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Re: You don't know me ay?

minou — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 20:49:05 -0000

Hi igather it's minou. Too lazy to sign into my discus account! But I want to know more about your hotel. I think I need a dissertation vacation... email me at minouisarenegade@gmail if you want to. I swear I am not stalking you! Your island sounds like it might be a good place for me to visit and rest my weary ass in the sun for a bit. Lemme know.

Now go kill those bitches and that small dick motherfucker.

Re: Life begins at 40

minou — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 23:58:49 -0000

I kind of know these people through a degree of separation they are associated with my ex and his Boston bands and their friends. Another friend screened this film -- maybe the first screening -- at his film festival in Maine. It's an amazing story even if you don't know the players.

Re: A Brief Introduction to Paleoconservatism

minou — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 23:12:44 -0000

Don't worry, SMM.

I got the same line about being small minded and angry, and, to boot, the same crack about investing in a mirror. None of this applies to you.

Substantive attacks are at least productive. Ad-hominem? Not so much. Boilerplate ad-hominem? Discouraging and disappointing, to put it as equivocally as I can at this point.

(I had posted this but the passive-aggressive didn't suit me, so I decided it was best to send it directly to you)

Re: Minou, about the end of relationships thing.

minou — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 22:15:26 -0000

Oh, well, I've been there too.

In the case I noted above? I knew J was a drunk. I knew he was that bad, even. But I also knew there was something better in him and I intended to hang on for as long as possible because he really did love me and he was/is an incredible person outside the drinking. So the point finally came when I couldn't hang on anymore and then it manifested very literally.

But it is hard to go back and think about what maybe you could have done differently (or not said, or whatever), except, I suppose, you couldn't have done it differently. Or else you would have.

Re: Minou, about the end of relationships thing.

minou — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 21:47:44 -0000

Well, my mother claims that it was when she and my father came to pick us up to take us to the train station to begin last summer's big trip and J was standing at the kitchen island guzzling Jameson straight from the bottle, at 8am. She said she could see it on my face. But I don't buy her version, because really it was much worse than that.

Re: Woolie

minou — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 22:34:22 -0000

Awesome post. You summed up a lot of what I have felt about motherhood and what my hopes are for when it happens. I can't wait to finish my dissertation because I will be one step closer to being a mom. And likely without a partner, but I know I can do it. And I assume that picture is of the wonderful little Woolies? They are sweet and gorgeous and incredible.

Re: tumbleVISION

minou — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 22:34:54 -0000

Two weeks? I keep thinking he'll be back any day now. What, cabins in Vermont don't have wifi?

Re: Something Snarky

minou — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 16:56:47 -0000

So did you read the last post, either? The one that showed exactly how you didn't read the post? From your above response, it seems like you still haven't read it, or else you would understand that I was suggesting that maybe compassion -- even if it seems counterintuitive -- might be an additional strategy that we could use when the old approach of dismissive anger isn't working so well. But that anger is warranted and very appropriate, and maybe we should hold society responsible for its actions as well as holding individuals responsible for theirs so to avoid the blame/victim trap that well-meaning feminists too often fall into? My spiel? That's not a spiel, that's just critical thinking.

And I'm sorry that critical thinking generally requires one to read and formulate semi-literate responses that actually address the argument, because those don't strike me as things you like to do. Otherwise this might be worth any more of my time.

Re: Well, Woolie, she's practically down the street from you!

minou — Fri, 15 May 2009 10:38:41 -0000

Ack! Maine and midwest collide! In Maine EVERYTHING is "up the street" -- "up" is the only direction anyone knows here. Except for, oddly enough, "Downeast," which is actually up north. I say "pop" and "up the street" both, can you see why I have identity confusion? But yeah, she's just outside Detroit.

Re: I Am Not Kidding

minou — Wed, 13 May 2009 23:13:21 -0000

"In me," I should have added. I didn't like the way it felt when I engaged with you like that. I can't speak for how you felt, or what you meant, because I don't know your motives. Maybe I ought to have been more clear. I apologize for that.

Yet you still haven't addressed the original question. What made you laugh so hard about that post? Now I'm just curious. Because if it wasn't meant for me, I probably should get my self-seriousness detector checked out. But considering that you chose not to address this, I am assuming -- until you correct me, and if it's the case, you should correct me -- that you were sniping at me.

You said something unnecessarily nasty about me in a conversation that never needed to involve you. End of story. Have the decency to stand by what you did instead of try to spin it into some nasty thing I did to you. And while you are at it, I'd like to know what you think makes me such an angry person. Seriously. Because I don't want to be angry.

But if you can tell me the unkind things I have said to you, and the passive aggressive comments I have made since our mutual unfollow, I'd give them a closer look and maybe be willing to admit that I was wrong. I just really thought that staying away from you was the best option for both of us and, until this comment you posted last night, I thought you shared that feeling about me. So I was just disappointed, was all. What anger there might be is at myself for letting it get to me.

Re: I just knocked back four fadvil (faux advil) and am about to have some wine.

minou — Wed, 13 May 2009 20:52:50 -0000

Thanks Gecko! I don't have a microwave is the problem. But hopefully SMM does. I went out and bought an old fashioned hot water bottle today, since I can't sleep with the electric heating pad on. I should probably think about buying a microwave sometime soon, too. But when I had one, I only used it as a breadbox! We didn't have one growing up so I just got used to living without it... :)

Re: I Am Not Kidding

minou — Wed, 13 May 2009 10:34:51 -0000

Even with all my reasoning that that "one sentence" probably doesn't involve me, chances are, because of the oblique way that you referred to it, it does. BAL, I don't follow you, you don't follow me, and I for one was kind of happy that we didn't have to wait for our mutual dislike (for each other's opinions -- not necessarily personal) to escalate into a public screaming match before we decided to simply and quietly get uninvolved with one another. Please don't come on here and passive aggressively insult me in a reblog that you know I'm going to see. And since the only substantive sentences in the above post came out of my head, and your response was the written equivalent of snickering behind your hand, I'd guess I'm not being paranoid.

