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Re: Mom Searches for Right Approach to Determine Gun Safety in Other People's Houses

beekers03 — Wed, 21 Jun 2017 16:21:08 -0000

Uh it's not off putting in the SLIGHTEST to ask if there are guns in the home, and if so, are they locked up.

Re: 10 Things I’ve Learned About Gaslighting as an Abuse Tactic - by Shea Emma Fett

beekers03 — Wed, 02 Nov 2016 14:15:45 -0000

I've had to explain the term gaslighting to quite a few people recently. Anyone who tries to convince you your reality is wrong is gaslighting you.

I had a friend berate me for being inconsiderate & selfish because I wanted to bring my infant daughter to a bbq that was held during the day & didn't specify no kids. I was being accused of inconsideration & selfishness because one of the guests attending was struggling with fertility issues, so I was lacking mindfulness in wanting to bring my child. She repetitively yelled at me, "COULD YOU EVEN *TRY* TO UNDERSTAND?" I was flabbergasted & explained I was, to the best of my ability, as mindful as possible. I rarely posted pictures of my daughter on social media out of consideration for her, didn't discuss anything about my pregnancy in front of her, even passed on group events when I was massively pregnant because I didn't want to cause her pain.

All this led me to question, "Am I a horrible person? Am I selfish? Am I bad? What is wrong with me?"

Now I hate this person for making me ever doubt myself, for making me ever, even for the slightest moment, feel like I should apologize for having a child. Now I know the truth: she is a wretched human being & completely not worth my time.

Gaslighting doesn't have to take place between romantic partners.

Re: Harris County Judge: Let's ship stray dogs out of state

beekers03 — Wed, 14 Sep 2016 09:54:57 -0000

... um. What about Rescued Pets Movement? Literally already doing this.

Re: My Friends and I Beat Up My Rapist, And I Will Never Apologize for Getting Revenge - by Emily Eveland

beekers03 — Tue, 17 May 2016 12:46:07 -0000

domestic house cleaning <3

Re: MAC Announces ANOTHER Collaboration, but Seriously, How Does Jennifer Lopez Look 19 in This Makeup-Free Video? - by Kara

beekers03 — Thu, 11 Feb 2016 13:45:45 -0000

I came back here after clicking on the link JUST to comment about the practice finger.

Re: IT HAPPENED TO ME: I Surrendered My Cats to an Animal Shelter to Protect My Baby - by Dianna Calareso

beekers03 — Thu, 21 Jan 2016 14:37:57 -0000

OMG. They really are. But dear jesus I love them. Good ole meezer attitude <3

Re: IT HAPPENED TO ME: I Surrendered My Cats to an Animal Shelter to Protect My Baby - by Dianna Calareso

beekers03 — Thu, 21 Jan 2016 14:32:39 -0000

Hmm, I'll give the author the benefit of the doubt that she's right, none of us wear her shoes, so ... I'll just leave that alone.

What I can comment on is what we've found to be a working solution in our household of three cats, a 15 year old (Kitty), & two 3 year olds (Figgy & Zarra), who, at best, tolerate each other. Figgy & Kitty get along alright but those two do NOT get along with Zarra whatsoever. After speaking with our vets, we've decked out our house in cat towers, toys, & ample scratching posts. We have 4 litter boxes (you should always have 1 per cats plus an extra) & use the feliway diffusers which work well. We also foster cats, which was stressing Figgy out big time, so our vets recommended Zylkene, which has been an absolute godsend!! There's also Royal Canin Calm food, which helps. We've switched from the RC Calm food to using Zylkene as needed when the cats are stressed (such as when we bring in new fosters, or right now, as we've just moved to a new house). SO. It can be done! Peace can be found!

I'm 36 weeks pregnant with our first & plan on making it work. I've had Kitty since she was 8 weeks old; I would never abandon her.

