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Re: Feminist analysis of video game tropes booted off YouTube within hours

Megan Carpentier — Wed, 29 May 2013 15:20:41 -0000

Our moderators are not and should not be expected to watch a bunch of videos or click a bunch of links to determine whether videos are offensive -- especially as so many that are offensive have been posted and removed. Look at all the work they've had to do already to keep this moderately reasonable. Bitching about them is actually a violation of the TOS and I'm hereby giving them carte blanche to ban you for it, if they choose. If they choose not to, try thanking them for their tolerance.

Re: Feminist analysis of video game tropes booted off YouTube within hours

Megan Carpentier — Wed, 29 May 2013 14:48:57 -0000

He got deleted and, yes, we agree, it was pretty over-the-top.

Re: Off-duty Navy sailor blocks Dubai rape attempt with leg stranglehold

Megan Carpentier — Thu, 25 Apr 2013 13:09:35 -0000

Per our terms of service, which can be found at the bottom of the page, this is considered an ad hominem insult aimed at the writer. If you wish you have your suspension reviewed, please follow the procedures outlined in the TOS.

Re: LIVE BLOG AND VIDEO: Wednesday’s Republican National Conventions speeches in Tampa

Megan Carpentier — Wed, 29 Aug 2012 23:31:58 -0000

I am not posting comments that are insulting, off-topic, cross-talk, not timely, that make assertions which I determine are false, or one-word comments that are replies to something that came much earlier, because the replies aren't threaded (as you can see). To simply post every comment would make it impossible to decipher as a live-blog, which is intended to be a timely discussion. This is also, in part, because an editor-moderated discussion that is also hosted elsewhere (on the SL site) has different expectations than a comment thread, editorially-speaking. It's deliberately not intended to be a comment thread, which is a more free-form forum, and deliberately so.

For what it's worth, the software we're using (which is brand new) doesn't allow me to delete things from the live blog stream once they are posted, including my own comments.

I'm happy to have and enjoy participation in the live blog, but it's a different format, and because things aren't threaded, several comments tonight made no sense to me as I read them, and because I couldn't even tell what they were in response to, I didn't post them.

Re: What women really hear when men like Politico reporter Dave Catanese and Rep. Todd Akin say ‘legitmate rape’

Megan Carpentier — Tue, 21 Aug 2012 11:35:26 -0000

Your comment is being deleted because it threatens rape and is misogynist. It's also why your user account is being deleted.

Re: Anderson Cooper comes out (and says he was never actually in)

Megan Carpentier — Fri, 06 Jul 2012 11:26:17 -0000

For one, I am the executive editor and in charge of the editorial process. And, for two, this is Raw Meat, our OpEd page -- i.e., our commentary side of the site. That's why it says "Raw Meat" on top.

Re: Kansas pastor calls on U.S. government to kill LGBT people

Megan Carpentier — Wed, 30 May 2012 14:58:57 -0000

It is in fact a violation of our Terms of Service and the Golden Rule. The first can get you banned from here and the second just pisses me off. Don't do it, and don't defend it.

Re: Kansas pastor calls on U.S. government to kill LGBT people

Megan Carpentier — Wed, 30 May 2012 14:57:00 -0000

You're getting one warning. Post this again and you will be banned from the site.

Re: The queens of ‘RuPaul’s Drag Race’ talk politics

Megan Carpentier — Tue, 01 May 2012 17:31:24 -0000

And your transphobic comments have earned you a banning.

Re: Raw Story’s Megan Carpentier on Rep. West ‘communists in Congress’ remark

Megan Carpentier — Thu, 12 Apr 2012 10:04:52 -0000

I went in wearing a green shirt that apparently interfered with the green screen used to make the skyline appear behind me (I thought it would be a different enough color but was wrong). So they fiddled with something -- that is not a technical term -- and made my shirt appear blue rather than allow the skyline to appear on my shirt and make me look like a disembodied head.

Next time, I'll just wear a blue shit.

Re: Girl Talk: If Guys Don’t Care When We Poop, Why Do We?

Megan Carpentier — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 15:48:19 -0000

In my research, I heard (but couldn't find a way to incorporate) a story about exactly this concern: one man reported a partner ripping a loud, smelly one while he was performing oral sex on her. He laughed, she was embarrassed.

Re: Girl Talk: I Snooped His Online Dating Profile

Megan Carpentier — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 15:43:35 -0000

I appreciate that, but, in my book, it's not exactly graceful to snoop the way that I did.

Re: Girl Talk: I Snooped His Online Dating Profile

Megan Carpentier — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 15:39:23 -0000

I won't deny that it occurred to me, but I decided to try to limit the gracelessness with which I handled the whole thing.

Re: Girl Talk: I Snooped His Online Dating Profile

Megan Carpentier — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 15:38:21 -0000

Both.

Re: Naomi Wolf slams feminists’ response to the Assange rape prosecution

Megan Carpentier — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 19:36:24 -0000

Your sexist comment got this removed. If you'd like to appeal your banning for violating our terms of service, please feel free to email me.

Re: Naomi Wolf slams feminists’ response to the Assange rape prosecution

Megan Carpentier — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 19:35:43 -0000

Thanks!

