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Re: Texas Teacher Claims 20 Fourth Graders Out Of 32 Students Identify As LGBTQ

mayfieldga — Wed, 30 Mar 2022 01:59:04 -0000

At that age, I feel we are not talking about gay but gender difference. There is something socially going on today in regard to treatment of little boys and little girls. While we continue to provide much kind, caring, verbal interaction, support, and protection from infancy for girls, - at the same time the little boys are still receiving much more aggressive, harsh treatment from parents, teachers, others from infancy to make them tough. Sadly in the information age, those many aggressive, harsh treatments stay in their minds, creating the many "maintained layers of anger, fear, anxiety, preparation for defense" which takes up much mental energy within the conscious and subconscious. This is the price for being tough. It creates much higher layers of mental work, so those little boys will have to work much harder for the same mental reward as girls. In addition, through the social/emotional distance created from that treatment and the much less if any positive verbal interaction/support for fear of coddling creates perhaps less than half of the social vocabulary of girls (not developmental-socially created). Also the higher muscle tension created from the higher maintained layers create much higher muscle tension in the wrists and fingers hurting handwriting and motivation to write. The higher average layers and much lower social vocabulary also hurt reading, writing and motivation for those areas. Also while little girls are being love and honor simply for being girls, boys are given love/honor only on some condition of achievement. Boys not achieving are given more ridicule and discipline by parents, teachers, others. The little boys are seeing from much modeling the growing father shortage due to men not being able to support their families in the information age. They have grown up seeing and feeling the tremendous differential treatment of kind, caring, protective, supportive treatment given girls, while they are left unprotected, uncared for, and continuously given more aggressive/hurtful treatment. They are also seeing more and more women in power with men seen in lesser positions and given much less respect by society. The little boys are seeing the handwriting on the wall and are trying to find a more protective base for which they feel they will have more protection, love, support: all the good things which are helping girls and women to succeed today, those boys and men driven to be tough are failing in school and society.

Re: twitchy.com – Who Said What

mayfieldga — Mon, 31 Jan 2022 15:16:18 -0000

We need to understand the information age and the false belief boys should be strong are completely incompatible. First, boys/men are not naturally aggressive; don't just love competition; and do not just love force, power and status. Boys and men can be just as stable, intelligent, and competent in education and communication as women. The problem is we are not understanding the complex definition of average stress: as many maintained layers of mental work from both our conscious and subconscious areas which take up real mental energy on a continual basis. The belief boys should be strong allows much more aggressive treatment: anger, fears, anxieties, preparation for defense, and whatever other catharsis parents, peers, teachers, others wish to give them beginning as early as one year of age. Boys/men are also modeled much improper valuing of force, power, status, image, etc. which also takes up much needless mental energy. Try to see an upright rectangle representing our full mental energy. Then begin at the bottom, drawing in narrowly spaced, horizontal lines to represent our many (innumerable) layers of many past and present experiences, fears, anxieties, angers: anything our minds have recorded as unresolved mental conflicts along with those improper values which are also continually taking up real mental energy within our conscious and subconscious minds. The space we have left represents our leftover mental energy for thinking, learning, motivation (mental reward received for mental work expended) and our length of reflection time or time to think in more complex and long-term ways. As girls/women we are given much more kind, caring, verbal interaction from infancy and so enjoy much lower layers of average stress seen from this more complex definition. The second problem: The social emotional distance created from this more aggressive treatment and the fear of coddling boys creates much less kind, caring, verbal interaction, so boys, later men are growing up with perhaps half the social vocabulary, communication, and knowledge of sentence structure as girls and women. This will leave them with more obstacles and less motivation for both reading and writing, for they are having to learn much more new mental work for reading and writing. They will have a more difficult time understanding adults when they are using more full sentence structures. The higher average layers also create much higher muscle tension for boys, creating a tighter grip and more pressure on their pencils/pens, creating poor handwriting and much less motivation to write. Both problems: communication and writing are socially created, not developmental. In addition, boys/men are given love/honor only on condition of achievement, status, image. Since I see love and honor as an essential need, I see boys who are seeking competition very much, are really seeking out love and honor they may be at present, at some deficit for, "not just natural". As girls and women, we are given love and honor simply for being girls, so we are not as pressed to earn small bits of achievement through competition. Boys and men not achieving sufficiently in school will then receive more harsh treatment and even ridicule/discipline rather than support, both from the false genetics models, "simply succeed by ability and effort" and the fear of coddling boys. This then leads many boys to give up early, missing out on many years of would be accumulated academic skills and seeking out minute amounts of love and honor through sports, video games, etc. There are the very few boys, later men who are given sufficient care and support. Here, those few boys/men will achieve in school and receive love/honor from those areas, but those few boys and men must keep achieving to keep receiving love and honor from others. This then pushes that very small group to the top of the curve while many other boys and men are failing. Sadly the many boys who become stagnant are able to coast along only until high school and college where their many academic deficits began to show up with failure. As girls and women even from lower socioeconomic brackets we are able to, through much better care, perform well in school and college. We enjoy much lower average stress; a much higher social vocabulary/communication skills; and much much more support from infancy through adulthood simply for being girls/women. As for the stem fields, since we are given love/honor simply for being girls/women, we can find wonderful areas of fulfillment without having to keep seeking out as much higher achievement. We must begin providing the same kind, caring, verbal interaction and support as girls and women are receiving or there will never be equality, but more failure for boys and men. Today we are seeing a huge increase in far right groups as many boys and men feel compelled to seek out such groups for joint feelings of esteem, respect, support, love and honor from those groups. There is also the great harm of joint catharsis for their hopelessness, anger, and hate for those other groups of persons who appear to be doing much better. The false genetics models do not help, for they are creating more hate from the false feelings of inferiority such genetics models create in their minds.

Re: Why Boys Are Failing

mayfieldga — Mon, 13 Apr 2020 21:35:45 -0000

The belief boys should be strong allows aggressive treatment by parents teachers from infancy so they will be tough. There is much less mental/emotional support for fear of coddling. This creates high maintained layers average stress for boys new thought. These layers remain in mind taking away real mental energy leaving much less mental energy for academics; they have to work harder to receive the same mental reward. This treatment creates social/emotional distance from adults. The total treatment creates higher average stress hurting learning/motivation more activity not genetic high muscle tension hurting handwriting/motivation lower social vocabulary/com skills from less communication and social/emotional distance from fear. It creates lags in communication girls given daily. The total treatment hurts reading/motivation which requires high social vocabulary/knowledge of syntax and low average stress something boys through harsh treatment less support are weak in. The effect of false genetic models creates more failure and hopelessness. To make it tougher boys are given love honor self-worth only on condition of achievement. This was designed to keep Male esteem low and willing to give their lives in war for love honor from society. Males not achieving are given ridicule discipline to make them try harder. Support is not given for fear of coddling and false belief in genetics. Many boys failing turn their attention to sports video games for ounces of love honor not received in school. The belief boys should be strong and false belief in genetics create denial of the harsh treatment which is creating the low academics low esteem and other problems for boys. This is not about more openness from boys it is about society allowing aggressive treatment from infancy so boys feel much wariness toward parents teachers who freely use aggressive treatment for any sign of weakness. This is condoned by society. This problem is affecting all male children but the lower the socioeconomic bracket and time in lower areas much more amplified.
We as girls/women are given, from infancy, much support care by parents teachers. Since girls are given by different treatment, much mental social/emotional support verbal interaction and care this creates the opposite outcome for girls. We receive love honor simply for being girls. This creates all the good things: lower average stress for ease of learning: much accumulated social vocabulary/communication skills and much freedom of expression from much protection and so much more learned social skills from this treatment. This creates lower muscle tension for ease in writing motivation, and we enjoy much positive communication from parents teachers and support for weaknesses. This is creating a bonanza in the information age for many girls and women today. Now with girls women taking over many areas of society we are receiving more lavishing of love/honor while boys/men are now failing more and given more ridicule abuse by society.

