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Re: Leslie Jones’ SNL Slavery Rape Joke Was Very Funny & Profound

A. S. Williams — Tue, 06 May 2014 16:33:13 -0000

The joke and her later explanation of it indicated that she seemed bothered by today's idea of beauty and that in slavery days she would be valued. The joke wasn't funny or thought provoking and this article is thought provoking (which is why I commented). My statement wasn't clear before.

Re: Leslie Jones’ SNL Slavery Rape Joke Was Very Funny & Profound

A. S. Williams — Mon, 05 May 2014 23:16:59 -0000

Black women's value in slavery time was financially higher. Yes. However, the value of what we could produce is what was important. Our value wasn't so much that we still were without the same abuse we go thru today. We were valued b/c we were property. I didn't find her skit funny. Knowing what my ancestors have gone thru..not in general, but my own ancestors, I just can't find this funny. The joke being that she would have a man every 9 months to give her a baby is lost on the truth that the baby could be sold soon after. Forever taken away from it's mother.

Sure in today's society, black women are not as valued as our counterparts. But the important thing is do we value ourselves. I do. The solution is to stop subscribing to what you've been fed.

I'm all for thought provoking articles, jokes and whatever. I just didn't find this thought provoking. I found it not funny and a weird attempt at trying to say "I'd have a man in slavery". Having a man forced upon you during slavery can't be better than having no man in 2014.

Re: BougieLand: How #Scandal reveals the Bougie Black Experience (Finally!)

A. S. Williams — Tue, 08 Oct 2013 13:05:51 -0000

WHY HAVE I NOT SEEN YOUR BLOG BEFORE? i love it. Yes. My husband just loved what Papa Pope had to say because we tell our children the same thing. Maybe not so bluntly but they're still young.

Re: Hair Porosity

A. S. Williams — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 16:58:42 -0000

Wow. I never knew this. Thanks for the info. My hair takes 20 minutes to dry around the edges and maybe an hour for the middle. but when I do my morning routine, it takes several hours to fully dry.

Re: White Men Like Natural Hair!!

A. S. Williams — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 15:59:53 -0000

I got a compliment from this white guy at a gas station. "I like your hair" in passing. I was surprised!

Re: ACV ( apple cider vinegar ) Rinse

A. S. Williams — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 14:44:37 -0000

use about 1 oz of ACV and 7 oz of warm water. Then rinse while in the shower. work it thru your hair, then rinse lightly after. the smell will be alot less..and go completely away when it drys. i do this once a month.

You can even add a few drops of essential oils to the rinse if you like. Rosemary, Lavender, etc.

Re: I Have No Words For This One

A. S. Williams — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 15:04:09 -0000

I agree with this! I don't understand her killing her children. How cold do you have to be to do that?!?!?!

Re: All I Can Do Is Shake My Damn Head

A. S. Williams — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 16:19:16 -0000

AAWWW you missed me didn't you..LOL.

see here. http://blog.spence-lowry.co...

Re: All I Can Do Is Shake My Damn Head

A. S. Williams — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 19:16:49 -0000

I agree with you completely on this. I'm all for date who you want..but urging me to do so is crazy!!! i'm grown..i don't need the media's o.k. to say 'you can date out now'. Thanks but no thanks. Like you said..most black women prefer black men. Those that don't, date others...duh.

Re: Little Known Black History : Harriet Tubman was a Freak! And the sexiest Abolitionist ever!

A. S. Williams — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 19:09:11 -0000

LMAO.

Re: My Question of the Day for 23 February 2010

A. S. Williams — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 14:12:31 -0000

I went thru this situation. However, my son didn't reject his father. You can't force a relationship between father and child. The child can have their own reasons for not wanting to go. My son didn't want to go with his father b/c he didn't want to miss the family fun days..etc.

Re: http://www.rippdemup.com/2009/10/irony-of-barack-obama-winning-nobel.html

A. S. Williams — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 00:48:33 -0000

O.k. forget obama...WTF is up with that kid..LMAO. OMG..the poor remote control!!! so violated! Remind me to NEVER allow my kids to get that involved with video games. lmao!!!

Re: The Solution Lies With Black Women: A Matriarchal Society

A. S. Williams — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 08:05:40 -0000

What is wrong with trying to find ways to help yourself and others like you?

I didn't say anything about money from the government or financial assistance of any kind. An organization that helps women write business plans, connects them with the right people, helps them further in a career or business, I'm not talking give them money.

Re: The Solution Lies With Black Women: A Matriarchal Society

A. S. Williams — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 22:49:03 -0000

Wow. That's all I got.

Honestly, this sounds like the making of an organization. Maybe it can be alot less about separating from black men ( i know that's not all it's about) but simply focus on building up black women. Building good resources, foundations, etc to help black women get that foot further in society.

Re: I Digress...Too Many Black Women Are Thug Lovers!

