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Alex Lee • 10 years ago

As a father, *I* am going to learn this. If my kids want to participate, that's fine, too - but I suspect that once I start twerking, it'll no longer be cool and, well, problem solved.

I don't have a unicorn onesie, but I do have a sombrero and a serape.

Let's do this.

Bop • 10 years ago

I can totally imagine some father finding his daughter's "sexy dance" on youtube and just walking into her room and doing that same dance for like ten minutes straight.

That's worse torture than getting beat. Those bruises fade, there's no such thing as brain bleach!

Marcy • 10 years ago

You're kinda my new personal hero. Hope that's not weird for you.

Eve Vawter • 10 years ago

Ask him to show you the cake he made me.

whiteroses • 10 years ago

Don't take this the wrong way, because I'm very happily married, but.... I think I love you.

Sarah Hollowell • 10 years ago

You are my new favorite person.

Fabel • 10 years ago

Yeah, not good parenting. Also, what is with the nostalgia some people have over the "good old days" when parents were encouraged to beat their kids? ("Reminds me of them ass whoopins of the 80s")

Eve Vawter • 10 years ago

I know you weren't trying to be funny, but I LOL'd at this. "Let's have some awesome retro ass beatings while listening to WHAM!"

Justme • 10 years ago

I think WHAM encourages an entirely different form of....spanking.

K. • 10 years ago

I've found that it also tends to be racially divided, as one of the comments hinted at. When my husband taught in the Bronx and had a classroom of mostly non-white kids, he'd be told by many parents that spanking was not only necessary, but beneficial.

"'Time out' is a white parenting thing" --Aisha Tyler has that in one of her stand-up routines.

Makabit • 10 years ago

I can't tell you how many conversations I overhear, and get sucked into, where people rave about their grandma's ass-whuppings as if they were talking about their grandma's apple crumble. People my age. It's just bizarre.

elizabethann1 • 10 years ago

Someone is going to submit this to social services right? That's what needs to happen, regardless of the conversation.

ElisaBeth • 10 years ago

Ok... there is a difference between popping a bottom once or twice MAYBE even three times if the offence was dangerous, and literally WHIPPING your child with a cord; that HURTS, it causes welts, bruises and open wounds that can last weeks and sometimes even emotional damage; and the way he kept going... plus who is recording it? Who would have THOUGHT of recording it? The mother? Just... ugh

Cee • 10 years ago

That is terrible. I hope these girls aren't going through this too often (though they never should) and that they tell someone, get help and are able to break free from this monster. I don't understand the correlation of dancing at home with your sister with needing a beating so you don't get pregnant at 16. Needless to say its just horrible. Just my tiny comment before this turns into a shit fest about corporal punishment/spanking or no spanking.

Jennifer • 10 years ago

I wonder if being abused by one's father would make a girl MORE likely to get pregnant at 16--looking for male approval/father figure, whatever.

Eve Vawter • 10 years ago

agreed, and stick around to back me up when this thread does turn to that haha

Frustrated@theworld • 10 years ago

Im sure you are not African American. SO, with that being said, you do not know the stigma that goes into being one. These girls are misguided, tweaking is NOT JUST DANCING, DO NOT BE FOOL BY THIS IGNORANT article. Twerking is booty shaking and very sexual. No, sixteen year old girl should be dancing like that, and because you do not know the sick subculture of black life you would not be so quick to judge. Think about this. Girls and guys in impoverish areas of America need a way to make a living, they look around at their surroundings and see alot of negativity. Many people turn to drugs and alcohol and others turn to trying to become the next big athlete. You- being a female in this area, are not getting an adequate education because none of the "good teachers" want to teach in the inner city and need money to help feed your brothers and sisters because your mom works 2 jobs and your dad is in jail for selling crack to make money to feed you and your family. So you decided to twerk on camera for a little fame. You get noticed by some rapper and then you are in his video. You are making money but inside you are empty. What can you offer this world but your body? You are not a bad person, just limited by your situation and NOW those little girls ^^^^ in that video think that twerking is a fun new way to get attention from guys want to imitate you....its a vicious cycle. People are trying to put a stop to this abomination of always having women of color be seen as the sluts of the internet. So you feel as though he is a monster??? You are the monster of ignorance for not understanding that he is trying to save those girls for being seen as a ignorant girl WHO im sure you would see on the street and shake your head at in dismay. So please hush. You stay living in your sheltered life where everything is white and vanilla but I see in color honey and its not a pretty world.

Jen • 10 years ago

I think her point was even if the dancing was inappropriate, the electrical cord beating was so far beyond the appropriate response if it wasn't BEATING kids it would be laughable. The whole sell your body poor person black plight thing aside. A man BEAT HIS KIDS WITH A CORD. Your concern about the dancing was touching but you know he BEAT HIS KIDS. WTF?

