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Re: So She Writes by Miss Dre | A Beauty + Lifestyle Blog: My Two Cents | Spreading Love

morethenahandfull — Wed, 04 Nov 2015 09:00:19 -0000

Thank you so much for sharing these words!!! They represent every thought that crosses our mind at some point in time. Am I good enough, did I make the right decisions, am I doing what I am supposed to be doing, etc. It can get loud in my head, thanks for offering words of encouragement and a gesture that shows that whatever path we are on we should work to own it and enjoy the ride/view along the way.
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Re: FabEllis: Personal Style | Fall Cardigans

morethenahandfull — Tue, 27 Oct 2015 12:56:18 -0000

Cardigans are a must! I just found a few really cute ones in my local thrift and cannot wait to wear each of them. While you look beautiful I cannot help but notice the beautiful leaves showing off behind you, lol. Thank you so much for sharing this post as well as your beautiful pics.
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Re: The Mane Objective: #EveryDayFitness Week 1 Update

morethenahandfull — Tue, 11 Aug 2015 11:25:34 -0000

Thank you so much for aharing this post! I have been dragging my feet regarding getting back into working out. My schedule has been lacking and your post came at the right time for me... I so needed to get another take. THank you for sharing great insight as well as other things to help me along my journey.
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Re: Start Your Day with Jesus! 5 Daily Devotionals

morethenahandfull — Tue, 11 Aug 2015 11:19:27 -0000

Thank God for you and this post! I appreciate what you shared and can see the value in getting quite and taking advantage of the quite time to get centered. I have to do the same prior to everyone else waking within our home. Its import that you find time to focus on what really matters to you. Obviously religion and being right with the one above is important to you as you beautifully shared above. I appreciated your words, thank you for being you!
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Re: We Need To Talk

morethenahandfull — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 00:42:53 -0000

I've personally never have had to sit down and give anyone "the talk" per se. My way of thinking, in the past, was to let him go once I felt unsatisfied instead of having to play teacher and risk still not being satisfied. I'm married now so alot of those issues are gone out the window, the man I married was my first real intimate partner. I had only been with 2 guys prior to him and each was a single encounter under very virgin like circumstances, ie. having sex around clothing that i refused to remove, lls!
The only issue that I have had with my husband has been getting him to see my perspective so instead of telling him how I would like to go about getting something completed I now sale him an idea or vision but say it in a way that makes him think that he came up with it on his own. It truly is a win win situation....he gets the credit for having come up with the idea & I get my way!

Re: Proper Etiquette

morethenahandfull — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 09:52:28 -0000

@ Blacksand....I agree with your method, now that I'm older and can appreciate the benefits of being stright forward with no games! But you can't even begin to understand how these dudes show there ass when they notice that they are not a priority and are only being used for the goods the same way that they may have done the last chick. Although it is a funny site to see I have felt sorry for a couple of guys in the past! I have had the long phone messages, the blowing up the pager with special codes and characters (I know I'm tellin my age, lls), or even trying to use mind games to gain control of the situation. Sad as hell but so true!

Re: The Beginnings.....

morethenahandfull — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 09:34:40 -0000

LLS @ Headmistress!!!

That situation (messin' with an older guy) really put it in perspective for me that there are a lot of grown ass boys out here posing ass grown men, lls!!! l'm glad I was able to get mine out the way early, lol!

I always have to find the silver ining in ish, lls!!

Re: Proper Etiquette

morethenahandfull — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 09:00:38 -0000

I hope it didn't change him although I'm sure it did!

Actually the ear wax was small in comparison to the other things about him that pissed me off. He was the type of dude who would always want you to be up under him, not to mention he had a whiney voice like a spoiled teenaged girl, yuk!!! He had this sad way of asking me to come over it was sickening.....I tried to explain it to my sister and my bestfriend but they couldn't believe my claims until I let them here him on the phone, lls!!! After that they were on my side as far as letting his ass get the phuck!

Re: Proper Etiquette

morethenahandfull — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 06:51:01 -0000

It is so sad that everyone is aware of these "BASIC" rules, this should be common knowledge....maybe even taught in school or an older sibling, lls!!!!!

