulyPC — Thu, 06 Jun 2013 11:15:16 -0000

If feminism in this society was actually as defined then I probably wouldn't have a problem with people attributing that label to me. I support, live and breathe the belief that women deserve the right to BE and political, social and economic equality is part of that. As it stands the feminist label comes with too much protocol, legacy and hierarchy of privilege that usually doesn't speak to me as a Black woman in this world. So I do me and let that lead the way.

Re: BougieLand: Main Stream Media can't help but paint FLOTUS as "Angry Black Woman"

TrulyPC — Wed, 05 Jun 2013 10:27:05 -0000

I am tired of it. All of the intense vitriol that the FLOTUS and POTUS have had to endure since the beginning is a disproportionate level of BS. The media slugs are always willing to turn anything into a story as an opportunity to discredit and disrespect them at every turn. I for one can't wait until they have done their time because all of these rabid bottom feeders will get nothing but the finger from me.

Re: BougieLand: Is this cool or not?

TrulyPC — Thu, 30 May 2013 10:38:18 -0000

Wooo. This is why I am honest with myself and admit upfront that I have no patience for considering nuances and it has everything to do with my past relationships. Everything. On. The. Table. I do not share. I am not a possessive person at all but I don't have time for doubt. Nouveau Beau could be on the up and up but it is the doubt that has been created that is now a problem that will keep on living if it is not squashed.

Question 1: If this was an already planned outing then why would you only find out right before it takes place? Meeting the "friend" long before would have at least given you an opportunity to make an informed decision about how you felt about it. Question 2: Would it be okay with him if you chose to go out with male friends (that he has not met) just because you share similar interests? I am all about trust and loyalty but I am also about priority and reciprocity. If you are my S/O then your consideration of those things lie with me first. Period.

Re: BougieLand: Trayvon, Ta-Tas and TP

TrulyPC — Tue, 28 May 2013 12:18:08 -0000

There is nothing anyone could say to me to defend the actions of George Zimmerman. He murdered Trayvon Martin.

The preoccupation in this society with a woman's breasts is beyond invasive. Lose my breasts to save my life? Hell yes!

Tyler Perry has a few things that I have enjoyed but I am burnt out.

Re: BougieLand: Prom dates, past missteps and present witch hunters

TrulyPC — Thu, 23 May 2013 15:21:09 -0000

I agree with just about everyone here. If there are any felonies or restraining orders involved then I need to know and I don't care how long ago it happened. I have stayed too long in relationships giving them the benefit of the doubt and that has taken its toll. I have no patience with people still playing catch up emotionally. So, yes, there are limits to how much I need to know but also on how long I will be around to find out.

Re: BougieLand: Lessons from #Scandal: Ladies, before you start declaring #EarnMe...

TrulyPC — Fri, 03 May 2013 15:05:53 -0000

"I know that now too many "bargain bin" folks will be running around falsely attaching Neiman Marcus tags to themselves." ROFL. I actually pictured this while I was reading it!

Re: BougieLand: Is there such a thing as "too romantic"?

TrulyPC — Wed, 01 May 2013 10:03:02 -0000

I don't consider romance to be just the wine and dine, rose petal, candlelight scenario. I love thoughtfulness, consideration and a connection. We could be in the kitchen preparing a meal together; on the couch hugged up sharing our day or sitting in silence knowing that that is what the other needs. Being in tune is very romantic to me.

Re: BougieLand: One year and 86 pounds later...

TrulyPC — Tue, 23 Apr 2013 14:02:32 -0000

Bravo for coming out on the other side of this journey with the ability to connect so well with all areas of your experience!

My healthier started toward the end of last year and I have been successful at being able to change my eating lifestyle. I never had to exercise most of my life to keep weight off and it (especially the gym) has been the biggest obstacle of my healthier lifestyle because I. HATE, IT. I am now walking a lot in my scenic city and that seems to be getting me on the right path.

Re: BougieLand: The New Boo Side-eye Struggle

TrulyPC — Thu, 11 Apr 2013 09:54:26 -0000

It depends on how much time I'm spending with that person during the "dating" period. For instance, if I am dating someone that lives outside of my area or inside my area and I am only seeing them once or twice a month it could be a very long time because I consider the time spent to be suspended animation. Nothing is actually real in a since.