Re: How to Raise a Boy

mayfieldga — Mon, 27 Jan 2020 17:31:03 -0000

I am afraid it is not so much about boys not showing their feelings as it is a very continuously allowed more aggressive treatment from infancy to make them tough by parents, teachers, others. Any show of emotional feelings related to hurt or needs will be seen as a weakness and so given more aggressive treatment by parents,teachers, peers, others. So it is not about some rationally perceived approach to not showing emotion, but through the generations, the old belief, boys/men should be strong to protect and even give their lives for their family and country. With the exception of wonderful middle class and a few working class families who provide much more care, the old standard of more and increased aggressive treatment is allowed upon boys of all ages.
We need to understand just how our very real, differential treatment of boys is creating the growing international male crisis, which is driving all but the very few, most supported boys/men into failure and despair. I hope we can use these very harsh variables as tools to begin helping all students and adults continually change and improve their lives by redefining our average stress as many maintained layers of mental work, not just situational or new mental, which can be slowly understood, resolved and lower over time. The biggest variable though is the archaic aggressive treatment used to make boys tough, which is killing them in many ways today.
The belief boys should be strong allows aggressive treatment from infancy to create anger and fear so they will be tough. There is less kind verbal interaction and less mental/emotional support for fear of coddling. This treatment creates high layers of average stress for boys. These layers remain in the mind taking away real mental energy from academics so they will have to work harder to receive the same mental reward. This harsh treatment creates emotional distance/distrust of others. It creates lags in communication girls are given daily. The high average stress creates activity for stress relief not genetics. The high average stress creates higher muscle tension which hurts handwriting more pressure tighter grip hurting motivation. The total effect with our false genetic models in place including less care creates more failure and feelings of hopelessness. To make it tougher for boys is granting love honor feelings of self-worth only on condition of achievement. This was designed to keep Male esteem low and be willing to give their lives in war for tidbits of love honor from society. Males not achieving are given ridicule and discipline to make them try harder. Support is not given for fear of coddling. Many boys falling behind in school turn their attention to sports and video games for small measures of love honor not received in school. The belief boys should be strong and false belief in genetics create denial of the harsh treatment which is creating the low academics low esteem and other problems boys are facing. This is not about more feelings or openness from boys; it is about society allowing aggressive treatment from infancy through adulthood so boys feel much wariness toward parents teachers others who freely use aggressive treatment for any sign of weakness. This is condoned by society. This problem is affecting all male children and adults but the lower the socioeconomic bracket and more time in lower areas the more amplified the treatment given male children by parents teachers peers.
As girls we are given much more mental emotional social physical support and care by parents teachers and peers. We enjoy a kind of reverse catharsis of much continuous care while the boys receive the opposite more hurtful treatment to make them strong. This is now killing off boys in the information age while providing girls with all of the good things. As girls we are treated much better and so enjoy more hope and support from society. Since we as girls are given by differential treatment much more continual positive – mental social/emotional support verbal interaction and care from an early age onward this creates the opposite outcome for girls when compared with boys. We receive love and honor simply for being girls. This creates all of the good things. We have lower average stress for ease of learning. We enjoy much more freedom of expression from much protection by society that makes us look more unstable at times but we can also use that same freedom of expression to give verbal silent abuse and hollow kindness/patronization to our Male peers with impunity knowing we are protected. We enjoy much lower muscle tension for ease in handwriting and motivation to write. We enjoy much more positive trust/communication from parents teachers peers and support for perceived weaknesses. We are reaping a bonanza in the information age. Now with girls and women taking over many areas of society we enjoy even more lavishing of love and honor from society while boys and men are now failing more so and are now given more ridicule and abuse by society. Mind you this is now coming from many girls and women using our still protected freedoms of expression and more so with now false feelings of superiority.

Re: Saving Black and Latino Boys

mayfieldga — Tue, 26 Nov 2019 01:07:45 -0000

The black and Hispanic male crisis is created because the lower the socioeconomic bracket, more time in that bracket, and the more ingrained the belief boys should be strong then allows much more catharsis of the anger, fear, and tension to be given those boys from infancy both to make them tough in their more physical world and simply because society allows it. We must realize those boys are not the only ones falling behind. Even nice, middle class boys (even Caucasian) from two parent households, are falling behind their female peers collectively due to the much of the same aggressive, less supportive treatment although with much more stability, knowledge, and skills provided which kind of lessen the effect.
In truth, all boys are falling behind due to much differential treatment from infancy. We need to understand just how our very real, differential treatment of boys is creating the growing international male crisis, which is driving all but the very few, most supported boys/men into failure and despair. I hope we can use these very harsh variables as tools to begin helping all students and adults continually change and improve their lives by redefining our average stress as many maintained layers of mental work, not just situational or new mental, which can be slowly understood, resolved and lower over time. The biggest variable though is the archaic aggressive treatment used to make boys tough, which is killing them in many ways today.
The belief boys should be strong allows aggressive treatment from infancy to create anger and fear so they will be tough. There is less kind verbal interaction and less mental/emotional support for fear of coddling. This treatment creates high layers of average stress for boys. These layers remain in the mind taking away real mental energy from academics so they will have to work harder to receive the same mental reward. This harsh treatment creates emotional distance/distrust of others. It creates lags in communication girls are given daily. The high average stress creates activity for stress relief not genetics. The high average stress creates higher muscle tension which hurts handwriting more pressure tighter grip hurting motivation. The total effect with our false genetic models in place including less care creates more failure and feelings of hopelessness. To make it tougher for boys is granting love honor feelings of self-worth only on condition of achievement. This was designed to keep Male esteem low and be willing to give their lives in war for tidbits of love honor from society. Males not achieving are given ridicule and discipline to make them try harder. Support is not given for fear of coddling. Many boys falling behind in school turn their attention to sports and video games for small measures of love honor not received in school. The belief boys should be strong and false belief in genetics create denial of the harsh treatment which is creating the low academics low esteem and other problems boys are facing. This is not about more feelings or openness from boys; it is about society allowing aggressive treatment from infancy through adulthood so boys feel much wariness toward parents teachers others who freely use aggressive treatment for any sign of weakness. This is condoned by society. This problem is affecting all male children and adults but the lower the socioeconomic bracket and more time in lower areas the more amplified the treatment given male children by parents teachers peers.
As girls we are given much more mental emotional social physical support and care by parents teachers and peers. We enjoy a kind of reverse catharsis of much continuous care while the boys receive the opposite more hurtful treatment to make them strong. This is now killing off boys in the information age while providing girls with all of the good things. As girls we are treated much better and so enjoy more hope and support from society. Since we as girls are given by differential treatment much more continual positive – mental social/emotional support verbal interaction and care from an early age onward this creates the opposite outcome for girls when compared with boys. We receive love and honor simply for being girls. This creates all of the good things. We have lower average stress for ease of learning. We enjoy much more freedom of expression from much protection by society that makes us look more unstable at times but we can also use that same freedom of expression to give verbal silent abuse and hollow kindness/patronization to our Male peers with impunity knowing we are protected. We enjoy much lower muscle tension for ease in handwriting and motivation to write. We enjoy much more positive trust/communication from parents teachers peers and support for perceived weaknesses. We are reaping a bonanza in the information age. Now with girls and women taking over many areas of society we enjoy even more lavishing of love and honor from society while boys and men are now failing more so and are now given more ridicule and abuse by society. Mind you this is now coming from many girls and women using our still protected freedoms of expression and more so with now false feelings of superiority.
As for men earning more we need to understand boys are given love honor only on condition of achievement whereas girls are given love honor for being girls. The very few boys who are achieving highly come from more stable supported environments. They will achieve in school but they must keep “achieving highly” to keep receiving love honor from society. Those men must keep achieving and earning income over time to keep receiving love honor. As girls we are able to reach wonderful planes of innersecurity without the drug of success those very few boys must keep up in order to keep receiving love honor from society. This is creating the differences in wages whereas as a collective body women are taking over many areas of society while men are collectively failing in society and many unable compete in the information age due to “improper treatment” from infancy onward.

