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Re: Surprise Becks

emily_wk — Tue, 24 Jul 2012 15:42:02 -0000

Yeah, the little boy definitely brought the tears. He was SO overwhelmed.

Re: The All-Too-Familiar Harassment Against Feminist Frequency, and What The Gaming Community Can Do About It

emily_wk — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 17:48:49 -0000

This is to Jay, even though I can't hit reply there (nested too far?).

Jay, seriously, what are you doing here that's constructive? You've taken one person's experience and decided that it must be like that for everyone, and now you're berating people for not handling every situation the way one person handles her situation.

It isn't one time, one person who treats you like crap. It is every little bit that adds up, every little thing that makes you tired of having to give back, or let it roll off of your back, or report them, or whatever. it's EXHAUSTING to have to deal with this over and over and over and over and over and over again.

Stop suggesting that the victims of harassment and threatened violence are in the wrong for how they handle it. That's INCREDIBLY offensive, and guess what, it makes you part of the problem.

Re: The All-Too-Familiar Harassment Against Feminist Frequency, and What The Gaming Community Can Do About It

emily_wk — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 17:45:07 -0000

Maybe YOU don't think so, but if anyone else can overhear, it's worth letting them know that you aren't interested in hearing that kind of crap. Even if it isn't directed at you.

Re: The All-Too-Familiar Harassment Against Feminist Frequency, and What The Gaming Community Can Do About It

emily_wk — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 13:54:55 -0000

That implies that it's always trolling. Often times, totally reasonable people make offensive remarks. Saying that you won't stand for it is only partially about them; it's also to let the people who are also offended/threatened know that they aren't alone.

Re: The All-Too-Familiar Harassment Against Feminist Frequency, and What The Gaming Community Can Do About It

emily_wk — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 13:53:16 -0000

No, that isn't how it works. That's great for your wife, that she finds that she's harassed rarely and is able and happy to put trolls in their place.

But to imply that there must be something wrong with someone who doesn't want to face the unrelenting wall of hate that they find when they venture out into the world of gaming is just cruel and victim blaming.

Re: Fannie's Room: A Meta-Mansplanation

emily_wk — Wed, 14 Sep 2011 13:28:25 -0000

I can't stop snickering at this. I was laughing before I even saw what he actually said, which was even more funny.

Are we sure that Dan himself isn't an elaborate art-as-life construct written by one of our own who is laughing behind hir hand at us falling for it? Are we suuuuuuure?

Re: Do All Couples Act Like Lunatics in Private?

emily_wk — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 19:11:27 -0000

Dude, when you HAVE a baby, that's still funny. The kid is almost one and we still make fun of him for being so totally unable to do ANYTHING.

Like, I've been able to work a spoon for YEARS. He can't even hold it without playing with it.

Re: Do All Couples Act Like Lunatics in Private?

emily_wk — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 19:09:36 -0000

We had "because you're my snuggle rock and I'm your cookie bear" in our wedding vows. We got made fun of a lot at the reception.

Re: Do All Couples Act Like Lunatics in Private?

emily_wk — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 19:08:02 -0000

The singing thing gets worse if you have a kid. We do all of the above.

Re: I Am Glad That Jessica Alba's Diet Sucks

emily_wk — Tue, 06 Sep 2011 10:44:05 -0000

Also, the concept that you have to get RIGHT BACK into your pre-baby body (the fact that you just made a PERSON come into the world with your BODY is somehow glossed over) is really hard on non-celebrity normal ladies. Because we don't get right back into our old jeans, and our stomachs look like wrinkly-faced dogs for a while, and that's just how it is. I hate the pressure to "bounce back" and I hate that it made me feel shitty when my son was born.

Re: Blue Collar Catwalk: biiiiiiicycle

emily_wk — Mon, 18 Jul 2011 11:48:46 -0000

I commute to DC, so it gets REALLY humid here. I wear shorts and a wicking shirt and change when I get to work.

Re: Go Forth, Red Light-Running Cyclists of Virginia

emily_wk — Wed, 06 Jul 2011 17:14:39 -0000

Aw, you saw through my trickery. Yes, that was kind of the point.

Re: Go Forth, Red Light-Running Cyclists of Virginia

emily_wk — Wed, 06 Jul 2011 16:44:09 -0000

True. I do think that a cyclist choosing to ride in the road and take the lane and not cower on the sidewalk or in the gutter shows at least a basic level of understanding as well, so, I don't know.

Are there really many cyclists out there who do not know the rules of the road? If we took 100 cyclists and 100 motorists, how many of each would pass a driver's license exam given today?

