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Re: Motivational Quotes for a Successful Year

Sandy Weiner — Thu, 10 Jan 2019 15:30:42 -0000

Love these quotes! There are inspiring me to use a few on my new website, which is all about women showing up, standing up, and speaking up in the world. Thanks!

Re: How Forgiveness Can Transform Your Marriage

Sandy Weiner — Tue, 03 Jan 2017 07:48:21 -0000

In any relationship, it takes two to make it work. Rob was communicating with his ex behind Abby's back, and the secrecy triggered Abby's distrust. I understand why she'd feel betrayed. As Terry outlined so beautifully, how someone deals with that hurt and distrust is what makes or breaks a relationship.

I believe that blame is not healthy for either partner. In a good marriage, trust can be rebuilt. As Terry outlines, it takes courage to come forth and offer to repair a relationship. I believe that when you hold the relationship as sacred, you are willing to do whatever it takes to repair it.

In some cases, trust cannot be rebuilt, but in this case, I don't see why they couldn't have come up with a new agreement about not communicating in secrecy with exes. I would have welcomed back a partner who loved me enough to work on himself and the relationship.

Re: How to Recognize a Player So You Don’t Get Played

Sandy Weiner — Sat, 28 May 2016 22:48:43 -0000

Glad you didn't get sexually involved with this player. He showed many signs of being a man with poor character. Many people who are charming like him are revered at work. It's in their personal lives that the player shows up. Stay far away from men like this. They are nothing but trouble.

Re: 10 Signs You’re Dating a Sociopath

Sandy Weiner — Thu, 07 Jan 2016 10:42:11 -0000

Sasha,

Glad you enjoyed this post. One of my missions is to help people choose healthy romantic partners. It's so easy to fall for emotionally dangerous people, and it's helpful to recognize the signs of those with giant red flags.

I'll check out the article you suggested.

Best of luck to you.

Re: Dressing For Neal

Sandy Weiner — Wed, 16 Dec 2015 11:44:59 -0000

Beautifully written, Melani. You loved so deeply, and you live a vibrant, amazing, leopard-print-filled life now. You're an inspiration.

Re: How to Recognize a Player So You Don’t Get Played

Sandy Weiner — Sat, 31 Oct 2015 18:50:44 -0000

Ann,

You've learned so many important lessons from this experience. You're a good student of life, or as you say, the Cosmic School. I love that.

If you'd like more support, why don't you join my new Facebook group? It's a place of support for single women over 40. We'd love to hav you. https://www.facebook.com/gr...

Re: How to Recognize a Player So You Don’t Get Played

Sandy Weiner — Thu, 29 Oct 2015 20:20:47 -0000

I'm so sorry you went through this experience, Ann.

I know it's painful. These players are good at their game. That's why they're called players :)

Sex and strong chemistry make your brain fuzzy. So please don't beat yourself up. The good news is that you've learned from this experience. That means you'll do better next time, and you won't sleep with a man who doesn't get tested for STDs.

A good man sticks around after you tell him your dating/relationship needs. A player runs the other way. And that's good, because you don't want to be with someone like that ever again.

Thank you for sharing your story and helping other women avert the lures of a player.

Re: He is Coming on Too Strong!

Sandy Weiner — Thu, 29 Oct 2015 10:26:36 -0000

If that works for you, that's great. But you may be missing out on opportunities to have relationships with women who need a little more time to build trust and intimacy.

Re: Why Is it So Hard to Find Lasting Love Today?

Sandy Weiner — Thu, 15 Oct 2015 20:11:18 -0000

thanks for sharing your thoughts. While it may be difficult to find love today, it's not impossible. People are finding love every day. Women have changed, and so have men. We need to learn to understand each other and be compassionate towards one another. That's how we can find love today.

Re: How to Recognize a Narcissist (and stop dating him)

Sandy Weiner — Fri, 18 Sep 2015 10:04:32 -0000

Because he's a sick man. He's not emotionally healthy. For some reason, he gets pleasure from hurting others. You want to be with someone who has a good heart.

Re: How to Recognize a Narcissist (and stop dating him)

Sandy Weiner — Fri, 18 Sep 2015 08:37:41 -0000

It's not easy to break away from someone so charming. You are under his spell. When you take that bold step to leave and cut ties, you will gain the perspective that he's toxic. I wish you the best of luck!

Re: How to Recognize a Narcissist (and stop dating him)

Sandy Weiner — Fri, 18 Sep 2015 08:29:25 -0000

I good man will never put you down, shame you, try to overpower you. His words and actions don't match. I can't diagnose him, but I can tell you that this man is unkind and an emotional manipulator. My advice is to cut off all ties to him. This is not love. It's abuse. Check out this site for support: http://humanmagnetsyndrome....

If you don't walk away from him and heal yourself from this type of man, you will continue to be attracted to emotional manipulators. You deserve better.

