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Re: http://datinginkorea.tumblr.com/post/798089794

okletsdate — Sun, 11 Jul 2010 15:47:00 -0000

woo engineers! :-) turns out if I don't date a science/engineering person, he'd better be a humanities major with a HELLUVA incongruous nerdy side if it's gonna last.

Re: http://datinginkorea.tumblr.com/post/746552886

okletsdate — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 09:22:37 -0000

Unfortunately he might only treat you better when you play hard to get or something? Some guys are really surprised when I offer to pay, and they happily take the offer. I hear it's a turn on. But after that, I have trouble eliciting any other offers of completely covering a meal. When I addressed it later, at least one time I found it was a genuine "I thought you didn't mind..."

As for the ride, that wasn't very nice, but if he thinks he can get away with not being considerate and still having you be nice to him and pay for your own stuff, I guess he might. Selfish. =P

Re: http://datinginkorea.tumblr.com/post/619562743

okletsdate — Mon, 24 May 2010 11:13:46 -0000

Haha yeah I guess see what happens but my first reaction (after searching and recapping who Summer Fling was =P) was that she was some crazy one night stand who was all like "I'm druuuuunk and claiming this one while I can". Hopefully he hasn't called back just 'cuz he's embarassed to have been with someone so nuts. :-) Haha maybe she hid his phone too.

I remember once upon a time when I was complaining about not having a real boyfriend (just a lot of noncommittal clingers) my friend told me to just start calling the next guy my boyfriend and sees if he rolls with it. And if he didn't speak up in time it was his fault. =P

Re: The New Man in my life.

okletsdate — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 12:04:06 -0000

I think I like guys who go on business trips a lot attractive because I imagine that one day he'll take me along and we'll stay in some corporate-paid-for-deluxe hotel room. ::Swoon::

Though instead whenever my last boyfriend went on trips all the time I just got stuck thanklessly commuting an hour to his apartment at least every other day to take care of his cat. Okay, I shouldn't say thanklessly. The first time was for two weeks, and he got me a Wii for my bday. =P

Re: Lost in Translation? Not if you have translators.

okletsdate — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 01:57:19 -0000

I still love how y'all go to motels in Korea. It's genius, really. I don't know why there aren't non sketch ones in the US! I don't want guys to know where I live most of the time...

Re: Everland and White Day.

okletsdate — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 12:17:34 -0000

wtf, Everland? you're so weiiiiird.

If you're up for it, you should totally be "the catalyst" that breaks them up! Okay, that's sad. BUT some relationships just need the catalyst. There must be a reason he's looking for companionship!

Haha maybe I should post about my friends and my musings about this alleged catalyst that doesn't necessarily get you the guy, but it just gets the guy single again. Meh.

Re: Dating Everyone

okletsdate — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 02:34:11 -0000

gurrrrrrl I totally missed that you were in DC. =P
dating blog virtual high five since we're in the same metro area. :-)
have fun!

Re: Oh, god. My heart.

okletsdate — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 18:05:26 -0000

haha I'm not even sure which guy this is but he seems so sweet! "You don’t have to be alone when you go to shows. Just call me:)" ?!?!?! my friends aren't even that nice.

Re: breaking the break

okletsdate — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 02:32:38 -0000

haha aw, thanks for the support. :-) I'm pretty spoiled online 'cuz everyone's nice. and I definitely wasn't blaming you for posting the concert!

Re: Dating in Korea

okletsdate — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 20:59:36 -0000

haha it doesn't help that I had to scroll down pretty far to see what you wrote and bam, there's really only one thing visible from the picture...

Re: the wonders of the cosmos + update

okletsdate — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 19:18:34 -0000

Thanks for the support. :-) I feel like no matter what happens it'll be a relief 'cuz either way this guilty dating two guys thing will be over.

But yes, the short term sucks. And I've been thinking more about it, and how even though I often get back together with people after about a week or so break...how much more paranoid and tense it makes things after. Ugh. I vow to be less greedy next dating cycle and keep things simple!

Re: Mixed Koreans. The best of both worlds?

okletsdate — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 18:05:34 -0000

I always end up doing better with guys I message first. :-) The messages and flirts don't fizzle out as fast.

Re: The main problem with meeting people online.

okletsdate — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 19:07:58 -0000

I commented and then realized I'd rather reblog it and respond there...and for some reason I can only edit and not delete this comment. So...that's that. =P

Re: 1. My mouth went numb (and not from overuse.)

okletsdate — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 14:43:59 -0000

omg. this has happened to me before. and I can tell from the taste now and I'm like "ugharghnoooo" and the guys usually forget what condoms they have or it's a big grab bag in whatever sketchy drawer they keep them in.

but yeah after I lose the ability to enunciate they feel bad and it's usually break time...

Re: Scary correlation.

okletsdate — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 15:03:36 -0000

Looks don't last forever, but great sex might =P ...maybe the boy just needs a makeover!

Re: I'm just putting this out there. And it's gross. So skip if you want.

okletsdate — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 14:55:40 -0000

ask away! I have been using the Diva Cup for about 2-3 years (and will occasionally slip in an Instead cup for light days when the guy is insistent on doing stuff...) and there are a billion of other brands too.

of all things, there's a pretty good livejournal community for cups...
http://community.livejourna...

Re: Confused.

okletsdate — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 18:22:26 -0000

Medievalist just seems...awkward.

Re: I'm just putting this out there. And it's gross. So skip if you want.

okletsdate — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 18:19:15 -0000

haha. wow.
I'm okay with it with the towel and whatnot if it's not one of my heavy days (and the guy is really really insistent). I can't believe he checked. I also can't believe he doesn't know what a tampon is. what is wrong with the Korean education system? (or commercials?)
he'd probably never understand a menstrual cup...(which, woman to woman, I must endorse. look it up! there are kinds you can get that are high enough that you can have sex with it in. fits like a really loose diaphragm. )

Re: Ain't nothin' but a number?

okletsdate — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 05:37:32 -0000

my laptop mouse is driving me crazy! didn't mean to submit that. anyway...I guess because I've always been the youngest sibling by far, and look/act a little young, I can't take the older person role if there even is one. My arbitrary rule is I can date someone up to 7 years older than me right now. And being out of college is the lower end of the requirement. (Unless they are only not done with college because of time off doing something else...)
Picky picky I know...

Re: "Simplicity!"

okletsdate — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 12:33:44 -0000

I hate the right choice. I hardly ever choose it. :-) We'll see if I can keep it up. Thanks for the comment!
I should also stop looking at pictures of him. I wonder if it's weird that I'm mad we don't have one together. All for the better perhaps!

Re: Australia.

okletsdate — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 13:09:39 -0000

haha...this is funny because the only person who's ever defriended me was also an electrical engineer (or maybe computer engineer). I think their social skill set is a bit different. :-)

Re: Australia.

okletsdate — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 10:11:54 -0000

it's also possible he's just old and that bad at facebook. :-)

Re: Dating in Korea

okletsdate — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 08:12:04 -0000

damn, for serious??

Re: My Plan.

okletsdate — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 21:48:10 -0000

Well if I'm gonna be overly cynical about it, I guess not in a good way since we're not together anymore. :-) But yeah, the times where it became apparent a misunderstanding might be afoot I was happily reunited with the boy a week later. I've only had two serious boyfriends, and this happened once with each.

And once I got back together with a guy after a year, but that was college, and things were stupid/different then..

Re: My Plan.

okletsdate — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 19:06:13 -0000

it's true! not trying would just add to difficult process. :-/ It's worked for me were when the breakups were based on weird misunderstandings. So really you're just clarifying things...don't feel bad about it!