Re: Why Do Men Ignore Women?

mayfieldga — Sat, 23 Nov 2019 00:19:06 -0000

I feel there is a another growing reason, which become larger over time. I feel the belief boys/men should be strong and girls/women protected is creating much harm to boys/men in terms of correctly defined average stress as much higher, maintained layers of mental work from infancy from much more store mental conflicts from more aggressive treatment. They are, for the most part, not given kind caring verbal interaction for fear of coddling. The higher maintained layers along with much less social vocabulary/syntax from fear/emotional distance and fear of coddling is now causing many boys/men to fail in school and society. Also to make boys/men strong it is allowed to give more harsh treatment to boys/men who are failing both to make them try harder and simply because society allows it.
In reverse: for girls, we are given much kind, caring, verbal interaction, and support from infancy through adulthood, creating lower average stress and much more developed verbal skills from both much more interaction and much protected, freedom of expression. As a result, we are surging ahead academically and economically. Also, from this, there is an ever growing feeling of superiority among many older girls and women today. This along with our much freedom of expression is being used in school, employment, stores, offices, and anywhere else girls/boys, men/women are interacting to give more subtle and even more open patronization of boys and men.
These various negative interactions are increasing as girls/women feel more and more in a higher position and are modeled it is okay to do so. As more boys/men are falling behind they are being hurt more and more by those accumulating bites. In addition, the confrontations boys/men experience create more feeling in their words, whereas even the most sincere girls/women may have words, tones, and inflections which perhaps very sincere, are so isolated from confrontations, their words may sound to a boy or man as patronizing. As boys/men fall behind I feel this will create more preparation for additional harm from girls/women and more distance in time.
I fear these very changes in the information age is creating increasingly very real, accumulating harm for boys and men. I feel this will create a much more social emotional distance and yes, more violence as those stored feelings accumulate sufficiently.

Re: Support for Black Boys Boosts Graduation Rates

mayfieldga — Wed, 30 Oct 2019 03:17:25 -0000

We need to understand the reason all males are falling behind their female peers collectively, even white males collectively from their middle class female peers. We must see the common thread of differential treatment of boys and girls from infancy through adulthood by parents, teachers, others. Also we must see how the lower the socioeconomic bracket and time in that bracket creates more ingrained, more harsh treatment and less support both to make them tough and fear of coddling. This is very different from the more kind, caring, supportive treatment girls receive in all areas of society from infancy.
We need to understand just how our very real, differential treatment of boys is creating the growing international male crisis, which is driving all but the very few, most supported boys/men into failure and despair. I hope we can use these very harsh variables as tools to begin helping all students and adults continually change and improve their lives by redefining our average stress as many maintained layers of mental work, not just situational or new mental, which can be slowly understood, resolved and lower over time. The biggest variable though is the archaic aggressive treatment used to make boys tough, which is killing them in many ways today.
The belief boys should be strong allows aggressive treatment from infancy to create anger and fear so they will be tough. There is less kind verbal interaction and less mental/emotional support for fear of coddling. This treatment creates high layers of average stress for boys. These layers remain in the mind taking away real mental energy from academics so they will have to work harder to receive the same mental reward. This harsh treatment creates emotional distance/distrust of others. It creates lags in communication girls are given daily. The high average stress creates activity for stress relief not genetics. The high average stress creates higher muscle tension which hurts handwriting more pressure tighter grip hurting motivation. The total effect with our false genetic models in place including less care creates more failure and feelings of hopelessness. To make it tougher for boys is granting love honor feelings of self-worth only on condition of achievement. This was designed to keep Male esteem low and be willing to give their lives in war for tidbits of love honor from society. Males not achieving are given ridicule and discipline to make them try harder. Support is not given for fear of coddling. Many boys falling behind in school turn their attention to sports and video games for small measures of love honor not received in school. The belief boys should be strong and false belief in genetics create denial of the harsh treatment which is creating the low academics low esteem and other problems boys are facing. This is not about more feelings or openness from boys; it is about society allowing aggressive treatment from infancy through adulthood so boys feel much wariness toward parents teachers others who freely use aggressive treatment for any sign of weakness. This is condoned by society. This problem is affecting all male children and adults but the lower the socioeconomic bracket and more time in lower areas the more amplified the treatment given male children by parents teachers peers.
As girls we are given much more mental emotional social physical support and care by parents teachers and peers. We enjoy a kind of reverse catharsis of much continuous care while the boys receive the opposite more hurtful treatment to make them strong. This is now killing off boys in the information age while providing girls with all of the good things. As girls we are treated much better and so enjoy more hope and support from society. Since we as girls are given by differential treatment much more continual positive – mental social/emotional support verbal interaction and care from an early age onward this creates the opposite outcome for girls when compared with boys. We receive love and honor simply for being girls. This creates all of the good things. We have lower average stress for ease of learning. We enjoy much more freedom of expression from much protection by society that makes us look more unstable at times but we can also use that same freedom of expression to give verbal silent abuse and hollow kindness/patronization to our Male peers with impunity knowing we are protected. We enjoy much lower muscle tension for ease in handwriting and motivation to write. We enjoy much more positive trust/communication from parents teachers peers and support for perceived weaknesses. We are reaping a bonanza in the information age. Now with girls and women taking over many areas of society we enjoy even more lavishing of love and honor from society while boys and men are now failing more so and are now given more ridicule and abuse by society. Mind you this is now coming from many girls and women using our still protected freedoms of expression and more so with now false feelings of superiority.
As for men earning more we need to understand boys are given love honor only on condition of achievement whereas girls are given love honor for being girls. The very few boys who are achieving highly come from more stable supported environments. They will achieve in school but they must keep “achieving highly” to keep receiving love honor from society. Those men must keep achieving and earning income over time to keep receiving love honor. As girls we are able to reach wonderful planes of innersecurity without the drug of success those very few boys must keep up in order to keep receiving love honor from society. This is creating the differences in wages whereas as a collective body women are taking over many areas of society while men are collectively failing in society and many unable compete in the information age due to “improper treatment” from infancy onward.
This problem affects all women. The lack of men able to earn an income makes marriage a poor prospect when the average woman may earn more. Our schools; employment; many offices public and private are now run by women who will use formalistic and even patronizing tones toward men. This is due to our protected freedoms of expression; lack of confrontations; less real feeling; and now feelings of superiority we are exposed to in school; other areas; and even the media. Yes indulgence creates fine wonderful skills in the information age while the harshness and lack of support create much failure and hopelessness. I fear unless we begin to realize we are not God’s chosen gender but simply a very protected gender by the very boys and men we are continually putting down. We will eventually lose our relationships; love honor from those men; and even face more hatred from those men over time.