I can recall several intances in which some of the previously mentioned incidents happened to me but I can remember one guy in particular his name was Aaron, he was truly a sweet person, I can appreciate it now but not so much back then, lol!
I thought it was just sex and that sometimes I would stay over due to my not being grounded.....read in between the lines people :)
I remember the sex was good but his place always smelled like ear wax to me, and thats sad because I don't have a sensitive nose?!?!! After smoking that stuff his place still smelled like ear wax. After a couple of sleep overs I decided I had enuff....needless to say he didn't. He continued to call me and be sweet but I couldn't move backwards. I would give every excuse as to why I couldn't/wouldn't be coming over and he just rolled with it. If I told him I was sick he would bring medicine and food, if I was sad he would give me pep talks....the only thing he wouldn't give me that I needed was space so I had to do the next best thing.....let a friend help give the cold shoulder, like answer the door phone with some off the wall bulls*it.....this is so sad but it is hard to shake a nice guy!

Re: The Beginnings.....

morethenahandfull — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 08:48:28 -0000

@ Ness

It took that situation happening for me to really see how unstable he truly. I actually had him to turn off the lights so he wouldn't have had proof of the situation anyway. Although I didn't deny it because everyone knew I liked him so much anyway. I have to say, that after that situation, he disgusted me. I was able to see other things that I wasn't aware of at first...it's like the blinders came off. Iwas able to realize that him and his babaymama was on something, still not sure what and tha he really did have issues. He actually was found dead on some train tracks in SE D.C. a couple of weeks later so he obviousy pissed somebody else off as well. R.I.P Chuck!

.....And I know I've heard a couple of other people within my circle refer to the jean situation during their first encounter, so I knew I wasn't alone! LLS!!!

Re: The Beginnings.....

morethenahandfull — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 01:55:52 -0000

My first time was a truly a joke! First off, I was in like with this guy for a couple of months, I was 15 yrs old and he was 21 (yes he robbed the cradle)! H e lived next door to my cousins who I use to visit almost every weekend. He use to flirt with me and say little slick ish and I being the fast ass that I was would give it right back. Until finally one day none of his siblings (I think it was about 6 of them total) were home but his mom was. Anyhoo he asked me to come over so I came & and we started messing around in the living room. Next thing you know we were on the floor and he was trying to talk me into taking my clothes off. Being the 15 yr old that I was I was pretty shy so I wouldn't let him pull my jeans down past my knees. So of course he had no choice but to climb inbetween the center of my jeans and my body, if yo can imagine, lls!!!! It was ackward as hell but he he went along with it. Because it was my first time I wasn't completely comfortable so I had an uncontrolable laugh going on as well. Needless to say this made him think that I was laughing at him and that I couldn't have been a virgin. Don't get me wrong, it did hurt but I think the laughter was used to comfort me thru the whole thing. After about 30 minutes of this floor play I decided I was done so I had him to get up and i left.
The following week he had gotten stabbed and was in the hospital, he called me at home and asked would I come back over so that he could finish, I told him no thank you...... This asshole told me that if I didn't let him hit again that he would tell my aunt & cousins that he phucked me. Well, he kept his word! Because I wouldn't let him get it he told all of my peoples that he phucked me. Although I was irratated I chopped it up to him actin' a fool because he couldn't get his way.
So, that's my sad, pitiful first encounter with the "dick!" For many years I didn't count him but eventually I came to realize that it could have been much worse.

Re: What's Your S.E.X.

morethenahandfull — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 17:47:20 -0000

@ Blacksand I was just giving you a hard time, I feel your concern. I am always telling males and females that I feel for them and the dating scene. You have alot of peopl out here who are out for self and don't consider how their decisions or lack of communication can negatively affect potential relationships. I respect any transgender, down low, he'she, etc who is up front an honest about their situation. When it comes down to it.....I feel everyone should have the opportunity to decide if they want to be intimate with someone who is potentially batting or has started for the same/other team! Surprises are not always welcomed and can some times be fatal, real talk!

Re: What's Your S.E.X.

morethenahandfull — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 05:11:59 -0000

@ Blacksand
Although I'm happy that the he/she was open and honest with you I am a little offended by the remarks about the big hands/big feet....LLS!!!!
I was in DC getting ready to hit a club and decided to stop at the gas station, as soon as I stepped out of my car I noticed a guy slow walking over in my direction. After I finished at the window and headed back to my car he found it neccessary to start with an apology but proceeded to ask me if I was a woman? Now I can 't lie, I was offended but I couldn't be mad at him for checkin' because everbody knows that DC is full of he/shes, lls!!! He said that because I had large hands and was taller then him (I am 6 feet but was wearing 3 inch heels) that he became curious! After seeing many a tranny up close and personal (after attending a birthday party for one of DC's fashion designers) I must say that I was shocked that a man could pull off wearing a bikini while making the women question his true gender......with all of that being said I truly feel for all of the men because these mofos ain't playin' fair! They are very convincing.