Re: Codependency Recovery: How to Stop Loving the People Who Hurt You

Sandy Weiner — Tue, 15 Sep 2015 22:42:49 -0000

Jen, there's a big difference between healthy giving and the giving that leads to being a doormat. The type of giving you're describing from your past was unhealthy, giving of your soul without receiving in return. Or worse, receiving abuse in return. I'm glad you're working on yourself and are learning to receive and not give so freely. You are precious. A man needs to earn your treasure.

Re: 5 Warning Signs that Your “Nice Guy” Is Actually a Jerk

Sandy Weiner — Sun, 13 Sep 2015 17:51:36 -0000

So glad the article helped, Jen. All the best to you!

Re: Why Does He Still Have His Profile Up?

Sandy Weiner — Wed, 12 Aug 2015 07:50:41 -0000

Henrietta, I appreciate your comment. Allow me to clarify. I still stand by what I said, that when a man is ready for a committed relationship, he will be all in. And I stand by the fact that some men have a much slower pace than women. It's all about how YOU feel about it, what you can live with.

If you've spoken your mind, like I told Leanna, and you trust his emotional commitment to you, stay in the relationship. If you're anxious and feel that you are all in and he's got a foot out the door, follow your gut.

It's a very individual thing, and many women get impatient with a man who's on a slower timeline. They may risk losing a great guy. But then again, they may be hanging around with a guy who will never commit. It's hard to know. The one thing you have power over is clear communication about what you need, and being willing to walk away if you don't get what you need. The right man will want you back. The wrong man will be done.

Sounds like you did the difficult thing with your guy, and it was the right decision for you. Best of luck!

Re: Why Does He Still Have His Profile Up?

Sandy Weiner — Tue, 11 Aug 2015 21:39:16 -0000

Henrietta,

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Your radar --- or intuition --- in dating is very important. Follow your gut, but also, make sure to ask for what you want. Sometimes men are on a different timeline than women, and coercing him to take his profile down will only backfire. Some men do come around, and when they do, they're all in!

Re: 4 Traits to Look for in a Romantic Partner

Sandy Weiner — Mon, 10 Aug 2015 07:32:56 -0000

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, @patriotgirl. Yes, honesty builds trust. Absolutely. It's especially important to be honest about sharing feelings and needs with one another.

Re: Teaching Children of Divorce How to Make Healthier Choices in Relationships

Sandy Weiner — Tue, 04 Aug 2015 17:54:58 -0000

Ronald, you had a tough childhood. Your mother does sound pretty toxic, and you grew up without your father in your life. We can't choose our families, but we have the choice to empower ourselves and heal ourselves as adults, no matter how toxic our childhood home was. I wish you strength and blessings.

Re: She Couldn’t Express Hurt Feelings to Her Boyfriend

Sandy Weiner — Mon, 20 Jul 2015 20:54:39 -0000

Thanks for your comment. That's true; there are men who don't want to talk. There are men who are self-centered. In my course, I will talk about which red flags to look out for. But sometimes, a man who seems shut down and unreceptive will open up with the right words and the right tone of voice.

Re: Why Your Assumptions Are Keeping You Single

Sandy Weiner — Wed, 06 May 2015 07:29:44 -0000

Thank you for your thoughtful comment, Emelina. Yes, curiosity is so wonderful. It takes the judgment out of every encounter and replaces it with a beginner's mind, open to hearing what's alive for the other person, not what YOU think/assume. Like you said, it opens you up for deeper, more open (and authentic) communication.

Re: Help! My Daughter is Dating a Narcissist

Sandy Weiner — Sat, 18 Apr 2015 20:26:58 -0000

Great idea, Scarlett! When you can see what the future could bring in the worst case scenario, it can be a wake up call.

Re: The Challenge of Speaking Up in Dating

Sandy Weiner — Mon, 13 Apr 2015 07:22:56 -0000

Gina,

I agree that you should have self-respect in dating (and life in general), but there are times that a guy could have a valid excuse about being late and not calling. That's why I advised that she text him and talk about what happened when he gets there. And more importantly, that she set up the expectation before the date that she's an on-time person.

Re: The First Look Inside SamCart

Sandy Weiner — Fri, 27 Mar 2015 08:31:41 -0000

Hey Dean,

The question was "are you able to use upsells and paypal at the same time". The answer is yes, but not with one-click. It's a bit cumbersome, which is why I'm looking for a better solution. I want the client experience to be fast and simplified.

Re: The First Look Inside SamCart

Sandy Weiner — Thu, 26 Mar 2015 11:23:33 -0000

Yes, I just set up a campaign in Thrive Themes with an upsell using paypal.

Re: The First Look Inside SamCart

Sandy Weiner — Wed, 25 Mar 2015 06:41:47 -0000

Thanks, Dean. That might work, but it's a bit cumbersome. I need to do upsells, so I'd like to know when PayPal integration will be ready. I want to make the user experience simple. That's why I'd be purchasing SamCart.