Re: Black Boys in Crisis: Why Aren't They Reading? - Education Futures: Emerging Trends and Technologies in K-12 - Education Week

mayfieldga — Sun, 09 Jun 2019 00:47:15 -0000

They simply have to open their eyes to six things:
1. Our genetics models are completely incorrect for ability. We must learn to see how our individual environments, not genetics greatly affect thinking, learning, and motivation to learn.
2. Unlike our present, very bad, definition of average stress as only some present mental work or situations our average stress is made up of many maintained layers of mental work from many past, present, future - experiences, fears, anxieties, needs along with many (some very faulty) weights and values inculcated from a young age which may act as magnets for other accumulating and maintained layers of mental work which take up real mental energy, leaving less mental energy to think, learn, and have motivation to learn. Any new mental or situational problems will go on top, leaving even less mental energy for that newer mental work.
3. As our pace and intensity in approaching a new mental work exceeds our immediate knowledge and experience or mental frames, this exacerbates those layers making it harder to learn. When we continually admonish boys to simply work harder with already higher layers this only hurts more so their thinking, learning, reflection time, and motivation to learn or mental reward received for mental work expended. We need to teach the valuable skill of slowing down for newer mental work.
4. The belief boys should be strong allows much more aggressive treatment from infancy under the guise of boys should be tough by parents, teachers, peers, others designed to create more anger, fear, anxiety, and preparation for defense. This greatly raises boys' average stress to three or four times the amount of layers we as girls have due we receiving much more care, support, and protection from parents, teachers, others. This differential treatment increases greatly as we go down the socioeconomic ladder of which many Black, Hispanic, and poor male students are a part of. At the same time, girls in those positions still receive much more continual kind, caring verbal interaction, support.
5. Boys are also not given kind, caring, verbal interaction for fear of coddling. The combination of much less kind, open verbal interaction and much fear and social emotional distance from the more aggressive treatment creates probably 25 percent of the social vocabulary; knowledge of syntax; and probably leaves them very short changed in a host of skills we as girls are given daily. We need to wise up this has nothing to do with genetics and effort, but very harsh treatment which a host of problems for boys: activity for stress relief; higher muscle tension for poor handwriting/motivation; low vocabulary/knowledge/high average stress greatly hurting reading/motivation. We need to grow up and be professional, seeing how much more complex the problem is.
6. We must begin not teaching the harmful false genetics model, but do teach many and growing variable to continually improve our lives. We must begin providing the same kind, caring, verbal interaction to boys as we already are for girls. We must also make it known to all persons this much better treatment needs to come from all persons: parents, teachers, peers, others. OH, our schools by teaching the false genetics models are teaching hopelessness to our students leading to many dropouts, drug/alcohol abuse, suicide, and now much more violence with suicidal intent. My learning theory has many applications. Unlike the present false genetics models, my learning theory is valid and can be researched.

Re: Identity Politics Versus Basic Logic: Should Colleges Offer Affirmative Action for the Female Majority?

mayfieldga — Sat, 01 Jun 2019 15:02:06 -0000

I am afraid the problem is much more complex than just opportunities. It is a pervasive belief boys should be strong and women protected. This problem begins in infancy and goes through adulthood. What you are seeing is merely applications of this in college despite the growing male crisis. It seems the mythical voices of women oppressed and men pampered (only the top 05% or less has been extended through much freedom of expression in the media to mythically include all men. The truth is quite the opposite.
The belief boys should be strong allows aggressive treatment by parents teachers from infancy so they will be tough. There is much less mental/emotional support for fear of coddling. This creates high maintained layers average stress for boys new thought. These layers remain in mind taking away real mental energy leaving much less mental energy for academics; they have to work harder to receive the same mental reward. This treatment creates social/emotional distance from adults. The total treatment creates higher average stress hurting learning/motivation more activity not genetic high muscle tension hurting handwriting/motivation lower social vocabulary/com skills from less communication and social/emotional distance from fear. It creates lags in communication girls given daily. The total treatment hurts reading/motivation which requires high social vocabulary/knowledge of syntax and low average stress something boys through harsh treatment less support are weak in. The effect of false genetic models creates more failure and hopelessness. To make it tougher boys are given love honor self-worth only on condition of achievement. This was designed to keep Male esteem low and willing to give their lives in war for love honor from society. Males not achieving are given ridicule discipline to make them try harder. Support is not given for fear of coddling and false belief in genetics. Many boys failing turn their attention to sports video games for ounces of love honor not received in school. The belief boys should be strong and false belief in genetics create denial of the harsh treatment which is creating the low academics low esteem and other problems for boys. This is not about more openness from boys it is about society allowing aggressive treatment from infancy so boys feel much wariness toward parents teachers who freely use aggressive treatment for any sign of weakness. This is condoned by society. This problem is affecting all male children but the lower the socioeconomic bracket and time in lower areas much more amplified.
As girls we are given much support care by parents teachers. Since we as girls are given by different treatment much mental social/emotional support verbal interaction and care this creates the opposite outcome for girls. We receive love honor simply for being girls. This creates all the good things. We have lower average stress for ease of learning. We enjoy much freedom of expression from much protection. We enjoy lower muscle tension for ease in writing motivation. We enjoy much positive communication from parents teachers and support for weaknesses. We are reaping a bonanza in the information age. Now with girls women taking over many areas of society we enjoy more lavishing of love honor while boys/men are now failing more and given more ridicule abuse by society. Mind you this is now coming from girls and women using our protected freedoms of expression more so with false feelings of superiority.

Re: Boys' and girls' brains: Similar to start, changed by environment

mayfieldga — Tue, 23 Apr 2019 19:23:08 -0000

Yes, I hope we can use also the more correct definition of average stress as many maintained layers of mental work which take up real mental energy (perceive and upright rectangle of mental energy) leaving less mental energy for learning. Also consider the more aggressive treatment to make boys tough along with much less kind, caring, verbal interaction for fear of coddling. Consider activity for boys as stress relief; higher muscle tension affecting handwriting/motivation; high average stress/much lower social vocabulary/communication skills greatly hurting reading for boys. Much on this from learning theory will send. As girls, we are given much better treatment and care from infancy.