Re: I Am Not Weird....Am I?

morethenahandfull — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 03:09:20 -0000

@ SHOEFIENDISH....please spill the beans on the spot in DC! I knew we had them, I just never knew where.

Re: It's Not For Everyone....

morethenahandfull — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 17:49:59 -0000

@ HeadMistress...

I have never cared to muchfor being te center of attention or standing out.....I am just over 6 feet so I do that daily, lls!!!! But I have been to several weddings where people that attend the wedding arrive empty handed, are there for the food while talking smack about every detail and what they would have done better! I choose to by pass all the bullsh*t and just have the people around who I knew were their for me and my honey! It was the best decision for us. We are already making plans for our 5 year anniversary to renew our vowels....possibly Turks and Chaicos!

Re: It's Not For Everyone....

morethenahandfull — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 23:55:27 -0000

I feel that marriage is not for everyone and once upon a time would have bet my bank account that I would never get married! Personally I never wanted it, the main reason was because I had never seen one work in real life. My now husband had asked me to marry him 3 times prior to us finally getting married. When he originally asked me, luckily, I knew that I was not ready and that rushing to the alter wouldn't make either of us happy in the long run. Finally at the age of 28 (and he was 32) we decided to get married. It was a gut feeling that we both felt while laying in bed. He didn't ask me nor did I ask him it just fell in to place, it seemed very natural!
We decided to go to the justice of the peace with only our parents & siblings. Immediately after we went and had lunch. A week later we flew to St. Thomas for 2 weeks and upon our return we had a lavish reception dinner for our 40 closest friends in order to announce our union at the lovely B. Smith restaurant! I can say that even now I have never wanted a big wedding with flowers or all of the attention that goes with the big wedding day. On my special day I only wanted us and those that were close to us. We decided instead of spending money on a big wedding that we would spend it on our honeymoon. Because we planned ahead we were able to pay for everything as they were happening. While on vacation we didn't have to think about all of the money that we had spent or possible debt because everything was paid for even our rings. The money that we saved by not having a $5000-$10000 wedding went to our rings, I look at mine daily and am happy that I didn't choose the big wedding full of people who I might think are my friends but who are really there to gossip. I have no regrets and wouldn't change a thing.

I can agree with alot of the previous comments in regards to marriage not being taken seriously but all of that can be prevented if people didn't rush to get married, sad as hell but true! You have to take time to learn the person, there are signs that the person you are with is only looking for a free ride or is only interested in your pockets. I think people need to stop putting time frames on everything and just give time for your signficant other to show & prove. Either one of two things will happen (1) they will slip up and show there true colors or (2) you will see that they are self sufficient and are grinding with or without you. Now all is left for you to do is decide which one it is that you want. Stop wasting time dealing with folks who ain't about sh*t, all they are doing is holding you back.

Re: Time Machine

morethenahandfull — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 02:01:30 -0000

@ Ness
I worked in my favor and I am so greatful that it did!

Re: I Just Want To Put Your Ankles On Your Earlobes

morethenahandfull — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 00:20:04 -0000

I would be telling a lie if I said I never had a friend for the sole purpose of getting mine. He was actually an old boyfriend but when I called him or he called me we both knew what it was. If he came over and his dick wasn't hard then he already knew I would be talking shit, lls!!
On occasion we would have drinks and some stuff to choke on but it was never a requirement. Afterwards we hit the showers and go about our day. The crazy thing is is that although we nolonger have sex (3 years later) he now does work around my house...with my husbands approval. Although hubby doesn't know the details he knows that we use to see each other. He is really a cool dude and it all goes back to me respecting his marriage and he respects mine....

Re: 6 Incredibly Subtle Ways To Get Laid Without Asking

morethenahandfull — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 00:45:23 -0000

On more then one occasion I remember taking it back to inviting him in for a cup of coffee, lls! After we both share that laugh then I would let him know that I don't own any coffee beans or a coffee maker but once he walk both feet across my threshold that he was definitly getting phucked & I meant it!
Unfortunately being that bold would cause some guys to buckle under pressure....pressure bust pipes!