Eve Vawter • 10 years ago

who the fuck thinks this way?! "People are trying to put a stop to this abomination of always having women of color be seen as the sluts of the internet." NO ONE WITH ANY SHRED OF COMMON SENSE. and some asshole beating his daughters is not going to fix this problem

Chelsea • 10 years ago

As a Black woman I feel like the whole point of beating loved ones in our culture is because of slavery ad the slave mentality. I get that it's not something that others may understand. That being said, what he did was disgusting. A small spanking or swat on the butt is fine for a 7 year old (but is not the answer)... however, when a girl reaches young adulthood it's inappropriate to do anything other than take away fun. My own father did not raise me but when i became han adult he thought he had the right to physically discipline me. He thought wrong and so did that fatherCommon sense is relative so not everyone is going to think the dame way. Sorry for the errors my phone won't let me fix them.

Justme • 10 years ago

I would think that having an abusive father would more likely result in the a young girl turning to prostitution rather than a father who taught his daughter's to respect themselves by showing respect for them.

whiteroses • 10 years ago

That's... a hell of a lot of projection.
He beat them with an electrical cord. That's not a "whooping". That's abuse.

Guest • 10 years ago

I think it's a tiny bit completely insane to consider someone who is opposed to whipping a kid with an extension cord to be "sheltered." What are you then, with your tunnel vision? I've known white parents that do this too. What say you to that, mighty color seer? I hope you don't have a daughter, because I think she'd be crushed to hear that her mother/father thought this might be her only hope if "limited by [her] situation." Once again, who's creating racial stereotypes now?

Frances Locke • 10 years ago

Have you ever been beaten with a belt or a cord? Perhaps that would bring one to drugs or alcohol. And while I am not the author and I am not African American (though with a great deal of my family still living on reservations I think I know a thing or two) I can say without a doubt that this type of punishment is wrong, illegal and detrimental to the children. Period. Obviously.

You wanna stop your young black daughter from doing this? Sit the fuck down and parent. Actually parent. TALK to them. Educate them.Because this type of punishment only teaches fear and shame. Child abuse breeds nothing but negativity and any so-called good you might see in the outcome is shadowed by horror.

Courtney Lynn • 10 years ago

None of that has anything to do with a man beating his kids with a cable. He acted out of anger, regardless of race.

Makabit • 10 years ago

Well, clearly their father is not in jail for selling crack, because he's right there beating the crap out of his children.

Of course, now he's in jail. For beating the crap out of his children.

Get real. I do not live a 'sheltered life where everything is white and vanilla', but you don't protect kids by beating them with an extension cord. Teenage girls shaking their asses at home for fun is not a slippery slope to much of anything, if their parents are on the ball. Teenage girls who are being beaten by their parents, on the other hand, are in a very risky situation. They want to get out of the house, and they have been conditioned to accept that abuse is a sign of love. That can get you in a whole lot more trouble than your fantasy rapper with his videos.

spottedgiraffe • 10 years ago

You're an idiot. I AM African-American so you can't try to use the culturally ignorant comment on me. You don't put your hands on someone. It's WRONG. If my dad was ever stupid enough to try to whip me with a cord I would honestly probably stab him with a knife. You cannot just attack someone because of your feelings of anger. If the girls had retaliated against him it would be self-defense, and he should be counting his lucky stars I'm not his daughter, because I would stand up for myself. If he had a problem with them being sexually suggestive he should have just taken away their cell phones and Internet access away for a month or however long he wanted. He could also make it so they come straight home from school and can't hang out with their friends. They would be able to learn their lesson without a crime being committed. The dad is an idiot and so is anyone else that thinks it's okay to assault someone just because they are related to them. It's disgusting. I will never be beating my kids I'm intelligent enough to use reason.

Kate • 10 years ago

If adults were PROPER PARENTS to BEGIN with... then physical abuse would never be needed.
All you ghetto parents sayin "..oh yeah yeah, thats good parenting, anything else is wussy parents"... well SCREW YOU.
Good Parenting is steering your kids the right direction from the get-go. Low-life bottom feeders you people are.

Whoa, burning hot racism, right there.

Carm • 10 years ago

He's not just an asshole. He's a criminal. On video. Is anyone pressing charges?

Overitmom • 10 years ago

The fact is that this guy is hitting his children openly and putting it online. Which means he doesn't feel that it is wrong. I can only imagine that if he does THIS publicly, what does he do behind closed doors?

C.J. • 10 years ago

What that father did is abuse, I can't believe people are being supportive of that. He should have his children taken away and be made to take anger management classes.

Amy B • 10 years ago

I hope someone called child protective services on the father, because that is straight up child abuse.