Re: ‘Male and Female He Created Them’: Men, Women, and God

mayfieldga — Sat, 06 Apr 2019 08:56:35 -0000

Okay, there are different biological differences in persons, male and female. We also need to understand that many characteristics we develop "may not be the result of biology" but from strong social reasons. One large area we have not looked at for many applications in behavior and from much differential treatment is when we redefine our average stress, "not as just some situational time work which goes on top" but many maintained layers of unresolved mental work our minds maintain from many past, present, future - experiences, fears, needs, unresolved conflicts, along with many weights and values (many with faulty basis) which may act as maintained magnets for other maintained layers of mental work. Try to see an upright rectangle showing our full mental energy. Then begin at the bottom, drawing in many (innumerable) horizontal lines representing our maintained or average layers of mental work. The leftover space shows our leftover mental energy for learning new mental work. Then length of this space also show our length of reflection time. The higher those layers the harder one must work to for mental reward or motivation to learn those skills. When we have a situational moment/time or new mental work, this new mental work goes on top. Also from situations, our pace may become exaggerated thus amplifying more our layers mind you still within a "limited upright rectangle of mental energy".
In a perfect world we would all be treated the same and so would have very similar layers of mental work, but today our world is presently grossly imperfect to show what happens when man rules himself. We are now seeing the results of the false belief boys/men should be strong which allows increased aggressive treatment from infancy to make boys tough. This was designed to create more anger, fear, anxiety, and preparation for defense all to make boys/men tough. They are also not given kind, caring verbal interaction for fear of coddling. The combined social/emotional distance and lack of kind verbal interaction creates a much lower social vocabulary/syntax and even much less learned skills for active communication with adults from both fear and lack of those skills. Also boys are only given love and honor on condition of some achievement. Boys/men not achieving are given more ridicule/abuse to make them try harder from the false belief in evolved abilities and characteristics that sadly even many religious leaders have been falsely led to believe are related to science namely the false belief by Galton - "succeed by ability and effort". This creates much higher layers, albeit for that 1% or less of those boys/men who come from more stable environments who manage to gain sufficient stability and skills to compete in school and society. As for those very few boys/men who are able to achieve at the end of the curve, they manage to have sufficient stability from support but are also driven to continually seek out love/honor through achievement in school and society, while the rest of the boys and men are just surviving or not surviving. This mistreatment is creating much higher layers for boys/men in the information age and along with much less information age communication skills are now failing and falling out of society with much more resentment, for now they are unable to both support themselves and now also receiving more abuse from everyone for not achieving.
As girls, (probably also a part of yes, satan's misleading of the world) is creating an opposite treatment in the information age of much more kind, caring, verbal interaction for girls and women today creating much lower average stress; lower muscle tension for much fine motor skills for many applications; more ease of learning (less active from lower average stress); much more mental energy for learning/motivation; and much higher social vocabulary/knowledge skills for the information age gained over time from this much more wonderful treatment we receive. This proper treatment is now allowing us to take over in the information age collectively and later even in higher fields as the middle class falls. As we are succeeding perhaps due to satan's desire to bring down many with him in the final days, many boys/men are now failing due to the opposite, much more harmful treatment they are receiving. There are many applications to this for all. I have much more on this.

Re: Warren Farrell’s 'The Boy Crisis': 'I Am Sorry For Being A Man'

mayfieldga — Tue, 02 Apr 2019 20:27:03 -0000

I am afraid many many writers on the male crisis are looking so very shallow at the causes for the male crisis. I feel those many writers are given as premises, very unsound reasonings which are keeping all of those writers from understanding the true very harsh reality of the yes, international male crisis today. 1. We must remove the terrible myth of genetics in ability and characteristics which simply asserts the false ideas of evolved abilities; those abilities are more or less fixed; and the characteristics we are seeing in boys and men today are somehow genetically based. We must understand how our individual environments and gross differential treatment is responsible for differing abilities and also the many male characteristics we are seeing today. To see this, another grave fallacy must be corrected. We must recognize average stress as more complex than is presently professed. It is made up of many maintained layers of mental work, developed from a young age from many past, present, future - experiences, fears, angers, needs along with many weights and values which may act as magnets for other other layers of mental work. Those layers remain in our minds at very different levels which take up real mental energy, leaving less mental energy to think, learn, motivation to learn (mental reward for mental work expended); and yes, our mental health. The very differential, aggressive treatment given boys to make them tough by parents, teachers, others creates many maintained layers, leaving less mental energy for new mental work. Try to see an upright rectangle representing our full mental energy. Then begin at the bottom, drawing in narrowly spaced horizontal lines to represent those many maintained layers. The free space left represents our leftover mental energy for new mental work. This treatment creates more activity for stress relief (not genetic); it creates higher muscle tension which hurts writing/motivation (tightness of grip and more pressure on pencil/pen). Boys are also not given kind, caring, verbal interaction for fear of coddling. The combination of this and the aggressive treatment hurts reading/motivation and communication with adults; I feel perhaps 25 to 30 percent of the average female student. Also boys are given love and honor only on condition of some achievement (from myth of genetics and effort to make them try harder from Galton, succeed by ability and "effort"). All of this combines to create many failing boys. Boys not succeeding in school are then given more ridicule and even abuse to make them try harder by parents, teachers, others - from the myth of genetics and effort.
Sadly, indulgence pays in the information age, while less supportive, more aggressive treatment hurts development in the information age. As girls we are treated much better and so enjoy much more hope and care from society. Since we as girls are given by differential treatment, much more continual, positive – mental, social/emotional support, verbal interaction from an early age onward, this creates quite the opposite outcome for girls when compared with the boys. We enjoy much more care and support from society, from infancy through adulthood and receive love and honor simply for being girls. This creates all of the good things. We enjoy lower average stress for more ease of learning. We enjoy much more freedom of expression from much protection that makes us look more unstable at times. Of course we can also use that same tremendous freedom of expression to give verbal, silent abuse, and hollow kindness/patronization to our Male peers with impunity knowing we are protected. We enjoy much lower muscle tension for more ease and ability in handwriting and motivation to write. We enjoy much more positive, trust/communication from parents, teachers, peers, and more support for perceived weaknesses. We are reaping a bonanza in the information age. The lower the socioeconomic bracket the much more amplified the differential treatment from infancy and more differentiated over time through adulthood. Now with girls and women taking over many areas of society, we are enjoying even more lavishing of love and honor from society, while the boys and men are now failing more so and are now given even more ridicule and abuse by society. Mind you, this is also now coming from many girls and women using our still very protected freedoms of expression and more so with false feelings of superiority. What is worse, the modeling of an aggressive posture by parents, teachers, peers, and the media toward boys, later men and much more love and honor for girls have created a growing institutionalized acceptance of feelings of superiority and much vocalization of more patronization/condescending speech toward boys and men today. I witness this continually in the classroom, employment, stores, and offices where today, many women are now taking over and imitating the more harsh condescending speech we as girls/women have been so intensely modeled.
So we need to look more closely and see this situation for boys is very new where the information age and the gross, differential treatment to make them tough is tearing all society's apart and sending those many many failing boy and men off into more failure and more hate, right into the many far right groups who are all too willing to grant them love, honor, and a catharsis for their growing resentment and growing hated for society. Learning theory to all

Re: No recess for boys at public school in Spain so they ‘know how women feel’

mayfieldga — Wed, 13 Mar 2019 00:22:13 -0000

We have created a hatred for all boys and men based on how the top say, 1% of men in power are treating all persons, men and women in the world. The problem with this teaching is that those many other boys and men are innocent and through their care and protection of us, is creating the very wonderful treatment allowing us as women to do much better in school all around the world, even in spain. Due to the much better treatment we receive from infancy and with much support from parents, teachers, and others, including the great care we receive we are able to learn better over time, while the very aggressive, less supportive treatment boys and men receive from infancy is causing them to fail much more so and now falling out of society due to the more harsh treatment they receive. Astonishingly, those many boys and men although facing so much harsh treatment and now falling behind girls and women are still providing us as girls and women with much respect, care, and support. Those very warped feminists are, through their blindness, now attempting to drive a wedge between us and those very wonderful boys and men "who are 'presently' providing us with much support". We must understand and know the support we receive is creating the low average stress for learning/motivation in school; the lower muscle tension for ease of fine motor skills; the combination of low average stress/high social vocabulary communication skills (far more than the harsh verbal and social emotional distance given boys today); and combination creating much more long-term complex reading and motivation to read from that wonderful treatment. We must call out those who would attempt to hurt those wonderful boys and men who are only doing good for us as girls and women.