A. S. Williams — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 12:31:23 -0000

*sigh*

I dated a guy once that had an excellent resume. He was college grad, ft job, tall, handsome, no criminal background.

We dated for 3 months. then i discovered. he's doing NOTHING with his degree. He's an alchy. But his argument is, "I'm not an alcoholic b/c I don't beat up on no one". And a dreamer with no execution.

It's a shame that women won't look at a relationship objectively. Texting I miss you and flowers a relationship does not make.

Re: The "Strong Independent Black Woman" Slogan Has Got To Go!

A. S. Williams — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 10:11:57 -0000

I think black women get into more of a 'motherly' role with their men instead of an encouraging one.

Another issue is black women don't know how to trust their man to be dependent on them. But, I think that goes back to getting into a relationship with someone that isn't right for you. Being able to trust and love a man completely and tell him "I'll follow your lead, but this is how I feel" is a beautiful thing.

Re: The "Strong Independent Black Woman" Slogan Has Got To Go!

A. S. Williams — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 10:07:20 -0000

This statement is exactly it!

"I definitely understand being proud of not HAVING to depend on a man financially and being able to provide for self if need be, but somewhere along the way that message got twisted."

Re: Black Parents Giving Their Children Ghetto Names!

A. S. Williams — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 19:48:04 -0000

I can agree with the ghetto names. I understand the need to be unique and coming up with different names. but, some names are just stereotypical.

My childrens first name are job interview names and middle names is traditional Ethiopian name to carry on the family heritage.

Re: Guest Bloggers Wanted!

A. S. Williams — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 22:25:54 -0000

LMAO @ watch the profanity..

Re: Black Fathers And Their Children

A. S. Williams — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 08:08:52 -0000

No. We are not together. Like I said, he came around to be a FATHER. That has nothing to do with me. I don't want him, I just want him to take care of his son.

Maybe you’re thinking I withheld my son from him because I wanted to be with him instead of taking what I wrote as why it was done.

Re: Black Men: You Are Your Own Worst Enemy

A. S. Williams — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 18:15:23 -0000

I hate this style of dress. All I can do is show my children how silly it looks. I've told my daughter if she brought a boy home dressed like that, she can forget about dating him. If he doesn't respect his appearance [at least] around her parents, he doesn't have much respect. I know I can't stop them from the dress when they're away from home, but I can make sure and let them know that certain things aren't accepted.

I kicked into mom mode when I saw a young man going into the daycare. He was about 12. I asked him if his mother knew his pants were like that. He said No ma'am and picked them up.

Re: Black Fathers And Their Children

A. S. Williams — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 18:01:35 -0000

No child support because I didn't need it. I have verbal agreements with their fathers. When I ask for them to buy shoes, pay for field trips, daycare, etc. no objection.

Also, it's a pain to get. I'm not on welfare, I make decent money, never been on any other type of government assistance, nor was I married to them. Therefore, my application is tossed to the bottom of the pile and not handled.

I sent off the application for my son's father because there was a time when he wasn't doing anything. He didn't understand why he had to help take care of him when he's with me. [his words]

Plus, I don't bad mouth their fathers. They can see for themselves what their dads do and don't do. I don't have to say anything to make them look bad if that's how they want to present themselves.

Re: Black Fathers And Their Children

A. S. Williams — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 15:59:51 -0000

I agree with you.

I know a few women who won't let their child see the father because he's not paying child support. I don't agree with him not taking care of his child, but I don't think it's right to withhold the child from his father because lack of payment. You can't repo kids.

Re: Black Fathers And Their Children

A. S. Williams — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 15:49:07 -0000

Yes we did. We've had that talk previously in the past but [I think] after he saw the behavior difference in him, he could see what I was talking about. Now we agree on how he's raised and he's an active parent.

and before anyone jumps on 'he pays you child support, you can't stop him from seeing his child'. He doesn't pay me anything. He's not on child support period. We have a verbal agreement on what he does for him. When I call saying that he needs XYZ, all I ask is you get it. Child support isn't always necessary.

Re: Black Fathers And Their Children

A. S. Williams — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 13:51:17 -0000

I'm here I'm here..lol

O.k. this is my take: Listen to your mother!

For a period of about a year, I stopped my son's father from seeing him. Why? Well, my son always came home with new curse words. He was encouraged to fit his other cousin when with his father. The fighting continued at daycare. I was called weekly to his daycare to have him picked up because of his behavior. His father kept company with people I didn't want my son around. My son was 3 years old at the time. The last thing I want him saying at daycare is "Fuck you nigga" and hitting people to the point of drawing blood.

When I talked to his dad about it and ask him to keep my son from being around his friends or tell his friends to not cuss around my child and especially, do not let him fight, he told me "I can't control what other people do"

O.k. Fine, then I'll control who he's around. So at that point, my son didn't see his father. His father could only visit him at daycare. My son's behavior improved at school. Once his father understood what I was talking about, he 'came around' to being a father figure and stop trying to be 'cool' i guess.