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Re: lali-lila

Lali — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 11:55:11 -0000

Hi,

I'd like to inform you that I've switched to Gmail and my new e-mail address is lalim.89@gmail.com.

Please update your contact lists.

Thank you.

Lalitha Muthusamy

Re: lali-lila

Lali — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 10:31:10 -0000

It means the year we graduate. My friend will graduate in 2011, I will graduate in 2013. That's how classes are known in the US, by the year of graduation :)

Re: A compilation.

Lali — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 08:52:12 -0000

Tee hee :D

Re: Powerlust

Lali — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 02:45:25 -0000

Limited, quantifiable quantities to entirely worthless leverage points.

Aiya whatever la.

Re: Powerlust

Lali — Mon, 11 May 2009 23:24:06 -0000

The Annexe at Central Market in KL.

http://www.annexegallery.com/

Re: Powerlust

Lali — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 22:02:44 -0000

*shy wtf

teehee~ ok la although I don't get why people like to see my face so much bleh.

Re: Powerlust

Lali — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 22:01:38 -0000

Thanks bebe :)

Hehe okok la in the future I will.

Re: Powerlust

Lali — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 00:45:02 -0000

Why?!?! Don't want la so difficult I always forget to look at it and reply. Just comment la. :D

Re: Real expectations on MSN.

Lali — Sat, 18 Apr 2009 10:13:53 -0000

Err...yeah that's her. She's a sophomore in MoHo right now.

Re: Powerlust

Lali — Fri, 17 Apr 2009 13:18:35 -0000

Despite my ill advised & somewhat morally dubious ways I'd like to maintain at least a little political correctness on my Tumblr so....I'm just going to leave it to your own imagination. :)

Re: Powerlust

Lali — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 21:22:07 -0000

Uh...okay I didn't actually think anyone would really try to guess.

I'll give you the 10 (virtual) bucks just for the effort haha ..... -_-

Re: What it means to be a woman.

Lali — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 03:44:38 -0000

Hmm...well for someone fussy you sure don't bother to take the initiative to take everything in before you make deductions do you?

Re: What it means to be a woman.

Lali — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 01:44:59 -0000

Ahem. Well Levin darling if you had actually read my whole post you'd realise I said I've always been a Obama supporter, but, permit me to quote myself :

"You do not have to agree with Senator Hilary Clinton. But you damn well have to respect her."

Just because one does not support, one should not negate either. It's just a matter of preference.

Re: tumblinas.

Lali — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 10:57:39 -0000

Thank you. I needed this today.

Re: Vindicated

Lali — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 12:01:13 -0000

It would have been pointless though, due to the rain and the fact that our view was mostly blocked by other people -_-

Re: Vindicated

Lali — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 09:15:02 -0000

Lolz.

I'm always right

Re: tumblinas. — Vogue and Triglycerides

Lali — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 11:40:05 -0000

I understand your predicament really. It's not just 'fat' Asian women, it's about stereotypes and their extremes.

I am Asian too (South Indian to be exact) and the stereotype is that 'beautiful' Indian women are fair skinned, slim and blessed with fantastic hips and bust. I, am brown, 5'9", and really thin, with barely there hips and a practically non-existent bust. I've been poked fun at for wearing heels (and I LOVE heels) and looking even taller, and get a lot of shit from people over the fact that I 'don't eat enough' or that I 'starve' myself. What they don't know is that I've been thin my entire life, tried weight gain formulas and diets and all the works, but none of it works. On top of that, I just eat endlessly.

When I was younger, I looked really, really thin, to the extent I tended to look sickly even though health wise I was fine. Fortunately, now I've filled out at least a little and don't look as skeletal anymore. That doesn't stop people from mouthing off.

It has never helped me that women/feminists/the world at large has condemned the 'supermodel' ideal or shape, chastising women who try to be thin or jump up and down screaming "Real women have curves!!!". I'm a real woman, and I've grown to become a tall, thin, attractive woman with very little more than some speedbumps, but a real woman nonetheless. I don't hold a grudge against people like that, because I know we are all trying to find our place in the world where we can feel confident about ourselves. If there is any ideal about the physicality of women I subscribe to, it is that women do all come in different shapes and sizes as jessicalouise said. So yes, even those stick thin waifs that everyone hates at endlessly are 'real woman' shapes too.

Instead of discussing any kind of body shape at all, I am in stronger support of leading a healthy lifestyle and being comfortable with oneself. That to me, includes a non-anorexic/bulimic/bingeing/etc lifestyle.

I may sound a little bitter, but to tell you the truth, when I was growing up when girls around me felt they weren't thin enough, they would turn to their friends or boyfriends or to the world and be collectively told "It's ok, thin girls are unattractive to men and unreal anyway. You are beautiful"; where else I just got repetitively told "You shouldn't wear heels, you legs look like sticks and boys don't like girls taller than them. And you look like a skeleton, don't you eat?". What's worse is that when I do express my insecurities, I'm always told "What are you complaining about? You're thin!". I've been accused as an anorexic my whole life, even by strangers, and by friends who have SEEN me eat. It's not funny, it's just offensive. And for a long time, it hurt, and I had no one to identify with me or my pain. Thin short girls were considered cute and petite, bigger girls had nice asses and racks, but the tall thin gawky one was just abnormal.