Re: How to Deal with Bullies in Second Grade

mayfieldga — Tue, 26 Feb 2019 10:01:41 -0000

This is very difficult today, especially with female teachers who do not wish to get involved due to both afraid of disrupting the classroom; belief boys should be strong/don't require intervention; and fear of taking action and interaction with administration. Also many of our administrators today are more or less business persons who really have no real interest in student learning or "protection". I did find a method that helped me and yes, it "does require the teacher to be involved". As a teacher, I used a canter variation management tool. I would have the names on a board with four checks by each name. Then I could model all of the good, kind, caring, teaching, and one-on-one for all of my students. When a child was acting out or even bullying, I would make one or more checks by their name. If they received four checks, they would not receive a Hershey's Kiss or two for that hour or two. I would then erase the checks and start over. As for bullying, I was very keen to keep a "close eye on my students, especially the trouble makers or bullies. I would have my list ready on the playground, hallway, the classroom, and even reward with Hershey's kisses attendants in the lunchroom for keeping an eye on any of my students who acted harshly toward someone else or misbehaved in any way. If any student hurt another student with a harsh word or act, they would not only miss their Hershey's Kisses for that short interval but the victim would receive their Hershey's Kisses also, maybe even more. After erasing the checks, everyone would be even, and we would start over, so they would not feel hopeless for the rest of the day. Note, I would still be giving kind, caring one-on-one and other good things to the bully even afterwards: no harsh words or discipline to add to their feelings or need to bully. - Also, I made sure to let the class know I "modeled and cared about even those students who appeared weak in some way. Letting the students know someone vulnerable is respected and cared for also helps greatly in eliminating bullying and even class bullying.

Re: The Effect Of Gender On Sibling Rivalry

mayfieldga — Tue, 26 Feb 2019 09:45:27 -0000

I have a *question. Could the effects of the male crisis (knowing the more aggressive less supportive treatment creating this) and its effect on the gender gap in education, later employment, could be making different gender sibling rivalry more deep? - Also, if correct, the more institutionalized acceptance of less kind, even more abrasive treatment by society in general could be affecting or making more untenable, different gender relationships, including those of siblings?

Re: Essay about how white male students dominate discussions sets off debate at Dickinson and beyond

mayfieldga — Tue, 19 Feb 2019 20:13:26 -0000

We need to understand the tremendous sociological reasons for boys//or men in college attempting to talk and answer more often. The belief boys, later men should be strong allows increasingly more aggressive treatment from infancy to make them tough. They are also not given as much or very little, kind, caring, verbal interaction for coddling. When seeing average stress correctly as many maintained layers of mental work which take up real mental energy, we can then see how this much more aggressive treatment and much less support is creating many many more failing boys/men, while the much more kind, caring verbal interaction and good treatment given us as girls creates many more good things. Today, many more girls are going to college, while fewer boys are going to college. *There is also another, very large difference in treatment for boys, later men. Boys and men are given love and honor only on condition of some achievement. Boys/men not achieving are given more ridicule, discipline, and even more abuse if they are achieving in some way. This I feel is another essential need for feelings of esteem and feelings of self-worth (desire to live). We need to understand boys, later men must continually strive in different ways to earn and maintain those essential feelings of self-worth. Sadly many of those boys, give up early in school and turn to sports and video games to generate small amounts of love and honor from others. *As for those boys who are so energetic to answer the questions from the teacher or others, this is all but a part of their more continual feelings or need to generate love and honor from others, in this case, in academic areas. Sadly, later many boy, later men who may have come from that dwindling group of middle class boys who are given just enough support to go to college are still affected by the continual need to keep generating love and honor from others. So they too are more quick to answer, talk, and even argue in the classroom to continually earn in their minds small amounts of love and honor there.
As for us as girls and women, we are not only given much more care, protection, and support, we are also given love and honor simply for being girls. The much more kind, caring protection we receive along with freely given love and honor from parents, teachers, peers, others creates a much more stable, mental and emotional platform or stability to learn, reflect, and grow with much more ease in school without having to resort to some competition earn love and honor from others. This is the problem in college and in grade school. This also explains the reason why there are fewer women in the corporate, political, and stem field areas. Since we are given love and honor being girls and women, we can go into many and taking over many areas "we may find fulfilling in our lives" but perhaps not in those more competitive fields. Sadly, many boys are now failing due to more abusive treatment, while we are succeeding due to more correct treatment. The only preventing girls/women from taking over in the U.S in those areas is the fact there are still sufficient numbers of foreign, male students who have come from more stable environments and are also striving to continually earn love and honor from others. However, as the middle class drops in those countries and the U.S., there will be fewer and fewer boys with sufficient support to go to college in the first place. More and more girls will simply choose to go into those more competitive fields and take over those areas just as we have already taken over all of the other information age areas in society.

Re: Has Feminized Schooling Contributed To The West’s Male Crisis?

mayfieldga — Mon, 21 Jan 2019 16:03:12 -0000

We must understand the very large differential treatment boys and girls receive from birth to adulthood. We must redefine our average stress as many maintained layers of mental work which take up real mental energy and how differential treatment is creating higher maintained layers for boys. Try to visualize an upright rectangle representing our full mental energy. Then begin at the bottom drawing in narrowly spaced horizontal lines to represent many maintained layers of mental work. The space left over shows our leftover mental energy for learning new work. The aggression given boys by parents, teachers, others to make them tough is designed to create more fear, anger, and continuous preparations for defense. This begins from one year onward. This accompanied by much less kind, caring, verbal interaction and much less support for fear of coddling. The combination of social/emotional distance from the aggressive treatment and much less "positive, adult interaction creates a much lower social vocabulary and much less acquired social skills. The higher average stress creates more activity for stress relief, not genetics. The higher average stress also creates higher muscle tension which hurts handwriting. The higher average stress also creates (and with boys continually admonished to try harder) very improper dynamics of pace and intensity when approaching newer mental work. This only exacerbates the higher average stress they brought with them. The combination of higher average stress and lower social vocabulary hurt reading/motivation and writing/motivation. Also boys are given love/honor only on condition of achievement. When failing at school they will receive only more discipline and more ridicule. This then causes many boys to give up early and seek love/honor from sports video games, etc.
As girls, we are given love/honor for being girls. We are given much kind, caring, verbal interaction and much support from infancy from parents, teachers, peers, others. We enjoy much lower average stress layers and much more ease for learning given both lower average stress, proper dynamics of pace, and a much higher skill set of social vocabulary and social and trusted communication with adults. We can then achieve using this wonderful support from almost any socioeconomic area, while boys are much harder hit as they come from lower socioeconomic areas. Even in middle class areas boys are falling behind collectively due to differential treatment.

Re: We are failing our boys, Part 1

mayfieldga — Thu, 20 Dec 2018 19:38:53 -0000

Could it be the much more aggressive treatment designed to make boys tough from infancy through adulthood accepted by society by parents, teachers, peers, others is creating the fear, anger, anxiety, and preparation for defense which is then creating the catharsis excitement from the more active, violent things around them. I feel we need to see more clearly how average stress is far more complex than realized, as many maintained layers of anger, fear, anxiety, preparation for defense of which society has for years allowed to make boys tough only now in the information age, it is killing off their academics and ability to compete today. We must remove our current, false, genetic models and see how the great differential treatment not just games and modeling is creating the many problems boys and men are experiencing. Learning theory with many applications on this.