Re: Here Is The Sure-Fire Way To Respond to Passive-Aggressive Mean-Girl Commentary Like, 'Wow, Someone's Dressed Up Today!' - by Mandy

beekers03 — Mon, 04 Jan 2016 13:52:36 -0000

WHAT HAPPENED TO THE DOG?! Y'all, I skimmed the comments to see references made to her dog but I don't follow her on twitter so I'm out of the loop. WUT HAPPENED.

Re: No Credit Card, No Tickets — TPG Reader Mistake Story

beekers03 — Wed, 09 Dec 2015 12:06:43 -0000

What happens if you no longer have the card? Such as, the card was compromised somehow, so Chase sends you a new card, you send them back the old one to be destroyed. Do you just show them your new card? Are you just screwed?

Re: So Here's What We're Wearing On Our Nails This Fall - by Tynan Sinks

beekers03 — Fri, 23 Oct 2015 13:16:16 -0000

YES LEGGY LEGEND! I bought it on a whim & this polish has some AMAZING staying power. It's gonna be hard for me not to solely wear this color FOREVER.

Re: RECIPE OF THE WEEK: Slow Cooker Edition - by Claire Lower

beekers03 — Fri, 23 Oct 2015 13:04:23 -0000

So I can't find where I originally found it but you don't really need a recipe.

SLOW COOKER BBQ PULLED PORK
-pork
-ginger ale
-onion
-bbq sauce

cut up the onion, put in crock pot
throw meat on top
pour in can of ginger ale
cook on low all day
drain
shred pork/onions
add bbq sauce (i HIGHLY recommend sweet baby ray's)
enjoy

EASY. DELISH.

Re: Confessions of a Former Pro-Life Activist - by Jennie Kuckertz

beekers03 — Tue, 13 Oct 2015 11:12:01 -0000

THIS TIMES TEN: "No one should feel like they have to justify having an abortion."

Re: Getting Pregnant Forced Me to Quit Drinking, and It's Been an Enlightening Experience - by Natalie Costa

beekers03 — Wed, 07 Oct 2015 13:00:13 -0000

I'm currently 20 weeks pregnant & would classify myself as a serious drinker (we drink wine with dinner almost every night & indulge in multiple drinks/cocktails on the weekends). My perspective: I miss the social aspects of it, such as bar hopping with friends & everyone is queueing up to order drinks & I'm like... water again I guess. I try to steer clear of sodas because me + carbonation = gas bomb. Otherwise, I don't really miss it at all. I initially lost some weight because of the reduction in liquid calories and drunk food & in the beginning of my pregnancy, I felt like I had a constant low-grade hangover (headache-y, very fatigued, slightly ill), so I DEF did not miss it then. Now that I'm moving right along & feeling MUCH better, I do wish I could split a bottle of wine & unwind with the hubs on a Thursday, binging on Netflix.

I think what makes it easier & less noticeable is that my husband has also stopped drinking, too. He'll have a beer or two if we're out with friends or some wine with his family at outings, but other than that, he's respectfully abstaining in solidarity with me, which I really, REALLY appreciate. (Plus his breath gets stinky from drinking, something I probably never noticed before because I was also drinking & my nose is uber sensitive now.)

Does that provide more insight? This my first pregnancy & it's been weird & cool & awesome & weird so far, haha. Going for my big test & measurements ultrasound tomorrow to check the little lady & make sure she's a perfect little baby!! :)

Re: These Invisible Zit-Clearing Patches Also Stop Me From Picking - by Lisa

beekers03 — Mon, 05 Oct 2015 12:58:43 -0000

Wait, so these work on ingrown hairs, too?! I'm constantly waging war on ingrown hairs & I freaking love these bandaids for normal ouchies, so this sounds amazing. How long do you leave them on an ingrown hair?

Re: #ShoutYourAbortion: This is What a 22 1/2 Week Abortion Looks Like - by Lindsey Averill

beekers03 — Thu, 24 Sep 2015 14:02:28 -0000

I'm currently 19 weeks pregnant & have this big ultrasound in two weeks. I've never been more ardently pro-choice than I am now (ftm) because I'm faced with the reality that shit does happen & babies are non-viable, despite being so desperately wanted, we must let them go in some circumstances & that is no one else's business or choice but mom's.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this.