Re: Naomi Wolf slams feminists’ response to the Assange rape prosecution

Megan Carpentier — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 19:35:07 -0000

Your rape apologism got this post removed. If you want to explain why you think you should be reinstated as a commenter, feel free to email me.

Re: Naomi Wolf slams feminists’ response to the Assange rape prosecution

Megan Carpentier — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 19:33:57 -0000

Mouse over the picture or read the article, they're listed both way.

Re: Things Congress passed this week that had nothing to do with jobs

Megan Carpentier — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 17:19:02 -0000

To be fair, it's actually a brand-new option that came courtesy of an upgrade concurrent with the redesign (though one I've used in other systems before). But thanks for the feedback! I'll mention it to our reporters and editors.

Re: Things Congress passed this week that had nothing to do with jobs

Megan Carpentier — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 16:16:40 -0000

Two things: we have actually regularly posted on MF Global, including Corzine's resignation today.

Second: you're welcome on the opening them in separate tabs, it's a personal pet peeve of mine when things don't.

Re: Things Congress passed this week that had nothing to do with jobs

Megan Carpentier — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 15:32:38 -0000

Yeah, it's a good lesson in "just because the Republicans managed to shoehorn the word 'jobs' in the bill title doesn't mean it actually creates jobs," which is why I put an explanation after. Deregulating securities -- like, say, credit default swaps which were a major driver of the financial crisis that caused the spike in unemployment -- is not a big job creator, to say the least.

Re: Breitbart: Conservatives ‘outnumber’ liberals, ‘and we have the guns’

Megan Carpentier — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 14:52:01 -0000

A warning from the Executive Editor: Anyone advocating violence against others will have their comments deleted and their posting privileges revoked. Anyone who acts inappropriately to the moderators enforcing our comment guidelines will receive the same treatment.

Apologies to those commenters who know this without having to be told. We appreciate your wisdom.

Re: On Interracial Dating – The White Panel (3 of 3)

Megan Carpentier — Fri, 26 Aug 2011 19:30:34 -0000

I apologize if it appears I was responding defensively. I was attempting to give it the context that it lacked in the first place -- I realize now that it appears that I was more bothered by that than I was or by what was said to him, but it wasn't in keeping with what I was trying to convey. I did find it difficult to walk the line between relating his experience in that situation, which I thought was the more likely hurtful one, without being a position to ask him about it years later (though it didn't end on bad terms, we didn't end up staying in touch after), which is why I led with my experience. It unfortunately wasn't something we were in a position emotionally to discuss in-depth at the time (on the second date) outside of each of us apologizing profusely to the other for having put them in that situation and trying to figure out how to make the other person feel less unhappy about having experienced it.

I am not used to prefacing in my personal writing, but I am not sure how to accomplish the acknowledgement that I know this isn't comparable to the lived experiences of WOC without having done so, so if you have suggestions in that regard, I would appreciate hearing them. (I will try to check back this weekend, weather permitting.)

Re: On Interracial Dating – The White Panel (2 of 3)

Megan Carpentier — Fri, 26 Aug 2011 17:31:16 -0000

While I obviously don't have access to everyone I've ever dated to ask, as a white woman I've been mostly in the aforementioned more-common-pairings that people are "used" to seeing, with the exception of the times I've dated Asian or (maybe) South Asian men, so that might be part of the perceived blase-ness. And, as I've said (which, people who know me would acknowledge), I'm a very confrontational person, so people who know me don't often feel comfortable saying anything that would piss me off or result in an argument (which is probably also partly a function of my race). But I think the environment is really important: as I've mentioned, other than my HS relationship, all of the relationships of which I've spoken have been in Boston, DC or NYC which makes a difference.

I have spoken to at least a couple of the guys in question w/r/t participating in the panel, and two of them (both Latino) said that it was not a huge factor while dating me outside of familial pressures (but one said those were because I wasn't a practicing Catholic more than anything else). One of those men said that he felt far more disapproval from strangers dating a woman of African descent than when he's dated white or Asian women.

Another factor might also be that few of my relationships have been truly long-term, and many were when I was younger (and thus serious long-term considerations were rarely on the table). I can certainly see the potential to have more issues come up in the process of building something more durable than just enjoying someone's company.

Re: On Interracial Dating – The White Panel (2 of 3)

Megan Carpentier — Fri, 26 Aug 2011 16:46:09 -0000

I think you're undoubtedly right that I don't pick up on people's reactions to me interracially dating unless it's obvious (but I generally try to avoid picking up strangers' reactions to me in public for my own mental health and sense of self worth).

I would also suggest that if you had white friends that got all up on a white dude dating a woman of color... I would myself tag those women as racist and eliminate those friendships, because that's just f'ed up (as is asking you for hair tips for kids they don't even have? WTF). The fact that such women are then asking you to being a spokeswoman and sign off on their relationships makes me wonder if you are perhaps the only black woman they know, if that makes any sense? Because it doesn't seem like they are necessarily asking you as an individual but you as a synecdoche for what they see you representing, which is erasing you as a person, and you have every right to be upset about that.