Re: Why ‘f— men’ culture isn’t helping: A feminist perspective

mayfieldga — Thu, 22 Nov 2018 23:15:50 -0000

We must understand the very large social affect of differential treatment from infancy which is creating the very different achievements by men and women today.
The belief boys should be strong allows aggressive treatment by parents teachers peers others from infancy so they will be tough. There is much less mental/emotional/verbal interaction/support for fear of coddling. This creates high maintained layers of average stress for boys (new thought will send to all). These layers remain in the mind taking away real mental energy leaving much less mental energy for academics so they will have to work harder to receive the same mental reward. This treatment creates more social/emotional distance from others/adults. The total treatment creates higher average stress hurting learning/motivation more activity (not genetic) higher muscle tension hurting handwriting/motivation much lower social vocabulary/communication skills from both much less communication and social/emotional distance from fear. It creates lags in communication girls are given daily. The high stress creates activity for stress relief not genetics. This creates higher muscle tension which hurts handwriting motivation. The total treatment hurts reading/motivation which requires both a high social vocabulary/knowledge of syntax and low average stress something boys through harsh less support are increasingly weak in. This treatment creates more social/emotional from others/adults. It creates lags in communication girls are given daily. The high stress creates activity for stress relief not genetics. This creates higher muscle tension which hurts handwriting motivation. The effect with false genetic models creates more failure and hopelessness. To make it tougher boys are given love honor feelings of self-worth only on condition of achievement. This was designed to keep Male esteem low and be willing to give their lives in war for love honor from society. Males not achieving are given ridicule and discipline to make them try harder. Support is not given for fear of coddling and false belief in genetics. Many boys falling behind turn their attention to sports and video games for small measures of love honor not received in school. The belief boys should be strong and false belief in genetics create denial of the harsh treatment which is creating the low academics low esteem and other problems for boys. This is not about more openness from boys it is about society allowing aggressive treatment from infancy so boys feel much wariness toward parents teachers who freely use aggressive treatment for any sign of weakness. This is condoned by society. This problem is affecting all male children but the lower the socioeconomic bracket and time in lower areas the much more amplified the treatment given male children by parents/teachers.
There is a wrinkle to this. There are a "very few boys" given more stable correct support from some families which will enable those boys to succeed in school. This enables those boys to do well -and receive love and honor from others which they must continually do to continue to earn that love and honor. This then becomes a drug for those boys which drives them to continually achieve in different ways in school. However the vast majority of boys who do not receive that support will not do well in school and early on go into other areas to generate love and honor such as sports military other.
As girls we are given much support and care by parents teachers peers. As girls we are treated better and enjoy much support from society. Since we as girls are given by differential treatment much mental social/emotional support verbal interaction and care this creates the opposite outcome for girls. We receive love honor simply for being girls. This creates all of the good things. We have lower average stress for ease of learning. We enjoy much freedom of expression from much protection by society. We enjoy lower muscle tension for ease in writing motivation to write. We enjoy much positive trust/communication from parents teachers and support for perceived weaknesses. We are reaping a bonanza in the information age. Now with girls and women taking over many areas of society we enjoy more lavishing of love honor from society while boys and men are now failing more and are given more ridicule and abuse by society. Mind you this is now coming from girls and women using our still protected freedoms of expression and more with false feelings of superiority.
As for girls there is a wrinkle also. We are given love and honor simply for being girls. This allows us to choose less than top planes of success and still find wonderful planes of innersecurity. We are not as driven. However as the middle class continues to drop there will be fewer boys able to receive the bare adequate support to be successful academically. Also more girls will begin "choosing to go into those higher fields by choice. This will slowly allow women to begin taking over those higher fields just as they have already taken over the other fields. Much more from learning theory.

Re: Column | A circumcised heart

mayfieldga — Sun, 18 Nov 2018 10:43:42 -0000

I have a feeling this will only increase for girls, later women today and in the future. The belief boys/men should be strong allows increasing aggressive treatment to make them tough by parents, teachers, all others from infancy. There is also much less verbal interaction and much less mental/emotional support for fear of coddling. In the information age this is killing our boys, later men. It is creating higher average maintained layers of anger, fear, preparation for defense which fits on top of their average stress (accurate definition of average stress as maintained layers which take up real mental energy, leaving less mental energy for thinking, learning, motivation). It is creating a host of academic problems from the combination of this higher average stress and much lower social vocabulary/less syntax from much both fear induced social emotional distance and much less verbal interaction given. It is creating more activity for stress relief, not genetic; higher muscle tension which hurts handwriting; produces say, 50% of the communication we as girls have due to more harsh, less verbal interaction; and forces them to work much harder to receive the same mental reward. It is greatly damaging their reading/writing and motivation for academics. This is now creating a growing male crisis where many many boys are now failing in school and society. Worse for those boys/men, when they are doing poorly or seen as weak in some way, they are given more ridicule and abuse by society, including parents, teachers (usually female) and yes, also many girls and women. This has and is creating more accumulating micro-abrasions which also feeds into their already, high layers of average stress. Knowing that our upright rectangle of mental energy is not limitless and that higher average layers takes up much of that mental energy, this creates more anxiety, fear, and much less reflection time. Boys, later men are usually so filled with more aggressive treatment and fear from others they have learned early to avoid areas of contact where they may receive even more abrasions from others.
The problem is also from our end as girls and women today. We are given much more kind, caring, verbal interaction and much much support from infancy by parents, teachers, others from infancy through adulthood. This is creating relatively much lower average stress; lower muscle tension; much more ease for learning and motivation to learn; and yes, a much more wonderful, flowing social vocabulary and communication skills. As a collective body we are taking over academics and the workplace. The media has also taken note and so is using more elevated female actresses and more subordinated men. They have piped down somewhat on the more abusive rhetoric by girls and women in the media probably because the fall of boys and men have become more serious. However, in school; employment, offices, stores, etc. the feeling of female superiority has not let up. This is still allowing much more patronizing, even more demeaning words, tones, and inflections, many now run by women who can and will use our much protected freedoms of expression to give verbal, silent abuse, and hollow kindness - toward boys and men who frequent those areas. This modeled treatment along with our much more protected freedom of expressions allowed for girls and women then allows many more girls and women to act this way also toward many boys and men today. Given the many many accumulating verbal (even if only in tone and inflection) insults they receive each day by many girls and women along with now for them real feelings of inadequacy perhaps falsely feeling less intelligent, but only due to much more harsh treatment and less support, many boys and men are much more sensitive to this growing animosity toward them. This is creating much more fear of women: "the growing expectancy of more harsh treatment by girls and women today". All the while, the much more harsh, less supportive treatment is driving them further into failure.
We must begin to let other girls and women know what is "socially causing boys and men to fail" and to become more fearful of women. We must acknowledge how due to much better treatment we are surging ahead of many boys and men. We must begin providing the same good treatment for boys and men we as girls and women receive each day. I fear unless we change, those boys and men will begin to act out more aggressively.

Re: The Side Effects of the Decline of Men

mayfieldga — Mon, 23 Jul 2018 23:50:22 -0000

The growing male crisis as the result of much more aggressive treatment to make boys tough and also much less support for fear of coddling is creating many more failing boys and more failing men. This requires though a more complex understanding of average stress not just as some immediate situation but more importantly, many more layers of maintained angers, fears, experiences, preparation for defense, and a host of some very faulty weights and values which act as magnets for other accumulating layers of mental work. Remember each layer remove that much mental energy from learning, motivation, reflection time, and mental health. This along with much less kind, stable, verbal interaction creates higher muscle tension hurting handwriting fine motor skills; more activity for stress relief; much lower social vocabulary/communication; and more escapes when failing to generate love/honor which is only given boys/men only on condition of achievement - more abuse is given when appearing weak in some way.
As girls/women, the belief girls should be protected is creating many more successful women, even from lower socioeconomic brackets due to much greater care, support, verbal interaction from infancy by parents, teachers, others in society. Although we are not competing (as yet) equally in stem fields due to having much more fulfillment as doctors, lawyers, engineers, and other white collar positions, we are slowly taking over in all fields due to much differential treatment and care boys and men do not receive. As the middle class drops for boys, as is occurring, there will be far less support for boys in school and more aggressive treatment given. This will continue to create an increased drop in qualified boys/men in school and society, creating more failure and hopelessness, while the more support we as women receive, will allow us to slowly take over all white collars positions and even the stem fields as more women choose to enter those fields and fewer boys/men qualify over time. We must remove the current myth of genetics in ability and see truthfully how our individual environments and differential treatment are creating very different outcomes in the information age. Much more on this to all.