Maggie • 10 years ago

No. That is child abuse. Good parenting would have been to do what Eve suggested in this article, not whipping the hell out of them. Those poor girls should be taken away from that pathetic excuse of a man. If I were their mother, I'd return that ass whoopin' to him tenfold.

EmmaFromÉire • 10 years ago

To the people justifying what he did- you make me sick. My father never spanked me, gave me a 'whooping' and he certainly never abusively beat me when I was growing up and (shock! horror!) I turned out great. So did my siblings. We never had a hand raised to us. Where necessary privileges were taking away, groundings were given, serious discussions had. What this vile man did disgusts and infuriates me. Hurting your child is NEVER acceptable.

What's the next step from this eh? That stupid bitch wife bought the wrong meat from the market, a smack would teach her to never do it again? Or maybe your husband drove on a potholey road and a tyre burst, better beat him with the tyre iron for being so stupid. If you wouldn't beat your equal, don't beat someone considerably smaller and weaker who cannot defend themselves.

Tao • 10 years ago

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Courtney Lynn • 10 years ago

While I understand that a lot of kids don't have a father in their life to set them straight, this is NOT what they need, either. Sure, he taught them. He taught them to live in fear and not screw up for fear of getting BEAT! That's not a relationship. That's not setting boundaries! Take away the internet. Take away any cameras. Tell them WHY you think it's inappropriate and that they should value themselves more than that.

msenesac • 10 years ago

I have no idea why I clicked on that link. It's one of those most disturbing videos I've ever seen. IF (big IF) you should EVER have to spank (which I do NOT condone), the first hit is for the kid. Any others are for the hitter. Yes, there is a serious lack of discipline out there nowadays by some parents. But physical abuse is not the answer.

Eve Vawter • 10 years ago

I really tried to warn people :( I hear you, it made me cry

Valeri Jones • 10 years ago

I agree with the line between punishment and anger. Read, one hit versus multiple. I spank my child, but only for big things. He is a toddler and still learning. He has gotten spanked for trying to run into the road and for climbing up on things like my dining room table or his changing table where he could fall and get seriously injured. And these spankings consist of two swats on his butt while I say no no. Never is this done in anger or frustration. My intention is to teach him, not hurt him. For smaller things, we do time out. This is what works for my kid. As he gets older and is able to communicate with me and understand more, the spanking will stop and I will be able to talk to him.

The punishment this father doled out was harsh, to say the least. I agree that the what the girls did is pretty serious, but they are old enough to be talked to and listen and be punished in other ways like, I don't know, maybe taking their computers and/or phones from them so you don't have to worry about them posting such trash. Just saying.

whiteroses • 10 years ago

I can think of maybe three times off the top of my head that I was spanked growing up. All of those times were instances where I put myself or others in danger (unwittingly). One of my earliest memories is standing in a busy street while my grandmother begged me to walk over to her. She grabbed me and pulled me to safety. I laughed and thought it was a game. After she spanked me, I never did it again. I never doubted that my grandmother loved me, and still does. At two, I was far too young to understand that it wasn't funny and could have killed me.

Rachel CUNTSea • 10 years ago

That was sick. That man not only thinks it's a good idea to whip his kids, but he is so shameless as to capture it on video? I hope that whole family gets help.

Karistina • 10 years ago

You know who I hopes sees the video the dad made? The police. It will be the perfect evidence when they bring the child abuse case against him. (I'm assuming. I'm not watching that.)

Jen • 10 years ago

I hope someone reported the video or forwarded it or something to the police.

kellilou3 • 10 years ago

How do you truly love your child and bring yourself to beat the f out of them with a cable like that?! He was putting all his weight into each slap, too. Now, this is coming from the mother of one child...a 2-year-old...so it's easy for me to sit back and judge this father. I haven't reached teenage years yet, haha! Even still, I know this is inappropriate, no matter how mad you are. There are simply better, more effective ways to handle it. He was probably disciplined this way, so it's all he knows.

LoveyDovey • 10 years ago

Where do I submit this? No idea where this took place but I want to turn this video over to someone so it can be looked into and these girls can get some help.

Eve Vawter • 10 years ago

I think people have, actually, and the video was banned from you tube

Nopesir • 10 years ago

no, thats fucking abuse. Trust me..I'd KNOW from my own experience. Thats fucking abuse. I can't even keep calm right now. Over a silly video?

Guest • 10 years ago

I'm fully in the "let's not beat our kids" crowd, and come hell or highwater no one will ever spank my daughter as punishment for anything. A parent should be a source of rules, guidelines, discipline and love, but never fear. There's no excuse for beating your child with anything...never mind taking a VIDEO of it AND POSTING THE VIDEO ON THE INTERNET where nothing ever goes away. Because that's so much better than whatever dance they were doing.

Aurelie Barbe • 10 years ago

Shouldn't the police be intervening here?