Re: Go Forth, Red Light-Running Cyclists of Virginia

emily_wk — Wed, 06 Jul 2011 16:33:18 -0000

So the sign would make inexperienced cyclists exercise their rights. And that is bad why, exactly?

An inexperienced cyclist would possibly benefit even more than an experienced one by taking the lane and forcing a motorist to cross the line to pass him - an experienced cyclist would potentially be more comfortable being passed at high speed and wouldn't have as unsteady of handling.

I am really not clear why inexperienced cyclists are even an issue. I don't see people suggesting that we not inform motorists of their rights because an inexperienced motorist might, you know, exercise those rights.

Re: Go Forth, Red Light-Running Cyclists of Virginia

emily_wk — Wed, 06 Jul 2011 16:28:56 -0000

Yes. It's sometimes scary and makes me worry that they're going to get angry. But sometimes, I'd rather be afraid that someone would get angry than risk being sideswiped by their mirror.

Re: Breaking: Millionaire Extorts $$$ From Artist, Street Artists Strike Back

emily_wk — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 09:44:37 -0000

Serious question - did you read the post where Baio talked about it? Didn't he, you know, not even have enough money to find out if his claim of fair use was legit? So how can you say that he doesn't understand copyright law. He got run over by a tank and had no opportunity to fight back, so you don't even know what the courts would have decided.

Re: Fly the unFriendly Skies

emily_wk — Fri, 24 Jun 2011 13:58:32 -0000

And bully for you that you are able to do so! That's your ability as a result of your privilege, and that's great.

You can't express disbelief that this is a hostile environment and then shoot down every reason people give that it IS creating a hostile environment. Presumably it would depend on whether the women who overheard him gave a shit, too, but shouldn't we assume the co-pilot ISN'T that big of an asshole? Jeez.

Re: Fly the unFriendly Skies

emily_wk — Fri, 24 Jun 2011 13:14:56 -0000

The co-pilot is a coworker of his. He's being hostile and sexually harassing women to a colleague - how is that NOT creating a hostile work environment?
Does the co-pilot think he has to engage in it as well, to "fit in"?

Re: Film Corner!

emily_wk — Mon, 13 Jun 2011 18:21:48 -0000

Even aside from this movie looking awful, the PREVIEW is awful. They gave away the entire movie! (Or does that scene where they have a "real" wedding with a white dress and a bunch of people and a bouquet of flowers not mean what it seemed like it means?)

Re: Consent Matters

emily_wk — Thu, 09 Jun 2011 16:06:48 -0000

It makes me want to cry when I see how many feminists on the internet are arguing that it's a matter between consenting adults.

Re: I Get More Letters

emily_wk — Thu, 09 Jun 2011 14:13:14 -0000

And @ethel ,

Thanks for your thoughtful responses - I appreciate them a lot. I think I'm doing this already, even though he's still too young to really understand the choices.

Re: I Get More Letters

emily_wk — Thu, 09 Jun 2011 10:03:47 -0000

I hope this isn't a stupid question, but how do you deal with consent with unreasonable toddlers? That is, my son is going to get to a point where he will not want me to change his diaper, maybe, but I have to because it's dirty and that isn't sanitary. I don't want to make it seem like he has the right to bodily integrity except with me - I don't want there to be exceptions. Does that make any sense?

It's hard to find the intersection between social justice advocates and parents who want to talk about this kind of thing.

Re: I Get More Letters

emily_wk — Wed, 08 Jun 2011 16:03:58 -0000

I am teaching that to my son as well. I think I heard a quote once of someone overhearing a parent at a playground. Two little kids, a boy and a girl, were running around and terrorizing each other as kids do, and the parent of the little boy said, "As soon as she isn't having fun anymore, you have to stop."

Which I thought was pretty awesome.

Melissa, I am astonished at the amounts of fecal matter you have to put up with on a regular basis and I would just like to say again that my admiration for you only increases as your eloquence is yet again demonstrated in the face of such bullshit. Thank you.

Re: In Case You've Forgotten...

emily_wk — Thu, 03 Mar 2011 09:51:48 -0000

I think my irony meter is broken after Sarah Palin objected to the Supreme Court ruling that said that Westboro Baptist Church is covered by the First Amendment.

Re: On Lara Logan

emily_wk — Wed, 16 Feb 2011 12:06:50 -0000

I'm already exhausted at the prospect of reading story after story about this because I know that not nearly enough of them will include this sentiment in any form:

I wish Lara Logan a speedy recovery from her physical injuries, and I wish her strength and peace.

I do, too. So much.

I may just avoid the internet for a few days.