Re: 12 wonderful character actors who turn up in every TV Western

mayfieldga — Wed, 20 Jun 2018 12:29:24 -0000

I need help on this one. There was an old actor who is probably dead by now. I don't know his name. I think there was a Hershey's commercial years ago that featured the retired actor. I believe the only reason the advertisement didn't pan out was because the actor's movies and other television series had long since gone away. I don't know if even (you the reader of this) will remember the advertisement. Maybe find someone much older who may remember it.
It involved an old retired actor who played in movies and many many television shows as "the bad guy". I thought was wonderful (I think it was Hershey) that used him in an advertisement where he is in his living room, and his wife says something like, "have you been good today?" He says, "yes". Then she gives him a bowl of ice cream. Then the old actor who always played the bad guy said something like, "I was better than this". Then she pours on some Hershey's syrup. I think this was a Hershey's commercial. I know he has probably died by now, but at least I recognized the point of the commercial in honor of his yes, very long movie career. lynn oliver mayfieldga@gmail.com

Re: Paterson unveils plan to ‘turnaround’ failing all-boys school

mayfieldga — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 11:07:36 -0000

The problem is much bigger than the school curriculum and present teaching methods. Note, the present genetics models which assume students have and by gender, different ways of learning is based on shared characteristics are created by differential treatment from infancy to make boys tough. The more activity; the higher muscle tension affecting handwriting; the higher average stress created by the more constant, harsh treatment by parents, teachers, others. New, better thinking connected with the more harsh treatment, -stress is better defined as "many maintained layers of mental work" from many past, present, future experiences, fears, anxieties, preparation for defense along for boys the faulty weights and values of need for strength, power, preparation for defense to ward off further aggressive treatment. The much less kind, stable, verbal interaction along with the more aggressive treatment create much less freeness of expression and much lower free,social vocabulary/communication skills from the social emotional distance created and the lack of more open, supportive communication by parents, teachers, others. -To make it worse the false belief in toughness in interaction with male students, if even through only past experience, creates even more fear and less closeness for teachers. The higher average stress along with much less social vocabulary/communication skills hurt reading/motivation, many of which have already created lags in reading for years. The handwriting/motivation is also hurt by lower social vocabulary and higher muscle tension from the higher average stress which hurts writing/motivation and creates early fatigue. We must remove our current genetics models in ability and also learn how to provide boys from an early age the same kind, stable, verbal interactions/support we provide our girls from infancy.

Re: Tucker Carlson thinks men are failing because women are doing better than they were in the past

mayfieldga — Sat, 05 May 2018 12:41:13 -0000

The problem is not women doing better but that the information age is creating a large window for girls and women to compete using the much better support, better treatment, better care, and much more verbal knowledge/communication skills provided from infancy through adulthood. In the past, women could receive love and honor along with their more stable care to be a good wife and mother. Today, we can have that and/or have a career using the much better care we receive to take over many areas in society. The reason we have not already taken over the stem areas, corporate areas, and political areas is because we are finding much fulfillment in many other areas, just not in those more glamorous areas, yet. More on this at the end of next paragraph why boys are still ahead in those areas.
The belief boys should be strong allows increased, aggressive treatment from infancy by parents, teachers, all others to make them tough. This creates higher average "maintained layers of mental work" which take up real mental energy leaving less mental energy for thinking, learning, hurting motivation, and shortens reflection time. This is a new understanding that our average stress "is does not just occur from situational events", but also many more maintained layers of mental conflicts from many past, present, future - experiences, fears, needs, circumstances, preparation for defense; along with many weights and values, some very improperly given which act as magnets for other accumulating layers. When we see average stress as many maintained layers which say, take up space from the bottom up of an upright rectangle, the leftover space is what is left for new learning. Here we can see just how our individual environments and yes, very differential treatment for boys is creating higher maintained layers of mental conflicts: fears, anxieties, etc. Boys are also not given kind, stable, *verbal interaction and care from infancy through adulthood for fear of coddling. The combination of much aggressive treatment and much less interaction create more social/emotional distance/fear of adults and much less care in general. All of this creates more activity for stress relief (not natural); higher muscle tension which hurts writing/motivation and other fine motor skills; low social vocabulary/syntax and fear of adults which hurts communication with adults also hurting reading and writing motivation. Also boys are given love/honor only on condition of some achievement. When a boy is weak or failing he is given more ridicule and discipline to make him try harder. Support is not given for fear of coddling and due to the genetics models which do not recognize how differential treatment; less care; and better definition of average stress are greatly influencing boys failing in the information age. While most boys are failing or doing poorly, there are a very few boys from all over the world from more stable environments who are given sufficient support and care to perform well in school, but they are also given love and honor when doing so and must keep achieving to keep receiving love and honor from others. For those very few boys achieving in school, this becomes a drug for those boys who must keep achieving. This then makes the more glamorous areas of politics, corporate/money areas, and stem fields more attractive for those few boys. However, as the middle class continues to drop, there will be more failing boys from the present pool of stabilizing environments. More girls due to much better treatment in both higher and lower socioeconomic areas will continue to flourish and grow. Many will begin to slowly choose and finally take over the stem, corporate, and stem areas, just as we already have due to much better treatment, while boys are failing more so due to the very archaic, and improper treatment still given to make them tough. We must change the way we are treating boys, and we must use the more correct definition of average stress and tools to help permanently reduce it (to all from new learning theory). I fear society will begin to fall as boys and men begin to take back physically from the much psychological suffering they are experiencing due to losing now, their feelings of self-worth in the information age. Oh, I didn't mention, as maintained layers increase they also create both psychological suffering and very short reflection time, which will create escapes such as drug/alcohol abuse, suicide, and suicide with violence as some of those men begin to low feelings of self-worth or desire to live along with increased hatred for society.

Re: 75% of black California boys don't meet state reading standards

mayfieldga — Sun, 29 Apr 2018 13:00:25 -0000

The hard wiring approach does not work. The big difference here between black and white students, especially male students is the very differential treatment allowed upon boys in lower socioeconomic areas and time in those areas. The belief boys should be strong allows much more anger, fear, aggressive treatment toward boy, both to make them tougher and also an allowed catharsis for anxieties, not allowed upon girls. We need to see that even in nice, middle class environments, white boys are also falling behind their female peers collectively.
The problem goes far beyond school. It involves the way the mind deals with mental conflicts and the remaining mental energy left. It also deals with the amount of social vocabulary and knowledge of syntax gained from a young age onward. The belief boys should be strong creates much aggressive treatment from infancy which not only creates much higher "maintained layers of fear, anger, preparation for defense" or average stress, greatly hurting the motivation to read by leaving less mental energy for the abstract skill of reading, but the combined social/emotional distance created and much less social vocabulary given boys (usually very short commands, no kind, stable, verbal interaction) also leaves much less social vocabulary and knowledge of sentence structure so important for reading and enjoyment of reading. This problem is also affecting nice middle class white males to some degree but greatly increases as go down the socioeconomic ladder. Yes, our minds are very complex and are dealing with much more than just some immediate work. "All of us", you and I are dealing with many maintained layers of mental work which take up real mental energy leaving less mental energy to think and learn new, more complex mental work. So all of us can use this better definition of average stress to help others and ourselves. Complete learning theory on this with many applications will go to all. Yes, the male crisis is affecting "all male students to some degree". We need to understand this problem will continue to get worse if we do not change the way we are treating boys.