What I'm trying to say is, you just can't win. There will never be enough representation of anything, ever. I learnt that a long time ago, but only recently I've actually become more comfortable with what I am. I love all kinds of women, in fact, some of the women I find most physically attractive in my college are the slightly bigger ones, because they have beautiful faces and smiles. I'm still all for accepting who you are and loving oneself, but I refuse to jump on the RealWomenHaveCurves bandwagon anymore just to appear less vain or make a statement that I am not prejudiced against bigger women because its not my problem and I'm 'blessed' with the 'ideal' body that everyone just condemns to make themselves feel better.

Re: tumblinas. — sigh.

Lali — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 14:21:32 -0000

Since it became extremely fashionable.

Re: tumblinas.

Lali — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 14:20:26 -0000

I've always admired her sense of style, but to be honest, I don't like her overall appeal at all.

And the way she does her makeup, it just makes her look old and skeletal.

There are a few times I've seen her really pretty and natural looking, so I don't think she deserves to be called ugly.

Re: tumblinas. — Let them eat...chocolate bunnies?

Lali — Sun, 23 Mar 2008 11:29:00 -0000

I'm a Hindu :)

I don't even really know what the hell Easter is all about.

Re: tumblinas. — i feel like an ass

Lali — Sat, 22 Mar 2008 10:02:42 -0000

I do the same thing. With ex-classmates. That I've known since I was 7.

I just totally laughed my ass of at your reply, btw.

Re: tumblinas. — have you even seen swordfish?

Lali — Sat, 22 Mar 2008 09:58:02 -0000

And Hugh Grant went to some prostitute named Divine Brown to get some lovin' for his love pole when he was with Elizabeth Hurley.

Can you say WOAH THAT SHIT IS BANANAS!

Yes boys are dumb. They are only useful when you want to guzzle down jugs of Sex on the Beach and fornicate by the pool.

Re: tumblinas. — whoops.

Lali — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 09:40:02 -0000

I'm a danger whenever I have money in my hands too.

Last week, I went to a mall to get my lecturer a going away present and somehow managed to also spend 300 bucks on make up.

A few days ago I went to the same mall again to pick up a pair of Levi's I had dropped off to be altered, and ended up spending about 200 bucks on a scarf, a bag, sunglasses and more makeup.

Then on the weekend I went to the night market to buy some snacks and dinner and ended up buying another bag and an anklet too.

-_-

I have a tendency to hide my receipts.

Re: tumblinas. — The things we do to ourselves.

Lali — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 04:41:22 -0000

I know! When I started feeling so whacked out I thought I was finally losing my mind! It felt like an out of body experience where I'm floating above myself and I see me moping and I'm like "WTF?"

I'm so sorry that happened to you, its easy to see why that messed you up when even my mild situation is already screwing with my head so badly.

I look at Q and i can't even bring myself to hate him or his girlfriend, because they quite seriously did not do anything wrong to me. So I ended up blaming myself. But yeah, I'm definitely not going to sit around and wait for some man to save me. Thanks! :)

Re: tumblinas. — The things we do to ourselves.

Lali — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 04:36:44 -0000

I have some really amazing beautiful intellectual friends too and they're all single! Yes, I think you're right, it is all about finding the right person. I don't know why I beat myself up so much over some guy I barely know. I just know in a few months time I'm going to look back at all this and wonder why on earth I became so emotional and contemplative over something so small.

I do love being single, I like the freedom and independence that comes with it too. This whole 'omg I'm gonna be alone forever what is wrong with me' feeling sometimes just comes out and consumes you out of nowhere, you know what I mean? Like its not a constant thing throughout the day, but the randomnest things can just cause me to be overcome with such thoughts and despair. But I'm aware enough to know that it isn't real so i try to pour myself into other things instead of moping around all day. Its just that sometimes when I'm in college and Q is sweet to me I feel all stupid and muddled again. I can't avoid him, what else should I do? :(

It makes me smile to know that you now have a boyfriend you really like. Yeah, sometimes it really does seem like its all about luck. Some friends tell me I'm too picky and I expect too much; that I should be grateful for the fact I get asked out so much and I should just give those guys a shot anyway. And thus far all I've done is hold out hold out hold out, and now you've convinced me it was the right thing to do. I've always believed that affection, any kind of sincere affection should always be treated with respect even if its not mutual, but only now I realise that includes MY OWN affection and love as well. Unlike people I know I don't feel the need to dole out "love" to every guy who tells me I'm pretty or whatever, and I know its ok now, because when I care, I REALLY care.

I'm pretty sure this is all a culmination of all the other not-so-great things that have been happening in my life thus far this year. Through all the negativity I feel as though I keep pushing myself, forcing myself to muddle through the muck and come out with something shining and positive. It's like I placed all my hopes and positivity on Q without even realising it.

I have this big problem with control and weakness, which causes me to never talk to anyone about my problems because I always end up being everyone elses pillar of strength. But at least venting here and having people like you respond helps me through this and see beyond my momentary emotion-induced confusement.

I do keep reminding myself that getting into a relationship isn't going to 'fix' my life, it will just add on to it, enhance it. I know the feeling of being alone doesn't go away just because you've suddenly got a man with you, so I try and try and try to fight through my own insecurities instead of hoping to pile it on some poor hapless unsuspecting guy.

I can't tell you how thankful I am you responded. You seem like really cool, level-headed chick. Good luck with your own man too haha! <3