If I am, I apologize. And I want you to know that while I may have been snipe-y in the past, you are actually one of the reasons I am trying to curb that impulse. You have made me realize how unkind and unbecoming such an attitude truly is.

Re: Thanks Oprah...

minou — Mon, 11 May 2009 23:10:23 -0000

So, hugging your child is intimate too. Do you have a problem with that in public? Look, I'm not sorry to have been a bitch, although I apologize for any misunderstanding. But what is wrong with the exposure of the breast, exactly,if, as you say, it's not indecent? There's a big difference between walking around with them hanging out -- with which, ideally, there should also be nothing wrong except for the obvious discomfort of the breast-haver -- and feeding a child with them, and you can rationalize it all you want but there's really only one way to explain why you have the opinions that you feel so entitled to. If you are offended by a bare breast, it is because you have an issue with the breast. If that wasn't the case, you'd be arguing that we should all always eat at home -- never in public -- because that is ALL that breastfeeding is. Don't confuse being allowed to feel how you feel with having a legitimate opinion. Just accept that as long as you're expressing your fucked-up opinions, people like me are going to be assholes about it, and move on.

Re: tumbleVISION

minou — Sun, 10 May 2009 21:07:29 -0000

D'oh. I meant "not entirely UNLIKE."

Re: tumbleVISION

minou — Sun, 10 May 2009 21:06:47 -0000

Incidentally, this is not entirely like what being a kid in Maine in the 70s looked like if your parents originally moved there to "get back to the land." Bob Dylan and Joan Baez and Carly Simon on the record player. Lots of toys made of wood and felt. My family has changed a lot in 30 years, but I think that childhood is imprinted so strongly on me that it resonated through your pictures. But it's most fascinating to see a completely different version of something that seems so familiar.

Re: Shorter Excerpts

minou — Fri, 08 May 2009 22:59:14 -0000

The whole point was I didn't cc it on purpose. It wasn't trolling, it was a catastrophe. I was drunk enough that I was just stabbing at the screen and ended up... well, I'm not sure where, because I lost the iPhone the same night. I just know that it didn't end well for anyone.

Re: Unfollow Friday - Every "Impoverished" MacBook Owner

minou — Thu, 07 May 2009 21:55:24 -0000

Because the rest of you are posting from a cardboard box? Or a computer that costs maybe marginally less than mine? This post might have a point if it made sense, but if you are posting on tumblr at all, you are admitting to a certain privilege. Do you really think the class war is going to come down to the $200 difference between my Mac and your Dell?

Re: Well, yeah, exactly

minou — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 21:24:14 -0000

Oh, wait. I don't know you, ay? My bad.

Re: Conf to Enjoli:

minou — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 21:37:51 -0000

Well, I was asking b/c I tried it on last summer and didn't buy it and now they don't have it anymore and I'm wondering if you want to unload yours -- I'll pay. It was the long-ish cross back one, right? It actually hid the RIGHT things on me and didn't accentuate the negative. Anyway, just thought I'd ask. Hope I'm not being presumptuous but let me know if you're interested!

Re: conspicuous consumption

minou — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 16:04:25 -0000

Yum, Chuffy. Do you reckon this would also work with a pork roast of similar size, for those of us who might not be so inclined toward lamb?

Re: A Miscellany

minou — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 22:58:26 -0000

I don't want to clutter peoples' dashboards here but I really know what you're talking about. When my dad divorced his first wife in the early 70s, when my brother was a baby, my dad got full custody. This was, needless to say, unheard of at that time. My dad's mom had always wanted girls but she never had a daughter so she taught my dad and his brothers to cook, to sew, to keep house -- and this was in the 50s! So i had a lot of feminism on my side. It just seemed natural to me, not something that needed explaining. Our differences come in because I stayed in that comfortable milieu and you took a risk and left it and it sounds like you had some hard times, but learning times too. This is why I like to ask questions like I asked, because hearing stories like yours is exactly what I wanted when I asked the question. Like, "Oh, so that's how it does happen differently." Cheers!

Re: conspicuous consumption

minou — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 16:20:15 -0000

OMG Meg. YUM.

Re: conspicuous consumption

minou — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 22:10:46 -0000

Testing comments. The cookies look good too Meg!

Re: I just thought that if I shared my pain- which is more personal- for people who know me,

minou — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 22:05:24 -0000

I think you are brave for sharing that. I also think you are brave for confronting the fact that you do still have love for him. It's easy to make absolute statements about violence, but it's really hard to face how complicated and incredibly confounding the real experience can be.

It's in my nature to want to forgive. I would hate to be in a situation where I was made to feel that I was wrong for wanting to do so. I hope you know that I respect you so much for saying something so hard to say.

Re: Fragile; damaged goods; return to sender.

minou — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 20:57:58 -0000

Yes, we do. And it's really confusing, because we were always told that the silver spoon would prevent them. It doesn't, really. It helps with lots of things, sure, but certain things, nope.