Re: Strut Your Stuff

morethenahandfull — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 00:32:08 -0000

I too love wearing heels but because I am 6 feet tall (size 12 body frame). I am selective as far as when and where I choose to wear them. I will wear them if I am with hubby because he is 6"4 and we compliment each other as well as he loves the attention. I wear them when out with my sisters as I am next to the shortest of 4 girls so we are already looking like a basketball team (the more feminine version, lls).
I am a little reluctant to wear them when I'm alone just because some men act like they have never seen long legs before, lls! If I hear one more guy say how he would love a sip of my tall glass of water or how I'm a tall tree to climb then I just may slit my own wrist, SMDH!!!

Re: Time Machine

morethenahandfull — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 00:16:21 -0000

I believe if it is meant to be it will be! Me and Mr. met when I was 16 & he 19. Due to the age differenceI was kind of reluctant to get serious about him due to friends and my older 2 sisters getting dogged by guys. So, I did me during our relationship cheating, going out with other guys or whatever I wanted to do. The one thing I didn't do was lie, if he asked I told him the truth. Ultimately I hurt him but he was in love with me, I was still unsure.
All in all, it took me leaving to go in to the military to see how much we truly loved each other. After leaving at 21 and returning at 25 I could finally appreciate how he treated me, loved me, respected me but by this time he was engaged to a girl that he was going to college with.
After returning home & getting settled back in we decided to see each other and within days he broke off his engagement and we gave it another shot. Luckily my dipping back in the past worked for me/us! I think the main reason that it worked for us is because I needed to grow up and get out of my comfort zone and experience different things in life. Luckily, my joining the military made me a much more responsible as well as honarable person. For the first time I was able to see that his intentions were genuine and that I couldn't give him a title based on the guys in my sisters lives. We have been married for almost 3 years now and I do not regret going back.

Re: The Association...

morethenahandfull — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 01:12:41 -0000

@ Hazysin

I feel you....as far as writing while having to deal with repressed memories. I started writing a book while in my 3rd year in the military and found it hard to decide what I should put in the book and what to leave out. Past experiences that are somewhat unreal to me were being relived while trying to get my story out. Eventually I fell off because I felt that although I have been very candid in things that I've done in the past I'm not sure if my husband/relatives would really be comfortable reading it. By that I mean although it would be written as a fictional book of course their would be some truth to it. I guess ultimately I don't know how I would handle some of the questions that would arise.
I kept the book and am still back and fourth on if I want to actually move forward with it or just leave it alone.

Re: How Do You Like It....

morethenahandfull — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 00:42:15 -0000

I have monthly appointments scheduled in advance with my barber (hubby)! We absolutely love it! The first time he asked to do it we went to the local beauty supply store and purchased some quality clippers with all of the attachments. He takes it serious too, he gets the music going, pulls a chair up to the edge of the bed, lays a towel down and gets a light to sit right next to him so that he can see everything. I leave it up to him to do whatever he is feeling, he's the artist! While he is working the look on his faces is priceless he is truly concentrating. But once the job is complete, it never fails. He goes and gets a warm rag to wipe me down and then insists on sampling/testing the product, lls. He says he has to make sure it rides right & of course it always does. Usually an hour or so later, depending on our energy level then I will begin my shift! Overall, it's quite an enjoyable experience!

Re: The Pool Is Shallow

morethenahandfull — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 16:40:02 -0000

@ Blacksand....Aruba is absolutely beautiful, I must agree! We stayed at the Divi Golf Club & could not complain. Everyone was very friendly and welcoming....the food was amazing! We loved it so much that we ended up buying a timeshare in Aruba! The weather, the people and the beaches are unbelivable! We stayed for 10 long days and managed to fit in alot of sight seeing, 4 wheeling, scuba diving, the party boat we even went and saw the million dollar houses. I encourage everyone to take a trip over, you won't be dissappointed.

Re: The Association...

morethenahandfull — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 06:39:07 -0000

This is so off topic but I am in total agreement with Blacksand as far as the many layers of Hazysin. I am so intrigued by many of your comments as they are apart of who you are as a woman. I would like to ask if you (Hazysin) & Ness could be so kind as to reach an agreement so that when the book is almost completed that you are able to provide an excerpt on this site. I feel myself as as well as many others would love to get a small sample of your book and would be honored to purchase a copy of your book. This is just a thought but hopefully you too are way ahead of me.