Re: I Got Someone Fired for Making a Rape Joke and I Don’t Regret It - by Lauren Longo

beekers03 — Thu, 17 Sep 2015 14:57:41 -0000

Good for you & I got chills reading the owner's response! Seriously, I'm so glad he handled it the way he did & responded the way he did. Thank you for standing up for this!!

My last year in college, I worked for the school & walked to/from work every day. Each morning during the beginning/ending of semesters, I had to walk through a congregation of contract workers the school hired to assist with classroom setups/breakdowns. Each morning, they would catcall. One morning three of the young men actually followed me into the building & waited for me outside of the restroom & cornered me when I left, begging dates. I was shocked & scared, quietly refused & brushed past them to my office I shared with my boss. I told her what happened, she called their manager, & he immediately fired the three of them. The manager then came to me to apologize for his workers' behavior & thanked my speaking up because if they were behaving that way so near to their manager (but not in actual line of sight or hearing), who knows how they were acting on campus, in the classrooms. I worked with almost exclusively all men, who were also upset to hear what happened with the exception of one guy, who condemned me for costing three guys to lose their livelihood. I calmly tried to explain to him I didn't make them do anything; they were solely responsible for their inappropriate actions. He continued to argue & make me feel worse about the already awkward situation, so whatever. Some people just don't get it. The scary thing -- that dude has a daughter.

Re: I Have An Untraditional Engagement Ring and People Are Not Cool With It - by Veronica Zabczynski

beekers03 — Thu, 17 Sep 2015 14:29:42 -0000

I think your ring is stunning. But again, my own engagement ring features a blue topaz, not a diamond, so what do I know. :P

Re: The Demeter Destination Collection, or How to Travel via Fragrance - by Trista

beekers03 — Tue, 25 Aug 2015 12:22:05 -0000

Aww, I LOVE Salt Air -- it's what got me hooked on demeter fragrances. I use one of their tree smells for our artificial christmas tree & it's perfect! Snow is pretty glorious, too.

Re: Recipe of the Week: How Do You Doctor Your Instant Ramen - by Claire Lower

beekers03 — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 09:36:07 -0000

I would smash up the noodles, add them & the flavor packet to a bowl, add JUST the right amount of water (enough to cover the noodles I think) & microwave that shit for like 5 minutes. The water was completely soaked up/evaporated & the noodles were a delicious, salty mush, sometimes with crispy edges from the exhaustive nuking.

Re: UNPOPULAR OPINION: I’m a Feminist and I Think #FreeThe Nipple is Stupid - by Tatenda Musapatike

beekers03 — Fri, 07 Aug 2015 13:57:06 -0000

"#FreeTheNipple feminism is exclusively for the privileged" thank you for articulating why I've never been able to get behind this.

Re: Farting Is My Secret Feminist Weapon that Works Every Time - by Allison Hope

beekers03 — Thu, 30 Jul 2015 13:51:29 -0000

MORE BANG FOR MY BUTT.

Re: IT HAPPENED TO ME: You've Heard of "Back Labor"? I Had "Crotch Labor." - by C. N. Larsen

beekers03 — Mon, 20 Jul 2015 20:03:26 -0000

Omg this article. And omg these comments. Y'all, I'm pregnant for the first time & absolutely terrified about delivery. Please tell me it'll be ok.

Re: IT HAPPENED TO ME: My Husband Died When I Was Three Months Pregnant - by Rachael Graham

beekers03 — Thu, 16 Jul 2015 11:45:17 -0000

Thank you for sharing this.

Re: IT HAPPENED TO ME: A Tattoo Almost Ended My Relationship - by Jill A.

beekers03 — Fri, 10 Jul 2015 11:56:08 -0000

those. look. amazing.

Re: VIDEO: Gay Couple Denied Marriage License in Kentucky

beekers03 — Wed, 08 Jul 2015 16:33:38 -0000

SERIOUSLY. GET A NEW JOB.